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Join John Ortberg each day for 10 minutes of spiritual guidance on the person we are becoming.

  1. 22. The 'Status Elevation Ritual'

    20 HR AGO

    22. The 'Status Elevation Ritual'

    Why does condemnation feel so automatic? In this episode, John explores how shame and judgment often operate through what sociologists call status degradation rituals, the subtle ways we lower others to elevate ourselves. Drawing on insights from Harold Garfinkel, John shows how condemnation works socially, emotionally, and spiritually. Then he walks us through powerful Gospel moments where Jesus reverses the pattern: • the sinful woman at Simon’s house • the prodigal son welcomed home • Jesus washing his disciples’ feet • and ultimately, the cross itself You’ll learn: - how condemnation functions as a social ritual - why Jesus chooses downward mobility - how humility defeats hostility - what Philippians 2 reveals about real greatness - how serving others rewires the heart John also reflects on how crucifixion was designed by Rome as the ultimate humiliation — and how Jesus voluntarily enters that suffering to defeat condemnation once and for all. The invitation is simple and brave: come to Jesus in humility, serve instead of shame, and help elevate the people around you. Because there really is now no condemnation. 📚 Today's Resources: Harold Garfinkel — Status degradation rituals N. T. Wright — On crucifixion as Rome’s ultimate humiliation tool Early Christian graffiti (mocking Jesus on the cross) as historical illustration 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    14 min
  2. 21. How to Know If You Have a Condemning Spirit

    1 DAY AGO

    21. How to Know If You Have a Condemning Spirit

    Why does condemnation feel so automatic? In this episode, John Ortberg invites us to slow down, breathe, and notice something surprising: judgment doesn’t just live in our thoughts — it lives in our bodies. Returning to the story of Cain and Abel, John shows how God interrupts Cain with two gentle questions: - Why are you angry? - Why is your face downcast? Those questions open a doorway to freedom. Drawing on neuroscience from Jill Bolte Taylor and Antonio Damasio, John explains how condemnation becomes embodied through stress hormones, muscle tension, and emotional rehearsal. He introduces the difference between decisional non-condemnation (“I choose not to judge”) and emotional non-condemnation (asking God to transform what happens inside your body). You’ll learn: • why condemnation feels physical • how the 90-second pause works • what it means to “feed the monster” • how blessing rewires your reactions • why you can disagree without condemning John also shares painfully honest examples of everyday judgment (hair gel, Tesla drivers, passive people — we’ve all been there 😅) and offers a freeing realization: you don’t have to condemn anyone. Only God knows anyone’s full story. Jesus was right all along: Blessing is easier than contempt. Love is lighter than judgment. And there really is now no condemnation. 📚 Today's Resources: Jill Bolte Taylor — research on the 90-second emotional rule Antonio Damasio — distinction between feelings and embodied emotions Everett Worthington — decisional vs emotional forgiveness (adapted here to condemnation) Better Angels — assessment questions addressing the culture of contempt George Carlin — illustration of the universal judging reflex (“everyone’s an idiot or a maniac”) 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    15 min
  3. 20. The Right Way to Tell Someone They're Wrong

    2 DAYS AGO

    20. The Right Way to Tell Someone They're Wrong

    How do you tell someone they’re wrong… without condemning them? John Ortberg explores one of the most important distinctions in communication: the difference between tone and heart. Tone can be soothing or jarring. But the heart must always be love. Looking at Matthew 23, where Jesus confronts religious leaders with blistering language, John asks: Was Jesus condemning them? Or was something deeper happening? You’ll discover: - Why condemnation is not the same as moral clarity - The difference between contempt and courage - What “malice + disgust” really means - Why Jesus compares himself to a mother hen - How to speak the truth in love without losing your soul Drawing from Romans 8, Matthew 23, Luke 19, and a reflection by Barbara Brown Taylor, this episode offers a powerful prayer for Lent: “God, give me the right heart. Then show me the right tone.” If you’re navigating conflict, leadership, parenting, or hard conversations — this one matters. Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment 📚 Today's Resources: Barbara Brown Taylor — reflection on the chapel Dominus Flevit and the image of the mother hen Chapel of Dominus Flevit (“The Lord Wept”) on the Mount of Olives Film reference: A League of Their Own (Tom Hanks coach scene — jarring tone, not necessarily a bad heart) 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    16 min
  4. 19. Doesn’t the World Deserve Condemnation?

    5 DAYS AGO

    19. Doesn’t the World Deserve Condemnation?

    John Ortberg tackles a tension many of us feel but rarely name: If there is no condemnation, what do we do with real evil, injustice, and wrongdoing? John walks us through Scripture, the prophets, and Jesus’ own words to show why “no condemnation” does not mean indifference to sin—and why accountability still matters deeply to God. Drawing on insights from Abraham Joshua Heschel, John explores how the prophets saw injustice as a spiritual emergency, and why our culture’s casual attitude toward evil would have stunned them. Along the way, he reminds us: - God hates injustice precisely because God loves people - Jesus was gentle with those everyone expected him to condemn - But fierce with the religious who used righteousness to exclude others - And that before we can hear no condemnation, we must first take condemnation seriously - This is a thoughtful, challenging reflection on judgment, responsibility, and grace—and why condemnation may be a word, but it is never the last word. Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment 📚 Today's Resources: Abraham J. Heschel, The Prophets 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    15 min
  5. 18. How to Live Without Blaming Others

