Unblock Your BS

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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

  1. Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It's Really Protecting)

    2 DAYS AGO

    Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It's Really Protecting)

    If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, "Why does this keep happening?" This episode is for you. In today's conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn't confidence or self-advocacy… it's a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring. We're unpacking: Why your body reacts before your logic ever shows up How defensiveness protects an identity wound,  not your relationship The difference between guilt ("I did something wrong") and shame ("I am wrong") Why high-achieving men feel regulated at work but unravel at home How childhood beliefs quietly drive adult relationship conflict What actually changes when you heal self-worth instead of chasing validation This isn't about blaming your partner.It's about understanding what's happening inside you, and learning how to interrupt the cycle so you can show up steady, grounded, and emotionally safe. If you're ready to stop surviving your relationship and start rebuilding from the inside out, I'm inviting you to my free training: 👉 From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild A one-hour class on nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and rebuilding connection without shame or self-abandonment. Register here: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/rebuild⁠ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/saa⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    19 min
  2. What does emotional safety really mean?

    5 FEB

    What does emotional safety really mean?

    When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual "unprecedented times" stuff), you learn real fast what "emotional safety" actually means. And here's the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. "I've never hit her." "I don't scream." "I would never hurt her." Cool… but that's not the conversation your partner is trying to have. In this episode, I'm breaking down what an emotionally safe partner is NOT—because most relationships aren't falling apart from one big dramatic event. They're dying from the daily patterns: defensiveness, fixing, shutting down, walking on eggshells, and two nervous systems treating each other like threats. Spoiler alert: You can't create emotional safety with someone if you don't know how to be emotionally safe within yourself. In this episode, we get into: Why "I never get upset" isn't emotional safety - it's usually repression The difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe (and why this wrecks communication) Why walking on eggshells is a relationship death sentence The Fixer/Rescuer trap: how "solving it" is often you avoiding your own discomfort Why the real root problems aren't the dishwasher, the tone, or the text message How trauma (big T and little t) gets stuck in the body and drives your reactions Why therapy-speak doesn't equal healing (and why your partner can feel the difference) The skill that changes everything: curiosity > defensiveness Next week, registration opens for my biggest free training yet: "From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild"  We're going deep on nervous system regulation, relationship patterns, and what it actually takes to become an emotionally safe partner. If you're not on my email list, you might miss the registration link so download this free 5 minute Breathwork gift and it'll get you on my email list and give you a daily reset tool to practice: www.unblockyourbs.com/5minutebreathwork Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    35 min
  3. "I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy" When a Man Goes Numb

    21 JAN

    "I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy" When a Man Goes Numb

    Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he's realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decades hiding emotions to keep the peace… until his body couldn't do it anymore. In this coaching episode, we talk about emotional shutdown, suppressed rage, and why Wayne mostly feels anger and barely joy with almost nothing in between. We break down what "freeze + fight" looks like in real life, why emotions feel scary when you've been trained to suppress them, and the practical tools that help you find the gap between trigger and reaction (so you don't explode… or disappear). In this episode, we cover: Why emotional numbness isn't "cold"...it's survival The difference between fight vs freeze (and how men get stuck in both) A simple body-scan + breathing tool that takes 10 seconds How to widen the "gap" in the heat of conflict Why your self-image can't be built on achievements The "boiling pot with the lid on" metaphor (and why breathwork works to turn off the heat) How to stop outsourcing validation and start meeting your own needs Want support? If you're a man navigating separation/divorce, emotional shutdown, rage, or relationship patterns you're ready to change, you can learn more about Healthy Men-tality and even apply for the program here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen And if you ever want to be coached on the podcast, you can apply at unblockyourbs.com/podcast Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1h 1m
  4. Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant's Wake-Up Call

    14 JAN

    Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant's Wake-Up Call

    He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. In today's coaching episode, I'm talking with Onus bout what happens when: your nervous system lives on high alert, being misunderstood feels like a threat, anger shows up before vulnerability, and your relationships become a constant attempt to "earn" love… instead of receive it. We get into disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment, ADHD rage, the difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe, and why co-parenting trust can't be rebuilt on vague mind-reading rules. If you've ever thought: "Why do I get so defensive?" "Why don't I trust good things?" "Why does being alone feel unbearable?" …this one is for you. In this episode, we cover: Why "ethical non-monogamy" often becomes outsourced connection when there aren't real boundaries The real fear under defensiveness: "If I'm alone, I don't matter" Why yelling can feel normal to one person and unsafe to another (and what to do with that) A simple co-regulation tool to use mid-conflict The question that changes co-parenting dynamics: "What's the roadmap back to trust?" Why shame keeps you stuck and what accountability actually looks like Your next step (if you want support): If you're a man trying to rebuild your emotional stability, relationships, and self-respect after divorce or heartbreak, my program Healthy Men-tality was built for this. Learn more + apply: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen And if you're not ready for that yet, start with one small thing today like downloading my free 5minute daily breathwork practice to take the edge off the intensity of your stress, anxiety, anger or fear… www.unblockyourbs.com/5minbreathwork Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1h 11m
  5. If She's "Always Mad," You're Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)

    17/12/2025

    If She's "Always Mad," You're Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)

