Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof
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A weekly podcast on parenting teens and launching them into the world. Hosted by Cynthia Yanof with Dr. Ken Wilgus, author of the book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You."

  1. 2d ago

    Episode 275: The PR Campaign of Planned Emancipation

    Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about one of the most important parts of planned emancipation: the PR campaign. It's not just about giving our teenagers more freedom and responsibility, but making sure they know we see them as young adults, not children. From video game limits and sibling relationships to including teenagers in family decisions, Dr. Ken explains how small changes in the way we communicate can make a big difference in how our teenagers respond to us. We also tackle what happens when your teenager isn't acting remotely like an adult—or, even worse, seems perfectly happy letting you do everything for them. 😂 Plus, Dr. Ken shares what he's learned after years of helping families navigate planned emancipation and why parents need to let go of the pressure to guarantee how their kids turn out. It's a great reminder that our goal isn't just to get our teenagers ready to leave home, but to build a healthy relationship with them that lasts long after they do. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  2. Oct 27

    Episode 274: Does Your Teen Really Have a Chemical Imbalance?

    Is your teenager just moody, or is there something more going on? And when did we start calling every difficult emotion a "chemical imbalance"? Today, Dr. Ken and Cynthia are talking about teenage moodiness, anxiety, depression, and whether we've become too quick to medicalize the normal struggles of adolescence. Dr. Ken explains why the popular idea of a chemical imbalance isn't as scientifically established as we've been led to believe—and why medication can still be helpful in certain situations. We also get practical about how parents can tell the difference between normal teenage moodiness and something that needs professional attention. Plus, why it matters whether your teenager is struggling at school, with friends, and in other areas of life—or if they just seem to be miserable whenever they're around you. 😂 It's a helpful conversation about knowing when to seek help, when to give your teenager some space, and why not every bad mood needs a diagnosis. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  3. Oct 20

    Episode 273: Too Many Parenting Podcasts?

    There is a LOT of parenting advice out there right now—and not all of it is bad. The problem is what happens when we start piecing together a little calm parenting, a little connection parenting, a little neurodivergence content, and whatever else showed up in our feed that week. Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about why parents need to understand the bigger philosophy behind the advice they’re taking in, especially when raising teens and young adults. They also explain why the Feeding the Mouth approach works best when you stay consistent with it: your teenager is moving toward adulthood and autonomy, and your job is to steadily work your way out of managing their life. You can learn from lots of good sources along the way—but if every new idea causes you to rethink the whole plan, you may end up working against the very independence you’re trying to build. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  4. Oct 13

    Episode 272: Talking to Our Kids About the Cornell Case

    The recent case out of Cornell has brought up some really hard conversations for parents of teens and college students. Dr. Ken and Cynthia talk about whether parents should bring cases like this up with their kids, how much detail is appropriate, and how to talk about alcohol, consent, and safety without turning it into a giant lecture. They also get into the importance of teaching our kids to step in when something isn’t right—even if it means calling an adult, upsetting a friend, or being the unpopular one in the room. It’s a heavy topic, but also one that opens the door to some necessary conversations. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  5. Oct 6

    Episode 271: Dysregulated Adults: When Your Teen Pushes Every Button You Have

    Dr. Ken’s least favorite parenting word may officially be “dysregulated”—which is unfortunate, because that’s exactly what we’re talking about this week. What happens when our teen gets worked up and we match their intensity? Or when one particular kid knows exactly how to push every button we have? Cynthia and Dr. Ken talk about anger, overreacting, emotional parenting, and how our own upbringing can shape the way we respond to our kids. If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction with your teen thinking, “Well... I could have handled that better,” this episode is for you. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  6. Sep 29

    Episode 270: Parenting Pitfalls: 4 Communication Habits that Backfire with Teens

    Are you walking on eggshells around your teen? Lecturing when you meant to have a conversation? Reminding them of everything because you’re afraid they’ll drop the ball—or getting pulled too far into problems they need to learn to handle themselves? You’re not alone. Parenting teenagers has a funny way of bringing out communication habits we swore we’d never have. This week, Dr. Ken and Cynthia unpack four common communication pitfalls: the Path of Least Resistance Parent, the Parent Struggling to Stay in Their Lane, the TED Talk Parent, and the Reminder Machine. If communication with your teen feels tense, exhausting, or just plain ineffective, this episode will help you recognize what may be getting in the way—and hopefully laugh a little at yourself along the way. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  7. Sep 22

    Episode 269: Parenting Pitfalls: Are Your Expectations Too High? (Part 2)

    How much freedom should parents actually give their teenagers? Doing their own laundry. Choosing what they wear. Picking their friends. Dating someone you’re not crazy about. Spending their own money. And yes… even tattoos and piercings. This week, Dr. Ken Wilgus and Cynthia Yanof are back for Part 2 of their conversation about reasonable expectations—and what it really looks like to “hand the bar over” as kids get older. They cover laundry and appearance, tattoos and piercings, friendships and dating, money, and honesty—along with the bigger question underneath all of it: When should parents step in, and when is it time to let go? Cynthia also has to rethink her longtime “no tattoos on our payroll” policy, and Dr. Ken talks about why teens sometimes need room to make their own decisions and experience the outcome. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re letting go too much—or still trying to control too much—this episode is for you. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  8. Sep 15

    Episode 268: Parenting Pitfalls: Are Your Expectations Too High? (Part 1)

    How much should parents actually expect from their teenagers? Good grades. A clean room. Trying hard in sports. Going to church. Being grateful. Making good choices. And preferably doing all of it with a great attitude. 😂 This week, Dr. Ken Wilgus and Cynthia Yanof are talking about unrealistic expectations—and whether giving teens more independence means parents are somehow lowering the bar. Spoiler alert: Dr. Ken says parents aren’t necessarily lowering the bar. They’re handing the bar over to their teen. They cover grades, sports and activities, church and faith, and even gratitude—along with why constantly managing kids toward success can sometimes backfire when those kids eventually leave home and have to manage life for themselves. And yes, somewhere in there Cynthia tells the story of discovering ants in her child’s bed thanks to an entire summer’s worth of secret snacks. So clearly, they are not advocating for zero expectations.  And stay tuned—there are plenty more expectations to tackle, next week on Part 2 they will cover things like money, laundry, friends and dating, honesty, clothes, tattoos, piercings, and more. If you have a minute, please leave us a review. We love hearing listeners encouraging other listeners.  You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here You can order Cynthia's book "Life Is Messy, God Is Good" here You can pre-order Cynthia's book "How'd I Miss That" here   Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! podcast@feedingthemouth.com  Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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A weekly podcast on parenting teens and launching them into the world. Hosted by Cynthia Yanof with Dr. Ken Wilgus, author of the book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You."

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  • Creator
    Kenneth Wilgus, Cynthia Yanof
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    275
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    Feeding the Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teenagers into Adulthood Copyright © 2024 by Kenneth Wilgus. All rights reserved. Cover and interior illustration of mouth by Ron Kaufmann. Copyright © 2024 by Tyndale House Ministries. All rights reserved.
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