Wellish

Sarah Ritondale
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Wellish is a movement for imperfect people to feel good enough. Here we test what actually works, share what doesn't, and push back against the perfect, aesthetic version of growth. Narrative journalist Sarah Ritondale leads a movement of women choosing to evolve without the pressure to be perfect. If you're healing, growing, or just trying to feel good enough in real life, you're already one of us. Welcome to a new kind of self-improvement -- one that feels like friendship, not a checklist.

  1. May Hates & Favs: Less Self Fixing, More Living

    18 hrs ago

    May Hates & Favs: Less Self Fixing, More Living

    May felt like a month of contradictions. I spent part of it dealing with mental health ruts, anxiety about being hard to love, panic spirals around abandonment, and the uncomfortable realization that I might be the common denominator in some of my struggles. I also found myself confronting something deeper: the idea that I don’t have to be happy all the time to be worthy of love, belonging, or a good life. At the same time, there were so many things I loved this month. New friendships. Book club. Fruit making its triumphant return to my diet. A surprisingly meaningful lesson from delayed trains. Learning what it feels like to genuinely like someone without confusing chemistry for compatibility. And slowly stepping into a softer version of myself that doesn’t feel responsible for protecting herself from everything. In this month’s Hates & Favs, I’m sharing the products, books, mindset shifts, relationship reflections, and life lessons that shaped May. If you’ve been navigating anxiety, self-worth, dating, friendship, growth, or simply trying to become more yourself lately, this one’s for you.

    35 min
  2. The Difference Between a Feeling and a Fact | Confessions of a Wellish Listener

    6 days ago

    The Difference Between a Feeling and a Fact | Confessions of a Wellish Listener

    This month’s confessions revealed something interesting: a lot of us are learning that just because something feels true doesn’t mean it is. Feeling burnt out doesn’t mean you have a bad attitude. Feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. Feeling afraid doesn’t mean something bad is about to happen. And feeling unfinished doesn’t mean you’re broken. In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Listener, we're talking about workplace burnout, people-pleasing in dating, dreaming bigger before you have proof, emotional regulation without losing yourself, and the hidden downside of consuming too much self-improvement content. If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to be a better version of yourself, this episode is for you. In this episode: Why burnout and a "bad attitude" aren't the same thingThe dating lesson that changed how one listener views rejectionWhat a listener's incredible Jay Shetty story teaches us about possibilityThe difference between emotional regulation and emotional suppressionWhy self-improvement can quietly turn into self-rejectionBecause sometimes the biggest growth isn't changing yourself. It's questioning the stories you've been believing about yourself.

    21 min
  3. How to have your own back no matter what

    19 May

    How to have your own back no matter what

    What if the real problem is that you’ve become so self-aware, self-critical, and growth-focused that you’ve forgotten how to stay on your own side? In this episode, we’re talking about what self-compassion actually looks like when you’re someone who values accountability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like being kind to yourself is lazy, delusional, or letting yourself off the hook, this conversation is for you. We’ll unpack why self-compassion feels so uncomfortable, the hidden ways you might be abandoning yourself every day, and the mindset shift that helped me stop turning every mistake into evidence that something was wrong with me. Because self-compassion isn’t pretending you’re perfect. It’s refusing to become your own enemy while you’re still learning.

    18 min
  4. Emotionally intelligent people still react | Confessions of a Wellish Girly

    16 May

    Emotionally intelligent people still react | Confessions of a Wellish Girly

    Everyone wants to be emotionally intelligent until they realize it doesn’t mean becoming perfectly calm, healed, or unbothered all the time. In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Girly, Sarah talks about the difference between hyper self-awareness and actual emotional regulation, including a very real moment this week where she reacted unfairly toward her boyfriend while trying to stop herself in real time. She also shares a surprisingly healing moment involving lost AirPods, nervous system regulation, and the quiet ways emotional growth actually shows up in everyday life. This episode is for the people who are trying to heal without becoming robotic. The people who are learning that emotional intelligence isn’t about never reacting — it’s about taking responsibility faster, regulating sooner, and no longer glorifying your emotional chaos. Topics include: - emotional intelligence vs hyper self-awareness - emotional regulation in relationships - therapy speak vs actual healing - nervous system regulation - emotional maturity - reacting vs responding - healing perfectionism - self-awareness and accountability - relationship triggers - realistic healing & growth

    20 min
  5. Chasing enoughness can be a form of self rejection & how wellness culture reinforces the belief you’re not enough with Tori Jenae

    14 May

    Chasing enoughness can be a form of self rejection & how wellness culture reinforces the belief you’re not enough with Tori Jenae

