Not Related

Tobias, Dede

Not Related is a podcast where two lifelong best friends—who call each other siblings—share their unfiltered takes on Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole” posts, pop culture, and music. Every Tuesday, we dive into juicy dilemmas, trending topics, and the songs we can’t stop playing—all with plenty of laughs and sibling-style banter. Tune in for the hot takes, stay for the vibes.

  1. YFBBSH

    20/05/2025

    YFBBSH

    Otherwise known as: YOU FAT BIG BACK STEALING H*E Episode Summary In this episode, co-hosts Tobias and Dede tackle the messy relationship of content creators Kai and Havo. Later, they will explore all that Reddit has to offer, from kleptomaniac roommates to pregnant lesbians. Listen as this duo gives their unfiltered takes on these stories. All this and more on Not Related. - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:35) Kai & Havo (00:19:55) For leaving my roommate stranded after she kept using my stuff without asking? (00:33:38) For not being willing to pick my wife up at 2AM? (00:46:42) My girlfriend of 4 years just told me that she's pregnant...I'm a woman, so it can't be mine. But she swears she didn't cheat. What do I do? (01:07:39) Epilogue - - - Messy TikTok - Kai and Havo Content Creators Kai and Havo are making waves on TikTok after the reveal of some messy relationship drama. The tea? Kai is pregnant by the man she was allegedly speaking with while she was with Havo. Oh, did we mention, Kai previously claimed she was a hardcore lesbian? ⁠Source 1⁠ AITJ - For leaving my roommate stranded after she kept using my stuff without asking? This is not a roommate. This is a problem. OP turns to the internet for advice, after friends claim she was the a**hole for abandoning her roommate when she needed a ride to the airport. Mind you, the roommate in question was low-key stealing from the subredditor. No, OP, you are not the jerk, but you need to establish and enforce your boundaries, because it is very clear your roommate does not respect you. AITA - For not being willing to pick my wife up at 2AM? Subredditor vents to the internet after one too many late-night trips picking up his drunk wife. He shares that his wife goes out to party with friends, sometimes as late as 2 AM, and expects him to pick her up. The problem? He has to get ready for work at 4 AM. No, you are not the a**hole. It just sounds like your wife is on some BS. BORU - My girlfriend of 4 years just told me that she's pregnant...I'm a woman, so it can't be mine. But she swears she didn't cheat. What do I do? This subredditor shares a plot-twisting tale about her girlfriend of 4 years, who ended up pregnant. If you think the girlfriend cheated? We thought so too. - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok: @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email: not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: ⁠ https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠ - - - Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 8m
  2. FOR THREE YEARS?!?!

    13/05/2025

    FOR THREE YEARS?!?!

    In this episode, co-hosts Dede and Tobias explore all that Reddit has to offer. From bro codes and love triangles to vegans and allergies, listen as this duo gives their unfiltered takes on these stories. Later, they will discuss recent changes in the Academy of Motion Pictures, and a woman who shares how she cheated on her husband for three years. All this and more on Not Related.  - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:01:14) AITJ: For ‘stealing’ my friend’s crush even though he was cheating on his actual girlfriend?  (00:31:20) AITJ: For refusing to let my sister-in-law stay at my house because she’s “a vegan with a peanut allergy”?  (00:40:35) Academy of Motion Pictures: Rule Update! (00:57:28) Woman Cheats on Husband with best friend. Husband takes her back.  (01:23:00) Epilogue  - - - AITJ: For 'stealing' my friend’s crush even though he was cheating on his actual girlfriend? OP turns to Reddit for advice! Is he in the wrong for pursuing a relationship with his friend’s crush, even though the person in question is cheating on his actual girlfriend? If you ask us, not only is this situation beyond immature, it sounds like your friend has no business being in a relationship, considering he doesn’t even value the woman he os with. So, to the unfortunate lady with that cheating disaster, run! AITJ: For refusing to let my sister-in-law stay at my house because she’s "a vegan with a peanut allergy"? OP wonders if refusing to let her sister-in-law stay at her house is wrong after the unreasonable demands that were 'asked' of her to make the sister's week-long stay comfortable. We find it interesting that a person thinks it is their given right to make changes in a home that is not their own. If you ask us? Tell your sister to stay at a hotel!  Story - Academy of Motion Pictures: Rule Update! The Board of the Academy of Motion Pictures and Sciences officially declares that Academy members must watch nominated films to be eligible to vote for the Oscars. Question: why wasn’t this a rule before?  ⁠Source Story - Woman Cheats on Husband with best friend. Husband takes her back.  A guest sits with a Christian to discuss alongside various topics, her infidelity of 3 years. Regardless of your religion, or even lack thereof, we posed this question: If your partner cheats on you for years, will you take them back?  Source 1 Source 2 - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok:        @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email:         not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: ⁠      https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠

