If This Is It

Tosin Assan
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If This Is It is a podcast about faith, identity, and becoming who God created you to be. Hosted by Tosin Asan, the show explores modern-day challenges through Scripture—helping believers move from functioning on empty to living fruitfully. Honest conversations, biblical clarity, and practical steps for real transformation.

Episodes

  1. 3 DAYS AGO

    What 13 Years Of Marriage Taught Us About Faithfulness

    He got laid off during paternity leave. She couldn't legally work. Their green card was hanging by a thread. And somehow, Dayo and Yemi Jegede came out the other side, not just intact, but stronger. In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin sits down with a couple whose marriage has been tested by layoffs, immigration crises, role reversals, and the kind of pressure that quietly destroys most relationships. But this isn't a survival story. It's a blueprint. From the moment Dayo saw Yemi on a university campus in Lagos and told his friend "that's my wife" to the season where both of them were out of work with three kids and had to trust God with decisions they couldn't logic their way through, this conversation reveals what faithfulness actually costs when the test isn't dramatic, it's daily. If you've ever wondered whether the work you're putting into your marriage, your faith, or your future is actually paying off this one is for you. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Meet Dayo & Yemi Jegede 01:30 - Laid Off During Paternity Leave: The Microsoft Story 03:30 - Green Card Crisis: When Your Status Hangs in the Balance 06:00 - Role Reversal: She Worked While He Searched 08:00 - The Upbringing That Shaped Their Marriage 14:00 - "Plan A or Plan A" — No Backup for This Marriage 18:00 - Why Your Home Has to Be Peaceful (And How to Build That) 22:00 - Putting the Marriage Before the Children 26:00 - Advice for Young Men Navigating Relationships 28:00 - Overcoming a Stammer: Dayo's Identity Journey 33:00 - 2023: Laid Off Again — And Both of Them This Time 37:00 - Going Back to Corporate After Entrepreneurship 40:00 - The Power of Friendship (And How It Raised Millions) 45:00 - How Their Social Media Journey Started (Mr. and Mrs. Jegz) 53:00 - "I Saw a Vision" — How Dayo Knew She Was the One 01:00:00 - She Went to His Hostel: Yemi's Side of the Love Story 01:05:00 - Your Fruitfulness Is Your Responsibility 01:11:00 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 01:17:00 - Cultivating Faithfulness in Work, Marriage, and Friendship 01:20:00 - Guarding What You've Built: Discernment and Boundaries 01:24:00 - Resisting Your Own Understanding When Life Makes No Sense 01:30:00 - Where to Find the Jegedes 💬 Dayo said "it's me and you against the problem, not me against you." What's the one principle that keeps your relationship grounded when things get hard? Share it in the comments. 📧 CONTACT US: - Email: [ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com](mailto:ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com) - Website: ifthisisit.com 🎙️ GUESTS IN THIS EPISODE: - Dayo & Yemi Jegede — Married 13+ years, parents to three, entrepreneurs, and content creators - YouTube: Mr. and Mrs. Jegz - Instagram: @diogz (Dayo) If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

    1h 32m

  2. 2 MAR

    God Doesn't Require Perfection. He Requires This

    You signed something you didn't fully understand. You made a decision too fast. You didn't check with God first. And now you're wondering, did I disqualify myself? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin breaks down one of the most overlooked stories in the Bible: the day Joshua made a covenant he was never supposed to make, and what God did next. But this episode goes deeper than you'd expect. Hidden inside this ancient battle are five kings whose names reveal five internal enemies that most believers are fighting right now without even realizing it. They don't look like rebellion. They look like confidence, comfort, and common sense. And they might be the real reason your breakthrough feels stuck. If you've been carrying guilt over a bad decision, or if something inside keeps holding you back and you can't name it, press play. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - You Signed It. Now What? 01:25 - Introduction: From Functional to Fruitful 01:30 - The Gibeonite Deception: What Actually Happened (Joshua 9) 04:30 - God Shows Up Anyway: Hailstones and the Sun Standing Still 05:00 - Lesson 1: God Covers Alignment, Not Perfection 06:30 - Consequences vs. Condemnation — They're Not the Same 07:00 - Lesson 2: The Five Kings and What Their Names Reveal 07:00 - King 1: Self-Righteousness (Adonai Zedek) 08:00 - King 2: Old Identity (Hebron) 08:45 - King 3: Self-Exaltation (Jarmuth) 09:45 - King 4: Self-Protection (Lachish) 10:45 - King 5: Self-Comfort (Eglon) 12:00 - These Aren't Ancient Rulers — They're Internal Voices 12:50 - The Gibeonites and Christ: Old Covenant vs. New Covenant 14:15 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 14:25 - Cultivate: Practice the Pause (But Don't Let It Become an Excuse) 16:00 - Keep: Learn to Recognize God's Voice 16:45 - Resist: Grace Isn't Passivity 17:30 - Fear Is Behind All Five Kings 18:25 - Closing: The Goal Was Never Perfection 💬 Which of the five kings is loudest in your life right now? Self-righteousness, old identity, self-exaltation, self-protection, or self-comfort? Be honest in the comments. 📧 CONTACT US: - Email: ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com - Website: ifthisisit.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful, exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

