Self Help(ed)

Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth

A brand new podcast hosted by writers and best friends, Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth. "We've done the therapy, so you don't have to." Modern women are done with hiding. Divorce, infertility, fledgling careers, single parenthood - the so-called taboos of female ‘failure’ are quickly becoming our favourite topics. Why? Because we’ve all been there. Under the glossy exterior of success, we’re all just trying to dodge the demands: be sexy, be smart, be brave, be a wife, be a mother, be a feminist, be fit, be fun… but don’t talk about it. We’re burning down the facade and telling it like it is. Self Help(ed) is where those stories live - unfiltered, hilarious, vulnerable and real. Each episode dives into the messiness of modern womanhood with honesty, humour and hindsight. It’s second-hand therapy, the space we wish we had during our hardest chapters… and now, it’s yours too. This is, Self Help(ed). If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on Instagram at @selfhelpedpod, TikTok at @selfhelpedpod or YouTube. You can follow Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday.

  1. The Internet’s Boyfriend: Dr Ned Rohrt

    5 NOV

    The Internet’s Boyfriend: Dr Ned Rohrt

    This week on Self Help(ed), we’re joined by our very first guest - none other than the Internet’s favourite boyfriend, certified golden retriever energy, and all-round good egg: Dr Ned Rohrt. Tully’s better half (and real-life dentist) takes the hot seat for a deep-dive chat about love, loyalty, life online, and what it’s really like dating someone whose life is lived publicly. Maggie doesn’t hold back - asking Ned everything from how he handles the constant spotlight and proposal pressure to how he feels about Tully’s family history and future. It’s candid, emotional, and surprisingly funny. Then, while Ned catches his breath, the girls unpack Lily Allen’s blistering new divorce album, West End Girl. From addiction to betrayal, it’s a masterclass in female rage and creative revenge. Because, truly, no one turns heartbreak into high art quite like Lily. And to finish? A little chaos in the form of ‘Who Knows Tully Best?’ - where Maggie and Ned battle it out for bragging rights, revealing who really knows Tully inside out.  Tune in for a reminder that real love isn’t perfect, it’s patient - and sometimes it shows up on Hinge when you least expect it. CHAPTERS: 01:14 - On the Couch. Enter Dr Ned 02:17 - Ned’s first pod. Sweat pads and martinis 04:08 - Hinge to happily ever after 08:48 - Life online. Dating a creator 11:11 - Proposal pressure vs reality 15:10 - Dementia, love, and choice 20:30 - Panic attacks to therapy wins 24:46 - Couples counselling and money talks 41:52 - Scoop of the Week: Lily Allen’s West End Girl 48:42 - Game time: Who Knows Tully Best 52:59 - Tattoos, hall passes, chaos 55:02 - Clickbait king Ned signs off 56:03 - Season wrap and 2026 tease If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    57 min
  2. Swipe, Cry, School Run.

    29 OCT

    Swipe, Cry, School Run.

    A month ago, Maggie got dumped over text - classy! All while juggling job hunting, co-parenting logistics, and the daily chaos of solo mum life. But instead of collapsing into a rom-com montage of tissues and Häagen-Dazs, she just kept going (mostly because small humans still need breakfast). In this week’s On The Couch, the girls unpack the messy, hilarious, and strangely empowering art of managing your own heartbreak while still being the adult in the room. From dating as a single mum to finding love again after divorce, Maggie shares what she’s learned about resilience, perspective, and why sometimes the most radical thing you can do is not fall apart. Then, in Self Help(ed) Scoop of the Week, Tully and Maggie react to Sylvester Stallone’s wife Jennifer Flavin’s… let’s call it “creative” theory on the rise of trans kids in Hollywood and finally, they wrap up with a brand-new game segment: Guess the Dumb Dumb - celebrating the greatest thinkers saying the dumbest things.  It’s heartache, healing, and a healthy dose of chaos - just another week of Self Help(ed). CHAPTERS:  01:08 - Milk sip intro. On the Couch 02:21 - Maggie’s breakup reveal 06:28 - Booted while abroad 07:15 - The ick list 09:59 - Single parent dating 12:58 - Mother vs romantic identity 17:02 - Heartbreak while parenting 22:03 - Decentering men 30:02 - Data points in dating 36:46 - Tully’s Milkman diagnosis 42:09 - Scoop Of The Week 46:28 - Guess the Dumb Dumb If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod.