    1h 24m
  3. Car Park Simulator

    06/05/2025

    Car Park Simulator

    In this episode, co-hosts Tobias and Dede explore all that Reddit has to offer, from exaggerated resumes to getting accused of adultery. Listen as this duo give their unfiltered takes on these stories. All this and more on Not Related.   - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:10:10) Some of Y’all Need to Stop Bullshoosh On Your Resumes! (00:13:33) AITA: For wearing underwear to sleep?  (00:32:13) Neighbors From Hell (01:42:09) Best of Redditor Updates  - - - r/Interviews: Some of Y'all Need To Stop Bullshoosh On Your Resumes!  OP is tired of the lies! This Redditor shares their experience interviewing a potential candidate for a role, only to quickly realize the interviewee has no idea what they put in their resume. If you're gonna lie about your expertise in a role, pretend to know your stuff.   AITA: For wearing underwear to sleep? OP turns to the internet for advice after an awkward situation where his brother and his girlfriend walk into his bedroom, where he is awakened from his slumber. Here's the problem: he was naked, and something was standing at attention. Honestly, knock before you enter. Respect people's boundaries!     AITA: If I charge my gf 1k for rent while I pay 2k+? OP seeks advice regarding his potential living arrangements. He wonders if charging his gf for rent makes him the a**hole. You guys might need to pause moving in together if expenses will be a concern while your girlfriend is still in school.  NFH: Should I let it go?! OP is stuck in a parking war with their neighbor and turns to Reddit for advice. Here’s our advice: your property? Own it! Call the authorities and get their car towed!   BORU: I [28/F] started making sexy videos for my boyfriend [29/M/2 yrs.] as a surprise. He found out and thinks I'm cheating OP nearly ended her relationship! This Redditor shares how filming “private” films for her boyfriend led to her man accusing her of cheating.  - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok:        @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email:         not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: ⁠      https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠ - - - Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 2m
  4. Allegations

    29/04/2025

    Allegations

    In this episode, co-hosts Dede and Tobias explore all that Reddit has to offer, from disability drama to holding mothers accountable. Later, this duo will discuss the latest news with Shannon Sharpe and his $50 million lawsuit. All this and more on Not Related.   - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:13:20) AITA: For calling my mom a whore?   (00:29:34) AITA: For playing a voice recording to prove my friend her daughter isn’t nonverbal? (00:40:22) Shannon Sharpe’s $50 million lawsuit.  (01:14:50) We Just Talkin’  (01:31:12) Epilogue   - - - AITA: For calling my mom a w***e?  OP wonders if calling her mother a w***e makes her an a**hole after learning that her mother once again cheated on her husband...by pretending to be her daughter.  Update: Story has been removed on Reddit.  AITA: For playing a voice recording to prove my friend her daughter isn’t nonverbal? OP turns to the internet for advice after proving to her friend that her daughter is not nonverbal, all while being called a liar.   Story - Shannon Sharpe and SA allegations.  On April 20, 2025, a civil lawsuit was filed against former NFL player Shannon Sharpe, accusing the current media personality of sexual assault.  ⁠Court Docx Source Audio Leak Sharpe’s Response - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok:        @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email:         not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: ⁠      https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠ - - - Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 32m
  5. Soap No Water

    22/04/2025

    Soap No Water

    In this episode, co-hosts Tobias and Dede explore all that Reddit has to offer. From ungrateful sons to one’s body count, listen as this duo gives their unfiltered take on these stories. All this and more on Not Related.   - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:12:51) TOMC: My son is violent, unappreciative, out of his mind, breaks my heart, and I have had enough. (00:26:55) AITA: For Not Letting My Girlfriend Kiss My Best Friend? (00:46:15) AITA: For not letting my coworker stay at my place even though I “have the space?” (00:53:58) NLTOG: What is the most 'Pick Me' behavior you've ever seen? (00:59:22) AMA: Do you usually care about how many previous partners the girl had? (01:17:14) Is it a SIMS or a Real Reddit story?  - - - Story - TOMC: My son is violent, unappreciative, out of his mind, breaks my heart, and I have had enough. Disrespectful child? Or controlling OP? OP turns to Reddit for advice regarding her eighteen-year-old son, who has grown to become a violent and ungrateful kid. What should she do? Sounds like your kid needs a healthy dose of consequences. Establish boundaries and remind your son that there are some things he can’t do in your household, and hold yourself and him to it.   Story - AITA: For Not Letting My Girlfriend Kiss My Best Friend? Subredditer wonders if he is the a**hole for not letting his girlfriend kiss his best friend. If you ask us, your feelings are valid; however, choosing to date a theater major, knowing that your girlfriend will most likely be given roles that require intimacy, is an interesting hill to stand on.   Story - AITA: For not letting my coworker stay at my place even though I “have the space?” The OP wonders if choosing not to let her coworker stay at her crib, even though she has the space, is an a**hole move. Interesting. We didn’t know that not letting people you barely know invade your space was such a mean thing to do. The more you know, I guess. P.S. Why did she go to jail? We still would like to know!  Story - NLTOG: What is the most 'Pick Me' behavior you've ever seen? Let us hear it, listeners! Share the most ‘Pick Me’ behavior you’ve ever seen? Tobias is more than happy to share his.  Story - AMA: Do you usually care about how many previous partners the girl had? The OP wonders if choosing not to let her coworker stay at her crib, even though she has the space, is an a**hole move. Interesting. We didn’t know that not letting people you barely know invade your space was such a mean thing to do. The more you know, I guess.  - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok:        @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email:         not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: ⁠      https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠ - - - Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 23m
  6. Blow The Whistle