    When your partner is "mad," most people react like anger is the problem. It's not. Anger is usually protection and what's underneath it is what actually needs care, leadership, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, I'm going to break down what happens when men outsource emotional labor to women, why women's hormones can amplify stress without either partner realizing what's happening, and how relationships slowly lose intentionality until everything becomes reactive. I'm also going to share the five common mistakes that keep couples stuck in the same cycle ESPECIALLY after kids, stress, and burnout enter the picture. In this episode, I cover: Why anger is a protective emotion (and what's usually underneath it) How men's default "anger strategies" (shutdown, defensiveness, blow-ups) block connection What it looks like to outsource emotional labor to your partner (reassurance, hypervigilance, avoiding hard conversations) A practical view of women's hormones and why "she woke up anxious/mad" isn't always about you Why couples get trapped in "who does more" wars instead of co-creating a shared vision Accountability vs. apologizing: why "I'm sorry" without identity-level change is lip service The praise problem: why wanting validation for small tasks often means you don't validate yourself Why boundaries feel "controlling" to people who avoid conflict and what happens to your body when you repress emotions How emotional safety is built (and why intimacy often disappears when safety disappears) If you're realizing you've been reactive, avoidant, or stuck in the same cycle and you want actual tools for emotional regulation, conflict, boundaries, and relational leadership check out the Healthy Men-tality program - a 12-week training + coaching container that teaches men nervous system regulation, childhood wiring, codependency healing, leadership in relationships, and practical emotional tools that change how you show up. Learn more and apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    34 min
  6. From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the "I'm Not Enough" BS Belief

    10/12/2025

    From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the "I'm Not Enough" BS Belief

    You can know all the nervous system language, do the breathwork, read the books, got therapy… and still find yourself lying awake at 3 a.m. replaying every conversation with your partner (past or present), wondering why you STILL feel like a failure. In today's episode, I coach Autumn - a recently divorced listener to the pod - through the question that's been running her entire life since childhood… "Am I enough?" What You'll Hear in This Episode: How fear of failure and "am I enough?" get tangled together and bleed into every area of your life. What functional freeze actually looks like in real life (spoiler: you can still go to work, pay bills, and be completely shut down). Why your brain loops at night and how to work with your body instead of fighting it when you can't sleep. The moment Autumn realizes she's still competing with her younger brother's "golden child" status and how that old comparison is driving her money, success, and relationship stress. The difference between being a human doing and a human being, and why rest feels so unsafe when your worth has always been tied to performance. How childhood people-pleasing patterns shows up as over-functioning in adult relationships. A simple way to notice whether you're acting from self-abandonment or self-respect in how you're showing up in relationships. If you've ever sat in bed thinking, "I've done so much healing work - why am I still triggered by this?", this episode will help you see that you're not broken. Your nervous system is just running the only pattern it's ever known - staying safe by believing you're never enough. Once you can see that familiar pattern, you can start choosing something different to shift out of toxic patterns and cycles!   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1h 10m
  7. How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce

    26/11/2025

    How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce

    When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn't feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that's changed. Waking up in a quiet house… splitting time with your kids for the first time… trying to act "fine" while everyone around you is celebrating,  it can make even the strongest men feel cracked open. In this episode, I share what no one prepares you for during the first (or third) holiday season when your family dynamic looks different than you ever imagined and how to survive it without collapsing into shame, isolation, or panic. More importantly, we talk about how to stop resisting what is so you can start creating a holiday experience that doesn't make you dread December every year. Episode highlights include: Why loneliness hits harder when you're already grieving the life you thought you'd have The difference between pain and suffering (and why one is optional) How to make this season suck less without forcing joy or pretending you're okay Creative ways to redefine holidays when you're without your kids What to do when family expectations make everything worse How to stop seeing being alone as evidence that you're unlovable The mindset shift that turns holidays from something you endure into something you can shape If this season feels heavy, this episode will help you take back choice, control, and dignity even when nothing looks the way you wanted it to. 🎁 Holiday Gift for Our Listeners - The Gift of a Regulated Nervous System AND AS MY GIFT TO OUR PODCAST LISTENERS  IN NAVIGATING THIS HOLIDAY SEASON TO SUCK LESS - come learn to regulate your nervous system with Somatic Breathwork inside of my Breathwork Community called The Self Aware Army for only $1 for your first month in the program (then $39/month thereafter - cancel anytime).  To Learn More about the Self Aware Army and to Get started today for Only $1 www.unblockyourbs.com/blackfriday  You'll get: Live monthly somatic breathwork sessions On-demand 24/7 breathwork library Coaching support A community that gets it and is healing together If there was ever a time to have tools instead of just trying to "get through it," it's right now.   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    23 min
  8. From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian's Shift from Fixing to Leading

    19/11/2025

    From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian's Shift from Fixing to Leading

    When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but what he discovered was that the real repair had to start within himself. In this raw, powerful conversation, Brian shares how learning nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and inner healing shifted him from people-pleasing and fear of abandonment to grounded self-leadership. You'll hear: What happens when men stop fixing and start feeling The cycle of rejection and resentment that kills connection How breathwork became a bridge back to emotional safety Why learning to be present changed his family's dynamic What rebuilding trust really looks like… with yourself and your partner If your marriage feels impossible, this episode is living proof that healing is possible but it starts with you. 👉 Learn more about the Healthy Men-tality program and apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    1h 21m
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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

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  • Creator
    Coach Tara
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    56
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
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    Unblock Your BS

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