    53 min
  3. When It Rains, It Pours: Why Everything Happens All at Once

    22 OCT

    When It Rains, It Pours: Why Everything Happens All at Once

    We all know the saying: “when it rains, it pours”. Usually, it’s describing how problems- or sometimes good fortune- seem to arrive all at once. While it sounds like a simple idiom, there’s actually some scientific and psychological reasoning behind why it feels true. Cognitively, humans are wired to detect patterns. When multiple stressful or fortunate events happen close together, our brains naturally link them, amplifying the sense of clustering. From a statistical perspective, clustering does occur in random distributions. Studies in probability and chaos theory show that even purely random data often contains streaks or clusters. But in terms of scientific proof that bad luck usually arrives at once? Nope, not a thing. So while there’s no supernatural proof that life conspires to pile things on, there is psychological and mathematical evidence explaining why it feels that way. This week, we try and unpack our coping mechanisms for periods of ‘heavy rain’ - and the bad habits we need to kick. CHAPTERS:  01:09 – On the Couch: When It Rains, It Pours 09:32 – Brains love patterns. Hello, fake “clusters” 16:31 – Best tip: You don’t have to reply yet 18:55 – Glass balls vs rubber balls 24:09 – Survival mode makes joy feel risky 32:04 – Scoop of the Week: Skims hairy thong 33:52 – Are we being trolled or is this fashion? Discuss 37:36 – Internet Genius: Habit stacking If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    44 min
  4. The Death of the Makeover Montage

    15 OCT

    The Death of the Makeover Montage

    In this episode of Self Help(ed), the girls chat all things reinvention - and how it used to be as simple as a haircut and a new postcode, but now social media now makes it nearly impossible to start fresh. From cringe-worthy old posts to cancel culture panic, they argue that reinvention isn’t fake, it’s growth. Plus: a scoop on Craig McLachlan’s Cluedo controversy, and a fiery “Change My Mind” debate, this time tackling Reality TV vs. Coffee. Big laughs, bold takes, and maybe a nudge to try your own mini reinvention (offline, for once). Chapter Notes: 02:00 – Reinvention in the Social Media Age 06:00 – Pressure to Stay Consistent (Cancel Culture, Tall Poppy Syndrome) 13:00 – Cancel Culture, Comparison & TikTok Inspiration 17:00 – Therapy Notes: Reinvention as Integration, Not Erasure 19:00 – Scoop of the Week: Craig McLachlan & Cluedo Controversy 23:00 – Change My Mind: Reality TV vs. Coffee 28:40 – Homework & Closing Thoughts If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    30 min
  5. Is Anybody Sleeping?!

    8 OCT

    Is Anybody Sleeping?!

    Call it age, call it stress, call it toddlers… but it feels like no one is sleeping anymore. This week, Maggie brings one of her most tired topics to the table: sleep. From random bouts of insomnia to 3.30am cats demanding breakfast, the dream of a solid eight hours feels like exactly that- a dream. Tully and Maggie unpack the ever-popular concept of “sleep hygiene” and confess their own questionable bedtime habits. They explore what sleeplessness is doing to our energy, moods, relationships, and mental health long-term. Spoiler: the effects aren’t pretty. Then, in classic Self Help(ed) fashion, the girls veer into the idea of “Frog Day”- a quirky tool for tackling your most dreaded tasks before they snowball into stress monsters. And of course, they close out with a spirited round of Walk Of Shame, because no episode is complete without a little ribbing. So if you’ve ever stared at the ceiling at 2am replaying tomorrow’s to-do list- or if your pet thinks breakfast is a pre-dawn activity -- you’ll enjoy this one. CHAPTERS:  00:58 – On the Couch: Cat vs sleep 01:37 – Why we’re all so tired 03:59 – Sleep as a productivity killer 05:14 – Sleep hygiene myths 06:51 – ADHD, anxiety & bedtime brains 10:00 – Good night vs insomnia night 18:00 – Medication as reset 20:09 – Screen time & frazzled brains 23:04 – Brain dumps & lists 24:46 – Dressing gown upgrade 26:58 – Therapy notes 30:05 – Homework: Sleep diary 31:28 – Internet Genius of the Week 32:22 – What is Frog Day? 35:13 – Walk of Shame  If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    42 min
  6. The Nostalgia Trap

    1 OCT

    The Nostalgia Trap

    Remember when low-rise jeans, MSN Messenger, and disposable cameras ruled our lives? Same. And apparently, so does the entire internet. From Y2K fashion comebacks to remakes of the shows we binged as teens, nostalgia has us in a chokehold. In this episode, Tully and Maggie unpack why we’re so obsessed with reliving the past. Is nostalgia a comforting escape from an overwhelming world, or are we stunting our growth by clinging to old aesthetics and teenage fantasies? Expect tangents about butterfly clips, dial-up trauma, and why Tully still misses her pink Motorola flip phone. Because sometimes looking back is fun… but is it stopping us from moving forward? If you were a 90s kid raised in the noughties (and your MSN status once held the fate of your crush), this one’s for you. CHAPTERS: 00:33 – Y2K fever hits 00:50 – Cakes, fashion, fury 03:10 – Why we live in rewind 04:06 – Playlists, remakes, disposables 05:12 – Name it: The Nostalgia Trap 10:31 – Confession: The Sims spiral 15:52 – Romanticising the ex era 17:13 – World on fire. Comfort food brain 24:04 – Music time-travel 25:52 – Seasoning, not the meal 28:08 – Therapy notes: edit the edit 30:55 – Own your present taste 33:16 – Cake showdown 35:05 – Rubber duck terror. Jelly crimes 38:11 – Justice for Candy Castle 38:33 – Y2K fashion fails rapid-fire 41:02 – Capri pants vs everyone  If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    48 min
  7. Baby on Board? The Myth of Being 'Ready'.

