Better Than Best Podcast with Coach Red Wallace

Coach Red Wallace
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It’s hard to live your best life when you don’t have someone motivating you past being average. My podcast will challenge you to live the legacy you were created to leave. Every Monday you’ll find five minute motivational‘s that are guaranteed to help you conquer your Monday. Most importantly you will find yourself here, I believe art is a reflection of who we are and I hope you find what you looking for. Be sure to stay connected by hitting that subscribe button. If you like what you hear share it. Thanks for listening!

  1. 2d ago

    Why You Can't Rest: 3 Traps Strong Men Fall Into

    Some men are exhausted because they've become really good at carrying.Join the Better Than Best Brotherhood:https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/aboutApply for the Redprint hot Seat Coaching: https://forms.gle/YYDG3Qsa8tQS6ELbAYou solve problems. You provide. You think ahead. You push through. People depend on you.Then responsibility starts turning into control. Learning keeps you from acting. Being needed gets tangled up with being valuable. You sit down to rest and immediately feel guilty because part of you still believes everything might fall apart if you stop moving.I've been confronting this in myself.In this video, we're talking about the dark side of being the strong one and how to recognize when a good strength has started costing you peace, presence, and the people closest to you.We'll get into:• carrying responsibility that was never yours • using activity to deal with uncertainty • trying to earn peace through progress • tying your value to achievement and usefulness • finding your identity in Christ while still working hard and taking responsibilityCHAPTERS:00:00 When Strength Hurts00:25 Muscle That Won't Release01:35 Strength Without Boundaries02:41 Capability Versus Calling03:36 Carry Or Put Down04:29 Trap Of More05:56 Consistency Over Intensity06:39 Count The Cost08:05 Productivity As Avoidance09:30 Faith Without Full Clarity11:24 Achievement As Identity13:27 Being Needed Trap14:54 Coaching Invitation16:20 Peace Through Progress17:29 Jesus Gives Rest19:10 Three Question Challenge20:33 True Strength Is Release21:04 Final EncouragementBefore the video ends, I want you to sit with these questions:What am I carrying that God never asked me to carry?What do I keep doing because it makes me feel more in control?If I stopped trying to prove myself for the next 30 days, what would change?Your family doesn't need you to carry everything.They need you present enough to know what matters.

  2. Sep 25

    If You’re Drowning, Reach for the Hand

    Some men don’t drown because nobody offered to help.They drown because they’re trying to look strong while swallowing water.You’re the one people depend on. You handle the pressure. You solve the problems. You carry the responsibility.But what happens when something becomes bigger than you know how to carry?For a lot of men, the answer is silence.We research more. Work harder. Pray vaguely. Delay the conversation. Convince ourselves we’re being patient, responsible, or strong… when underneath it all, fear may be making the decisions.In this video, we’re talking about what secrecy actually costs, why asking for help can feel so threatening, how to choose someone safe enough to tell the truth to, and exactly what to say when you don’t know how to start the conversation.I’ll also give you four sentences you can use when you finally sit down with someone:“Here’s what happened.”“Here’s what I’m afraid it means.”“Here’s what I’ve been doing to avoid it.”“Here’s the decision or conversation I need to face.”CHAPTERS:Real strength isn't pretending you're fine while you're drowning. Learn how to stop the cycle of silence in men's mental health.You carry the weight of responsibility, solve every problem, and handle the pressure. But secrecy has a cost. Many men internalize their struggles because we fear appearing weak, yet this silence often prevents us from finding the support we need. We must learn to move past the instinct to isolate ourselves when life gets heavy.Breaking the pattern of overcoming isolation requires choosing safe people to trust. I am sharing four specific sentences you can use to start a conversation when you feel overwhelmed. True strength looks like reaching for a hand that is already offered, and then turning around to become that support for another. Prioritizing asking for help is not a sign of failure; it is the path to becoming the strong men we are called to be.If you are looking for a place to have these honest conversations, join the Brotherhood below. Subscribe for more guidance on biblical manhood and character.00:00 Silent Drowning01:14 The Cost of Secrecy01:28 A Friend Opens Up02:44 Fear in the Dark04:32 Why Men Hide05:59 Built for Community06:52 Choose Safe People08:27 Send the Text09:05 Four Honest Sentences09:49 Clarity vs Trust10:42 When You Need Counseling11:11 Be the Hand12:39 One Simple Challenge13:24 Brotherhood Invitation13:52 Final EncouragementStrength isn’t pretending you’re fine while you’re drowning.Sometimes strength looks like reaching for the hand that’s already being offered.And once you’re standing again, turn around and become that hand for another man.If you’re looking for a place where men can have these kinds of honest conversations without performing, I’d love to invite you into the Better Than Best Brotherhood.👇 Join the Brotherhood here:https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/aboutNow let’s go live Better Than Best.#MensMentalHealth #ChristianMen #MensGrowth #Faith #Brotherhood #Leadership #Marriage #PersonalDevelopment