    19 min

  3. 23 FEB

    Partial Obedience: Who Told You That Was Enough

    You're praying. You're fasting. You're serving. You're doing everything you've been told to do, so why does the breakthrough still feel stuck? What if the problem isn't that God hasn't heard you, but that you've been editing His instructions to fit what makes sense to you? In this episode of If This Is It, Tosin unpacks one of the most overlooked traps believers fall into partial obedience and why it might be costing you more than you realize. Using Abraham's original call and the choices he made before he ever reached the promised land, this episode reveals a pattern that most of us are living in right now without even knowing it. If you've been feeling exhausted, stuck in a loop, or quietly wondering why the doors aren't opening, this one might be the answer you didn't expect. 00:00 - The Frustration You're Not Talking About 02:30 - Introduction: From Functional to Fruitful 03:00 - Abraham's Triple Command — And the Move He Edited 06:00 - What Is Your Haran? The "Almost There" Trap 08:00 - Partial Obedience vs. Full Rebellion — There's a Difference 10:00 - The Cost of Comfort: A Real Story of Delayed Obedience 14:00 - This Pattern Shows Up Everywhere (Jobs, Character, Forgiveness) 17:00 - Jesus: The Contrast of Full Alignment 19:00 - The Three Modern Barriers: Security, Character, and Mindset 23:00 - The Daily Cost You're Already Paying (Peace, Momentum, Fruitfulness) 25:00 - The Framework: Cultivate, Keep, Resist 29:00 - Your Three-Part Challenge This Week 31:00 - Closing: It Wasn't That I Earned It. I Finally Fully Obeyed. 💬 What's the one thing you know God has asked you to do that you've been editing or delaying? Be honest in the comments, this is a safe space. 📧 CONTACT US: • Email: ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com • Website: ifthisisit.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life.

    32 min

  4. 17 FEB

    From Legalism to Grace: A Pastor's Journey to Alignment

    He did everything he was taught to do. Fasted. Prayed. Served. And God went silent. In this episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with Pastor Femi Omotayo, a pastor of nearly 30 years, host of the PF Unfiltered podcast, and leader of New Covenant House in Dallas for one of the most honest conversations about faith you'll hear this year.PF's journey didn't follow a straight line. He grew up in Nigeria, got saved through his father, and eventually found a church environment that looked like everything he wanted. But somewhere along the way, the system he trusted led him to a crisis he didn't see coming. What he discovered on the other side changed how he pastors, how he reads the Bible, and how he relates to God entirely.If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right" things and still coming up empty or if you've ever quietly wondered whether the template you were given actually works this conversation is for you.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Journey02:44 The Path to Authenticity05:28 Crisis of Faith and Understanding God08:05 The Flawed Template of Faith10:47 The Old Covenant vs. New Covenant13:27 The Role of Results in Faith16:30 Understanding Grace and Righteousness19:00 The Importance of Context in Scripture21:45 Navigating Church Dynamics24:07 Spiritual Abuse and Accountability26:44 The Role of Personal Responsibility29:18 Cultivating Alignment with God32:12 Overcoming Fear and Doubt34:37 The Process of Trusting God37:19 The Distortion of Faith39:50 Final Thoughts on AlignmentIf This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Toss, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com

    1h 3m

  5. 9 FEB

    What Nobody Tells Young Men About Fatherhood w/ Dami & Lolade Akibola

    What does it really look like to be a present, intentional father — especially when you didn't grow up seeing it modeled? In this deeply honest and faith-filled episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with married couple Dami and Lolade Akibola to unpack what fatherhood actually requires — and why it's one of the most important callings a man can answer. If you're a young man wondering whether you're ready, this conversation might change how you think about it.Dami and Lolade have been married for 19 years and together for 21. They're raising two kids — Noah and Sophia — and they've built a family rooted in faith, intentionality, and a willingness to keep learning. But their journey didn't start with a perfect blueprint. Dami's parents divorced when he was 13, and that experience shaped his entire approach to marriage and parenting. He made a decision early: Plan A or Plan A. No backup. No exit strategy. Just commitment. They also tackle the bigger cultural questions: Why are so many young men afraid of fatherhood? Why do some want kids but not marriage? And what does faith have to do with any of it? Dami's answer is direct — you cannot be an effective father without partnership, and you can't have lasting partnership without grounding it in Christ. The episode closes with practical advice for young men and women navigating these decisions. 💬 What does intentional fatherhood look like in your life? Whether you're a father, want to be one someday, or you're reflecting on your own dad — we want to hear from you. Drop your thoughts in the comments. 📱 Connect with the podcast: Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful — exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.

