Addiction Makes Three

Amanda Lockyer
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Addiction Makes Three The Podcast, with Amanda Lockyer is dedicated to shining a light and understanding the lesser talked about side of addiction. The real impact it has on the partners and families of those that struggle with addiction. Are you struggling with a partners addiction and feel at a complete loss as to what to do? You feel like you have no one to turn to and are worried you'll be judged or your partner will be judged. It can feel like no one understands what you are going through and no one could really imagine what this is really like. We will cover what it is truly like to be on the other side of a loved one struggling with addiction or navigating recovery. We will also dive deep on tools, ideas and strategies that will really help you whether you are at the confusing beginning the messy middle or through the other side, including practical tips and ways that you can actually get back to living again, regardless of the path your partner chooses. I will share my own lived experiences and expertise as an Addiction Relationship Coach and Wife of someone someone that struggled with addiction and we will have experts and guests that can share their expertise and experience in this space too so that you truly know you are not alone and know that there are things you can do to help you, your family and your partner - whether you choose to stay in the relationship, leave or leave for now. For more information and support and to find out how you can work with me for 1:1 and group coaching, check out the website or find me on Instagram. New episodes weekly. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Show links I love connecting with the lovely listeners here, so head over to Instagram and let's be friends: https://instagram.com/addictionmakesthree/Ready to think about what could help? Book in a friendly chat: https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat If you'd like to implement what have been learning on the podcast Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Coaching Program: https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    89 - Mother’s Day, Addiction, and the Grief No One Talks About

    Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for many of us. And when addiction has touched your life… not all of it feels good. Because Mother’s Day can become this painful mix of hope, disappointment and grief all at the same time. In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the complicated emotional reality of Mother’s Day when addiction is part of your story. From unmet expectations… to feeling unseen… to grieving the version of family life you thought you’d have… this episode puts words to feelings so many people quietly carry. In this episode, we talk about:Why Mother’s Day can feel emotionally heavy in addictionThe hope that “maybe this year will be different”The heartbreak of disappointment and unmet expectationsGrieving the life and relationship you thought you’d haveThe invisible loneliness of high-functioning addictionWhy social media can make these feelings even harderThe meaning we attach to gifts, effort, and feeling seenHow to approach Mother’s Day with more compassion for yourself Because truthfully You can love your family deeply… and still feel sadness. You can feel grateful… and still grieve what’s missing. And multiple things can be true at once. This episode is for you if:Mother’s Day feels complicatedYou feel unseen or emotionally aloneAddiction has changed how family celebrations feelYou’re carrying grief no one else seems to noticeYou’re trying to hold it all together for everyone else If this episode feels close to home… you don’t have to carry this on your own. Amanda has opened up a small number of “talk it through” spaces - a chance to simply talk things through with someone who understands this space. 👉 book in a friendly chat here You are allowed to have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day. And you are worthy of being seen, appreciated, and cared for too. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    27 min

  2. 2 DAYS AGO

    88 - Why Learning More About Addiction Might Be Keeping You Stuck

    You’ve learnt a lot about addiction. You understand the patterns. You can see what’s happening. You’ve done the reading, the podcasts, the research. So why does it still feel like nothing is changing? In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into - especially when you’re trying to handle this better: 👉 learning more… instead of doing differently Because at some point, more knowledge doesn’t create change. It keeps you in what I call consumption mode. In this episode, we cover:What “consumption mode” actually looks like (and how to spot it)Why learning more about addiction can start to keep you stuckThe difference between understanding something and being able to act on itWhy you can’t access what you know in high-stress momentsHow your nervous system pulls you back into familiar patternsWhy this isn’t about effort - it’s about implementationWhat actually helps you start doing things differently Truthfully... You’re not stuck because you don’t care. And you’re definitely not stuck because you’re not trying. You’re stuck because knowing what to do and being able to do it in real life… are two very different things. Here’s the shift There’s no prize for knowing everything about addiction. Change doesn’t come from more information. It comes from: 👉 practising something different 👉 applying it in real moments 👉 getting support while you do If you’re thinking: “I know so much… but I’m still doing the same things…” You don’t need another podcast. You need support to start doing this differently. 👉 Resources and support: If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. You can study the map all you like… But nothing changes until you actually start walking the path of change. 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min

  3. 6 DAYS AGO

    87 - Why It’s Not Getting Better (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right)