    6 DAYS AGO

    18. How to Live Without Blaming Others

    Today, John Ortberg tackles one of our most stubborn spiritual habits: blame. Tracing its origins back to Genesis, John shows how blame enters the human story the moment shame appears—and how quickly we learn to deflect responsibility onto others. From Adam and Eve to modern relationships, blame becomes our go-to strategy for avoiding pain. Along the way, John draws from Scripture, Paradise Lost, and insights from thinkers like Charles Tilly and Paul Tournier to explore why we instinctively hog credit and dodge fault—and why spiritual maturity looks like learning to own our part with humility and courage. John reminds us that while removing blame can reduce shame, only love actually heals the soul. Real freedom comes not from avoiding responsibility, but from stepping into God’s presence honestly, without hiding or deflecting. This is a thoughtful, practical invitation to live one day at a time without blaming others—and to discover again the grace that makes change possible. Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment 📚 Today's Resources: John Milton, Paradise Lost  Charles Tilly, Credit and Blame  Paul Tournier, Guilt & Grace: A Psychological Study  🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    15 min
  6. 17. Stopping Condemnation Before it Starts

    18 FEB

    17. Stopping Condemnation Before it Starts

    Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment On the first day of Lent, John Ortberg invites us into a brave and deeply personal journey: giving up condemnation...and learning how shame actually works. This episode goes straight to the source. John traces condemnation back to its root system in shame, beginning in Genesis and moving through psychology, philosophy, trauma-informed theology, and lived experience. Along the way, he explores why our urge to judge others is often fueled by hidden pain in ourselves—and why healing starts when we stop hiding. You’ll hear insights from: John Walton on Genesis and chaos imagery Warren Kinghorn on trauma and the first humans Eleanor Stump on guilt vs. shame Kurt Thompson on the “shame concierge” that narrates our inner lives John makes a crucial distinction: Guilt fears punishment and is healed by forgiveness. Shame fears rejection and is healed only by acceptance, love, and belonging. He introduces two invisible companions we all carry: a shame concierge that quietly judges every moment and a grace concierge—the Spirit—who reminds us we are God’s beloved children. 📚 Today's Resources: The Soul of Shame — Kurt Thompson Wandering in Darkness — Eleonore Stump Wayfaring — Warren Kinghorn Teachings from John Walton 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    19 min
  7. 16. You are Always Either Blessing or Cursing

    17 FEB

    16. You are Always Either Blessing or Cursing

    Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment Today’s episode opens with an elderly dog, detours through neuroscience and Genesis, and ends by quietly dismantling your default response to annoying people. Classic John Ortberg. As Lent approaches, John invites us into a radical spiritual experiment: giving up condemnation. Not just blaming others, but the inner posture that withholds blessing from people (including ourselves). Along the way, John explores: Why the Bible’s first word is blessing, not judgment How our emotional “like meter” secretly controls our willingness to bless Insights from Jonathan Haidt on moral emotion The famous 90-second rule from Jill Bolte Taylor for interrupting reactive spirals And why disgust, not discernment, often fuels religious condemnation This episode draws a crucial line between judging as discernment (wise) and judging as condemnation (corrosive). John shows how condemnation isn’t just something we think—it’s something we will. And when our will stops blessing, something in us starts breaking. 📚 Today's Resources: The Happiness Hypothesis — Jonathan Haidt Research on emotional regulation from Jill Bolte Taylor Reflections on blessing in Genesis from Gordon Wenham Teachings of Jesus on blessing enemies (Matthew 5) 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    15 min
  8. 15. Give Up Condemnation for Lent

    16 FEB

    15. Give Up Condemnation for Lent

    Download the free NO CONDEMNATION COMMITMENT: https://bit.ly/NC-commitment What if the most spiritual thing you could do today… is not have the last word? In this episode, John Ortberg tells a powerful story about his friend Dallas Willard and introduces a simple but life-changing practice: letting go of condemnation by releasing our need to be right. As Lent approaches, John invites us into something deeper than giving up chocolate or social media. He challenges us to give up condemning others (and ourselves), drawing from Jesus’ silence under accusation, insights from Arthur Brooks, research by Robert Putnam, and wisdom from Dorothy Day. You’ll explore: • Why condemnation is quietly damaging our relationships and culture • How Jesus modeled a radically different way of living • What it means to practice “not having the last word” • How love, not blame, becomes the path to healing • A 40-day Lenten invitation to live without condemnation John also shares a simple commitment you can practice one day at a time: With God’s help, I abandon condemnation and blaming. Instead, I will live in the love of God, the love of life, and the love of others. If you’re tired of outrage, polarization, and carrying judgment in your body and soul, this episode offers a gentle, courageous way forward. 📚Today's Resources: The Divine Conspiracy — by Dallas Willard Dorothy Day “I only love God as much as I love the person I love the least.” Love Your Enemies — Arthur Brooks Upswing — Robert Putnam 🙌 New episodes every weekday. 📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time. Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time. TEXT US at 855-888-0444 EMAIL US at connect@becomenew.com GET OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribe GET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444 SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team 😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/ 🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/ Music Credits: Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0 Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO

    14 min
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Join John Ortberg each day for 10 minutes of spiritual guidance on the person we are becoming.

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