Alexandra Miller Clark, Psychology America with Dr. Alexandra

Dr. Alexandra, Psychologist

With warmth, heart and a respect for science, Dr. Alexandra and her guests explore questions that come up at all life stages.  Dr. Alexandra is a mother of four and an expert in family systems psychology and clinical psychopharmacology. Through interesting exchanges with her guests, Dr. Alexandra brings new learning, stories and good company to listeners.

  1. Aug 23

    Maslow's High Plateau Experience

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. A meaningful life may be built on a quieter, more teachable state called the High Plateau Experience. This episode will address transcendence, including spirituality, psychology, meditation, and simply living with more awe and purpose.  Dr. Alexandra unpacks Abraham Maslow’s original ideas about peak experiences, then moves into the lesser-known concept he explored near the end of his life - a more constant, serene way of perceiving the world as miraculous. Along the way, she shares the story of Maslow’s own nighttime “peak experience,” the paper he chose not to present, and the profound shift in perspective that came after his confrontation with mortality.You’ll discover: Why Maslow believed peak experiences are real, but shouldn’t be pursued like a thrill rideHow self-transcendence in Paul Wong’s model includes beauty, present-moment awareness, and service to othersWhat Maslow meant by “witnessing the world” and why he said we could “hold classes in the miraculous”The difference between a climactic peak experience and the steadier High Plateau ExperienceWhy joy, sadness, awe, and mortality can all coexist in the same momentHow meditation, spiritual practice, and meditative listening are linked to less anxiety, more meaning, and greater connectednessDr. Alexandra also brings in research and modern evidence, including studies on Lectio Divina, Dan Tomasulo’s work (https://dantomasulo.com), and a 2021 Frontiers in Psychology paper on self-transcendence and adolescent mental health.  The result is a thoughtful, practical episode that connects Maslow’s theory to real-life practices you can actually use. This is essential listening for those seeking grounded transcendence that doesn't depend on chasing extraordinary moments, but on learning how to live with openness, wonder, and purpose in ordinary life. Timestamps 00:00 - This episode is dedicated to internationalforgiveness.com and Maslow’s higher love  00:32 - What the high plateau experience is and how it differs from peak experiences  01:27 - Peak experiences as unforced moments of human transcendence  02:24 - Maslow’s own peak experience before his memorial lecture  03:21 - Why Maslow chose the academic paper instead of his personal experience  03:50 - The impact of peak experiences on self-acceptance and openness  04:56 - Why Maslow warned against chasing peak experiences for their own sake  05:26 - The bodhisattva ideal and helping others after awakening  06:20 - Paul Wong’s three levels of self-transcendence  07:12 - How Dr. Stanley Krippner helped preserve Maslow’s final talk  08:47 - Maslow’s shift into a more constant, mythic way of seeing  09:44 - Why the high plateau was more voluntary and teachable  10:49 - The plateau as witnessing the symbolic and miraculous in ordinary life  12:14 - Maslow’s Brandeis vision of an eternal academic procession  13:54 - How the plateau compresses time, memory, and meaning  15:20 - The paradox of permanence, mortality, joy, and sadness  16:28 - Why we do not need to wait for peak experiences to live meaningfully  17:27 - Research on meditative listening, meaning, and well-being  18:34 - Dr. Dan Tomasulo’s insights on spiritual practice and brain quieting  19:38 - Lisa Miller’s MRI research on the spiritual brain  20:15 - A 2021 study on self-transcendence and adolescent mental health  21:40 - Closing reflections  Notable quotes “Achieving the mystic's sense of cosmic unity can be tremendously uplifting, but such a state must always be balanced by action in the daily world.” Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

  2. Jul 23

    Maslow on Higher Love

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. Discover how Abraham Maslow's insights into love reveal a profound distinction between deficiency love (D-love) and being love (B-love), and how these concepts can transform our relationships and self-understanding. This episode explores Maslow's research on healthy, exceptional humans and their capacity for higher love.  The life and influence of Abraham Maslow on psychology and personal growth The hierarchy of needs and the simplified ERG theory by Clay AlderferThe concept of deficiency love (D-love) versus being love (B-love)Early attachment studies by Spitz, Bowlby, and Levy and their importance for human survivalHow love contributes to self-actualization and the well-being of exceptional individualsPractical applications of B-love in caregiving, relationships, and spiritual practiceMaslow’s parallels between B-love, mystics’ love for God, and appreciation of art The impact of love on self-acceptance, growth, and human potentialPersonal stories illustrating the practice of love and compassion, including rescue of wildlife Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction: The episode’s focus on Abraham Maslow and higher love 00:25 - Maslow’s study of exceptional human beings and focusing on what’s good 00:54 - The hierarchy of needs and Clay Alderfer's ERG theory 1:24 - How needs can be flipped and the resilience of self-actualized individuals 2:24 - Maslow’s teachings on love and its role in human development 3:22 - Maslow’s method: studying healthy, creative, high-potential individuals 3:51 - Celebrated figures studied by Maslow, including Abraham Lincoln and Albert Schweitzer 4:32 - The concept of reverence for life and compassion in Albert Schweitzer 5:24 - Eleanor Roosevelt and the importance of universal human rights 5:35 - Maslow’s insights on different types of love: D-love and B-love 6:10 - Explanation of deficiency love (D-love) and early attachment needs 7:14 - Early attachment research and the tragic findings of Spitz’s studies 8:13 - The effects of lack of maternal attachment and attachment theory support 9:55 - The role of love in survival and Maslow’s view of deficiency love as a hole 11:23 - The nature of B-love as unselfish and abundant 11:34 - Qualities of B-love: unconditional, non-possessive, and joy-giving 12:01 - The therapeutic and spiritual power of experiencing B-love 12:54 - Personal stories of practicing love in caregiving and work 14:08 - The energy and vitality gained from loving without expectation 15:15 - B-love's spiritual and aesthetic connections 16:21 - Romantic love and the differences from B-love, including anxiety and independence 17:22 - The qualities of B-love in romantic relationships: autonomy, generosity, and depth 18:22 - The “love is blind” myth explained through neurochemistry 19:34 - The concept of intra-object richness—the fascination with loved ones 20:30 - Details and love for the beloved as an expression of deep connection 21:16 - How B-love influences self-perception, acceptance, and growth 22:02 - The distinction that deficiency love (D-love) can be gratified, but B-love offers spiritual fulfillment 22:58 - Personal story about rescuing baby raccoons, illustrating D-love and compassion 24:31 - The story of rescuing raccoons and connecting it to Maslow’s ideas 27:19 - Upcoming episode on peak experiences and plateau states in exceptional humans 28:47 - Practicing higher love and starting wherever we are emotionally 29:13 - Closing remarks and gratitude Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