    You’re struggling with a loved one’s addiction and you’re trying really hard to make things better. Reading. Listening. Learning everything you can. Trying to handle this better. Trying to respond better. Trying to make things work. And yet… You still find yourself in the same place. Reacting. Overthinking. Carrying it all. And nothing is actually getting better - in fact it’s getting worse. In this episode, we’re talking about why. Because this isn’t a lack of effort. And it’s not because you’re not capable. I am talking about... Why “trying harder” isn’t creating changeThe trap of believing you should be able to handle this aloneHow addiction becomes normalised over timeWhy this isn’t a knowledge problemThe difference between awareness and actual changeWhy doing the same things keeps you stuck I know you’ve done hard things before. Built careers. Raised children. Handled more than most people ever will. So of course you think: “I should be able to do this.” But this is different. You don’t need more information. You need the right support. Because this isn’t something you can think your way out of. If you’re tired of doing more of the same and ending up in the same place… This is your moment to do something different. Not everything. Just one thing. If you’re ready for support, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for my program, or book in a friendly chat with me where I can suggest the next best step for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. But that change? It doesn’t have to be everything. Just the next step. 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree 4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min

  4. 29 APR

    86 - I Can’t Keep Doing This: What Happens When You Reach Your Limit

    Sometimes it’s not a big moment. Not a crisis. Not the worst day. Not the breaking point you thought it would be. It’s quieter than that. It’s the moment where something inside you says: “I can’t keep doing this like this.” In this episode, we’re talking about that moment. The one where you realise: 👉 This isn’t sustainable 👉 This isn’t working 👉 And something needs to change Even if you don’t know what that looks like yet. 🎧 In this episode, we cover: The “low hum” of anxiety that becomes normal Why things don’t need to be a crisis to not be okay What’s actually in your control (and what isn’t) Why waiting and hoping keeps you stuck The quiet decision that shifts everything I know you’ve been holding a lot together for a long time. Managing. Anticipating. Keeping things steady for everyone else. And it’s costing you. The truth is, If nothing changes… nothing changes. And over time? It gets heavier. Not lighter. You don't need to have all the answers. Just to acknowledge: 👉 “Not like this.” So iff you’re thinking, “I don’t want another year like this…” Listen to that little whisper. You don’t need everything to fall apart to decide something needs to change. Sometimes it starts with: “Not life like this.” Listen next: Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With Addiction Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you Stuck Ep 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me? Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life 👉 Resources and support: 1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone. 👉 Click here to find a time 2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community 👉 Join the waitlist here 3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy. 👉 Get the Free Guide 4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    17 min

  5. 26 APR

    85 - The Part No One Talks About Series: Sobriety Doesn’t Fix the Relationship

    You thought sobriety would change everything. I know I did... That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better. More relaxed. More connected. Less on edge. But what happens when sobriety comes… and your relationship still doesn’t feel right? In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel confronting—but incredibly important to understand: Sobriety doesn’t automatically fix a relationship. Because while it might remove the chaos… it doesn’t undo the impact. What we are talking about in this episodeWhy sobriety doesn’t automatically rebuild trustThe difference between stopping the behaviour and repairing the relationshipWhy you might still feel disconnected, guarded, or unsureHow survival mode patterns can continue even after things improveWhat actually needs to happen for a relationship to move forward Because...You can want something for so long… and finally get it… And still feel like something isn’t quite right. That doesn’t make you ungrateful. And it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means there’s more work to be done than just sobriety. If you’re in that in-between space… where things are “better”… but not actually good… And you’re thinking: “I don’t want another year feeling like this…” I’ve created a live workshop for you: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Listen to the seriesThis episode is part of The Part No One Talks About series. If this is your first time here, start from the beginning: Episode 80: This Isn’t Just StressEpisode 82: How It Impacts Your Ability to ParentEpisode 83: You Look Fine… But You’re NotEpisode 84: He’s Sober… So Why Don’t You Feel Better? Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    22 min

  6. 23 APR

    84 - The Part No One Talks About Series: When Sobriety Isn’t What You Expected

    You thought sobriety would change everything. That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better. More relaxed. More connected. Less on edge. But what happens when that moment comes… and you still don’t feel okay? In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel incredibly confusing: When sobriety isn’t the relief you expected. Because while things might look better on paper… Inside, you might still feel: On edgeHyper-awareLike you’re waiting for something to go wrongUnable to fully relax And no one really prepares you for that. 🎧 In this episode, we cover:Why sobriety doesn’t automatically create calm for youThe difference between sobriety and recoveryWhy your nervous system doesn’t “switch off” overnightWhat happens when your wellbeing is tied to their behaviourWhy you might still be showing up in survival modeThe hidden impact of years of unpredictability, stress and bracing Because Honestly... You can be in a better situation…and still not feel okay. And that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means you’ve been carrying a lot. If this resonates…If you’re sitting there thinking: “I don’t want to do another year feeling like this…” I’ve created a live workshop for you: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    18 min