    1h 41m

  6. 2 FEB

    Why Christians Are Starving for Affirmation (And How to Fix It)

    When was the last time someone told you that you're doing well? Not a passing compliment—but someone who actually SAW your quiet, consistent effort and said, "I see what you're doing, and it matters"?For most of us, it's been a while. And the silence is starving us.In this episode, Tosin explores:Why affirmation is so rare (and the lies we tell ourselves)Why people can't see their own progressHow to cultivate a culture that feeds, not starvesThe difference between living FOR affirmation vs. FROM your identity in ChristChapters00:00 The Power of Affirmation02:43 Understanding the Scarcity of Affirmation05:54 The Impact of Being Seen09:04 The Role of Community in Affirmation11:58 Biblical Foundations of Affirmation14:53 Practical Steps to Cultivate Affirmation18:06 Closing Thoughts on EncouragementThe truth is simple: starving people don't thrive. Fed people do.If This Is It is a podcast for Christians who are tired of surface-level faith and ready to move from functional to fruitful living. Hosted by Tosin Assan, each episode tackles the real questions believers wrestle with but don't always hear addressed in church—questions about identity, purpose, relationships, work, and what it really means to live aligned with God's plan.If This Is It – Real life. Real faith. Real questions. From functional to fruitful.📧 Got a topic you want us to address?📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: hello@ifthisisitpod.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts

    19 min

  7. 26 JAN

    Faith That Grows - Why Prayers Work Differently for Different People

    Ever wondered why some people pray and see immediate results while others wait years with seemingly no answer? In this episode, we tackle the question many believers are afraid to ask out loud.Host Tosin explores the often-misunderstood nature of faith—not as a one-time event, but as a living seed meant to grow through stages. From justification (the faith that saves) to sanctification (the faith that transforms), we break down why your faith journey might look different from someone else's, and why that's exactly how it should be.**In this episode, you'll discover:**- Why Jesus compared faith to a mustard seed, not a mountain- The difference between seed faith and mature faith- How to create the right conditions for your faith to grow- Why waiting isn't failure—it's the actual work of faith- The Cultivate, Keep, and Resist framework for growing your faith**Key Topics:**Faith stages | Spiritual growth | Patience in waiting | Active vs. passive faith | Obedience | Alignment with God | Biblical faith | Christian living | Moving from functional to fruitfulIf you've ever felt stuck in your faith journey, questioning why things aren't working the way you expected, or wondering if there's something wrong with you—this episode is for you. You're not alone, and your faith isn't broken. It might just be growing.---**Subscribe to If This Is It** for honest conversations about faith, identity, relationships, and living fruitfully in alignment with God's purpose.📧 Have questions or topics you'd like us to cover? Send us a message!#FaithJourney #ChristianPodcast #SpiritualGrowth #BiblicalFaith #IfThisIsIt #FaithThatGrows #ChristianLiving #PrayerLife

    33 min

  8. 19 JAN

    The Pivot: When God Closes the Door You Prayed For (with Rhoda Falaye)

    What happens when the career you worked so hard for isn't the life God called you to? In this powerful conversation, Rhoda Falaye shares her journey from nursing at Johns Hopkins to entrepreneurship, depression, and discovering her true identity in Christ.In this episode, we discuss:- The identity crisis that comes when your career doesn't work out- What it really means to cultivate your God-given identity- How to resist the "tree of knowledge of good and evil" mentality- The difference between performing for God and abiding in Christ- Practical holistic health wisdom and preventive care- Why yielding daily is the key to keeping what God gives you**If This Is It Podcast**Real life. Real faith. Real questions.Helping Christians move from functional to fruitful.📧 Have questions or topics you want us to discuss? Email us at ifthisisitpodcast@gmail.com

    1h 6m

  9. 12 JAN

    The Performance Trap: What Christians Get Wrong About Identity

    You don't have to perform for God's love but if you grew up in church, you probably believe you do. In this first episode, Tosin exposes the exhausting cycle of spiritual striving and introduces a different way: living from your identity in Christ, not for it. Through personal stories and biblical truth, discover what it means to move from functional to fruitful and why that shift changes everything. 📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpod Tiktok: ifthisisitpodEmail: hello@ifthisisitpod.com 💬 Got questions or want to share your story?DM us on Instagram or use #IfThisIsIt—we'd love to hear from you. 🎧 New here?Subscribe so you don't miss the next episode, and if this resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

    32 min
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If This Is It is a podcast about faith, identity, and becoming who God created you to be. Hosted by Tosin Asan, the show explores modern-day challenges through Scripture—helping believers move from functioning on empty to living fruitfully. Honest conversations, biblical clarity, and practical steps for real transformation.

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  • Creator
    Tosin Assan
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tosin Assan
  • Show Website
    If This Is It