    If you’ve been trying to become better for years but still secretly feel like you’re not enough this episode is going to hit hard. In today’s conversation, I’m sits down with trauma-informed coach and intuitive healer Tori Jenae to unpack the hidden wound behind perfectionism, overachievement, people pleasing, hyper-independence, and the constant need to “fix” yourself. Together, we explore why chasing enoughness can actually become a form of self-rejection and how so much of modern wellness culture quietly reinforces the belief that who you are right now isn’t enough. This episode dives into: - Why perfectionism is often a trauma response, not ambition - The nervous system patterns behind overworking, overgiving, and burnout - Why achieving the “dream life” still doesn’t create fulfillment - How childhood wounds shape relationships and self-worth - The difference between healthy growth and self-abandonment - Why your body can’t heal when it thinks you’re unsafe - How to stop outsourcing your worth to productivity, appearance, relationships, or validation - What it actually looks like to feel enough without needing to earn it If you’ve ever felt exhausted from constantly trying to improve yourself… this conversation will feel like exhaling. This isn’t about giving up on growth. It’s about learning how to grow without abandoning yourself in the process.

    1hr 6min
  6. 3 ways self improvement culture is destroying your self worth

    12 May

    3 ways self improvement culture is destroying your self worth

    What if the habits you call “self-improvement” are actually destroying your self worth? In this episode, we’re talking about 3 extremely normalized behaviors that look like growth in self improvement culture but quietly teach you that who you are right now is never enough. From turning yourself into a constant self-improvement project, to using productivity to earn your self-respect, to confusing emotional isolation with confidence, this episode is for the person who is exhausted from trying to optimize themselves into feeling worthy. If you’ve ever felt like: your self-worth disappears when you’re unproductiveyou can’t stop “fixing” yourselfrest makes you feel guiltyhealing has started to feel like a full-time jobyou only like yourself when you’re doing everything right…this episode is probably going to hit harder than you expected. This isn’t about becoming your “best self.” It’s about finally stopping the daily behaviors that make you feel like you’re never enough in the first place.

    29 min
  7. Your loyalty is preventing you from being honest with yourself | Confessions of a Wellish Girly

    8 May

    Your loyalty is preventing you from being honest with yourself | Confessions of a Wellish Girly

    This week’s episode is for the people who are exhausted from abandoning themselves in the name of being “good,” loyal, understanding, forgiving, or easy to love. This wasn’t a normal rut. It wasn’t “if I fixed my routine” or “if my life looked different.” It was deeper than that. It was the kind of spiral that makes you question your entire existence and whether you’re even lovable as a person. In therapy this week, I realized I’ve spent years stuck between two values: honesty and loyalty. And almost every time, I chose loyalty even when it meant betraying myself. Today we’re talking about what happens when two core values collide, why breaking old patterns can feel guilty instead of empowering, and how to tell the difference between being selfish and finally being honest. If you’ve ever called yourself “loyal to a fault,” this episode might explain why you feel so emotionally stuck.

    17 min
  8. You don’t actually hate yourself, you’re stuck in evaluation mode

    5 May

    You don’t actually hate yourself, you’re stuck in evaluation mode

    If you’ve ever thought “why am I like this?” “why can’t I just get it together?” or felt like no matter what you do, it’s never enough this episode is going to hit. Because what if you don't actually hate yourself? What if you’ve just been grading yourself your entire life, scoring your body, your productivity, your emotions, your progress, against standards you didn’t even consciously choose? In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle but exhausting habit of turning your life into a performance review and why it’s the real reason you feel like you’re always falling short. You’ll learn: Why “self-hatred” is often just constant self-evaluationHow you unknowingly built your internal grading systemWhy you never feel good enough (even when you’re doing well)How to stop living like a report card and start actually experiencing your lifeSimple, realistic ways to build self-worth that isn’t based on performanceThis is your reminder that you’re not behind, broken, or not doing enough. You’ve just been measuring yourself in a way that makes it impossible to ever feel like you pass.

    31 min
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Wellish is a movement for imperfect people to feel good enough. Here we test what actually works, share what doesn't, and push back against the perfect, aesthetic version of growth. Narrative journalist Sarah Ritondale leads a movement of women choosing to evolve without the pressure to be perfect. If you're healing, growing, or just trying to feel good enough in real life, you're already one of us. Welcome to a new kind of self-improvement -- one that feels like friendship, not a checklist.

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  • Creator
    Sarah Ritondale
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    254
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Sarah Ritondale 2022
  • Show Website
    Wellish