Be Cherished and Adored

Be Cherished and Adored

Discover the Power of Gender Intelligence in Love and Marriage. Why do men and women so often seem unable to fully understand each other in relationships? On this channel, I unravel the science behind gender intelligence and show how we are driven by fundamentally different motivations. When we acknowledge these differences and handle them in a loving way, true attraction and passion emerge. We explore the hormonal, psychological, and evolutionary differences between men and women, and how these shape our behavior in relationships.

  1. 18 FEB

    5 Dating Myths That Cause Divorce (Choose Wisely)

    Are you longing for a forever partner to build a life of love, loyalty and truth with—yet worried your odds feel like a coin flip in a world of 50% divorce? When your dream is a strong family and a loyal marriage, you cannot afford to build on fantasies about love. The five myths in this message are not harmless ideas; they quietly shape how you date, how you choose, and how you stay. Exposing these myths about love will help you select a forever partner more wisely and protect the future of your marriage and children.Get in touch? Great! Send me a mail: hallopodcast@protonmail.comThe book I talk about: The Power of Commitment: A Guide to Active, Lifelong Lovehttps://a.co/d/06YO60NFThe first love myth is that lust is the same as love. Lust is instant, intense and often rooted in fantasy and projection; it can knock you off your feet on a first date even though you hardly know the other person. It is focused on what you want from the other, not on what you want to give or build together. Real attraction, by contrast, is a two‑way street: it sees the other person’s character, wants to stand side by side in the light, and can grow over time as you invest, support each other and discover that “this person has my back.” Lust leads you to secrecy and the back of a car; strong attraction leads you down the aisle and into a public “we are together” life.The second myth is that flirting is just innocent fun, even in a committed relationship. There is a big difference between being warm and charismatic with people and deliberately creating sexual tension that implies you are available. Every habit is a muscle: if you repeatedly project your sexual energy outside your relationship, that muscle grows; if you consciously choose to direct your sexual energy, fantasies and affection toward your spouse, loyalty and desire inside the relationship grow stronger instead.The third myth says that monogamy is not natural, so it is unrealistic to expect faithfulness over time. Yes, humans notice other attractive people, and yes, biology includes powerful drives—but self‑discipline is also a learned skill, and it is essential if you want to protect your marriage and the environment your children grow up in. Many grandparents still show that lifelong pair bonding is possible, not just five to seven years. Monogamy is not a prison when you freely choose it; it becomes a rich, rewarding path that keeps giving back to you and your family.The fourth myth is that casual sex equals freedom. Culture sells sexual liberation as a path to happiness, but the fruits are more STDs, more abortions, more divorce, more depression and more people alone. Casual encounters often leave women and men feeling emptier and lonelier, and repeated “no strings attached” experiences train you in detachment, not devotion. That makes it harder later to settle into a single, lifelong partner once the early infatuation phase fades. Using your twenties only to “experiment” can also mean discarding good partners and discovering at thirty or thirty‑five that building the family you wanted is now much harder. Real freedom is not drifting like a tumbleweed; it is choosing a path that serves your future self, your future marriage and your future children.The fifth myth is that living together before marriage protects you from divorce. Many people assume cohabitation is the safest way to “test” compatibility, but couples who marry without cohabiting first often have better outcomes, including less physical abuse and more stable marriages. One major reason is “sliding instead of deciding”: you slowly spend more nights together, then move in because a lease ends, then share furniture, pets, social circles and sometimes children—without a clear, mutual decision to commit. #lovemyths #truelove #datingforMarriage #marriageminded #loyalmarrriage #strongfamily #relationshipwisdom #monogamyMatters #casualsexisnotfreedom

    26 min
  2. 10 FEB

    Why You Struggle with Monogamy: How to Rewire a Sexualized Brain for Real Love

    Are you struggling with monogamy or finding it hard to commit to one person?Do you feel a loss of passion in long-term relationships because you miss the chase or the excitement of something new?You’re not alone—this challenge often comes from having a sexualized brain. In this episode, Annemiek dives deep into how a sexualized brain shapes your desires, your relationships, and even your ability to love deeply. Many people today are unknowingly trained to associate connection with constant dopamine hits—always looking for the next thrill, the next body, or the next lover. This isn’t a moral issue; it’s a brain wiring issue. But here’s the good news: your brain can change.Neuroplasticity means that you can rewire your thoughts, habits, and emotional responses. You can move from craving the chase to experiencing true devotion, intimacy, and lasting passion. In this episode, you’ll learn:What a sexualized brain is and how it develops (through media, culture, and reward loops). The real effects: how objectifying others—or wanting to be objectified—blocks true love and fulfillment. How to desexualize your brain, so you can reconnect with your authentic self. The surprising benefits: deeper satisfaction, genuine attraction to your partner, and a more grounded sense of love. Hope through neuroplasticity—how small, conscious shifts in attention and intention bring big emotional rewards. When you begin to desexualize your brain, something beautiful happens:You rediscover who you truly are. You start to see your partner clearly, feel more peace in your relationships, and experience intimacy that’s both passionate and loyal. This isn’t about shame or repression—it’s about restoring your natural capacity to love without distraction. If you’ve ever wondered why modern dating feels so exhausting, or why long-term relationships lose their spark, this episode will give you a completely new perspective. Through science, psychology, and soulful insight, Annemiek guides you to rebuild your inner wiring—for relationships that are real, rich, and radiant. About AnnemiekAnnemiek is passionate about helping people understand the mechanics of choosing and keeping their forever partner. Her work focuses on creating marriages grounded in true love, loyalty, and light-hearted connection. Through her podcast and teachings, she explores how rewiring our inner world creates emotional freedom, secure attachment, and the ability to love fully. relationship advice,monogamy struggles,sexualized brain,lust addiction,true love psychology,emotional intimacy,relationship transformation,how to stop objectifying people,desexualize your brain,how to build lasting love,rewiring your brain for love,neuroplasticity and relationships,deep connection,long-term passion,loyalty in relationships.