    24 SEPT

    Baby on Board? The Myth of Being 'Ready'.

    This week on Self Help(ed), we’re asking one of life’s biggest, messiest questions: are we ever truly ready for kids? From emotional readiness to the realities of rising living costs, shifting timelines, and the infamous biological clock, Tully and Maggie dive into the push-pull of modern motherhood. Tully shares her own story - a decade of longing to be a mum, egg-freezing (twice), and the occasional 4pm forgotten lunch moment that makes her wonder if she’s really as prepared as she thinks. Meanwhile, Maggie opens up about whether she was ready, and the ever-changing question of whether she wants more kids down the line. Together, they explore how social media has turned parenthood into a performance, why “perfectly prepared” is often a myth, and why maybe “ready” isn’t about having it all sorted - but about having love, resilience, and the willingness to figure it out as you go. Because when it comes to babies, the truth is: no one has all the answers, but everyone has a story. CHAPTERS: 00:28 – Are We Ever Ready for Kids? 00:56 – Clocks, Chaos & Chocolate YoGo 03:29 – The Fertility Stats No One Wants to Hear 06:17 – Emotional Readiness or Houseplant Energy? 08:10 – Money vs Motherhood 08:43 – Tick Tock, Baby Clock 10:12 – Maggie’s Surprise Story 17:47 – Tully’s Baby Fever 30:29 – What Kids Really Need 34:03 – Homework: Readiness Reality Check 35:35 – Tinder’s Double Date Drama 41:03 – Overrated or Underrated 49:02 – Friendship on the Rocks If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

    43 min
  8. Internet Face vs. Real Face: Who Are We Even Anymore?

    17 SEPT

    Internet Face vs. Real Face: Who Are We Even Anymore?

    This week on Self Help(ed), Maggie brings a big one to the therapy couch: Internet Face. You know the one- the airbrushed, filter-heavy, best-angle-only version of ourselves that’s quietly become the new normal. From ‘bad angles on tv’ spirals to Botox confessions and the constant tug-of-war between how we think we look and how we really look. Why are women chasing their filtered selves in real life? When did aging become something we’re supposed to hide away? And how do we start making peace with our unfiltered faces staring back at us? We dive into how the rise of filters, constant high-res streaming, and an online culture obsessed with “perfection” has left so many of us feeling like we’re falling short of our own fake selves.  Tully reflects on what it’s like to have had a camera pointed at her since she was 15 - from being “discovered” in the Girlfriend Model Search, to Big Brother, to over a decade of selfies on Instagram - and why even now she still struggles to resist the edit button.  Together, they explore how Internet Face can feel empowering in the moment but often morphs into self-surveillance, why women are starting to feel pressure to look like their filtered selves offline, and how hard it can be to make peace with the natural process of aging.  It’s a raw, funny and deeply relatable conversation about worth, filters, and the radical idea of letting your “bad angles” live. Because growing older is a privilege, and maybe the most rebellious thing we can do is love our Real Face exactly as it is. CHAPTERS: 01:12 – Armchair Therapy Begins 02:13 – Defining Internet Face 08:22 – The Feminist Struggle With Ageing 14:08 – The Beauty Trap 18:19 – Mummy Makeovers & Moving the Goalposts 22:54 – Exposure Therapy For Ageing 27:00 – The Girls Remove The Masks 32:18 – Self Help(ed) Scoop of the Week 35:07 – Baby Name Notes App Game If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at ⁠@selfhelpedpod⁠. You can find Maggie online at ⁠@maggiekellywriter⁠ and Tully over on ⁠@tee_smyth⁠. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod This podcast episode is brought to you by Go-To: quality, effective skincare that actually works.

    43 min
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A brand new podcast hosted by writers and best friends, Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth. "We've done the therapy, so you don't have to." Modern women are done with hiding. Divorce, infertility, fledgling careers, single parenthood - the so-called taboos of female ‘failure’ are quickly becoming our favourite topics. Why? Because we’ve all been there. Under the glossy exterior of success, we’re all just trying to dodge the demands: be sexy, be smart, be brave, be a wife, be a mother, be a feminist, be fit, be fun… but don’t talk about it. We’re burning down the facade and telling it like it is. Self Help(ed) is where those stories live - unfiltered, hilarious, vulnerable and real. Each episode dives into the messiness of modern womanhood with honesty, humour and hindsight. It’s second-hand therapy, the space we wish we had during our hardest chapters… and now, it’s yours too. This is, Self Help(ed). If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on Instagram at @selfhelpedpod, TikTok at @selfhelpedpod or YouTube. You can follow Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday.

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    Maggie Kelly & Tully Smyth
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    13
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    Self Help(ed)

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