Seeing Other People

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Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Seeing Other People is your go-to podcast for honest conversations about dating, relationships, and everything in between. Each week features three types of episodes: Cohosts for Life on Mondays, where Ilana and her husband Jake open up about the everyday moments that shape their relationship; Tuesday episodes with impactful guests who help you navigate the complexities of modern dating; and Unfiltered episodes on Thursdays, where anonymous guests share their most raw and relatable experiences. No matter your relationship status, this show is here to help you a little less alone.

  1. Not Fighting Isn’t the Same as Being Close

    9 HR AGO

    Not Fighting Isn’t the Same as Being Close

    I’m joined by Colette Jane Fehr, couples therapist, relationship expert, and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. We talk about why “not fighting” isn’t the same as being connected, how losing your voice can slowly erode a relationship, and what it actually means to do the work in love. Colette shares how her own divorce, dating experiences, and attachment patterns shaped the way she shows up in her second marriage, and why speaking up (even when it’s scary) is the key to secure love. We get into conflict avoidance, anxious vs. avoidant dynamics, the fear of being “too much,” and more. Grab the book here ALL links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    48 min
  2. The Shift, Freedom vs. Stability & My Secret Half Marathon

    1 DAY AGO

    The Shift, Freedom vs. Stability & My Secret Half Marathon

    This week on Co-Hosts for Life, we’re catching up on work offsites, falling off our 20-week challenge, and the half marathon I secretly signed up for that got canceled, so I ran it alone anyway. I share why I needed that race for myself and how it ended up being one of my strongest runs ever. Then we answer your questions about supporting a friend through a breakup, losing the “obsessed” feeling in long-term relationships, and what it really means when someone slowly pulls back while dating. We also talk about freedom versus stability, catching feelings for a friend’s ex, and how to know if it is worth exploring. As always, Jake gives his honest perspective and reminds you to send this episode to a friend. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    49 min

  3. 5 DAYS AGO

    Career Pt. 2: How I Actually Make Money as a Podcaster & Influencer

    In Part 2 of my career story, I’m picking up right where we left off — from losing my job at Hinge to launching Seeing Other People just weeks later. I break down how the podcast actually grew, why co-hosting didn’t last, and what it really looks like to make money as a podcaster, content creator, and dating coach. I get radically honest about freelancing, brand deals, influencer income, pay transparency, and the instability no one warns you about. ALL links here (links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    55 min
  4. We Flew to London for a Surprise Engagement Weekend

    6 DAYS AGO

    We Flew to London for a Surprise Engagement Weekend

    We’re recapping an unforgettable weekend in London celebrating Jake’s brother Jeff and his now-fiancée Sydney’s engagement. We talk about the behind-the-scenes chaos of keeping the surprise secret, tracking them on Find My Friends, dodging FaceTime calls, and the moment everyone ran out to surprise them. We also catch up on our 20-week challenge struggles, Ilana’s mortifying podcast scheduling mishap, Barkley’s health scare, and of course… Jake’s deep dive Tell Me Lies finale theories (and his ongoing inability to say Pippa’s name). ALL links here (links, pitch your story to the pod, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    52 min

  5. 17 FEB

    My “Dream Job” Paid Me $34K and Broke Me: Part 1 of My Career Story

    In Part 1 of my career story, I’m breaking down how I got here –from quitting my photojournalism major at Syracuse, to hustling through internships in music, to landing my “dream job” at a major record label that left me underpaid, burned out, and questioning everything. I share what it actually takes to break into creative industries, the realities of pay and privilege, and how burnout and heartbreak pushed me to pivot out of music – ultimately landing me at Hinge, where my career (and confidence) took a major turn. ALL links here (links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    1h 4m
  6. "Should We Get Married?"

    12 FEB

    "Should We Get Married?"

    What if loving each other forever doesn’t automatically mean getting married? In this episode, I sit down with Maxson and Emily to talk about their unconventional love story and why they’re questioning marriage instead of rushing into it. We get into prenups, divorce, kids, legal myths, and whether marriage actually strengthens a relationship—or just complicates it. Should We Get Married? on Spotify and Apple Podcasts ALL links here (links, pitch your story to the pod, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    55 min
  7. Becoming a Mom at 18 Didn't Stop Me From Living My Life

    10 FEB

    Becoming a Mom at 18 Didn't Stop Me From Living My Life

    I’m joined by Jessica Kameko, aka @TravelWithMeko, a full-time travel creator, student, marathon runner, medical esthetician, author, and mom of two. We talk about what her life actually looks like, why she chose to go back to school, what led her to becoming a single mom, and how she’s managed to build a life rooted in travel and flexibility. Then we get into dating as a single mom: how motherhood has changed how she dates, her non-negotiables, how quickly she has to vet people, what people get wrong about dating a single mom, navigating dating apps, co-parenting, and the advice she’d give anyone going through separation, divorce, or choosing motherhood on their own. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    45 min
  8. He Made Valentine’s Day Reservations — Do I Owe Him a Gift?

    9 FEB

    He Made Valentine’s Day Reservations — Do I Owe Him a Gift?

    We’re recording on the eve of our five-year “first date” anniversary and catching up on everything from freezing winter runs and challenge updates to surprise date nights and what it looks like to keep showing up for each other in the small ways. We answer a timely listener question about Valentine’s Day on a fifth date (do you bring a gift or just show up?), talk about dating your friends with more intention, and get into the tricky dynamics of breakups, like when friends suddenly admit they never liked your partner and how to support someone without piling on. .ALL links here (links, submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Redefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    54 min
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Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Seeing Other People is your go-to podcast for honest conversations about dating, relationships, and everything in between. Each week features three types of episodes: Cohosts for Life on Mondays, where Ilana and her husband Jake open up about the everyday moments that shape their relationship; Tuesday episodes with impactful guests who help you navigate the complexities of modern dating; and Unfiltered episodes on Thursdays, where anonymous guests share their most raw and relatable experiences. No matter your relationship status, this show is here to help you a little less alone.

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