Avoidance and Control

Monique Gomez
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Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.

  1. 22 June

    Freeing The Good Girl: A SAFNET Demonstration with Amanda Clark

    After years of emotional distance, avoided conversations, and fragile boundaries, one final timeline reveals what happens when truth is spoken—not to repair the past, but to honor the self. In this episode, you will hear the therapeutic exposure timeline Monique uses in her HEAL Model for Building Resilience Coaching Program with guest Amanda Clark. Amanda helps high-achieving women who are done feeling alone in their relationships. She teaches them how to stop doing the most and stop playing the “good girl” so that they create marriages that feel less like raising a grown man and more like an actual partnership. Amandas Links https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark https://www.amandaclark.biz/ https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/inner-child-breathwork Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Theirs VS Ours: https://open.spotify.com/episode/58EiQX0rIiA05jL3uss4I9?si=gKkzFFIuQIajZWFnFkmiTQ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/theirs-vs-ours/id1717846722?i=1000653178068 Boundary Boss Book https://boundarybossbook.com/ Moniques Links https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

    48 min

  2. 8 June

    The Perimenopause Power Shift: Advocacy & Empowerment t

    What happens when millions of women are experiencing a major biological transition, yet many medical professionals receive little training on how to recognize or treat it? Today, we're talking about perimenopause, medical advocacy, and why so many women leave doctors' appointments feeling unheard, dismissed, or wondering if it's all in their head. In This Episode: - Perimenaupaise Defined & the Body Systems it Affects - The Link between Complex Trauma and Early-Onset Perimenopause - Kristen's personal story and drive to support and educate women during this power shift. Kristen Searcy is a Trauma Therapist for Women and creator of Peri Fairy™, an 8-week therapist-led small group experience helping women understand that perimenopause is not a decline, it’s a power shift and liberation portal. She specializes in complex trauma, dissociation, domestic violence and eating disorders, integrating EMDR, neuroscience, parts work and somatic healing to help women reconnect with their bodies, personal authority, and chosen direction in midlife. Kristens links https://www.adesertinbloomtherapy.com/peri-fairy Instagram (@the_peri_fairy) https://www.instagram.com/the_peri_fairy/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/adesertinbloomtherapy/ Mary Claire Haver, MD (book - Amazon) https://a.co/d/06OdrnnQ Moniques Links: Intro Session ($35 ) https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session My Book- Not The Chancla https://a.co/d/04QtxdtU

    43 min

  3. 28 May

    Patterns Part2: When You Don't Know Patterns Are Destroying You

    Sometimes the biggest problem isn’t the conflict, the breakup, the burnout, or the dissatisfaction with your life.The biggest problem is not realizing that your patterns are creating the chaos. In this Episode: How defense Mechanisms act as personalityWhat an Overwhelmed Nervous System Can DoAcknowledgement as a catalyst to healingCycle of Abuse Revambed Interview Episodes with LCSW Kristen Searcy: 1)Unacking the Modern Cycle of Abuse 2) Chaotic Identity Driven Cycle of Abuse 3) Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Monique Links Events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 Website https://dtheal.org/ Acknowledge Plan https://dtheal.org/membership-details-signup My Book https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

    20 min

  4. 30 Apr

    Perfectionism Is Protection: Where It Comes From & 3 Tools to Finally Let Go

    I didn't know I was a perfectionist until I began feeling safe in my body and stopped trying to control the uncontrollable. Introducing the biggest failure of my life and how I used the tools I teach my clients to rewrite and learn to love themselves. In this Episode: where Perfectionism/ perfectionist tendencies come from3 tools after Body-Based tools to Build FoundationWhy is this harder for Neruodivergent folks I’m Monique Gomez, founder of Dare to Heal.Dare to Heal is a space for many paths—those navigating anxiety, burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, relationship repair, or identity shifts—who are ready to feel safe, grounded, and whole again through somatic, trauma-informed care.Begin where you are: join a supportive Membership, book 1:1 sessions, or step into a 3-Month Coaching Container for steady, embodied healing and real-life integration. BMS Membership Plans- (as low as $25/Month) https://dtheal.org/membership-details-signup Coaching Details https://dtheal.org/coaching My Book: Not the Chancla https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

