The Strong Life Project Podcast

Shaun O'Gorman: Human Behaviour & High Performance Coach
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  1. 2D AGO

    EP 3631 Do you show up as who you need to be

    Most people don’t fail because they lack information. They fail because they keep showing up as the version of themselves that feels comfortable, not the version their life requires. In EP 3631, Do you show up as who you need to be, I break down the gap between intention and identity. You can want better results all day, but if your daily standards, habits, and responses are still built around old protection patterns, you will keep living the same week on repeat. This episode is a straight look at personal responsibility without the cringe. Not self blame. Responsibility. The kind that gives you your power back. We talk about the three places your identity shows up most clearly. How you handle pressure. How you treat the people closest to you. And how you behave when no one is watching. Because that’s the real scoreboard. Anyone can look switched on when they feel good. The question is who you become when you are tired, stressed, rejected, or challenged. You will hear practical ways to tighten the gap between who you say you want to be and how you actually live. How to stop negotiating with yourself. How to rebuild self trust through small actions done consistently. How to make better decisions in real time, especially when your nervous system is running hot and your old reactions want to take over. If you are serious about better leadership, better relationships, and better mental resilience, this episode is for you. The goal is not perfection. The goal is becoming the person who can carry the life you say you want. The post EP 3631 Do you show up as who you need to be appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  2. 3D AGO

    EP 3630 Your standards decide your life

    In EP 3630 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a truth most people avoid because it removes their excuses: your standards decide your life. Not your intentions. Not your potential. Not what you “know” you should do. Your standards. The behaviours you tolerate, repeat, and call normal. This episode is a straight, practical look at how standards quietly shape everything: your health, your confidence, your relationships, your career, your bank account, and the way you feel when you wake up each day. Shaun explains why motivation is unreliable, willpower is overrated, and standards are the real system that keeps you on track when life gets hard or messy. You’ll hear why people get stuck in cycles of overthinking, self-sabotage, and “starting again Monday” and how to interrupt that pattern by raising one standard at a time. Not through perfection, not through hype, and not through waiting to feel ready, but by getting clear on what you do and do not accept in your own life. Shaun also challenges the hidden standard that causes most damage: the standard you set for how you speak to yourself. If your internal story is harsh, hopeless, or constantly critical, you will keep living down to it, no matter how ambitious you are. This episode gives you a simple way to audit your current standards and choose a stronger baseline. You’ll walk away with clear questions to ask yourself, small commitments that actually stick, and a grounded reminder that self-respect is built through repeated action, not big promises. If you want better outcomes, stop negotiating with the life you say you want. Lift your standards. Then live like you mean it. The post EP 3630 Your standards decide your life appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  3. 4D AGO

    EP 3629 Does small talk kill you?

    In EP 3629 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman tackles a deceptively simple question with big consequences: does small talk kill you, or are you using it to avoid the conversations that actually matter? Most people stay busy and stay “fine” while their real life slowly erodes in the background. They talk about the weather, work, weekend plans, sport, and gossip, but they never say what they mean. They never ask for what they need. They never tell the truth about what hurts, what they want, or what they are tolerating. Over time, that costs you intimacy, respect, trust, and momentum. This episode is not about becoming rude or intense. It is about being deliberate. Shaun breaks down how small talk becomes a pattern of emotional avoidance, social safety, and people pleasing, especially in high-pressure environments where you are trained to stay controlled. You will learn how to recognise when you are hiding in surface level conversation, how it shows up in relationships and leadership, and why your standards for communication directly shape the quality of your life. You will also get practical tools you can use immediately. Simple upgrades to the questions you ask, how to steer conversations toward depth without making it awkward, and how to speak with honesty while still being calm and respectful. Whether you are building stronger relationships, leading a team, or trying to stop living on autopilot, this episode is a reminder that your life changes when your communication changes. If you are sick of feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or stuck, start here. Stop performing. Start connecting. The cost of staying shallow is higher than you think. The post EP 3629 Does small talk kill you? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  4. 5D AGO

    EP 3628 We see things as we are, not as they are

    EP 3628 asks a simple question with uncomfortable consequences: are you reacting to what is happening, or to the meaning you’ve assigned to it? “We see things as we are, not as they are” is a reminder that your nervous system, your history, your expectations, and your current stress level all colour the story you tell yourself. Two people can live the same moment and walk away with completely different “truths” because perception is never neutral.  In this episode, I break down how that distortion shows up in real life: reading disrespect into a neutral comment, assuming rejection when someone is quiet, treating uncertainty as danger, and making decisions from fear while calling it logic. When you do that long enough, you end up living in a world that feels hostile, unfair, and exhausting, even when it isn’t.  Here’s the practical move: before you react, separate facts from interpretation. Write the facts in one sentence. Only what a camera would catch. Write your interpretation in one sentence. The story you’re running. Ask: “What evidence would change my mind?” If the answer is “nothing,” you’re not being honest, you’re being emotional. Choose the response that matches the facts, not the story. This isn’t about being positive. It’s about being accurate. Accuracy makes you calmer, more decisive, and harder to manipulate. It also stops you pouring energy into people who only take, because you’ll finally see the pattern clearly instead of explaining it away. The post EP 3628 We see things as we are, not as they are appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  5. 6D AGO

