Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Dr Justin Coulson
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The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

  1. 7H AGO

    E-Bikes: When Teenage Freedom Turns Dangerous

    Teenagers are riding at 70km/h with no helmets. Police are investigating. Communities are furious. Parents are terrified. E-bikes are everywhere — and the debate is explosive. Is this about reckless teens? Bad laws? Or something far closer to home? In this episode, Dr Justin Colson from the Happy Families podcast unpacks the real issue behind the headlines. It’s not just about e-bikes. It’s about freedom, responsibility, and the parenting conversations we’re either having… or avoiding. Because banning them won’t fix it.But shrugging won’t either. If you’ve got a risk-taking teen — or one who soon will — this is a conversation you need to hear. KEY POINTS Freedom without responsibility becomes a free-for-all Risk is essential for development — recklessness is not Pedal-assist bikes and throttle bikes are not the same Legislation won’t solve what parenting must address Teens chase status, thrill and belonging — not danger The real missing ingredient is consideration QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Freedom isn’t the same as a free-for-all. The real issue isn’t the e-bike — it’s whether we’re teaching our kids what freedom requires.” ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Have the deeper conversation.Not just “be careful.” Ask: Who could you hurt? What does sharing space mean? Differentiate risk from recklessness.Climbing trees builds capability. Blowing through traffic signals destroys trust. Talk about invisible impact.Help them imagine the pedestrian, the driver, the nurse in emergency. Channel thrill safely.Structured sport, competitions and supervised challenges can meet the same need. Stay connected.Consequences matter — but relationship influence matters more. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    20 min

  2. 1D AGO

    Stop the Sneaky Lies Without Crushing Trust

    Your child lies. You catch them. They double down. Now what? When an 8-year-old swears they didn’t sneak the TV or the treats (even with chocolate on their face), most parents panic about what it means for the future. In this episode of The Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie explain why lying is normal, why punishment makes it worse, and how to respond in a way that builds honesty instead of fear. If you want truth without tears, this conversation changes everything. KEY POINTS Lying is a developmental milestone, not a moral collapse. The harsher the punishment, the better kids get at hiding. Shame damages relationships and kills honesty. Most lies are about avoiding trouble or getting access to something they want. The goal isn’t catching kids out — it’s solving the problem together. You’ll have this conversation again and again. That’s normal parenting. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Lying is not a moral crisis. It’s a teachable moment.” RELATED RESOURCES #846 An Honest Conversation [podcast episode] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Stay calm. Avoid lectures and threats. Say what you see instead of asking trap questions. Make it safe to tell the truth. Explain your concerns (health, sleep, fairness). Collaborate on a plan everyone can live with. Repeat the conversation as often as needed. Submit your tricky question at happyfamilies.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    14 min

  3. 2D AGO

    The Hidden Cost of Tracking Your Kids

    We tell ourselves it’s about safety.But what if tracking our kids is quietly costing them confidence, independence… and trust? With apps like Life360 becoming the norm, many parents are asking: Are we protecting our children — or projecting our anxiety onto them? In this episode, we unpack what constant monitoring does to developing autonomy, whether location-sharing normalises surveillance, and how to balance safety with healthy independence. If you’ve ever checked the app “just in case,” this conversation might change how you see it. KEY POINTS Why over-monitoring may increase anxiety — for parents and kids The developmental cost of constant surveillance How tracking impacts trust, autonomy, and competence When location sharing can work — and when it crosses a line The difference between safety conversations and safety control QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “When parents outsource their anxiety management to technology, children pay the developmental price.” RESOURCES Lenore Skenazy – Free-Range Kids Let Grow movement Claire Rowe (psychologist & parenting writer) Should We Be Tracking Our Kids? [Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask yourself: Is this about safety — or my anxiety? Replace monitoring with problem-solving conversations. Gradually expand your child’s freedom in age-appropriate ways. If using location sharing, make it mutual and transparent. Focus on teaching capability, not controlling outcomes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    12 min

  4. 5D AGO

    I'll Do Better Tomorrow - The Virtue of Patience

    You’re one eye-roll away from losing it.You’ve called their name four times.You’re hot, tired, and absolutely done. And then patience changes everything. In this Friday episode, Justin and Kylie share two small choices that create big connection: making time for the people marrying into your family, and holding your nerve long enough for your child to come to you. Because when we slow down, relationships grow. KEY POINTS Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. Time invested now shapes future in-law relationships. Kids often need space to process before they respond. Patience prevents power struggles and invites cooperation. Small messages of love spark big moments of connection. Even eye-rolling kids still want us in their world. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Patience got us there. When we slow down, relationships grow.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families memberships & resources The 7 Day Connection Challenge (Free Happy Families resource) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Give someone your full attention this week. No phone. Just presence. When you want to react, pause. Let your child process. Create a short family catch-phrase that reminds your kids who they are. Send a simple “thinking of you” text when they’re away. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    15 min

