Stepmom Side Chats

Alyssa and Becca | Stepmoms & Blended Families
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Stepmom Side Chats is the unfiltered podcast where bonus moms finally say what we’re not supposed to. We dive into the real side of blended life: boundaries, bio-mom drama, guilt, love, and everything in between. No sugarcoating, no perfection, just real stories and real support. Grab your coffee (or wine) and let’s chat. Hosted by Alyssa & Becca (Ed.D.) blending research-backed insight with lived stepmom experience. ✨ Pateron private stepmom communities: https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content @stepmomsidechats

  1. 5 DAYS AGO

    Understanding Your Enneagram as a Stepmom with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober

    In this episode of Alyssa & Becca, we sit down with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober, an Enneagram coach and speaker, to talk about how understanding your Enneagram type can help you navigate stepmom life with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion. We get into how different Enneagram types respond to conflict, triggers, boundaries, people-pleasing, resentment, and relationship dynamics, especially inside blended families. We also talk about why stepmom life can feel so emotionally layered, how your core motivations shape the way you react, and what it can look like to better understand both yourself and the people around you. Whether you are the stepmom who overthinks everything, takes things to heart, avoids conflict, or feels like you always have to prove yourself, this conversation offers insight into why you may respond the way you do and how that awareness can help you move through blended family dynamics with more intention. We also answer a listener question and share practical takeaways for stepmoms who want to better understand their triggers, communication patterns, and emotional responses. Connect with Ashton: Instagram: @enneagramashton Website:https://www.enneagramashton.com/ ✨ Big Ass Candles | www.bigassluxuries.com and use the code STEPMOM for a discount ✨ Episode sponsor | www.cozyearth.com and use code STEPMOM ✨ Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠ ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠ ✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

    49 min

  2. 14 APR

    Stepmoms...we're so back!

    Season 2 is here and we’re starting with a conversation so many stepmoms know by heart. In this first episode, Alyssa & Becca talk about the exact moment they realized stepmom life was not what they thought they signed up for. From overfunctioning, unrealistic expectations, and feeling invisible in your own home, to the emotional labor, criticism, and identity shifts no one prepares you for, we’re getting honest about the parts of stepmom life that hit the hardest. We’re also sharing what we wish we would’ve known earlier, the boundaries we wish we’d set sooner, and the biggest lessons we’ve learned along the way. If you’ve ever thought, “Wait… this is not what I expected,” this episode is for you. ✨ Big Ass Candles | www.bigassluxuries.com and use the code STEPMOM for a discount ✨ Episode sponsor | ⁠www.cozyearth.com⁠ and use code STEPMOMBOGO ✨ Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠ ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠⁠ ✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

    40 min

  3. 10 MAR

    Would you rather: Stepmom edition

    It’s our season finale, and we are showing up caffeinated, chaotic, and completely unfiltered. Alyssa and Becca playing “Would You Rather: Stepmom Edition”, from sports practices vs. parent-teacher conferences to stepping on Legos vs. reading a six-paragraph text from the ex. They also tackle listener-submitted questions about dating a partner with a toddler, long-distance stepkids, and what it’s like when you have less than 50/50 time. Plus, they are sharing a little life update on transition days, stepmom triggers, and why “let it go” is way easier said than done. They discuss taking a short break before Season 2, but how they still be hanging out inside the Stepmom Side Chats membership with lives, Q&As, and support you don’t have to explain. ✨ Pateron private stepmom communities: https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes @stepmomsidechats ✨ Big Ass Candles | https://bigassluxuries.com and use the code STEPMOM for a discount ✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

    42 min

  4. 3 MAR

    Handling raw emotions: staying grounded in co-parenting with Jay Skibbens

    This week on Stepmom Side Chats, we sit down with co-parent coach Jay Skibbens for a conversation that goes deep, like identity-shifting, nervous-system-resetting deep. Jay shares his powerful personal story of discovering that the children he had been raising weren’t biologically his and how that experience reshaped his understanding of resentment, emotional regulation, and what co-parenting really requires. From carrying years of anger to learning how to “cook his emotions first,” Jay breaks down why so many blended family conflicts aren’t actually about the kids: they’re about unprocessed triggers. This episode challenges the scripts we’ve all been handed about co-parenting. It’s not about winning. It’s not about controlling the other house. It’s about learning how to stay grounded when the triggers hit, because in blended families, they will. If you’ve ever felt dysregulated on transition day, resentful about schedules, frustrated with your spouse, or triggered by the other home, this conversation is for you. You can find Jay on instagram at @jayskibbens or through his membership, The Grounded Coparent University. The Grounded Coparent University is a private membership teaching regulated co-parenting through structure, tools, and repeatable growth. $49/month. Doors open March 23rd so use this link to get on the waitlist to save your spot: https://jay-skibbens.mykajabi.com/opt-in-9348c019-f9c1-4b91-8ab2-f6ad95ca18ab ✨ Pateron private stepmom communities: https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes @stepmomsidechats ✨ Big Ass Candles | https://bigassluxuries.com and use the code STEPMOM for a discount ✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

    53 min

  5. 24 FEB

    The Blurred Line: Step-parenting, authority, & decision making with Gabriella Pomare

