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We're All Insane

Devorah Roloff
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A podcast where real people share raw, unfiltered stories about their lives, challenges, and traumas that have shaped them. Each episode offers a deep dive into the unique journey of the guest—No scripts. No interruptions. Just authentic storytelling that unfolds naturally, in the guest's own words. If you have a story you'd like to share on the podcast, please send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com or fill out a form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfUFf5ushHFd57GAZ2hAg5vvTSZNQxlOaRutdjggN-HQjufYw/viewform

  1. I Was Groomed at 17

    1 DAY AGO • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    I Was Groomed at 17

    At 17, she believed she had found something real. He was attentive, thoughtful, and everything felt intentional. It looked like love. It felt safe. Nothing about it seemed wrong at first. In this episode, she shares what the relationship actually looked like from the inside, how grooming can build slowly over time, and how red flags don’t always feel like red flags when you’re living through them. What she eventually discovered changed everything. This is a story about manipulation, control, and how hard it can be to recognize danger when it’s disguised as care. Topics Discussed: → What does grooming look like in relationships → Signs of love bombing early dating → Why is it hard to leave abuse → How manipulators gain trust quickly → What are red flags in relationships → Can grooming happen to older teens On This Episode We Cover: → 00:00:00 - How did she meet the man who groomed her? → 00:03:29 - What was her understanding of relationships at the time? → 00:05:09 - What were the first warning signs? → 00:07:15 - How quickly did the manipulation begin? → 00:08:55 - When did she begin to sense something was wrong? → 00:11:24 - How did this affect their work dynamic? → 00:13:58 - When did she discover explicit material involving minors on his phone? → 00:16:30 - How did the manipulation continue to escalate? → 00:18:57 - How did her mom try to help her leave the situation? → 00:22:14 - How often did he take photos without her consent? → 00:27:03 - What happened after she started pulling away? → 00:30:36 - What inappropriate things did he say about her family? → 00:32:28 - What is it like sharing her story online? → 00:35:26 - What was his family environment like? → 00:41:02 - How does this connect to larger cultural issues? → 00:44:40 - How has she moved forward after surviving grooming? Check Out AbbeeLynn: → https://beacons.ai/abbeerider?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio More We Are All Insane: → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time: https://shop.wereallinsane.com → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts: https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane

    51 min

  2. 4 DAYS AGO

    Survivor of Animal R*pe

    In today’s episode, a childhood sexual abuse survivor shares what it was like growing up in a home where sexual abuse, including abuse involving animals, was normalized, hidden, and never spoken about. She walks through the reality of grooming, manipulation, and fear, and how those dynamics made it nearly impossible to speak up, even when they knew something was wrong. She opens up about the impact on their relationships, their sense of safety, and the long journey of processing shame, seeking therapy, and eventually finding the courage to share their story publicly. This conversation also explores why so many survivors don’t report, what the legal process actually looks like, and how healing and advocacy can coexist. Sponsored By: → Biologica | Head to https://biologica.com/INSANE to get started and get up to 32% off your first subscription order today! Take their Quick Hormonal Life Stage Quiz to find the formula that’s right for you. Check Out Jada: Tik Tok: @jadasadvocacy https://www.tiktok.com/@jadasadvocacy IG: jadasadvocacy https://www.instagram.com/jadasadvocacy/ On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction  → 00:02:14 - What are fawning and flopping as trauma responses? → 00:04:39 - Did her parents allow her to hang out with friends, and were there good times in her childhood? → 00:06:16 - What were the specifics of the abuse, and what happened in court? → 00:07:58 - What are the misconceptions and minimization around bestiality and sexual abuse? → 00:12:43 - How do premeditation and grooming play a role in abuse? → 00:14:12 - Did the abuse happen to everyone in the household? → 00:15:28 - What was her mother and stepfather’s relationship like? → 00:16:45 - Did she confide in friends or share what was happening at home during school? → 00:19:42 - Did the larger community have any idea what was going on? → 00:22:29 - Who did she tell at age 14, and how did her first love play a role? → 00:25:58 - What caused the turmoil with her sister? → 00:27:26 - What happened when her sister found out? → 00:29:59 - How did her mother’s abuse reflect generational trauma? → 00:33:31 - What was her relationship like with her biological father and grandmother? → 00:38:24 - Why is it so hard to report abuse, even when you want to? → 00:41:12 - What happens when you file a police report for abuse? → 00:43:51 - What does it mean to not feel ready to report abuse? → 00:53:01 - What was her experience starting therapy and wanting her feelings acknowledged? → 00:58:42 - Why did she stop therapy and choose to share her story online? → 01:01:51 - What is the difference between intent and impact, especially with demeaning jokes? → 01:10:23 - What happened when she reposted her story and shared it with family on Facebook? → 01:15:01 - How did she resist fear and intimidation from her stepdad? → 01:19:13 - Why don’t many survivors report abuse? → 01:28:09 - What legal changes have happened around child abuse, and when? → 01:32:24 - What is the process of going to court, especially more than once? → 01:34:46 - What does the investigation process look like? → 01:38:46 - What happened with abuse from others and illegal photos? → 01:46:31 - What were the family dynamics like with her mother and uncle? → 01:51:55 - What did her healing journey look like, especially within marriage? → 01:56:45 - Why do people repeat cycles of abuse? → 02:00:16 - Why is it hard to navigate relationships after complex trauma? → 02:04:03 - How do you process shame and step into advocacy? More We Are All Insane:  → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  Further Listening: → My Dad and Brother are R*pists Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    2h 26m
  3. 9 Minute Guided Meditation for Self Love

