The W Podcast

Tim & Pauline Wheeler
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Our goal is to provide you with perspective to help you build a healthy & godly relationship. New episode of "The W Podcast" drops every Tuesday! We are Tim & Pauline Wheeler. Before we met we were both in ungodly relationships that left us empty and hurt. This led us on individual journeys to learn God's way of dating. When we met we decided to have a relationship that honored God but was still fun and exciting! We eventually started helping other couples through small groups to learn to date God's way. We have been married since 2018 and have a beautiful son.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    The Secret Reason Celibacy Doesn’t Guarantee Great Sex In Marriage

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5h If you’re newly married (or engaged) and quietly wondering, “Why didn’t anyone tell us this part?” — you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone! This episode will help you: - Relax if married sex feels awkward, slow, or different than you imagined - Stop spiraling if things don’t feel like fireworks right away - Feel less pressure to “get it right” and more freedom to grow into it - Get practical clarity on sex, money, roles, and spiritual rhythms without shame If you waited for marriage and thought intimacy would instantly click — or if money stress, expectations, or tension showed up sooner than you expected — this conversation will help you breathe again. You’ll walk away with: - A healthier way to think about intimacy (connection over performance) - Permission to take your time without feeling behind or broken - Simple rhythms that actually help unity grow - A reminder that marriage isn’t about perfection — it’s about learning how to walk through real life together This is especially for you if you’re in your first year of marriage, newly engaged, or realizing that marriage is beautiful and stretching at the same time. You’re not failing. You’re just learning. And that’s normal. CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Nobody Prepares You for This in Marriage 01:10 – “We Waited… Why Does Sex Feel Hard?” 02:45 – Expectations, Shame, and Unspoken Baggage 05:00 – Taking Pressure Off the Wedding Night 06:45 – Redefining “Fireworks” and Intimacy 10:30 – Why Money Hits Deeper Than You Expect 13:10 – Budget Meetings That Don’t Create More Fights 14:35 – Why Spiritual Intimacy Doesn’t Happen Automatically 16:50 – Marriage Roles Rarely Look Like You Imagined 19:30 – Unity Matters More Than Getting It Right

    24 min

  2. 3 FEB

    What Christians Get Wrong As Newlyweds (Sex, Gender Roles, Money Triggers, & More)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5h If your first year of marriage feels confusing, heavier than you expected, or you’ve quietly wondered, “Did we make a mistake?” — this episode is for you. Because real talk… the church talks a LOT about waiting for marriage…but not enough about what happens after the wedding:- when the sex after waiting is awkward (or just not what you imagined)- when conflict shows up over “small” stuff (chores, habits, communication)- when money arguments expose fear, control, and different upbringings- when you realize spiritual intimacy takes intention, not vibesIn this episode, we’re exposing the newlywed secrets most couples aren’t prepared for — and giving you practical ways to move through it without panic, shame, or isolation. ✅ You’ll learn:- Why the first year of marriage can feel so exposing (and why that’s not a bad sign)- How to handle the “I don’t always feel in love” moments without spiraling- What to do when you realize you weren’t taught healthy conflict- How to reset expectations for Christian sex in marriage (especially if you waited)==- Why budget meetings can protect your marriage (even when you hate them)- A simple rhythm for praying together as a couple that actually lasts CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro + the “nobody prepared us” truth 01:08 Why the first year feels confusing (and you’re not crazy) 04:14 Marriage feels exposing (sanctifying, not scary) 06:20 You won’t always “feel” in love (normalizing the shift) 10:29 Conflict ≠ failure (how to think like teammates) 14:14 Grieving your old life (freedom, routines, space) 16:43 Sex after waiting (expectations, shame, healing) 25:36 Money triggers + budget meeting rhythm 29:29 Spiritual intimacy (praying together that actually sticks) 32:00 Roles & expectations (building your own rhythm) 38:36 “Did we make a mistake?” (don’t isolate) 41:50 What to watch next + wrap-up first year of marriage, newlywed advice, Christian marriage advice, newlywed Christian couple, first year of marriage hard, why marriage is hard at first, sex after waiting for marriage, Christian sex in marriage, wedding night expectations, purity culture baggage, marriage communication, Christian marriage conflict, money fights in marriage, praying together as a couple, spiritual intimacy in marriage, premarital counseling Christian, married life advice

