Confused Dad

Confused Dad

I am a husband, dad and sometimes human who lives in South Africa. For the last 8 years I was a teacher and principal of a private school but due to unexpected events, I am now on a new journey. One where I am a full-time stay-at-home dad, homeschooler and generally trying to come to terms with the ever-changing nature of life. Come along for the ride where I try to figure out how to redefine myself and discuss, parenting, homemaking, work, mental health, and all things rattling around inside my mind. Contact me - confuseddads@gmail.com

  1. 11/08/2018

    16. Middle Class Spaceman

    What I found fascinating as an educator working with families in the middle class was how was exposed to so much hidden emotional damage. All of it was usually well protected behind years of defence mechanisms. The upper-middle-class have a kind of rushed confusion around life, and particularly around their children because they have been burdened with what seems to be the weight of choice. We want the best for our children, we all do, but defining the idea of what is the best is a little harder. At what cost does your version of best come to you? Everything costs you, and the things I saw that allowed for the middle class to pay for schooling or objects that they defined as good enough was time, willpower, and so often a sidelining of working on their own perceptions of themselves and their worldviews.

    34 min
  2. 15. Colourful Sticky Notes Make Me Puke

    09/08/2018

    15. Colourful Sticky Notes Make Me Puke

    In my life everything always felt equally important and I had to get it all done and I would sacrifice whatever it took because the thing is, I saw my sacrifice as a way to prove to myself that I was good enough for my family. My focus was always going outward and pushing into the world and, please don’t get me wrong here, I'm not saying don't be successful. I am saying that aiming for and working towards your own definition of success is fantastic. What I am saying is that my work became a kind of yardstick for my love for my family and it was a way for me to prove it because I intrinsically did not believe I had value myself. After leaving my 11-year long career in education I now feel more love and connection with the people that I care about because when my work identity changed, when I was no longer defined as a teacher or principal, I realised that what was left was that I care deeply for my wife and son even though I had no way to manifest it through working.

    31 min
  3. 9. When Does Your New Life Start To Feel Normal?

    02/08/2018

    9. When Does Your New Life Start To Feel Normal?

    On this episode, I share a story where I helped someone and it led to anger being directed towards me. The universe also conspired to get me to connect with a really awesome stay-at-home dad and real estate expert Huge Torres who has more in common with me than I could ever have imagined.

    32 min
  4. 14.All Boys Schools Could Kill Your Son

    14/06/2018

    14.All Boys Schools Could Kill Your Son

    "But what is more disturbing was the fact that of the people were sort of waiting for the fight’s conclusion they were allowing this fight to happen, and all this on my first day in high school. " The worst possible thing that I could have happen to me was to go to an all boys school. The reasons are numerous and the impact of this decision would become a part of me in a very unpleasant way for many years to come.

    28 min
  5. 13. Are Stay-at-home Parents Slaves?

    12/06/2018

    13. Are Stay-at-home Parents Slaves?

    How does money work in your marriage? You may feel too afraid to share your financial situation with your spouse but by doing so you can change your life. It brings with it self-worth, connection and transparency which will ultimately bring you both closer together. Being brave enough to talk about money means you get to strip away a layer of role-specific, predetermined, social junk and you become a little more human.

    21 min

  6. 08/06/2018

    12. Children Taught To Fight

    Should children be taught to punch others in the face? On this episode, I share an experience I witnessed one afternoon on a playground and ask myself how much preparation and readiness should we be actively teaching our children?

    18 min
  7. 11. Why Am I Teaching Again!?

    03/06/2018

    11. Why Am I Teaching Again!?

    I have a confession to make... I am teaching again. But wait, before you think I have gone insane and am trying to punish myself, it's different this time! How so? I started this podcast on the premise of never going back to it all so what the heck am I doing? Listen and find out.

    29 min
  8. 10. When I am old will I also eat a lot of cake?

    25/05/2018

    10. When I am old will I also eat a lot of cake?

    Have you ever wondered how you would change if you were financially free? I spoke to someone who won the "Set for Life" lottery and I am not sure about how something like that would change me.

    25 min
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I am a husband, dad and sometimes human who lives in South Africa. For the last 8 years I was a teacher and principal of a private school but due to unexpected events, I am now on a new journey. One where I am a full-time stay-at-home dad, homeschooler and generally trying to come to terms with the ever-changing nature of life. Come along for the ride where I try to figure out how to redefine myself and discuss, parenting, homemaking, work, mental health, and all things rattling around inside my mind. Contact me - confuseddads@gmail.com

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