Sit With Aqsa

Aqsa Ghouri

Sit With Aqsa is a podcast about the people you walk past every day without knowing their story. I call them silent giants - ordinary people quietly building, growing and navigating life in their own way. Each episode is a conversation that reminds you how extraordinary the people around you actually are.

Episodes

  1. The Healer on Her Way to Healing | Vanessa Spelman |  Ep. 7

    30 APR

    The Healer on Her Way to Healing | Vanessa Spelman | Ep. 7

    The healer on her way to healing - a title I gave to Vanessa before we even got connected. She is a clinical psychologist, a holistic coach, a consultant, an artist and a single mother. 16 years of holding space for other people. A private practice she built from the ground up. Years inside NYC foster care, Brooklyn schools, NYU Langone. Free mindfulness groups for mothers. Resources for parents learning how to talk to their children about divorce. Room after room, role after role, each one asking her to carry something heavy for someone else. And she does. Every single time. But to understand why that title fits her the way it does, you have to understand what she walked through to get here. Vanessa gave birth to her daughter and came out the other side with sepsis. And if that alone was not enough, everything that follows a birth that hard was waiting for her too. Postpartum. Her body changing in ways she had to learn to accept. Her identity shifting in ways nobody really prepares you for. The bad days outnumbering the good ones. Not once. Consistently. For three years. And after three years she made a decision that I think took more courage than most people will ever understand. She chose to leave. Not because she gave up. But because she finally saw clearly enough to know what staying was costing her. The early days after that were hard in their own way. Her daughter not there on certain holidays. Learning what co-parenting actually looks like when you are both still figuring it out. And now she shares this so proudly - we are better friends than we were ever spouses. That line I felt was the bravest thing Vanessa said. She was also honest about something very important that I think, a lot of women feel but rarely say out loud. The fact that she misses companionship.  Not in a way that means she cannot handle things. Anyone who has spent five minutes with Vanessa knows she can handle anything. But she said something about walking into a car dealership alone and I understood exactly what she meant. There is a difference between being capable of doing everything yourself and not wanting to have to. And she said that without apology. But the moment I keep coming back to is something so beautiful her daughter said to her. They were driving somewhere and passed a woman sitting outside her home just reading. The perfect house, the trees, the greenery, the sky holding the whole scene together. And her daughter looked at it and said, I want that for you... A child raised between two households, navigating what divorce means at an age where she should not have to carry that. And she still had that much room in her heart to want peace for her mother. You do not raise a child like that by accident. I have always said with hardship comes ease. And I think Vanessa is living proof of that. Not because everything is easy now. But because everything she walked through shaped her into someone who could hold space for every woman sitting across from her going through the same thing. The divorce. The identity loss. The body that does not feel like yours anymore. The rebuilding. She chose healing. And somewhere in healing others, I could see it was quietly healing a little bit of her too. That is what this podcast is for. Not to show you someone who has arrived. But to sit with someone long enough that you can see the road they are walking and recognize your own. Vanessa is the healer on her way to healing. And honestly, aren’t we all.

    1hr 10min

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Sit With Aqsa is a podcast about the people you walk past every day without knowing their story. I call them silent giants - ordinary people quietly building, growing and navigating life in their own way. Each episode is a conversation that reminds you how extraordinary the people around you actually are.