    15/04/2025

    Blow The Whistle

    In this episode, co-hosts Dede and Tobias explore the case of Meshay Melendez and Layla Stewart and how ex-boyfriend Kirkland Warren brutally murdered them. Later, this duo will discuss interesting subreddits, from family drama to engagement-ending jokes. All this and more on Not Related.   - - - (00:00:00) Introduction (00:24:35) Meshay Melendez and Layla Stewart (00:43:05) AITA - For Telling My Dad’s Wife… (00:58:03) AITA - For Breaking Off My Engagement… - - - Story - Meshay Melendez and Layla Stewart On March 22, 2023, Melendez and Stewart were found dead on the side of a rural road from gunshot wounds to the head. Kirkland Warren gets life in prison.  Source 1 Source 2 Source 3 Source 4 AITA - For telling my dad’s wife I’m sorry but she’s not my mom?  OP turns to the internet for advice regarding his dad’s wife, who is awfully insistent that OP calls him mom. If you ask us, motherhood is earned, not given.  AITA - For breaking off my engagement because my fiancé made an offensive joke about me to his friends?  OP wonders if breaking off her engagement was the right call after hearing her fiancé joke about her weight to his friends. If your future hubby/wifey ever jokes about your insecurities to their friends, throw your ring!  - - - Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok: @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email: not.related90s@gmail.com Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/ - - - Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 19m
  7. Debt-Fundme

    01/04/2025

    Debt-Fundme

    In this episode, co-hosts Tobias and Dede explore all that Reddit has to offer. From open relationships to unpopular opinions, listen as this duo gives their unfiltered take on these stories. All this and more on Not Related.   . . . (00:00:00) Introduction (00:12:02) AITA - My boyfriend is furious that I’m breaking up after he insisted on opening our relationship. (00:24:06) FAFO -  Made my racist coworker uncomfortable after he made a joke? Oh well. (00:29:44) RA -  What is the best way for me 52/M to reach out to my daughter 28/F? I haven’t spoken to her since she was a kid.  (00:47:28) AITA: For not wanting to tell my BF I might be pregnant again? Advice please! (00:58:50) UO -  Going to a restaurant right before they close is not rude. What’s rude is posting hours that you claim you’re OPEN but are expecting people to act like you’re not.  (01:11:40) UO -  Back pockets should be moved to the lower front like cargo pants do.  (01:14:48) UO - Sleeping on the floor is better than any mattress.  . . . AITA - My boyfriend is furious that I’m breaking up after he insisted on opening our relationship. Subbredditer wonders if breaking up with her boyfriend makes her the a**hole. The reason? The boyfriend insisted on opening their relationship even after the OP told him she wasn’t interested.    FAFO -  Made my racist coworker uncomfortable after he made a joke? Oh well. Subbredditer gets her lick back after a coworker makes a racist joke. Of course, the coworker tries to play the victim.  RA -  What is the best way for me 52/M to reach out to my daughter 28/F? I haven’t spoken to her since she was a kid.  Subbredditer asks the internet for advice. A guy wonders what is the best way to contact his daughter. Honestly, the OP burnt this bridge years ago.  FAFO -  For not wanting to tell my BF I might be pregnant again? Advice please! Subbredditer is freaking out! OP wonders if she is an a**hole for not wanting to tell her boyfriend that she might be pregnant…again. How about you confirm your pregnancy first?  UO -  Going to a restaurant right before they close is not rude. What’s rude is posting hours that you claim you’re OPEN but are expecting people to act like you’re not.  Subbredditer thinks that showing up before closing is not rude. Clearly, this guy has never worked a closing shift.  UO -  Back pockets should be moved to the lower front like cargo pants do.  Subbredditer believes back pockets should be moved to the lower front like cargo pants. If you like it, you like it; if you don't, you don't. It shouldn't be a general rule.  UO -  Sleeping on the floor is better than any mattress. Subbredditer thinks sleeping on the floor is better than any mattress. No, thank you, unless you’re Tobias, cuz he would.  . . . Instagram: @cloudbias and @not_related90s Tiktok: @cloudbias and @mintycharme Email: ⁠ not.related90s@gmail.com⁠ Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/NotRelatedPod/⁠ . . . Hosts: Tobias & Dede Producer: Tobias Writer: Dede Graphic Designer: Dede Editor: Tobias

    1h 19m

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Not Related is a podcast where two lifelong best friends—who call each other siblings—share their unfiltered takes on Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole” posts, pop culture, and music. Every Tuesday, we dive into juicy dilemmas, trending topics, and the songs we can’t stop playing—all with plenty of laughs and sibling-style banter. Tune in for the hot takes, stay for the vibes.