  3. Sep 18

    Why You Need to Stop Believing This Lie About Yourself

    What label have you been living under?Failure. Angry. Undisciplined. Fatherless. Addicted. Broken. Too far gone.Your past may explain parts of your story—but it does not have the authority to decide who you are.In this video, we look at John 1:45–46 and Nathanael’s question about Jesus: “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” One label almost caused him to dismiss what God was doing right in front of him.And we can do the same thing to ourselves.Maybe you’ve spent years allowing your family history, failures, wounds, sins, or reputation to become your identity. But there is a difference between acknowledging what happened and allowing what happened to name you.For the man who belongs to Christ, your identity is not something you earn through better performance. It is something you receive through grace—and then learn to walk out through obedience.In this video, I’ll give you a simple three-step process to begin breaking the labels you’ve been living under:1. Name it.2. Test it against the truth.3. Obey differently.Grace removes condemnation—but it does not remove responsibility.You don’t have to rebuild your entire life today. Take one act of obedience that agrees with the man God is calling you to become.If this message helped you, share it with another brother who needs to hear it.👇 Take the Present Provider Assessment below and discover where you are strong, where you may be drifting, and what your next step should be. https://forms.gle/95Q5bSdNHjLdgbkv8Subscribe for more biblical encouragement and practical guidance for becoming a present husband, father, leader, and man of God.Scriptures discussed:John 1:45–461 Corinthians 61 Peter 1#ChristianMen #IdentityInChrist #BiblicalManhood

  4. Sep 11

    I Got What I Prayed For… And Hated What It Cost Me

    What happens when you get exactly what you prayed for… and it makes you feel replaceable?For years, I was one of the people my church needed behind the drums. Then the team grew. New drummers came in. They got better. The ministry became healthier.And suddenly, they didn’t need me as much.That should have felt like success.Instead, it exposed something in me.I didn’t just enjoy being useful. Part of my identity had become attached to being needed.Maybe you know that feeling.You’re the provider.The fixer.The leader.The dependable one.The person everybody calls when something goes wrong.Those can all be good things—but what happens when your usefulness becomes the thing proving your worth?In this video, we’re talking about:• Why someone else’s growth can sometimes feel threatening• The difference between being needed, useful, wanted, and loved• How our identity can quietly become attached to our role• Why delegation and multiplication can expose insecurity• What John 15 and Ephesians 2 teach us about belonging and fruit• How to celebrate someone who gets the opportunity you wanted• Why losing a role doesn’t mean losing your worth• Three questions to help uncover where your identity has become tangled with what you doGod may reduce your role without reducing your worth.Your children becoming capable without you, someone you trained becoming better than you, or a team you built functioning without you doesn’t automatically mean you’ve become irrelevant.Sometimes, that’s what faithful leadership and legacy actually look like.You were created to bear fruit.You were never meant to make the fruit the root of who you are.👇 PRESENT PROVIDER ASSESSMENT:https://forms.gle/pixHy6AzSFiaPTFw8If this hit somewhere personal, tell me in the comments:“If they no longer needed me to __________, I’m afraid it would mean __________.”Let’s live faithful—not FOR identity, but FROM identity.Now go live better and best. Conquer this week. CHAPTERS: 00:00 Success That Hurts 01:37 Loving The Craft 02:19 When Growth Costs You 02:57 The Need To Be Needed 06:13 Identity Beyond Usefulness 06:55 Faith Abiding And Fruit 07:47 Legacy Not Replacement 10:01 Don’t Withdraw In Pride 11:00 Three Questions To Ask 12:50 Journal And Pray It Out 13:58 Calling Worth And Legacy 15:22 Assessment And Sendoff

