Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Dr Justin Coulson
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Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

  1. 6H AGO

    #1211 - The Crisis of Modern Boyhood: What Adolescence (Netflix) Reveals

    The Netflix series Adolescence isn’t just gripping television—it’s a wake-up call about the hidden struggles of modern boyhood. In this episode, we unpack the toxic pressures shaping boys today, from social media’s influence to the outdated expectations of masculinity. How do we protect our sons from a system that fails them? What can parents do to guide them toward healthy manhood? Let’s explore the hard truths and actionable steps every parent needs to know. KEY POINTS: Adolescence forces us to ask not who committed the crime, but why? The "Man Box" and "Boy Code" are shaping boys in ways many parents don’t realize. Social media is accelerating boys’ exposure to toxic masculinity. Boys like Jamie aren’t born violent—this ecosystem shapes them. Schools, parents, and tech companies all play a role in this crisis. PERSONAL STORIES SHARED: How watching Adolescence made me rewrite parts of my book on raising boys. My conversation with Rebecca Sparrow after losing my nephew to suicide. The moment in the show that left me heartbroken as a parent. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"Boys believe their eyes more than their ears. If we don’t like the versions of masculinity on offer, it’s up to us to fix that." — Richard Reeves KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS: Our boys are absorbing toxic messages about masculinity online every day. Shame, social rejection, and fragile identity can lead to devastating consequences. We must actively shape a healthier vision of masculinity for our sons. Prevention starts at home—monitor, guide, and connect with your boys. RESOURCES: Adolescence (Netflix series) Richard Reeves’ insights on masculinity The Bringing Up Boys Summit (half price!) Review of Adolescence [Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Monitor your child's online activity and social influences. Have regular conversations about emotions, identity, and self-worth. Limit screen time and encourage real-world friendships. Foster strong adult mentorship in your child's life. Make sure your son hears these three words often: No matter what. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    17 min

  2. 1D AGO

    #1210 - Breaking Free from Beauty Sickness

    What happens when the mirror moves from our wall to our head? In this preview of Saturday's interview with Professor Renee Engeln, discover how beauty sickness affects women and girls, why being "ladylike" might mean "stay small," and how to teach children to value their bodies for what they can do rather than how they look. Plus, understand why having two social media accounts might signal a deeper cultural problem. Quote of the Episode: "Bodies are super cool... teach your children about how cool they are, like all the amazing things they can do—not so they can look good to other people." Key Insights: Self-objectification develops when external scrutiny becomes internal. Beauty standards affect women disproportionately. "Ladylike" behaviour often teaches girls to stay small. Social media creates additional appearance pressure. Cultural expectations create exhausting beauty demands. Body appreciation should focus on function over appearance. Simple activities like hugging and smiling show body value. Cultural change is needed more than individual change. Resources Mentioned: Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln Northwestern University research Happy Families Action Steps for Parents: Focus on what bodies can do rather than how they look. Avoid appearance-based conversations. Enable physical exploration and movement. Celebrate body functionality over aesthetics. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    13 min

  3. 2D AGO

    #1209 - Bedtime Battles: When Your Kids Won't Stay in Their Own Beds

    Getting enough sleep is the number one parenting hack, but what happens when your children won't cooperate? Historically, humans slept in groups, which explains why your child resists sleeping alone. Breaking free from bedtime battles requires giving children a voice in their routine, changing your perspective on this fleeting season, and doing whatever it takes to ensure everyone gets some rest—even if that means musical beds at 2 a.m. Key Points: Force creates resistance—the more you try to control bedtime, the more children push back. Giving children a voice through family meetings or one-on-one discussions about bedtime helps them buy into routines. Humans historically slept in groups—our desire for children to sleep independently is relatively recent. Changing your perspective to see this as a season that will pass can help reduce frustration. Sometimes the practical solution is simply "do what it takes"—even if that means musical beds at 2 a.m. Dental hygiene matters—parents should help children brush teeth until about age 8. Electric toothbrushes with timers can make tooth brushing more engaging for children. Having the dentist explain the importance of oral hygiene can remove parents from being the sole authority. What feels like an eternal struggle will eventually pass and may even be missed someday. You can give children more autonomy in some areas while maintaining boundaries in others (like dental care).   Resources Mentioned: Happy Families website Electric toothbrushes with timers   Action Steps for Parents: Have a one-on-one conversation with each child about their ideal bedtime routine, giving them a voice while maintaining reasonable boundaries. Change your perspective—recognize this difficult season is temporary and years from now you might miss these cuddles. Do what it takes to ensure everyone gets sleep, even if that means unorthodox arrangements temporarily. For dental hygiene, use engaging tools like electric toothbrushes and enlist the dentist as an authority figure. Submit your own parenting questions at happyfamilies.com.au or email podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    13 min