    EP 3627 Fixed mindset is ego. Growth mindset is presence

    EP 3627 cuts through the buzzwords and gets honest about what “mindset” really is. A fixed mindset is not lack of intelligence. It is ego protection. It is the part of you that needs to be right, needs to look competent, and needs to avoid discomfort. It defends a story about who you are, even when that story is costing you results, intimacy, and peace. A growth mindset is not positive thinking. It is presence. It is the ability to stay with what is happening right now without defending yourself. Presence lets you hear feedback without taking it as an attack. It lets you own your part without collapsing into shame. It lets you train, learn, and adapt instead of arguing with reality. In this episode, I break down how fixed mindset shows up in real life: getting reactive in a relationship, making excuses at work, avoiding hard conversations, and quitting when you feel exposed. You will learn how ego disguises itself as “standards” and “boundaries” while actually being fear of being seen as wrong. If you want a practical shift today, use this three step reset: Notice the moment you feel threatened, defensive, or eager to prove a point. Name it: “That is ego trying to stay safe.” Return to presence with one question: “What is the next truthful action?” Truthful action might be apologising, asking a better question, doing the rep, making the call, or setting a boundary you will actually enforce. Fixed mindset keeps you performing. Growth mindset keeps you improving. Presence is the bridge. Listen in if you are done protecting an identity and ready to build a life that matches your standards. This is for leaders, parents, partners, and anyone who wants to stop blaming circumstances and start taking responsibility, calmly, today. The post EP 3627 Fixed mindset is ego. Growth mindset is presence appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  6. FEB 17

    EP 3626 Fill the cup of those that fill yours

    In EP 3626, Fill the cup of those that fill yours, Shaun O’Gorman challenges a mistake high performers keep making: pouring everything into work, family, and everyone else, then wondering why they feel flat, reactive, and disconnected. This is not a “be nicer” episode. It is a practical audit of where your energy goes, what it costs you, and how to build a life where you can lead with strength without burning out.  You will hear a clear distinction between generosity and self-abandonment. Being reliable is not the same as being available. Supporting people does not mean carrying them. Shaun breaks down how over-giving quietly erodes your standards, your patience, your health, and your relationships, because resentment always shows up when your needs never make the list.  The core idea is simple: protect the relationships, habits, and environments that refill you, because they are the infrastructure of your performance. That means making time for the people who show up for you, investing in routines that stabilise your nervous system, and having honest conversations when expectations are unspoken and pressure is building. You will also get a straight framework for deciding what stays in your life: Does it align with who you are becoming? Does it support your values? Does it leave you better or worse after you engage? If the answer is consistently “worse,” you do not need more tolerance. You need a boundary and a plan. To make it real, Shaun gives you a simple reset. Write down the five people, places, or practices that consistently leave you calmer and clearer. Schedule two of them this week like a non-negotiable appointment. Then choose one energy leak and close it with a direct conversation or a firm no. Consistency beats intensity, and your life improves when your inputs match your standards. The post EP 3626 Fill the cup of those that fill yours appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  7. FEB 16

    EP 3625 Don’t quit when it’s tough

    EP 3625 is about the moment most people sabotage their future: when it gets hard and they start negotiating with themselves. Here’s the truth. If you only decide to quit when it’s tough, you’ll quit a lot. Because when you’re tired, stressed, rejected, or running on fumes, your brain will sell you a story that sounds “reasonable” and feels like relief. That’s not wisdom. That’s emotion trying to take the wheel. So this episode flips the script. If you’re going to quit something, quit when it’s easy. When it’s easy you can think clearly. You can assess facts, not feelings. You can ask the real questions: Is this aligned with my values? Is the cost worth the outcome? Is this a season or a dead end? Am I quitting because the strategy is wrong, or because my discomfort tolerance is weak? Quitting when it’s easy makes you less likely to actually quit, because you’re not making the decision from pain. You’re making it from identity. From standards. From leadership. We talk about how to set “quit criteria” in advance, so you stop breaking promises to yourself. You’ll learn how to separate a hard day from a hard life, and how to keep going without turning your goals into a prison. If you’re building a business, trying to get fit, fixing a relationship, or rebuilding yourself after a brutal chapter, this is the reminder you need: tough is not the signal to stop. Tough is the tuition. Listen in, reset your rules, and stop letting temporary discomfort make permanent decisions. The post EP 3625 Don’t quit when it’s tough appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min

  8. FEB 15

    EP 3624 Negative thoughts are only powerful if you let them be

    Negative thoughts aren’t dangerous because they show up. They’re dangerous when you treat them like truth, obey them like orders, and build your day around them. In EP 3624, “Negative thoughts are only powerful if you let them be,” Shaun O’Gorman breaks down the quiet trap most people live in. One rough moment becomes a story. One mistake becomes an identity. One anxious thought becomes a forecast. And if you’re not careful, your mind starts running your life while you call it “being realistic.” This episode is practical, not fluffy. You’ll learn how to separate a thought from a fact, how to stop feeding mental noise with attention, and how to rebuild momentum when your head is loud. Shaun shares a grounded way to respond to self doubt, overthinking, and the inner critic without pretending it doesn’t exist. The goal isn’t to “think positive.” The goal is to lead yourself. There’s a silver lining most people miss. The presence of negative thoughts often means you care. It means you’re stretching. It means you’re standing at the edge of growth where uncertainty shows up. When you can see that clearly, you stop being scared of your own mind. You stop negotiating with fear. And you start choosing better actions even while the thoughts keep talking. If you want stronger emotional control, better performance under pressure, and less mental sabotage in your relationships and career, this is for you. You don’t need a perfect mindset. You need a simple framework you can use today to take your power back. The post EP 3624 Negative thoughts are only powerful if you let them be appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

    10 min
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  • Creator
    Shaun O'Gorman: Human Behaviour & High Performance Coach
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    999
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    The Strong Life Project Podcast

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