  7. 21 APR

    83 - The Part No One Talks About Series: You Look Fine… But You’re Not

    In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re diving into the invisible impact of loving someone with addiction. Because while addiction can be loud… The impact on you is often silent. This episode is for the ones who: Look like they’re holding it all togetherBut feel like they’re bracing every single dayAnd wonder why they’re so exhausted… even when nothing “looks wrong” What we talk about Why the impact on partners and family members is often invisibleThe emotional weight of “looking fine” when you’re notThe constant mental load (the 2am thoughts, the what-ifs, the rehearsing)Why you might be cancelling plans or pulling away from peopleThe grief no one sees, for your life, your relationship, and what could have beenWhy this isn’t something you just “push through” Just because it’s invisible doesn’t mean it’s not heavy. And just because you’re coping… doesn’t mean you’re okay. 💛 A gentle invitation If you’re tired of feeling like you’re bracing all the time… And you’re ready to feel even just a little more steady this year. I’ve created a live workshop: “How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not” This isn’t about fixing them. It’s about steadying you. Inside, we’ll focus on: Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-day Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    11 min

  8. 16 APR

    82 - The Part No One Talks About Series: How it impacts your ability to parent

    This is the part no one talks about. Not the addiction itself. Not your loved one. But you. The spouse, the one without the addiction. In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden impact addiction has on your parenting.  The snapping, the numbness, the overwhelm… and the quiet guilt that follows. Because here’s the truth, It’s not that you’re an impatient parent. It’s that you’re running on empty and have no capacity. If you’ve ever: Snapped at your kids and thought “that wasn’t about them…”Felt physically present but mentally somewhere elseWondered why you’re reacting bigger than the moment This episode is for you. Your kids don’t remember everything… But they remember how they felt. And when you’re stuck in survival mode? That shows up. Not because you’re a bad parent, but because you’ve been carrying too much for too long. What I am talking about… Why it’s not about patience, it’s about capacityHow loving someone with addiction impacts your nervous system + parentingThe invisible mental load you’re carrying (even if you don’t have the addiction)Why you feel like you’re “losing it”… and what’s actually going on underneathThe small (but powerful) shift that can change how you show up for your kids If you are Ready to Do This Year Differently? If you’re tired of feeling: On edgeOverwhelmedLike you’re just surviving I’ve created something for you. Workshop: “How to Live This Year Differently - Whether Your Loved One Is Sober or Not” This is NOT about fixing them. This is about helping you get steady. Because when you’re steady? Everything changes. 👉 Reserve your spot Or DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you. This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage. You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourself If this episode resonated, don’t wait. 👉 Register here You deserve steadiness. Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    11 min
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Addiction Makes Three The Podcast, with Amanda Lockyer is dedicated to shining a light and understanding the lesser talked about side of addiction. The real impact it has on the partners and families of those that struggle with addiction. Are you struggling with a partners addiction and feel at a complete loss as to what to do? You feel like you have no one to turn to and are worried you'll be judged or your partner will be judged. It can feel like no one understands what you are going through and no one could really imagine what this is really like. We will cover what it is truly like to be on the other side of a loved one struggling with addiction or navigating recovery. We will also dive deep on tools, ideas and strategies that will really help you whether you are at the confusing beginning the messy middle or through the other side, including practical tips and ways that you can actually get back to living again, regardless of the path your partner chooses. I will share my own lived experiences and expertise as an Addiction Relationship Coach and Wife of someone someone that struggled with addiction and we will have experts and guests that can share their expertise and experience in this space too so that you truly know you are not alone and know that there are things you can do to help you, your family and your partner - whether you choose to stay in the relationship, leave or leave for now. For more information and support and to find out how you can work with me for 1:1 and group coaching, check out the website or find me on Instagram. New episodes weekly. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Show links I love connecting with the lovely listeners here, so head over to Instagram and let's be friends: https://instagram.com/addictionmakesthree/Ready to think about what could help? Book in a friendly chat: https://addictionmakesthree.as.me/friendlychat If you'd like to implement what have been learning on the podcast Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Coaching Program: https://www.addictionmakesthree.com/waitlist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Lockyer
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    90
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Amanda Lockyer
  • Show Website
    Addiction Makes Three

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