  4. 3D AGO

    #1208 - Let Them: The Two Words That Will Set You Free from Other People's Drama

    Stop trying to control other people's moods, opinions, and behaviours—it's exhausting and impossible. Instead, try Mel Robbins' revolutionary "Let Them Theory" which teaches two simple words—"let them"—to reclaim your power and energy. When you stop obsessing over what others think or do, you finally focus on what matters: your own life. But that's only half the equation. The crucial second step is saying "let me" take action on what I CAN control. # Quote of the Episode: "The truth is other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them." - Mel Robbins   Key Points: The Let Them Theory consists of two parts: "let them" (accepting what others do) and "let me" (choosing your own response). When you stop trying to manage other people's emotions and behaviours, you reclaim your energy. "Let them" doesn't mean being a doormat—it means acknowledging you can't control others. Your happiness is tied to your actions, not someone else's behaviour, opinions, or moods. Hacking your stress response by saying "let them" and taking a breath interrupts your reactivity. Trying to please everyone typically results in pleasing no one and exhausting yourself. The method works for handling difficult colleagues, judgmental family members, and stressful situations. This approach is primarily for adult relationships, not parenting young children who need guidance. Setting boundaries is still important—"let them" doesn't mean accepting harmful behaviour. People-pleasing often leaves you feeling empty and unappreciated despite your best efforts.   Resources Mentioned: "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins (New York Times bestseller) Mel Robbins Podcast Happy Families website   Action Steps for Parents: Next time someone upsets you, say "let them" silently to yourself, then take a deep breath Follow with "let me" and choose a response that serves your wellbeing Identify one relationship where you're trying too hard to please someone and practice letting go Accept that someone will always be disappointed by your decisions—and that's okay Remember that while you can "let them" with adults, parenting requires appropriate guidance and boundaries with children See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    16 min

  5. 6D AGO

    #1206 - Rethinking School: Why Alternative Education Might Be the Best Choice for Your Child

    Is traditional schooling the only path to success? In this eye-opening episode, Justin and Kylie challenge the conventional approach to education, sharing their journey through homeschooling and industry-based schooling with their daughter, Lily. They discuss why so many kids feel disconnected from mainstream education, the power of hands-on learning, and how alternative schooling models are helping students find passion, purpose, and career opportunities. If you’ve ever worried about whether the standard school system is serving your child, this episode is a must-listen! KEY POINTS: Many kids feel disconnected from traditional schooling because it lacks real-world application. Industry schools combine formal education with hands-on experience, giving kids exposure to different careers. Parents often fear that alternative education means failure, but in reality, it can lead to greater success and fulfillment. The stigma of leaving mainstream school is often more about parental concerns than what’s best for the child. Exposure is key—kids don’t always know what they want to do until they experience different career options. There are so many flexible schooling alternatives—vocational training, homeschooling, apprenticeships, online learning, and more. Insights from a school principal: The biggest hurdle in education reform is often parents’ reluctance to try something different. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "We’re using medieval institutions to train our children to live in an era where we have god-like technology. They don’t match up—they simply don’t." RESOURCES MENTIONED: Dark Horse by Todd Rose Industry schools, vocational training programs, apprenticeships, and alternative schooling options. The Happy Families website  ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: If your child is struggling with school, research alternative education options in your area. Have an open conversation with your child about what excites them and what frustrates them about their education. Challenge the fear of failure. Understand that leaving traditional school doesn’t mean giving up on success—it might be the key to unlocking it. Connect with other parents who have explored homeschooling, vocational programs, or industry schools for insight and support. Encourage your child to explore different careers through internships, apprenticeships, or hands-on learning experiences. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    16 min