    43 min

  3. 27 JAN

    Best Christian Dating Advice (No Filter)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5hIf you’re in a Christian relationship (or a talking stage) and you both love Jesus… but you’re quietly wondering, “Are we dating God’s way… or are we just winging it?” — this one’s for you.In this episode, you’re gonna hear what we would tell a brand new Christian couple if we had NO filter. No church clichés. No Instagram quotes. Just practical, God-honoring wisdom that helps you date with clarity, boundaries, peace, and real joy.You’ll walk away with:- How to stop letting feelings run the relationship- Real dating boundaries (not vague “we’ll see” boundaries)- What to pray besides “God help us not to fall”- How to build actual friendship (not just chemistry)- Why you need accountability (and how to choose it)- How to handle conflict without disrespect- The best communication script: “I feel ___ when ___ happens”- How to date with the question: “Does this make me more like Christ?”- Why you must move slow enough to see reality- How to keep it fun AND holy (yes, both)CHAPTERS:00:00 Our story (we didn’t start out dating God’s way)01:19 “Are we dating right… or just winging it?”04:23 The real reason Christian couples struggle (structure)06:41 Feelings aren’t the foundation12:23 Real boundaries vs fake boundaries16:01 Stop praying only “survival prayers”19:35 Don’t skip friendship (how we built it)24:19 Accountability that actually helps you grow29:53 Conflict doesn’t mean you’re failing (how to fight fair)44:58 Have fun + be intentional (fun & holy balance)

    47 min

  4. 20 JAN

    What Christian’s Get Wrong About Attraction (and Why It Matters)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5h“He checks every box… but I’m not sure I’m attracted.”“She’s everything I prayed for… so why do I still feel unclear?”If you’ve ever DM’d that (or thought it), this video is for you. We’re breaking down what Christians get wrong about attraction, how to tell the difference between settling vs. slow-burn attraction, and how to spot when your “lack of attraction” is actually fear, past hurt, or social media comparison.In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why attraction is more than physical (and why that matters for marriage)- Why “butterflies” aren’t a reliable compass- The 3 types of “I’m not attracted” (and which one you’re actually in)- How social media, dating apps, and AI are quietly rewriting your standard- The questions to ask after a few dates to know if attraction can grow—or if it’s wisdom to walk away

    35 min

  5. 13 JAN

    Are You Unknowingly Dating the World’s Way? (How to Date God’s Way)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5hDating in 2026 feels exhausting, confusing, and emotionally heavy for a lot of Christian singles — and it’s not because dating God’s way doesn’t work. It’s because most people are still dating the world’s way with Christian language on top.In this episode, you're getting the breaking down biblical dating principles that actually work in real life — so you can stop spiraling in the talking stage, stop tolerating mixed signals, and stop losing your peace to relationships that aren’t aligned.If you’ve been:- praying more but feeling less peace- stuck in confusion with someone who “claims Jesus”- battling relationship anxiety- wondering how far is too far physically (kissing, temptation, boundaries)- tired of situationship energy in Christian dating…this episode will help you date with clarity, confidence, and conviction.By the end, you’ll know what to stop doing, what to start doing, and how to date in 2026 without losing your peace or wasting years on the wrong person.📘 Want the practical tools we wish we had while dating? Grab our Unlock Your Dream Relationship Workbook (questions, frameworks, red-flag checklist, and clarity tools). Link in the description.CHAPTERS:00:00 Why Christian dating feels heavy (and it’s not God’s way)01:00 Welcome + what you’ll learn by the end (peace, clarity, direction)02:11 God’s principles don’t change but your approach has to03:05 Rule #1: Date like God is part of the process (not a backup plan)04:49 Proverbs 19:3 + why people get mad at God after foolish choices05:56 Do a 2025 dating “audit” + how to start over intentionally07:08 If you didn’t pray first, here’s how to involve God now08:40 Rule #2: Stop entertaining people who make you uneasy (peace is a signal)10:46 Rule #3: Talk daily, but don’t hand over your emotional world13:17 Resource: Unlock Your Dream Relationship Workbook ($5)14:21 Rule #4: Pace intimacy slower than your emotions (protect discernment)15:18 Rule #5: Clarity OVER vibes (ask real questions early)17:12 What commitment + loyalty questions you must ask21:18 Rule #6: Don’t date like you’re auditioning for marriage (money/time balance)24:05 Rule #7: Build friendship first (character shows up here)25:41 Rule #8: Let mentors + community + Scripture speak louder than feelings26:22 Rule #9: Keep temptation far so discernment stays close (physical boundaries)28:23 Our story: why we stopped kissing (and what changed for us)31:23 Rule #10: Don’t confuse potential with patterns (how to evaluate wisely)34:24 Final encouragement + next video to watch

