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255: This Year, Be Your Own Valentine

Ever notice how Valentine’s Day can make love feel like a report card? Who got the flowers, who made the effort, who felt chosen, and who quietly questioned their worth. In this episode, we’re not canceling Valentine’s Day. We’re reclaiming it. We talk about how love slowly turned into a scoreboard and what shifts when you stop measuring your worth through gestures, effort, or being chosen and start becoming your own source of love, safety, and devotion. This isn’t about giving up on love. It’s about changing the way you experience it. Episode Resources ✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the emotional pattern that turns days like Valentine’s into pressure instead of connection. ✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to gently release the old heartbreaks still shaping how you love today. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why Valentine’s Day triggers feelings of being chosen, compared, or left behind ✨ How love quietly turned into proof instead of presence ✨ What “being your own Valentine” actually means in real life ✨ A simple self-love ritual you can do whether you’re single or partnered ✨ How choosing yourself first changes how you show up in relationships If you’ve ever felt disappointed on Valentine’s Day even when “nothing is wrong,” this episode will help you understand why and offer a different way forward. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the emotional patterns Valentine’s Day tends to activate and learn how to create safety, clarity, and self-trust in your relationships again. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

21 min

SEASON 1 TRAILER

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Let’s dive into the messy, beautiful journey of learning how to love yourself — especially in the hard moments, when it matters most. This isn’t the curated kind of self-love you scroll past on social media. This is the real thing. The kind you practice when you're heartbroken. In conflict. On the edge of change. When choosing yourself feels terrifying — or selfish. If you're someone who’s always put others first, who’s afraid of being “too much” or “not enough,” and who’s ready to choose yourself without guilt — this podcast is for you. Hosted by Sanaiyah Gurnamal—TEDx Speaker, celebrity love coach, and Love Alchemist—this is your go-to space for embracing who you are, letting go of who you’re not, and stepping into a more embodied, empowered version of you. Each episode is filled with powerful stories, grounded insights, and honest reflections to help you release past baggage, childhood conditioning, and subconscious patterns that get in the way of loving yourself fully. Because the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. You don’t need permission to choose yourself. But if it helps — this is it. Join the Project Loving Myself community Follow @projectlovingmyselfpodcast on Instagram and Facebook for episode drops, reflections, and conversations that meet you where you are—and help you move forward. For all inquiries, contact us at media@sanaiyahgurnamal.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

2 min

4 FEB

254: Stop Keeping Score: How to Feel More Loved (Without Begging for It)

Ever notice how love doesn’t usually fall apart with a bang…but with a quiet ugh? A text that didn’t come. A plan that slipped. That weird moment where you realize you’re disappointed again and you don’t even know why. In this episode, we talk about that feeling. The one that shows up when you’re doing your best to be chill, understanding, emotionally mature… and somehow still feeling unseen. This isn’t a “lower your standards” talk. And it’s definitely not a “just be grateful” lecture. We’re unpacking the invisible scorecards, unspoken expectations, and mental contracts we carry into relationships without realizing how much pressure they create for us and the people we love. Because when love starts feeling like a performance review, nobody wins. Episode Resources ✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the protection pattern that turns expectations into disappointment. ✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the emotional habits that keep love feeling heavy instead of supportive. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why expectation often disguises itself as love ✨ How keeping score quietly drains connection ✨ The difference between appreciation and settling (yes, there is one) ✨ Why asking for what you need doesn’t make love less meaningful ✨ How to keep your standards without living in constant disappointment If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I feel disappointed when nothing is technically wrong?” This episode won’t hand you a script but it will help you see what’s really happening beneath the surface. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the expectations you’re carrying in love, understand where they come from, and learn how to ask for what you need without resentment or self-abandonment. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

19 min

28 JAN

253: Stop Overthinking and Start Moving: From What If to Why Not (with Joelle Yuvienco)

