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Hosted by therapist Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, boy meets therapy blends clinical research with real conversations about vulnerability, relationships, friendship, identity, and culture with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Episodes feature solo insights and in-depth interviews with licensed professionals who share both their expertise and their humanity. Perfect for queer listeners, allies, and mental health aficionados seeking affirming, research-informed discussions about therapy and life.

  1. Religious Trauma in the LGBTQ Community, Part 1: The Signs and Patterns You Carry

    2 DAYS AGO ·  VIDEO

    Religious Trauma in the LGBTQ Community, Part 1: The Signs and Patterns You Carry

    Religious trauma doesn’t always end when you leave religion or come out. For many LGBTQ people, the patterns formed early on continue to shape how you think, feel, and relate to others. In Part 1 of this 3-part series, Dustin breaks down the hidden psychological patterns of religious trauma in the LGBTQ community. From chronic shame and hypervigilance to perfectionism, emotional disconnection, and feeling like you’re always “not enough,” this episode explores why these patterns develop and how they persist long after coming out. If you’ve ever felt like something is still off, even after accepting your identity, this episode can help you understand what those patterns are. *This episode is safe for those still connected to their faith. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/work-with-me⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    39 min
  2. Transgender Voice Training: Finding Vocal Euphoria with Nicole Gress of Undead Voice

    23 MAR ·  VIDEO

    Transgender Voice Training: Finding Vocal Euphoria with Nicole Gress of Undead Voice

    In this conversation, Dustin and Speech-Language Pathologist Nicole Gress discuss the intricate relationship between voice, identity, and the experiences of trans individuals. They explore the challenges of voice dysphoria, the journey of transitioning one's voice, and the importance of community support. Nicole shares insights from her work with Undead Voice, a platform dedicated to helping individuals find their vocal identity and experience "vocal euphoria." The discussion highlights the psychological impact of voice on mental health and the resources available for those seeking to align their voice with their identity. Connect with Nicole Gress: Instagram: ⁠@undead.voice⁠ TikTok: ⁠@undead.voice⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠www.undeadvoice.com⁠ Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with Me: ⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/work-with-me⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    48 min
  3. Gay Men and The Second Adolescence

    9 MAR ·  VIDEO

    Gay Men and The Second Adolescence

    Many gay men reach adulthood feeling like life is just beginning while everyone else seems years ahead. Dating, identity exploration, sexuality, and community may all start later, creating the feeling that you're somehow “behind.” Psychologists sometimes describe this experience as a second adolescence. In this episode, Dustin explores the psychology behind why many gay men go through a second developmental stage after coming out. Drawing on research in LGBTQ identity development, minority stress, and belonging, he explains why this period can feel both exhilarating and chaotic. From intense friendships to unstable dating experiences and the pressure to “make up for lost time,” this episode examines why these patterns exist and what they actually mean. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with Me: ⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/work-with-me⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    37 min
  4. You're Not Behind, Just Gay: The Psychology of Catching Up

    2 MAR ·  VIDEO

    You're Not Behind, Just Gay: The Psychology of Catching Up

    Many gay men carry a quiet fear that they are behind in life. Behind in relationships, confidence, career, or emotional maturity. It can feel like everyone else got a head start while you are still figuring things out. In this episode, we explore why that feeling is so common and why it does not mean you have failed. Growing up gay often changes the timeline of development. When identity, dating, and belonging are delayed by stigma or concealment, those experiences do not disappear. They happen later. We talk about second adolescence, minority stress, social comparison, and the pressure to catch up, along with how to move forward without urgency or shame. You are not behind. You started under different conditions. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with Me: ⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/work-with-me⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    40 min
  5. ADHD, Time Blindness, and a Little Bit of Gay Chaos with Jordan Schatz