    35 min

  6. 6 JAN

    The Critical Dating Boundaries Christians Need in 2026 (That Aren’t About Sex)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5h Most Christians think “good boundaries” in dating just means not having sex… but you can avoid sex and still end up emotionally exhausted, spiritually confused, and attached to someone who was never serious. In this episode, we’re talking about the critical Christian dating boundaries for 2026 that aren’t about sex— the ones that protect your heart, clarify intentions, and help you build a relationship with a healthy pace (not pressure). If you’ve ever: - moved too fast emotionally - overshared too soon - felt confused by inconsistent communication - got caught in “married energy” without commitment - or realized you didn’t have boundaries around time, money, access, and spiritual rhythms this is your START HERE episode. We break down a safe “range” for dating (not rigid rules): enough consistency to grow, not so much intensity that you lose perspective. What you’ll learn: - how often to actually see each other (without smothering the relationship) - communication expectations that bring clarity (not anxiety) - emotional boundaries so you don’t go too deep too fast - money + gift boundaries (effort vs. pressure / love-bombing) - when to involve community + family without moving too fast or hiding - why “spiritual intensity” can become a crutch in Christian dating - Want a simple next step? Grab our Unlock Your Dream Relationship Workbook (only $5): Link is in the description + pinned comment. Subscribe for more Christian dating advice, relationship boundaries, and biblical relationship wisdom every week. CHAPTERS 00:00 You can avoid sex and still get hurt 01:12 Boundaries = rhythm (not rules) + the “range of safety” 06:00 Boundary 1: Time together (steady, not smothered) 11:52 Boundary 2: Communication (clarity, not anxiety) 16:11 Boundary 3: Emotional intimacy (guarded vs guarding your heart) 20:50 Boundary 4: Money & gifts (effort vs pressure) 25:47 Boundary 5: Access to your life (slowly, not suddenly) 31:36 Boundary 6: Personal space (don’t lose yourself) 33:55 Boundary 7: Spiritual rhythm (no spiritual crutches) 37:56 Healthy boundaries help love last

    39 min

  7. 30/12/2025

    If We Were Single Christians, These Are The Top Lessons We Would've Learned from Dating in 2025

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5hIf dating feels confusing, emotionally exhausting, or spiritually unclear, this episode will help you reset with biblical clarity.Culture taught us to chase chemistry, butterflies, and “the spark.” But chemistry alone doesn’t build a marriage— clarity does. In this episode, we break down chemistry vs. clarity, what it actually means to honor God while dating, and the 6-stage Christian dating framework every healthy relationship needs before marriage.You’ll learn:- The difference between attraction, chemistry, and kingdom-minded alignment- Why heart posture matters more than relationship status- What godly dating boundaries actually look like (and why community matters)- How to avoid oversharing in the talking stage and getting attached too soon- The money conversations you need before engagementThe 6 stages of dating: Spark → Talking Stage → Exclusive Dating → Discernment → Engagement → Final StretchIf you’re tired of repeating confusing dating patterns, this episode is for you.CHAPTERS0:00 Healthy heart posture (single or dating)0:36 Welcome + why dating feels confusing0:48 Romcoms, Disney, and what we didn’t learn about relationships1:39 Why feelings aren’t enough for a healthy relationship3:20 Practical dating advice that leads to a healthy, holy marriage3:34 Chemistry vs. clarity (and why chemistry isn’t a foundation)5:49 “Suitable” vs. “spark” (Genesis 2:18)11:04 Order vs. chaos: is this relationship helping or derailing you?16:10 Resource: Unlock Your Dream Relationship Workbook17:05 “Dating isn’t in the Bible” — so what actually matters18:21 What you want vs. what’s necessary (boundaries + obedience)23:21 Why boundaries require community29:08 Money conversations in dating + marriage34:11 3 questions to reset your love life for the new year39:06 Stop copying dating culture (Romans 12:2)43:15 Humility as a marker of real Christian dating50:44 The 6-stage Christian dating framework51:31 Stage 1: Spark54:09 Stage 2: Talking Stage (don’t overshare)57:13 Stage 3: Exclusive Dating (accountability matters)1:02:06 Stage 4: Discernment (can I marry this person?)1:06:39 Stage 5: Engagement (premarital prep)1:09:56 Final Stretch: pressure, comparison, spiritual warfare1:14:22 Dating as discipleship1:15:31 Final charge + keeping God first1:16:34 Outro