  5. 6D AGO

    Growth Mindsets & Academic Improvement

    We’ve told kids for years that effort changes everything. But the biggest review of growth mindset research in decades just found the results are tiny… sometimes nothing at all. So should parents and teachers stop talking about “not yet”? In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what the science really says, why the data might be missing the magic, and the simple belief that still changes lives for many children. KEY POINTS A major new review analysed 24 gold-standard studies on growth mindset interventions. The strongest research found very small or zero academic improvement. Real classrooms and real families are far more complex than controlled trials. No study shows growth mindset causes harm. Language, belief, and persistence still influence motivation for many kids. We should be careful about promises — but not abandon hope. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “I don’t want to be the adult who looks at a child and says, ‘You just can’t.’” RESOURCES MENTIONED Gazmuri, C. (2025). Growth mindset interventions and academic achievement. Review of Education. ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Swap limits for possibility: invite effort and exploration. Focus on helping your child stay in the uncomfortable learning zone. Offer support after they’ve tried, not before. Remember: neutral evidence is not negative evidence. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    18 min

  6. FEB 10

    Good Daughtering [with Dr Allison Alford]

    She loves her parents. She wants to be a good daughter. So why does it feel so heavy? In this powerful conversation, Dr Allison Alford names the invisible emotional labour millions of women are carrying — and why being a “good daughter” shouldn’t cost you your wellbeing. From eldest daughter syndrome to guilt, boundaries, and burnout, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and lighter. If you’ve ever felt stretched thin by family expectations, this one is for you. KEY POINTS What “daughtering” really is — and why naming it changes everything Why guilt is a terrible guide for family caregiving The hidden emotional and mental load daughters carry every day Why boundaries don’t make you selfish — they make you sustainable The freedom of being a “B-plus daughter” instead of burning out QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Being good enough isn’t about doing it all. It’s about doing what is sustainable.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Good Daughtering by Dr Allison Alford Follow Dr Allison Alford: daughtering101.com Socials: @daughtering101 ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Write down the invisible work you do for your family — and count it Replace “What should I be doing?” with “What’s sustainable right now?” Aim to be a B-plus daughter, not an exhausted A-plus one Talk openly about daughtering with friends and family — language brings relief Let go of guilt as a decision-maker and choose balance instead See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    22 min

  7. FEB 9

    Homeschooling: What to Do When You’re Ready but Clueless

    Thinking about homeschooling… but secretly terrified you’ll get it wrong? If you’re standing at the edge of homeschooling wondering What am I actually supposed to do all day?—this episode is for you. Justin and Kylie unpack what homeschooling really looks like once you ditch the school-at-home mindset and start building something that actually works for your child (and your sanity). This isn’t about rigid schedules or perfect plans. It’s about slowing down, tuning in, and creating learning that fits real kids and real families. KEY POINTS Why copying school at home almost always backfires The freedom (and relief) that comes from flexible structure The four principles that made homeschooling sustainable for their family Why community matters more than curriculum How knowing your why gets you through the hard days QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Homeschooling isn’t about doing school at home. It’s about creating learning that actually fits your child.” RESOURCES MENTIONED HappyFamilies.com.au Submitting a Tricky Question: podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start slower than you think you need to Focus on connection before curriculum Find (or build) a homeschooling community early Let go of the idea that it has to look like school Revisit your why on the hard days—it matters more than your plan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    15 min

  8. FEB 8

    Resilience is Relational

    We’ve been teaching kids resilience all wrong. If you’ve ever watched your child fall apart over homework, friendships, or an impossibly messy bedroom - this episode reframes everything you think you know about “being strong.” Resilience isn’t grit.It isn’t white-knuckling.And it definitely isn’t doing it alone. Justin and Kylie unpack the powerful truth backed by decades of research: resilience is relational — and what our kids need most when they’re struggling is us, closer than ever. KEY POINTS Why “tough it out” parenting quietly backfires The research that proves one relationship can change a child’s life How support builds competence (not dependence) What to do in the moment when your child feels overwhelmed Why moving closer is the most powerful parenting move you can make QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Resilience isn’t doing it alone. It’s knowing you’re not alone while you do it.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Nine Ways to a Resilient Child — Justin Coulson Emmy Werner’s Kauai Longitudinal Study Harvard Study of Adult Development happyfamilies.com.au ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS When your child is struggling, move closer — not further away Sit with them instead of fixing it for them Break big tasks into tiny, doable steps Let your voice become the calm they borrow Model asking for help — it teaches strength, not weakness See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

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