    In this episode of Stepmom side chats, Alyssa and Becca sit down with Gabriella Pomare Australian family lawyer, co-parent, and author of The Collaborative Co-Parent for a real conversation about what actually makes co-parenting and blended family life work. We talk about how co-parenting changes over time, why communication and boundaries are everything, and what to do when repartnering shifts the dynamic. Gabriella breaks down the “blurred line” between step-parents and decision-making, how partners can support stepmoms with real unity and authority in the home, and why kids need consistency, even when they’re navigating two households. We also get into high-conflict moments (like school events), resisting the urge to get pulled back into chaos when someone “plays nice,” and how staying child-focused can protect kids from the long-term impact of adult conflict. You can connect with Gabriella on Instagram at @thegabriellapomare, where she shares practical co-parenting tips and blended family insights, and find her resources, guides, and book at thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au. ✨ Pateron private stepmom communities: https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes: @stepmomsidechats ✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

    43 min

  6. 17 FEB

    Tapping out: Stepmomming teenagers

    Teenagers are already a lot… and stepmomming a teenager can feel like the difficulty level just jumped to “expert.” In this episode, Becca (who’s lived through the teen stage firsthand) and Alyssa (entering the preteen years and slightly terrified) break down what’s developmental vs. what’s actual disrespect and how to respond without escalating into a full-blown power struggle. They talk about the emotional whiplash of mood swings, why long lectures don’t work, and how “connection before correction” can change everything, while still protecting your peace. You’ll hear real-life examples, how to set boundaries without becoming the “bad guy,” when to let dad deliver consequences, and what disengaging looks like when it’s healthy (not giving up). They also answer listener questions like: How do you stop feeling like the third wheel? Can you discipline without ruining the relationship? What if the teen prefers the other home? If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know what’s normal anymore,” this one’s for you.

    52 min

  7. 10 FEB

    Keeping Up With Bio Mom (and Why We’re Done Trying)

    Most stepmoms struggle with feeling never enough, constantly comparing, overextending, and risking burnout. But what if your confidence and boundaries could transform your experience? Discover the secret to breaking the cycle of guilt and comparison, and learn how to create peace and security in your role, even amid the chaos of co-parenting.In this eye-opening episode, Alyssa and Becca share honest stories about the pitfalls of striving for perfection and the power of good enough. They delve into practical ways to set boundaries around snacks, lunches, birthdays, and holidays without losing your sanity or your sense of self. You'll uncover how children narrate their world to process family dynamics and how to respond with confidence, preventing unnecessary competition between households.We break down:✨ How to avoid stepping into a “comparison trap” that sabotages your peace✨ The mindset shifts that build lasting confidence as a stepmom✨ Simple boundaries you can set around food, gifts, and celebrations to reduce stress✨ Strategies to foster connection and safety that make kids feel truly seen and loved✨ The importance of internal reflection on why feelings of inadequacy surface and how to heal them Why does all this matter? Because the true goal isn’t perfection: it’s creating a nurturing environment where your stepkids feel secure, loved, and understood. When you stop measuring yourself by the standards of two households, you unlock the freedom to be your authentic self and foster healthier relationships.Perfect for stepmoms feeling overwhelmed by household chaos, gift competition, or their own inner critic. This episode equips you with real tools to reclaim your peace, build confidence, and show up as your best self, not just for your family, but for yourself. Because in the end, your steady confidence is the greatest gift you can give.

    39 min

  8. 3 FEB

    Support from your partner is hot...just sayin'

    Most stepmoms feel unseen and overwhelmed, but what if your partner truly understood what you’re carrying? This episode Alyssa and Becca dive deep into the silent struggles and unmet needs in blended families. Discover how communication, boundaries, and emotional safety are the keys to transforming chaos into connection. We uncover the core issues that fuel resentment between spouses, revealing surprising insights about how men and women process stress and trauma differently, like waffles versus spaghetti! Alyssa and Becca share real stories about feeling unsupported on transition days, managing boundary expectations, and navigating high-conflict bio moms. Learn practical tools to foster alignment with your partner, including the importance of a united front and setting invisible boundaries that protect your sanity. You'll discover why caregiver burnout isn’t just for healthcare workers: stepmoms face it too and how to prioritize your mental health without guilt. We also explore the power of validating each other's feelings, even when you don’t see eye-to-eye. This episode is perfect for stepmoms struggling to feel seen, supported, and loved in a chaotic world and for partners ready to step up and truly support their women. Whether you're feeling the weight of scheduling, emotional triggers, or the endless trauma bond, this conversation offers hope and actionable strategies. If you’re tired of feeling alone in your journey, want your partner to get it without drama, and crave a blueprint for healthier co-parenting, listen now and start creating the harmony you deserve.

    41 min
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Stepmom Side Chats is the unfiltered podcast where bonus moms finally say what we’re not supposed to. We dive into the real side of blended life: boundaries, bio-mom drama, guilt, love, and everything in between. No sugarcoating, no perfection, just real stories and real support. Grab your coffee (or wine) and let’s chat. Hosted by Alyssa & Becca (Ed.D.) blending research-backed insight with lived stepmom experience. ✨ Pateron private stepmom communities: https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats ✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content @stepmomsidechats

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  • Creator
    Alyssa and Becca | Stepmoms & Blended Families
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Alyssa and Becca | Stepmoms & Blended Families
  • Show Website
    Stepmom Side Chats

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