  5. Sep 10

    The World is Training You to See Everything Wrong

    What have you trained yourself to look for? Right now, the world is very good at showing us what’s wrong. Broken families. Struggling kids. Failing marriages. Angry politics. Weak men. A divided Church. AI. Outrage. Fear. Bad news everywhere. The trash business is booming. But what if followers of Jesus are supposed to see differently? A gold miner doesn’t ignore the dirt. He simply knows the dirt isn’t all that’s there. In this episode of Better Than Best Academy, we’re talking about cynicism, hope, Psalm 139, spiritual refinement, parenting, marriage, men, and what happens when we ask God to teach us to see beneath the surface. “Search me, O God, and know my heart.” Before God teaches us to find the gold in other people, He starts digging in us. And when He does, it requires us to stay HOT: Humble.Open.Transparent. Speaking off apply for you chance to be in the HOT SEAT HERE: https://forms.gle/FHYgVqJGLown88dp7 Because we can’t ask God to refine us and then get offended by the temperature. My challenge for you this week is simple: Stop collecting trash. Choose one person—your spouse, your child, a friend, a student, a coworker, maybe even yourself—and ask God: “Show me the gold.” Then when you see it, call it out. The world can keep screaming that the sky is falling. We’ll keep digging. God is still working. And hope is still rising. 👇 QUESTION FOR YOU:Who is one person you need to start seeing differently this week? Subscribe to Better Than Best for conversations about faith, family, leadership, character, purpose, and becoming the man or woman God is calling you to become. CHAPTERS:00:00 Trash or Gold Mindset 01:57 Outrage Economy Trap 03:13 Training Your Focus 04:10 Instant Answers vs Truth 06:04 Search Me Prayer 07:30 Refining Fire Process 10:27 Mining Gold in Others 12:19 Calling Out the Gold 14:03 Hope That Endures 17:42 Challenge to Dig 18:40 Final Encouragement #BetterThanBest #ChristianMen #ChristianMotivation #Faith #Hope #PersonalGrowth #BiblicalWisdom #ChristianLiving

  6. Aug 28

    You Can’t Serve God and Money—Here’s What Jesus Meant

    What if your bank statement could reveal something about your relationship with God? In Luke 16:9–13, Jesus makes an uncomfortable connection between money, faithfulness, and worship. He doesn’t say you can’t have money and serve God. He says you cannot serve both God and money. So how do you know when money has stopped being a tool and started becoming your master? In this video, we walk through 3 tests that expose what money may be revealing about your heart: What are you asking money to give you?What happens when your money feels threatened?What are you doing with what God has already placed in your hands?We’ll also use the Redprint framework to help you recognize what money is exposing, reorganize the lies underneath it, rediscover what is true, rebuild your financial habits, and refine the way you steward what God has given you. Before this video ends, I’m going to challenge you to do something practical: open your real bank or credit card statement and look at the last seven days. Then finish this sentence: “My money shows me that I’ve been trusting ______.” This is not prosperity gospel. It’s not about believing that if you handle $100 correctly, God owes you $100,000. It’s about stewardship. Money can be a useful servant—but it was never designed to be your savior. If this challenged you, comment below: Which of the three tests exposed the most for you? Subscribe for more biblical teaching on spiritual formation, stewardship, faith, and becoming who God created you to be. ➡️ Steward To Last: https://www.youtube.com/@StewardtoLast➡️ Better Than Best Brotherhood: https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/about Scripture: Luke 16:9–13 #ChristianMoney #BiblicalStewardship #Luke16 #FaithAndFinances #ChristianLiving

  7. Aug 21

    “There are really no failures in life. There are just people that give up.” - Bill Quateman