Ever notice how overthinking feels like protection… until it quietly becomes the thing keeping you stuck? The spirals. The what-ifs. The mental gymnastics that make love, decisions, and even joy feel heavier than they need to be. In this episode, I sit down with Joelle Yuvienco, voice artist, events host, and the heart behind Paano Kung, a podcast that has become a refuge for overthinkers navigating love, life, and vulnerability. What unfolds is an honest conversation about emotional patterns, self-sabotage, shame, and the quiet courage it takes to choose yourself again, especially when certainty is nowhere to be found. Rather than fixing overthinking or rushing to clarity, this episode invites you to slow down and notice what your thoughts have been trying to protect you from, and what happens when you finally listen instead of running. Episode Resources ✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the emotional pattern quietly influencing how you overthink, connect, and show up in love. ✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the unresolved emotional weight that keeps pulling you into the same relationship cycles. ✨ Connect with Joelle Yuvienco through her Paano Kung podcast on Spotify and follow her on Instagram at @joelleohwell. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why overthinking often comes from a desire to feel safe ✨ How shame and self-blame quietly shape our decisions in love ✨ What changes when you stop repeating patterns and start choosing differently ✨ The role vulnerability plays in healing and connection ✨ Why growth doesn’t mean arriving, but expanding into who you’re becoming If you’ve ever felt stuck between fear and possibility, or caught in the loop of asking “What if?” instead of living “Why not”, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Connect with Joelle Yuvienco 🎙️Podcast (Paano Kung on Spotify) 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

49 min

21 JAN

252: How Butterflies Turn Into Walls (and How to Take Them Down)

Ever notice how love can feel exciting one moment… and suddenly unsafe the next? A delayed reply. A slight shift in tone. That tight feeling in your chest you can’t logic away. In this episode, we sit with those moments. Not to fix it. Not to label it. But to understand why it shows up. Instead of giving you another “just trust it” pep talk, this conversation explores the quiet patterns that shape how you show up in love, the emotional rules you may be living by without realizing it, and why some connections feel harder than they should… even when nothing is technically wrong. Episode Resources ✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the pattern quietly influencing how you love ✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the heartbreak influencing your current relationships. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Why your body reacts before your mind catches up ✨ The difference between intuition and old emotional habits ✨ How past experiences can echo into present relationships ✨ Why closeness can feel confusing instead of comforting ✨ What changes when you stop fighting your reactions and start listening to them If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why does this keep happening?” This episode won’t rush you to an answer—but it might help you ask a better question. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

26 min

14 JAN

251: How to Break Generational Trauma Without Rejecting Your Culture with John Wang

Ever notice how some patterns don’t feel like yours… they feel inherited? The people-pleasing. The overachieving. The quiet pressure to be “good” at the expense of what you actually feel. I’m joined by John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, for an honest conversation about generational patterns (especially Asian ones), cultural conditioning, and the survival roles many of us learned to play. We unpack why self-abandonment is often praised as a virtue, how these patterns shape our relationships and self-worth, and what healing looks like without rejecting your culture or your past. If you’ve ever felt torn between honoring where you come from and loving who you’re becoming, this episode reminds you: you don’t have to choose one over the other. You get to be a pattern-breaker with compassion, clarity, and choice. Episode Resources 📖 Read Big Asian Energy by John Wang – a powerful guide to breaking generational patterns while honoring your cultural roots 🎙️ Listen to The Big Asian Energy Podcast for deeper conversations on identity, healing, and becoming a conscious pattern-breaker 🌍 Explore John’s work at bigasianenergy.com for tools, talks, and community resources In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why many Asian generational patterns were formed for survival, not failure ✨ How cultural conditioning quietly shapes relationships, boundaries, and self-worth ✨ The cost of staying loyal to roles you’ve outgrown ✨ What it truly means to be a pattern-breaker without shame or rejection ✨ How awareness creates choice, and choice creates freedom If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why do I keep ending up here?” or “How do I change without betraying my family or my past?” this is your reminder that you can honor where you came from and still choose something new. Get Started Here ✨ Take my new Heartbreak Quiz—discover the pattern your heart learned to stay safe in love. ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the emotional patterns shaping how you show up in love and life. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Connect with John Wang 🌍 Website: https://www.bigasianenergy.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnwangofficial/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@johnwangbae 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnwangofficial/ 🎙️ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5M7T0HbKqNpJNuFRt3DUEH Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