    23 min
  3. 21 JAN

    Why Waiting to Have Sex Could Save Your Heart—and Your Relationship

    This in-depth video explores how modern dating messaging often pushes for quick intimacy, and why taking things slow can significantly improve your odds of finding a lasting, satisfying relationship. We examine the cultural shift sparked by sexual liberation and its long-term consequences on happiness, commitment, and mental health. You’ll learn practical strategies to protect your heart while dating, including how delaying intimacy can help you build trust, assess true compatibility, and avoid the heartbreak that can come with rushing into sexual relationships.Key points covered:The cost of rushing into intimacy: research suggests multiple partners can correlate with lower happiness in marriage, higher divorce risk, and increased stress and loneliness, especially when relationships are unstable.The value of dating with intent: postponing sex allows you to observe values, reliability, and compatibility without the clouding effects of hormonal bonding.Hormonal dynamics of early intimacy: kissing and sex trigger bonding chemicals like oxytocin, which can create a premature sense of closeness and make it harder to accurately judge readiness for a long-term commitment.Practical guidelines for safer, more transparent dating: meet in public spaces, avoid isolation, communicate openly about intentions, and test compatibility over time through friendship and shared experiences.Understanding attachment styles: recognizing anxious attachment can help you manage expectations and protect your heart by slowing down and building trust gradually.Cultural messages vs. personal well-being: while casual sex is legally permissible and can be physically pleasurable, it may not yield lasting emotional fulfillment for many people.Realistic outcomes for relationships: delaying intimacy can lead to clearer judgments about whether someone is truly right for a long-term partnership, increasing the likelihood of a stable marriage and a deeper, more durable connection.Takeaway: if you want a marriage oriented toward loyalty, depth, and lasting life together, prioritize friendship, consistency, and emotional safety before physical closeness.

    20 min
  4. 04-12-2024

    5 Manieren Waarop Pornogebruik Je Energie, Relaties & Motivatie Sloopt – En Hoe Je 't Herstelt

    Ontdek hoe porno je testosteron, beloningssysteem, relaties en energie beïnvloedt. Leer op welke 5 manieren het je een achterstand kan opleveren in kracht en motivatie en hoe je je kracht herwint en je brein reset. Contact? Leuk! Mail mij op ⁠hallopodcast@protonmail.com Wat doet het met je dopamine en beloningssyteem? Wat doet het met je testosteron? Waarom hebben veel twintigers nu last van door porno ontstane erectiestoornissen? Hoe worden we onderbewust geconditioneerd door porno en wat is het Coolidge effect? Waarom rijst de interesse in cuckolding en voyeurisme de pan uit bij heel gewone mannen? Verder kijken? How porn damages your brain Why Ex-Pornstars Say You Must Stop Watching Porn Porn induced erectile dysfunction - Sharp Sapiens Dark secrets of the adult film industry The science behind NOFAP- Sharp Sapiens Porno blocker app https://www.covenanteyes.com/ Porno en mannen Effecten van porno Stoppen met porno Porno en dopamine Relatieproblemen porno Hoe beïnvloedt porno het testosteron van mannen? Tips voor mannen om te stoppen met porno kijken Wat doet porno met je hersenen en relaties? Herstel je dopamine-systeem na porno-verslaving Oplossingen voor pornogerelateerde erectieproblemen De impact van porno op motivatie en zelfvertrouwen Waarom mannen stoppen met porno kijken moeilijk vinden Hoe beïnvloedt porno je kijk op vrouwen? Pornoverslaving herkennen en aanpakken bij mannen Waarom dopamine belangrijk is voor mannen Het verband tussen porno en lage testosteronniveaus Hoe langdurig pornogebruik relaties kan schaden Praktische stappen om je brein te resetten van porno De rol van dopamine in beloningssysteem en porno Voordelen van een pornovrije levensstijl voor mannen

    52 min

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Discover the Power of Gender Intelligence in Love and Marriage. Why do men and women so often seem unable to fully understand each other in relationships? On this channel, I unravel the science behind gender intelligence and show how we are driven by fundamentally different motivations. When we acknowledge these differences and handle them in a loving way, true attraction and passion emerge. We explore the hormonal, psychological, and evolutionary differences between men and women, and how these shape our behavior in relationships.

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