    1h 17m

  8. 23/12/2025

    The TOXIC Dating Mindsets You Need To Leave In 2025 (As A Christian)

    If you want a practical next step to bring clarity to your dating life and relationships, start here: https://py.pl/3PRNtGKdI5h If you’re a Christian who loves God but feels confused, tired, or stuck in your dating life, this episode is for you. In this best-of compilation, you’re going to gain clarity on the beliefs, habits, and spiritual shortcuts that quietly keep Christian singles frustrated—and learn how to step into 2026 with confidence, peace, and direction. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: - Stop over-spiritualizing dating decisions that require action - Discern when God is leading you to wait—and when He’s inviting you to move - Process the loneliness of singleness without shame or spiritual guilt - Break the cycle of dating emotionally unavailable or time-wasting people - Protect your heart without closing yourself off - Understand God’s role in choosing a spouse without fear or pressure - Build character and clarity now so marriage doesn’t crush you later - Prepare for marriage intimacy with healthy, biblical expectations If you’ve ever wondered: - “Did I miss my chance?” - “Why does waiting feel harder for me than everyone else?” - “Am I being too spiritual—or not spiritual enough?” - “Is waiting until marriage actually worth it?” You’re not behind—and you’re not broken. This episode will help you reset your dating mindset, release pressure, and move forward with wisdom instead of anxiety. CHAPTERS: 0:00 – The Dating Mindsets That Keep You Stuck 0:07 – How to Involve God Without Avoiding Action 3:07 – Why Waiting for Marriage Feels Emotionally Harder Than Anything Else 5:17 – What to Do When You’re Faithful but Still Single 7:30 – How to Validate Your Desire for Marriage Without Shame 9:50 – Understanding the “Prisoner of Hope” Feeling 10:21 – How to Stay Hopeful When Waiting Hurts 12:30 – Why Faithfulness Can Feel Overlooked 14:14 – How to Stop Fearing That You Missed Your Chance 17:36 – How to Date from Discernment, Not Desperation 20:00 – Why Lowering Standards Creates More Confusion 22:22 – How God Uses Waiting to Build Character for Marriage 24:33 – How to Steward Singleness Without Wasting It 27:20 – Learning to Trust God Without Full Understanding 30:14 – Why God Doesn’t Always Explain the Timing 32:06 – Releasing the Lie That You’re Forgotten 33:40 – Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People 36:45 – How Location, Presentation, and Expectations Shape Who You Attract 41:00 – Why Not Understanding God’s Direction Can Be a Gift 41:49 – How to Release Fear Around Waiting Until Marriage 42:42 – What to Expect from Sex in a Godly Marriage 45:02 – How Sexual Mindsets Impact Emotional Safety 49:00 – How to Remove Pressure from the Wedding Night 53:00 – Building Trust and Intimacy Step-by-Step 59:12 – What to Do When Sex Isn’t Instantly “Great” 1:02:36 – Healing Mental and Emotional Blocks 1:09:42 – How Patience Builds Long-Term Intimacy 1:12:35 – Giving Yourself Permission to Enjoy Sex God’s Way 1:16:19 – Why Unity Matters More Than Performance 1:17:00 – How to Think Clearly About God’s Role in Choosing a Spouse 1:22:12 – How to Read the Bible Without Dating Fear 1:28:54 – Why Community Matters More Than Certainty 1:36:13 – How Free Will and God’s Will Work Together 1:40:11 – How to Stop Overspiritualizing Dating Decisions 1:41:32 – How to Enter 2026 with Clarity and Peace

    1h 42m
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Our goal is to provide you with perspective to help you build a healthy & godly relationship. New episode of "The W Podcast" drops every Tuesday! We are Tim & Pauline Wheeler. Before we met we were both in ungodly relationships that left us empty and hurt. This led us on individual journeys to learn God's way of dating. When we met we decided to have a relationship that honored God but was still fun and exciting! We eventually started helping other couples through small groups to learn to date God's way. We have been married since 2018 and have a beautiful son.

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  • Creator
    Tim & Pauline Wheeler
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    230
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tim & Pauline Wheeler

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