    30 APR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    9 Minute Guided Meditation for Self Love

    This meditation supports: - Self-love and self-compassion - Emotional healing and heart-centered awareness - Nervous system relaxation - Releasing self-judgment and inner tension - Reconnecting with your heart and inner safety You’ll leave this practice feeling grounded, open, and supported — carrying a sense of softness and self-trust into your day. Take this feeling with you. Move gently. Stay connected to your heart.

    9 min

  4. 26 APR

    Found My Daughter Dead in Her Crib

    When Candyce’s daughter Delilah was just one week away from her first birthday, she passed away in her sleep from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. What followed was a devastating reality of unanswered questions, overwhelming grief, and learning how to live after losing a child. In this episode, Candyce shares the morning she found her daughter, the guilt and isolation that came after, and how she’s turning her pain into purpose while keeping Delilah’s memory alive. Sponsored By: → Just Thrive | Get your health in check and save 20% on your first order at https://justthrivehealth.com/INSANE On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 — Introduction → 00:02:23 — What happened the morning her baby passed away? → 00:05:20 — How do SIDS investigations work? → 00:06:12 — Do they know what causes SIDS? → 00:08:01 — How many infant deaths are attributed to SIDS? → 00:09:25 — What was the day before her passing like? → 00:12:02 — Are there pregnancy and infant loss support groups? → 00:14:11 — Why is it so important to spread awareness about SIDS? → 00:16:54 — Why is it important for mothers to share their experiences? → 00:19:28 — What is it like to search for someone who can relate? → 00:21:09 — How do you continue to live life after losing your child? → 00:23:43 — Why does grief make people feel so uncomfortable? → 00:25:28 — How does loss and grief compound over time? → 00:26:47 — What signs is she seeing from her daughter? → 00:29:26 — Why is the loss of a child so deeply heartbreaking? → 00:30:54 — What are the side effects of Zoloft and Wellbutrin? → 00:31:53 — Is there any new research on SIDS? → 00:36:43 — How do you support someone grieving after SIDS? → 00:39:35 — Why is it important to find a safe place to share? → 00:41:48 — What are some of the theories about SIDS? → 00:45:29 — What are her plans moving forward? Show Links:  → American Academy of Pediatrics (Safe Sleep Guidelines) → CDC - SIDS & Safe Sleep → Safe to Sleep Campaign (NIH) → First Candle (education and grief support) → Cribs for Kids → Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Further Listening: → My Daughter Has Been Abducted for 15 Years More We Are All Insane:  → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    55 min
  5. How We Connect, Listen, + Stay Kind

    23 APR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    How We Connect, Listen, + Stay Kind

    In this episode of We're All Healing, I sit down with award-winning filmmaker and author Barnet Bain to talk about something we all feel right now, how do we actually stay kind, connected, and emotionally grounded in a world that feels increasingly divided. On This Episode We Cover: → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:03:32 - What research did Barnet do to find out more about friendship? → 00:10:25 - How do we lead with love and connection in disagreements? → 00:14:09 - What are the three stories that we think define us? → 00:18:55 - Why is it so hard to drop your ego and connect with others? → 00:24:59 - How can friendships help you navigate the world of social media? → 00:28:21 - What is the difference between Barnet’s definition of friendship and what the common definition is? → 00:34:31 - Why are we stuck in so many surface level friendships? → 00:36:49 - How do you become friends with yourself? → 00:41:17 - Why are we so afraid of quiet time, slowing down, + being present? → 00:44:01 - How do you find deep connections and sustain them? → 00:48:05 - How does Devorah maintain her relationships with herself and others? → 00:51:20 - What insights can spirituality and trusting your intuition bring you? → 00:56:56 - What daily practice will help you with your mental health? Check Out Barnet: → https://barnetbain.com/ More We Are All Insane: OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time: https://shop.wereallinsane.com - Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts: https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane

    1 hr

  6. 19 APR

    My Dad and Brother are Rapists

    Maddy was six years old when her father went to prison - but no one told her why. Growing up, everything felt confusing, unstable, and unspoken. The truth was always there… just never explained. In this episode, she shares what it was like growing up in a home where abuse was ignored, secrets were kept, and she was left to figure it out on her own. Sponsored By: → Hers: Ready to reach your goals? Visit https://forhers.com/insane to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. → Lucy: Find LUCY near you at https://lucy.co/stores,or save 20% on your first online order at https://lucy.co/INSANE with promo code INSANE. On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 – What makes someone finally decide to share their story? → 00:00:35 – What happens when a parent goes to prison during childhood? → 00:01:20 – How do parents’ backgrounds shape a child’s life? → 00:03:00 – What does a toxic relationship between parents look like? → 00:04:45 – What does early childhood feel like before everything changes? → 00:06:30 – When do childhood experiences first start to feel wrong? → 00:07:55 – What leads to a parent receiving a long prison sentence? → 00:09:10 – What happens when a parent suddenly disappears from a child’s life? → 00:10:40 – What is it like growing up without stability? → 00:12:45 – Why do some children feel like outsiders in their own family? → 00:15:10 – How can a sibling become controlling or abusive? → 00:19:30 – What happens when abuse becomes normalized at home? → 00:22:50 – When does a difficult situation start to escalate? → 00:25:10 – What does it look like when boundaries are completely crossed? → 00:27:15 – How does abuse begin and go unnoticed? → 00:30:10 – How do children process traumatic experiences at a young age? → 00:31:30 – What happens when no one steps in to help? → 00:33:10 – Why do families suddenly relocate or start over? → 00:35:45 – How do children discover difficult family truths on their own? → 00:38:10 – What changes after moving to a new environment? → 00:40:50 – How do sibling relationships shift over time? → 00:42:30 – What happens when a troubled family member returns home? → 00:44:30 – How can harmful patterns continue in new environments? → 00:46:45 – What does a breaking point within a family look like? → 00:48:20 – Why are some children sent away from home? → 00:50:20 – What does a safe and stable home feel like after chaos? → 00:52:30 – What happens when someone returns to an unstable environment? → 00:54:30 – How can a parent’s new relationship impact the family dynamic? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    2h 35m
  7. My Brain Was Slipping Into My Spine

    16 APR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    My Brain Was Slipping Into My Spine

    Doctors dismissed her symptoms as anxiety, until a scan revealed her brain was herniating into her spine and she needed surgery. On This Episode We Cover: → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:35 - What is it like living with anxiety? → 00:04:12 - What was middle school like for Danielle? → 00:06:05 - What is a fast-approaching ear infection? → 00:07:18 - Why was she sent to a neurologist for blood work? → 00:11:25 - What is functional neurological disorder? → 00:13:04 - What symptoms was she experiencing? → 00:15:08 - Why were tubes placed in Danielle’s ears? → 00:20:41 - What helped with her constant anxiety? → 00:22:53 - What happened when her symptoms returned? → 00:26:24 - How did Dr. H approach her treatment? → 00:32:44 - How did Danielle finally get a brain MRI? → 00:35:24 - What is Chiari malformation? → 00:40:55 - What happened after her diagnosis? → 00:45:50 - What did the cervical spine MRI reveal? → 00:48:44 - How are spinal issues connected to brain conditions? → 00:51:16 - What were the possible surgical outcomes? → 00:56:27 - How do you prepare for brain surgery? → 00:59:39 - How long did the surgery take? → 01:03:03 - What happened after she woke up from surgery? → 01:05:20 - What is recovery from brain surgery like? → 01:09:07 - What follow-up scans are needed? → 01:11:49 - What is the plan moving forward? → 01:13:41 - What are common misconceptions about brain health? → 01:15:23 - Why is it important to share brain health stories? → 01:16:43 - How can people follow Danielle? → 01:19:52 - What is her anxiety like now? → 01:24:38 - Why is building a platform important? Check Out Daniele: → LEO MIND & BODY APP | https://leomindbody.com/ → LEO MIND & BODY Website | https://leomindbody.com → Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/danielegrayy?igsh=MTcyM2hmaDJ0ajl5dA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr → TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@thedanielediaries?_r=1&_t=ZT-95F7qnjawCj → Woman with Rare Brain Condition Reveals the Symptom That Made Her Push for Further Testing (Exclusive) | https://people.com/woman-with-rare-brain-condition-says-chronic-dizziness-made-her-push-for-testing-exclusive-11908582?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAdGRleAQ9L_hleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA8xMjQwMjQ1NzQyODc0MTQAAacpUfuDCkO_oK-d80VeqqhKpeM81N1VGzywuLFgSkYkvwQgDDE0A7luXTtg6Q_aem_xi7Lhf6lucjU5n1Pu8Bo7A YouTube → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time: https://shop.wereallinsane.com → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts: https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane

    1hr 30min

  8. 12 APR

    Born Into Feederism

    Groomed from childhood into a hidden fetish world, Jess spent years trapped in trauma, addiction, and a 700+ lb spiral, until losing everything forced a shocking fight to reclaim her life. → We're All Insane Plus for Bonus Episodes, Ad-Free Listening, Access to New Show, Guided Mediations:  ⁠https://wereallinsane.com⁠ Sponsored By: → Just Thrive | Get your health in check and save 20% on your first order at ⁠https://justthrivehealth.com/INSANE⁠ → Shopify | It’s time to turn those “What Ifs” into “cha ching” with Shopify today. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at ⁠https://shopify.com/insane⁠ Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 – What does it feel like to realize your entire life was shaped before you even understood it? → 00:02:30 – What is feederism and how can it be introduced to a child without them realizing? → 00:03:10 – How can grooming happen even without physical abuse? → 00:05:00 – How can food, dieting, and control be used as psychological manipulation? → 00:06:00 – Why would someone secretly sabotage a child’s health for their own pleasure? → 00:07:00 – How does public humiliation play a role in control and manipulation? → 00:09:10 – How can fear be used to control a child’s behavior? → 00:12:40 – When does manipulation escalate into something more dangerous? → 00:14:50 – How does exposure to adult content at a young age shape identity? → 00:18:50 – How does grooming evolve as a child becomes a teenager? → 00:19:40 – What happens when a minor is brought into adult environments like clubs? → 00:22:30 – Why are teenagers especially vulnerable to harmful relationships? → 00:23:30 – What happens when a toxic relationship takes over your life? → 00:26:00 – What does feeder behavior look like in relationships and how extreme can it get? → 00:29:50 – How does someone transition from grooming into adult industry work? → 00:31:20 – Why can harmful environments feel familiar or even safe? → 00:34:10 – How do people separate their identity from their work to cope? → 00:36:00 – How can your body become tied to validation, income, and relationships? → 00:38:50 – What happens when survival pushes you into increasingly risky situations? → 00:40:20 – How can predators exploit vulnerability and past trauma? → 00:42:50 – What happens when boundaries are completely erased in relationships? → 00:45:00 – How does toxic behavior become normalized within communities? → 00:49:00 – When do you start realizing something is deeply wrong? → 00:52:00 – Why is it so hard to recognize grooming while it’s happening? → 00:59:00 – What happens when you finally start unpacking trauma in therapy? → 01:01:20 – How do you realize what you experienced was actually abuse? → 01:03:00 – How can abusers continue manipulating even after they’re out of your life? → 01:05:40 – How can financial dependence keep someone stuck in harmful work? → 01:07:20 – How quickly can physical health decline when mental health collapses? → 01:10:00 – What does rock bottom actually look like in real life? → 01:13:20 – How can loss and addiction push someone to their breaking point? → 01:16:30 – What happens in the moment you decide whether to live or die? → 01:19:40 – How do you rebuild your life after hitting rock bottom? → 01:22:00 – How do people react when you stop being the version of you they expect? → 01:24:30 – How do you let go of fear and trust that the right path will find you? → 01:28:30 – What does it feel like to finally enjoy your life again? Jess’s Links: → ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jessteacakes⁠ → ⁠https://linktr.ee/teacakesjess⁠ More We're All Insane:  → ⁠OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time⁠ → ⁠Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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A podcast where real people share raw, unfiltered stories about their lives, challenges, and traumas that have shaped them. Each episode offers a deep dive into the unique journey of the guest—No scripts. No interruptions. Just authentic storytelling that unfolds naturally, in the guest's own words. If you have a story you'd like to share on the podcast, please send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com or fill out a form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfUFf5ushHFd57GAZ2hAg5vvTSZNQxlOaRutdjggN-HQjufYw/viewform

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  • Creator
    Devorah Roloff
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    199
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    We're All Insane
  • Provider
    Devorah Roloff

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