The Erotic Realm

Emma | Psychology of Desire
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The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts. Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology. Join Emma and discover what your desires might be trying to teach you. www.psychologyofdesire.com

  1. 1 day ago

    #135 The Psychology of Ownership: Total Power Exchange, Erotic Identity & the Desire to Own with RednBlack

    What happens when the kink you're having is no longer the kink you actually want? In this episode I'm joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity. After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire? We explore: The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE).Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled.Red's journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange.Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies.The tension between being an academic and openly kinky.Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons.Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  2. 4 days ago

    #134 The Psychology of Male Dominance: Justin on Power, Masculinity & Submission

    Can a man learn to be Dominant — or is dominance something you either have or you don't? In this episode I'm joined by Justin, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore the psychology of male dominance, masculinity and consensual power exchange. We explore: Whether male dominance can be learned.The difference between embodying dominance and performing it.Justin's four pillars of a Dominant man: self-containment, earned authority, erotic mastery and relational leadership.Why authority must be earned before someone can responsibly hold another person's submission.The difference between consensual dominance and men who simply want control over women.How BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships can become pathways for personal transformation.Research article: To Know Thyself: A Qualitative Exploration of Motivating Factors for BDSM and Kink Participants Who Hold Dominant Identities. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  3. 11 Sept

    #133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships

    What happens when you love each other — but you don't want the same things sexually? In this episode I'm joined by Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, to explore the psychology of mismatched desire, sexual compatibility and kink in relationships. We explore: What mismatched sexual desire looks like inside relationships.Why telling our partner what we really want can feel extraordinarily vulnerable.Whether an apparent “low desire” partner might simply not be having the kind of sex that activates their desire.What BDSM and kink can teach conventional couples about negotiating desire, boundaries and consent.The surprisingly complicated question: is sex actually a need?Research article: Strategies for Mitigating Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Relationships This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  4. 8 Sept

    #132 Kink & Neurodivergence: BDSM, Mental Health & Consent with Auntie Vice

    What's missing when the standard rules of kink assume everybody's brain works the same way? In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated. So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time? We explore: How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire.Why BDSM's explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people.Consent and communication when someone's capacity or mental state changes.The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink.Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy.The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury.Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  5. 4 Sept

    #131 What Your Sexual Fantasies Reveal About You: Cat Savard on Kink, CNC & Desire

    What do your sexual fantasies reveal about you? In this episode I'm joined by Cat Savard, founder of Good Ember, to explore the psychology and data behind our sexual fantasies. Link to Survey data here: https://www.goodember.com/pages/surveys We explore: What our sexual fantasies and kinks might reveal about us.What Cat's Good Ember data is revealing about people's fantasies.The psychology of consensual non-consent (CNC).Why people can fantasise about experiences they don't literally want to happen.Sexual communication and why sharing fantasies with a partner can feel so vulnerable.How couples can become more curious about each other erotically.Research article: The Role of Sexual Communication in Couples' Sexual Outcomes: A Dyadic Path Analysis. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  6. 1 Sept

    #130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey

    What happens when you stop hiding your kink and decide to fully own who you are? In this episode Rain DeGrey takes us from coming out of the kink closet and finding herself at Kink.com just three weeks later, through her evolution into sexuality education and her belief that helping people overcome shame and "own their awesome" is what she was put here to do. We explore: Coming out of the kink closet and owning your erotic identity.Why strap-ons became one of her specialist areas.Rain's experience of being in a cult — and why she left.What supporting people through their final moments of life taught her about living.Sexual shame and where we learn to judge our desires.What two decades of exploring kink have taught Rain about pleasure and authenticity.Why accepting our erotic selves can become part of living a more meaningful life.Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  7. 28 Aug

    #129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality

    What happens when there is a disconnect between what your mind and your body wants? In this episode I explore with Judith Swack, creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU), about sexual shame, trauma, desire and what she describes as experiencing sex from the body's point of view. We explore: Sexual shame and its impact on desire.The conflict between consciously wanting something and not feeling safe enough to want it.What Judith describes as a phobia of sexual desire.How religious and cultural messages can become attached to sexuality.A live tapping demonstration during the episode.How Judith works with unconscious patterns around sex.The relationship between the mind, body and erotic desire.Research article: Sexual Satisfaction, Sexual Attitudes, and Shame in Relation to Religiosity. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  8. 25 Aug

    #128 Why Financial Domination Turns People On: Money, Power & Kink with Harley

    Why can giving someone your money become an act of erotic surrender? In this episode I'm joined by Harley to explore the psychology of financial domination — better known as findom — and the complex relationship between money, power, submission and desire. We explore: The psychology of financial domination and findom.Why financial domination can feel "primal".Service submission and the psychology of giving.The difference between lifestyle findom and commercial erotic labour.Why financial domination isn't necessarily reducible to sexual arousal.Negotiating boundaries within financial power exchange.The difference between financial domination and financial exploitation.Research article: Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts. Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology. Join Emma and discover what your desires might be trying to teach you. www.psychologyofdesire.com

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  • Creator
    Emma | Psychology of Desire
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    137
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Emma | Psychology of Desire
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    The Erotic Realm