The Kindness Code

Carmel Saulbrey
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The Kindness code is a heart-led podcast hosted by Carmel Saulbrey and Chelsea Bailey. The podcast is focused on supporting and connecting with children through everyday acts of Kindness. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. The Kindness Code - Episode 13 - It takes a village: why residential care IS a family setting

    30 jun

    The Kindness Code - Episode 13 - It takes a village: why residential care IS a family setting

    The consensus in children's services is that foster care is preferable because it offers a family setting. But whose definition of family are we using? This episode challenges one of the most quiet assumptions in our sector. Across most of the world, children are raised by villages - by communities of consistent, loving adults. When a looked after child lives that reality, we call it institutional. It's time to change that. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    18 min.
  2. The Kindness Code - Episode 12 - with Andy Baker (2)

    24 jun

    The Kindness Code - Episode 12 - with Andy Baker (2)

    Nobody taught them what they feel. because nobody ever sat with them and said: that feeling in your chest? That's anger. That one? That's sad. That one? That's love. That one? That's excitement. / Andy Baker made a point in this week's episode that I haven't been able to shake. If a child doesn't know they're getting angry…they can't stop themselves from hitting. If nobody described their emotions when they were small, they're not choosing to be dysregulated. They literally don't have the words or understand. He compared it to potty training. You wouldn't punish a child for accidents if they couldn't feel they needed the toilet. You'd watch for the jiggles. You'd help them connect the feeling to the action. That's what good residential care looks like. Watching for the jiggles. 🎙️ The Kindness Code with Andy Baker — author of Targeting the Positive Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    36 min.
  3. The Kindness Code - Episode 11 - Identity, culture & belonging: who am I when my story keeps changing?

    17 jun

    The Kindness Code - Episode 11 - Identity, culture & belonging: who am I when my story keeps changing?

    Four homes. Three schools. Two surnames. How does a looked after child answer the question "who are you?” - and what happens when nobody helps them figure it out? This episode makes the case that identity is one of the strongest protective factors we consistently underinvest in. We cover disconnection, why most life story work falls short, and the single question every professional can ask in their next visit that costs nothing and changes everything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min.
  4. The Kindness Code - Episode 10 - with Jane Keenan

    10 jun

    The Kindness Code - Episode 10 - with Jane Keenan

    This is so important. Please share this with anyone who works in children’s homes, foster care, education, or anywhere around children who have been let down by adults. Loved this convo with Jane Keenan - she has 37 years experience and this podcast is incredible for learning - because making difference in care is about is constantly learning: How we show up better for our kids. How we put our ego aside. How we stop needing to be seen as the good adult and make sure we are the safe adult. Self awareness, self care and most importantly being committed to continually learning and growing is the key to this incredibly important but often exhausting work. Our kids need adults who can reflect, apologise, repair, and keep learning. We also talked about the work Jane is doing around care-experienced adults - importantly her new podcast The Emerging Changemakers Podcast (release date TBC) There are so many powerful voices in this space - people who experience care and have actual lived experiences to share - and they are helping to shape the sector. I’ve spoken to a lot to care leavers and the same message comes through - believe in the kids, believe that they can and will, have aspirations for them.  Because if we only talk about the worst outcomes, what subliminal expectations are we putting on our children? “We have no business capping the aspiration and opportunities for our children, simply by bringing a belief that they will never amount to anything." CARE LEAVERS CAN AND DO. This line should be in every home, every school, every team meeting. Please get your teams to listen to this episode 🎧 Listen now: Youtube: https://lnkd.in/ef-9RHKQ Apple podcasts: https://lnkd.in/eVdaqc2Z Spotify: https://lnkd.in/edHNHB2k Learn more here: https://lnkd.in/eh-CQYhN https://lnkd.in/e4Cb-Jgt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    47 min.
  5. The Kindness Code - Episode 9 - The 2am shift

    3 jun

    The Kindness Code - Episode 9 - The 2am shift

    The 2am shift: therapeutic parenting when you're exhausted, understaffed and on your own   It's 2am. A young person is in crisis. You've been on shift for nine hours. And someone in your training told you to stay regulated.   This episode gets honest about what therapeutic parenting really looks like at the sharp end of a night shift - why night time is uniquely triggering for looked after children, what the window of tolerance means when you're running on empty, and what organisations consistently get wrong about supporting the people doing this work.   Plus, three things any residential worker can do tonight.   Identity, culture & belonging: who am I when my story keeps changing? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min.
  6. The Kindness Code - Episode 8 - with Sam Gardner

    27 mei

    The Kindness Code - Episode 8 - with Sam Gardner

    "I didn't leave the care system. The care system left me."   Sam Gardner spent 21 years in care. He now delivers transformative talks and training for those supporting care-experienced children -and is one of the most powerful voices in the sector.   His message to anyone working with children in care comes down to one word:   Stay.   Stay when they push you away. Stay when they call you Mum and then never call anyone Mum again. Stay when the seeds you plant won't grow for ten years.   This episode broke me a little. I hope it lands with you too. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    52 min.
  7. The Kindness Code - Episode 7 - How to make a house a home

    20 mei

    The Kindness Code - Episode 7 - How to make a house a home

    What makes a house feel like home for a child in care? In this episode, we explore how emotional safety, consistent relationships, and everyday moments of connection create a true sense of belonging. Because a home isn’t just where a child lives - it’s where they feel safe, seen, and accepted, even on the hard days. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    23 min.
  8. The Kindness Code - Episode 6 - with Andy Baker

    13 mei

    The Kindness Code - Episode 6 - with Andy Baker

    You know when you buy a new car, and suddenly you see the same car everywhere? The cars haven’t magically multiplied. Your brain has just started noticing what you’ve told it to look for. This came up in this week’s episode of The Kindness Code Podcast with Andy Baker, author of Targeting the Positive with Behaviours that Challenge - and honestly, it really stopped me. Because if a whole staff team keeps saying, “This young person is aggressive”… What are we training everyone to see? Aggression. Every time. And then even the smaller things, the things we might not have noticed before, start getting pulled into that same story. That is powerful. And it’s dangerous. The answer isn’t just “catch them being good.” That sounds lovely, but it’s far too vague. The real work is identifying the positive incompatible behaviour - the thing the young person can’t do at the same time as the behaviour we’re worried about. So if we’re worried about abusive language, the opposite might be respect. But “respect” on it’s own doesn’t mean much unless we define it properly. What does respect actually look like in this home, on this shift, with this child? It might be speaking kindly. Holding a door. Walking away rather than escalating. Helping someone who is struggling. That’s what we need to train our brains to notice. And as always in care, the work starts with the adults first. Able Training | Training made easy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    33 min.
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The Kindness code is a heart-led podcast hosted by Carmel Saulbrey and Chelsea Bailey. The podcast is focused on supporting and connecting with children through everyday acts of Kindness. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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    Carmel Saulbrey
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