    What does it take to build a meaningful life when the path doesn’t go according to plan?In this episode of the Better Than Best Academy, Red Wallace sits down with Bill Quateman for a wide-ranging conversation about fatherhood, discipline, reinvention, entrepreneurship, health, service, and becoming the man life is calling you to become.Bill shares lessons from his journey through the music industry, publishing, business, parenting, and regenerative health—including being signed during the Clive Davis era at Columbia Records, publishing his own book after facing rejection, and eventually building a career focused on helping others live healthier lives.We talk about why fathers sometimes need to be both a willow and an oak, why “no” can be an expression of love, the importance of teaching children to sit still in a world filled with distraction, and why the obstacles in your life may actually be developing the person you need to become.Bill also shares one of the principles that has shaped his life:“There are really no failures in life. There are just people that give up.”In this conversation, we cover:- Why discipline gives young men direction- Being a strong “rudder” for your children- Why the hardest thing to do may be nothing- Meditation and learning to sit in silence- Failure, resilience, and refusing to quit- Reinventing yourself when life changes direction- Why creativity and business require different mindsets- Serving something bigger than yourself- Finding the courage to do hard things- Thinking about longevity, health, and “peak span”- Why your goals must begin with knowing what you actually want- The importance of living from loveCHAPTERS:00:00 No Failures Mindset01:03 Welcome and Guest Intro01:43 Music Backgrounds Connect02:51 Young Bill and Beatles Spark06:19 Discipline and Focus Lessons07:46 Parenting Boundaries Today13:09 Love and Quiet Practice16:41 Clive Davis Breakthrough19:04 Service Over Showbiz22:48 From Music to Publishing24:56 Oprah Call to Health Pivot26:22 Writing With Purpose27:21 Books As Business28:41 Creative Meets CEO31:53 Embrace The Hard33:58 Ego And Flow34:59 Health Origin Story37:07 Peakspan And Metabolism40:16 First Steps At 3343:41 Connect And Testing45:00 Lightning Round Wisdom47:57 Final Quote And FarewellLearn more about Bill and Advanced BioCell: https://advancedbiocell.comIf you’re a Christian husband, father, leader, or builder who wants to become better in the areas of life that matter most, subscribe to the Better Than Best Academy.Comment below: What is one difficult season of your life that ultimately made you stronger?

  8. Aug 14

    Your Bad Habit Isn’t the Real Problem

    You keep getting defensive. You overwork. You procrastinate. You escape into your phone. You lose your temper—and even when you promise yourself you’ll change, the same negative patterns keep coming back. For Christian men trying to grow in their marriage, faith, leadership, and emotional health, simply trying harder isn’t always enough. In this video, we’ll look at why you keep repeating the same patterns, what may be underneath defensiveness, anger, overworking, procrastination, and phone addiction, and how God can transform more than just your behavior. Sometimes the habit isn’t the deepest problem. Your defensiveness may be protecting a fear of failure.Your overworking may be tied to believing your worth comes from what you accomplish.Your phone may be helping you avoid discomfort, loneliness, or emotions you don’t know how to sit with. You can change the behavior while leaving the root untouched. That’s why real Christian personal growth requires more than behavior modification. It requires allowing God to reveal what the behavior may be protecting, proving, avoiding, or trying to control. In this video, I’ll walk you through a simple three-step process: SEARCH — RESPOND — REMAIN SEARCH: Go beneath the behavior and ask what is really happening inside you. RESPOND: Choose one faithful action instead of automatically repeating the old pattern. REMAIN: Stay present when discomfort makes you want to defend yourself, withdraw, escape, or return to what feels familiar. If you’ve been wondering how to stop being defensive, how to break bad habits, how to become a better husband, or why you keep repeating the same mistakes, this process can help you move from temporary behavior change toward deeper spiritual formation. God isn’t merely interested in making you look better on the outside. He wants to form the man underneath it all—a man who can receive correction without collapsing, lead without controlling, rest without feeling worthless, be present without constantly escaping, and love without always defending himself. CHAPTERS: 00:00 When She Says You’re Gone00:41 Trying Harder Isn’t Working01:04 The Root Behind the Habit01:58 Picture Real Change02:31 Symptoms Versus Source03:48 Ask What It’s Doing04:15 Three Steps to Freedom04:27 Search Beneath the Surface06:23 Respond With One Action08:17 Remain Through Discomfort10:14 From Behavior to Formation11:42 Choose One Pattern Today12:12 Get Help With Blind Spots12:21 Invitation and Closing Ready to identify the pattern that keeps holding you back? Apply for a complimentary Red Print Hot Seat session:👉 https://forms.gle/DR7Qq7XEDyNzjMhV9 We’ll slow the pattern down, look beneath the behavior, identify potential blind spots, and determine your next faithful response. Join the community:https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/about Scripture referenced: Psalm 139:23–24 Subscribe for more videos about Christian men, Christian marriage, spiritual growth, biblical masculinity, identity in Christ, leadership, emotional health, and becoming the husband, father, and man God has called you to be. #ChristianMen #ChristianMarriage #BiblicalManhood

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It’s hard to live your best life when you don’t have someone motivating you past being average. My podcast will challenge you to live the legacy you were created to leave. Every Monday you’ll find five minute motivational‘s that are guaranteed to help you conquer your Monday. Most importantly you will find yourself here, I believe art is a reflection of who we are and I hope you find what you looking for. Be sure to stay connected by hitting that subscribe button. If you like what you hear share it. Thanks for listening!

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