    15 min

  5. 20 Apr

    From Reactivity to Regulation: Rewriting Co-Parenting with Sol Kennedy

    From high-conflict divorce to healing—how one founder built an AI tool to help parents regulate, reconnect, and co-parent with clarity. In this episode, we sit down with Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, the AI-powered co-parenting app transforming how high-conflict families communicate. Once a Googler and serial entrepreneur, Sol’s most meaningful innovation didn’t come from Silicon Valley—it came from his own divorce. Blending personal experience with cutting-edge technology and nervous system science, Sol created a tool designed to help parents shift from reactive patterns to intentional, regulated responses. His work, praised by WIRED as “lifesaving,” is changing the landscape of co-parenting for families navigating stress, conflict, and emotional overwhelm. In this episode: - Tools for emotion regulation - Boundaries and how to do so without therapy - Children-focused conversations (for co-parents) Sol's Links: https://bestinterest.appEnter code DTHEAL for $10 off Monique's Links: Intro Coaching Session- https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session What is Reiki- https://dtheal.org/reikibookings Attachment-based Parenting Program- www. dtheal.org/COS Other Related Episodes: Resentment is Draining You: The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Stephen Tolfree Somatic Healing Through Divorce with Madisen Rose Navigating Relationship Ruptures with Repair featuring Allie Andrews

    28 min

  6. 12 Apr

    The Parenting Program That Actually Changes Behavior

    Burnout. Behavior issues. Stress. These are challenges so many families face—and there’s a powerful, evidence-based solution that helps. 8-week evidence-based curriculum that actually changes how you parent to read your child's behavior and meet their needs. Presale on NOW DM Monique@dtheal.org or Visit info sessions below (on eventbrite base Dare to Heal) Informations Sessions (FREE) https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 www. dtheal.org/COS

    3 min

  7. 6 Apr

    Somatic Healing Through Divorce with Madisen Rose

    Explore somatic healing through divorce with Madisen Rose—nervous system tools for grief, rupture, anger, and rebuilding self-trust from within. Madisen Rose is a somatic practitioner and founder of Better Half to Whole, a platform dedicated to supporting individuals through the renegotiation of relational trauma in the nervous system, specializing in divorce recovery. Through one-on-one sessions, digital resources, self-paced online courses, and group programs, Madisen helps people rebuild after divorce with intention, compassion, grit, and self-trust. Through trauma-trained practices, she bridges the space between science and the sacred. In This Episode: Definitions for Trauma, Rupture, and SomaticsTools for Overwhelm and AngerFight or Freeze Responses Madisen Rose Website- www.betterhalftowhole.com 7 Somatic practices https://better-half-to-whole.kit.com/93227e3020?utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv4 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/betterhalftowhole/ Consult- https://calendly.com/madisen-betterhalftowhole/20-minute-somatic-consult-free Dare to Heal Resources: https://dtheal.org/ https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Podcasts Mentioned in Episode (by Title): Navigating Relationship Ruptures and Repair with Allie Andrews Survival Mode and Grief with Andrea Turnbow What is Fawning/ People Pleasing with Allie Andrews What is Dissociation? Window of Tolerance: Nervous System 101

    34 min

  8. 16 Mar

    Resentment is Draining You: The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Stephen Tolfree

    What happens when resentment from workplace conflict follows you long after the situation ends? Many people carry anger, betrayal, or injustice from toxic work environments, and those emotions can quietly erode mental health, self-esteem, and hope. In this episode, Monique Gomez speaks with workplace conflict recovery coach Stephen Tolfree about a powerful but often misunderstood psychological concept: forgiveness. In This Epsiode: The Cost of Staying in Resentment/ PainCommon misconceptions about forgivenessWhy forgiveness does not mean excusing harmful behavior Stephen Tolfree is a coach specializing in helping individuals recover from workplace conflict and the emotional impact of professional mistreatment. His work focuses on guiding people through the psychological and emotional recovery process so they can rebuild confidence, restore well-being, and move forward with clarity within a single Coaching Session. Stephens Links: https://www.recover-from-divorce.com/https://www.stephentolfree.com/https://www.rehabilitate.uk/ Moniques Links Website www.dtheal.org https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session https://dtheal.org/mh-resources My Book https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

    34 min
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Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.

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  • Creator
    Monique Gomez
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    68
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Monique Gomez
  • Show Website
    Avoidance and Control