  6. MAR 19

    #1205 - Your Child Will See Pornography: Here's What You Need to Know

    Research reveals that 99% of boys have seen pornography by age 15, with the average first exposure occurring around age 10-11. This isn't your parents' magazine under the bed—today's online explicit content is shaping our children's understanding of relationships and intimacy years before their first kiss. This episode provides practical, research-backed strategies for having essential conversations with your children about pornography and online safety. Learn how to protect your kids while maintaining open communication about this confronting but critical topic. Quote of the Episode: "Not talking about it isn't protective. You need to talk about it because that's where the protection comes." Key Points: Average first exposure to explicit content occurs around age 10-11 By age 15, 99% of boys and 50-70% of girls have seen pornography Among 15- to 29-year-olds,  85% consume explicit content weekly or daily Children typically see explicit content 3-3.5 years before their first kiss Modern online pornography often contains aggressive and degrading content Early exposure shapes expectations about relationships and intimacy Open communication is crucial for protecting children Parents should normalise curiosity while not endorsing the behaviour Discussions should focus on healthy relationships and consent Resources Mentioned: "Boys and Sex" by Peggy Orenstein "The Case Against the Sexual Revolution" by Louise Perry eSafety Commissioner website It's Time We Talked Fight The New Drug  Collective Shout (Melinda Tankard Reist's work) Dr Marshall Ballantyne Jones research 2017 Australian study on pornography consumption Action Steps for Parents: Start conversations early—before age two—to build comfort discussing difficult topics Talk often and naturally about body safety and online dangers Create an environment where children feel safe asking questions Establish clear but supportive boundaries around internet use Respond calmly and without punishment when children report exposure Discuss explicit content in the context of healthy relationships Address curiosity as normal while explaining why certain content is inappropriate Help children develop critical thinking about media messages Install appropriate safety measures on devices Maintain ongoing conversations about consent and healthy relationships See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    15 min

  7. MAR 18

    #1204 - Taking the Ride, Not the Wheel: The Secret to Better Listening

    Your brain is like a monkey—constantly jumping around, thinking of what to say next, and rarely focused on what others are sharing. Learning to shut up and truly listen, especially during those key moments when your child is trying to tell you something important, is perhaps life's most difficult skill. This preview of Saturday's full interview with Ross Judd reveals why listening is so challenging and how three simple steps can transform your connections with those you love. Quote of the Episode: "When we engage, the actual main thing to do here is actually to do nothing. We're not having to fix a problem. We're not having to find solutions. What we actually need to do is to be quiet." - Kylie Coulson Key Points: Don't try to actively listen every minute of every day—it's exhausting and unrealistic. Look for clues that indicate someone really needs to talk (unusual behaviour or emotional signals). When these important moments occur, engage fully by staying quiet and using neutral phrases like "tell me more". Summarise what the person has said to show you've understood. Our brains typically prepare to talk rather than truly listen to others. Most conversations are like showing "trinkets" from our respective bookshelves rather than truly exploring others' experiences. Staying present while listening is incredibly difficult because our "monkey mind" constantly chatters. Not offering solutions actually communicates trust that the person has the answers within themselves. We typically listen through our own life experiences, which interrupts the other person's thought process. Effective listening is a "practice in stillness"—something most humans struggle with Resources Mentioned: 'Listening: A Guide to Building Deeper Connections' by Ross Judd '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' by Stephen Covey 'The Emotional Lives of Teenagers' by Lisa D'Amour Marco Polo app (mentioned as a tool for asynchronous communication) Happy Families website Action Steps for Parents: Watch for unusual behaviour or emotional signals that indicate your child needs a deeper conversation. When those moments occur, stay quiet and use neutral phrases like "tell me more" rather than offering solutions. Practice summarizsing what your child says to show you've understood and to quiet your own "monkey mind". Remember that by not offering immediate solutions, you're showing confidence in your child's ability to find answers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    11 min

  8. MAR 17

    #1203 - Heartbroken: When Your Kid Says They’re Embarrassed by You

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    The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

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