51 min

7 JAN

[Celebrating 250 Episodes] The Self-Love Cheat Sheet: 7 Lessons I Learned From 250 Conversations About Love

Ever notice how big milestones don’t always make you want to pop champagne… they make you stare at the ceiling and think, “Wow. That was a lot.” Episode 250 is not a victory lap or a greatest-hits episode. It’s a pause. A real one. The kind where you look back at 250 conversations about love, healing, boundaries, self-worth, and becoming yourself and ask, “What actually worked… and what was I just tolerating?” Spoiler: self-love isn’t cute quotes or morning affirmations. It’s the unglamorous practice of choosing yourself when it would be easier not to. Instead of giving you another “do better this year” pep talk, this episode pulls together the patterns that kept showing up again and again across 250 honest conversations. Consider it your Self-Love Cheat Sheet not for perfection, but for real life. The messy, evolving, sometimes-what-even-is-this chapter you’re probably in right now. Episode Resources ✨ PLM 250 Celebration | January 14 | Manila (BGC) A Start the Year in Your Power talk and guided meditation where we pause, reflect, release, and intentionally step into the version of you that’s ready for what’s next.👉 Register here ✨ The Self-Love Cheat Sheet – a practical recap of the 7 truths that consistently show up across 250 conversations—so you can apply them in real life, not just reflect on them. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: ✨ Why self-love quietly shapes every relationship you enter ✨ What 250 conversations reveal about why love struggles when growth stops ✨ The patterns that keep repeating when boundaries go unspoken ✨ Why healing isn’t about fixing yourself, but reclaiming your power ✨ What actually changes when you stop chasing and start choosing yourself If you’re starting the year wondering whether you’re behind, doing it wrong, or missing something important, this episode offers a steadier reframe: you’re not late, broken, or failing. You’re learning. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the self-love patterns shaping your relationships. ✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where you’re growing and where you need more self-love boost. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23 min

31/12/2025

249: [Meditation] Start the Year in Your Power (and make this year yours)

Ever notice how a new year arrives with a silent demand to be different? To fix something. To upgrade yourself. To become “better” without really checking in with where you actually are. This episode is a guided meditation created to help you pause, ground your body, and reconnect with the version of you that knows her worth without needing to prove it. Instead of forcing your new year's resolution, this meditation invites you to embody them. To meet the woman you’re becoming and realize she isn’t waiting in the distance — she’s already here. Episode Resources ✨ join my free 3-hour Self-Love Roadmap workshop on January 10 to turn your inner clarity into a grounded, self-love–led plan for 2026 across the areas that shape your life. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: ✨ Ground your nervous system and settle into your body ✨ Release old roles, expectations, and versions of yourself you’ve outgrown ✨ Connect with a more confident, self-trusting version of you ✨ Anchor into a guiding word that sets the tone for the year ahead ✨ Begin the year from presence, not pressure If you’re tired of starting the year feeling behind, rushed, or disconnected from yourself, this meditation offers a quieter beginning — one rooted in your empowerment, not performance. Get Started Here ✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to explore the emotional patterns shaping how you show up. ✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where your energy may need more care and support. Connect with Me 🌐 www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com ▶️ @sanaiyahgurnamal IG @sanaiyahgurnamal @projectlovingmyselfpodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

14 min

Project Loving Myself

255: This Year, Be Your Own Valentine

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254: Stop Keeping Score: How to Feel More Loved (Without Begging for It)

253: Stop Overthinking and Start Moving: From What If to Why Not (with Joelle Yuvienco)

252: How Butterflies Turn Into Walls (and How to Take Them Down)

251: How to Break Generational Trauma Without Rejecting Your Culture with John Wang

[Celebrating 250 Episodes] The Self-Love Cheat Sheet: 7 Lessons I Learned From 250 Conversations About Love

249: [Meditation] Start the Year in Your Power (and make this year yours)

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