    23 FEB ·  VIDEO

    ADHD, Time Blindness, and a Little Bit of Gay Chaos with Jordan Schatz

    In this episode, I sit down with therapist and friend Jordan Schatz to explore ADHD across the lifespan, from childhood to adulthood. We talk about what ADHD actually is, why so many people are diagnosed later in life, and how challenges like time blindness, executive functioning difficulties, and emotional overwhelm show up in everyday life. We also discuss relationships, self-esteem, parenting, and the experience of feeling behind or different from others. We touch on how ADHD can intersect with identity and masking, and what self-acceptance can look like for neurodivergent people. And yes, there’s a little bit of chaos and kiki too. Whether you have ADHD, love someone who does, or are trying to better understand your brain, this conversation offers insight, validation, and practical takeaways. Connect with Jordan Schatz: Instagram: ⁠@theadhdguru_⁠ TikTok: ⁠@theadhdguru⁠ All Links: ⁠Click Here⁠ Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    56 min
  6. The Psychology of Queer Reinvention: Progress or Avoidance?

    16 FEB ·  VIDEO

    The Psychology of Queer Reinvention: Progress or Avoidance?

    What does it really mean to reinvent yourself? For many LGBTQ+ people, the desire to start over can feel urgent. A new version of you. A new identity. A life that finally feels safer or more authentic. But psychologically, reinvention is rarely just about change. It is often about repair. In this episode, we explore the psychology of queer reinvention and the emotional forces that drive the need to become someone new. We talk about why reinvention often follows rejection or identity disruption, why LGBTQ+ people may feel a stronger pull toward starting over, and how to tell the difference between growth that expands your life and change that quietly becomes avoidance. If you have ever felt like you needed to become someone different in order to be accepted, this episode will help you understand why. Reinvention is not about erasing who you were. It is about integrating what you were never allowed to become. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    39 min
  7. Mean Gays, Part 2: How to Stay Open When Belonging Is Conditional

    9 FEB ·  VIDEO

    Mean Gays, Part 2: How to Stay Open When Belonging Is Conditional

    In Part 1, we explored why gay spaces can sometimes feel cold, competitive, or quietly unkind and how conditional belonging can shape gay male social culture. In this follow-up episode, we shifts the focus from culture to skills. This conversation is about how to stay emotionally open, grounded, and self-respecting in gay social environments that are not always designed for emotional safety or relational depth. Drawing from attachment theory, emotion regulation research, and clinical work, this episode offers practical tools for building secure connection without overexposing yourself, confusing boundaries with emotional shutdown, or internalizing social rejection. You will learn how to recognize real reciprocity early, disengage without becoming cold, reduce over-personalization after subtle social rejection, and create healthier connection outside high-evaluation spaces such as nightlife and dating apps. This episode is for gay men who want deeper friendships and relationships, but do not want repeated social hurt to turn into emotional distance or cynicism. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    39 min
  8. Mean Gays: When Belonging Is Conditional

    2 FEB ·  VIDEO

    Mean Gays: When Belonging Is Conditional

    Why do gay spaces sometimes feel cold, competitive, or quietly unkind? In this season three premiere and solo episode, host Dustin explores what people mean when they talk about “mean gays” and why unkindness can become normalized in gay social spaces. Rather than framing this as a character flaw or a community failure, this episode looks at the psychological and social forces that shape these interactions. Drawing from research on minority stress, shame, social comparison, and attachment, this episode examines how conditional belonging, appearance-based status, and fear of rejection can turn connection into competition. It also explores how many of us participate in these dynamics without realizing it, and what it looks like to recognize when emotional distance is being used as protection. You will also learn how to respond when you are on the receiving end of subtle social cruelty, including how to avoid internalizing rejection, set boundaries without becoming cold, and seek spaces where reciprocity actually exists. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt invisible in gay spaces, questioned their worth after social rejection, or wondered why belonging sometimes feels earned instead of given. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    43 min
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Hosted by therapist Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, boy meets therapy blends clinical research with real conversations about vulnerability, relationships, friendship, identity, and culture with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Episodes feature solo insights and in-depth interviews with licensed professionals who share both their expertise and their humanity. Perfect for queer listeners, allies, and mental health aficionados seeking affirming, research-informed discussions about therapy and life.

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  • Creator
    Dustin Oliver
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Dustin Oliver
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