  3. May 19

    Family Estrangement and Cutoffs

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. Recent studies indicate that about one in four Americans experience some form of family estrangement.  This statistic is alarming, as many individuals report feeling deeply troubled by this estrangement. A significant portion of these estrangements occur between parents and their adult children, emphasizing the need for understanding and addressing familial relationships.  In this podcast and video, expert guest Dr. Tamsen Thorpe and I explore the causes, implications and solutions for family estrangement, drawing on insights from experts in psychology and family dynamics. What is Family Estrangement? Family estrangement refers to a cutoff in communication or contact between family members. It ranges from complete no contact to limited interactions, such as only connecting through social media. It is not always a straightforward situation; some families might maintain superficial ties while feeling emotionally distant. Understanding these nuances is crucial for addressing the underlying issues that contribute to estrangement. Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

  4. Apr 3

    Anger in Leadership with Dr. Julian Barling PhD and Dr. Simon Rego, PsyD

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. You’re in a leadership role and the anger bubbles up.  Or . . .you’re the subject of the leader experiencing anger.  Learn about anger in leadership as well as transformational leadership from the best selling authors of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Leaders: How Improving your Mental Health is Essential to Avoiding Burnout and Leading More Effectively, Dr. Julian Barling PhD and Dr. Simon A. Rego, PsyD.    I have started sharing my podcasts on YouTube as well - find this one under @AlexandraMillerClark.  Some gems I learned from this interview include:  * just a little bit of anger can be motivating * showing anxiety can be more effective than showing anger as a leader . . . But not too much!   *sometimes it helps to say “I don’t know” or “I’m sorry” *it’s good to prepare for future crises as leaders *leaders who show anger are just humans with a range of emotions Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

  5. Feb 15

    Navigating Parenting Challenges with Compassion

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. This episode was simultaneously recorded by video which can be found on LinkedIn or YouTube (Alexandra Miller Clark).  In this episode, we explore themes of compassion, the importance of self-management in parenting and nervous system regulation.  Dr. Nicole Dolan also discusses her forthcoming memoir, "The Art of Chaos," which reflects on her experiences as a mother and therapist.  Dr. Nicole Dolan is a licensed psychotherapist and the Founder of Sacred Paths non-profit group in California.  At the start of the show, I share about a Japanese hero, Sempo Sugihara, and dedicate the show to the National Liberty Museum in Philadelphia. Conscious Parenting and Self-Management  05:39 Nervous System Regulation and Breathwork  09:02 Exploring Triggers and Emotional Responses  11:36 The Role of the Body in Therapy  15:46 Understanding Split Off Parts of Self  20:18 Reintegration of Trauma and Healing  26:08 The Art of Chaos: A Memoir  35:29 Surviving vs. Thriving in Parenting - last Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

  6. 09/01/2024

    Bravery, Risk and Reward

    What topic interests you? Leave me a voicemail. “God will not have his work made manifest by cowards”  Ralph Waldo Emerson.   Join us for this delightful conversation with Dr. Beth Rom Rymer and Neill Clark on the topic of risk taking in our lives.  We contemplate ideas by Machiavelli, Goethe, Lincoln and George Washington.    We discuss psychological and moral risks - courageous action for things aligned with our values and even better, for principles greater than ourselves.   As this episode is being recorded and released, Dr. Beth Rom Rymer is running for President Elect of the American Psychological Association.    Dr. Beth Rom-Rymer’s distinguished career includes groundbreaking work with survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence advocacy, and forensic geriatrics. She had been a lecturer at The University of Chicago and Northwestern University for over two decades; led the successful legislative movement for prescriptive authority for specially trained psychologists in Illinois and is a national and international leader with prescriptive authority movements around the globe.  Dr. Rom-Rymer co-founded and is President of the Association of Jewish Psychologists. She has won numerous awards for her work, including:   Distinguished Illinois Psychologist from the Illinois Psychological Association (2012 and 2014);  Outstanding Psychologist of the Year from APA’s Division 31 (2014); APA Presidential Citation for Outstanding Leadership (2015); APA Karl Heiser Award for Legislative Advocacy (2015); Wellner Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Register of Health Service Psychologists (2016); Social Impact Leaders Award from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology (2018).  Neill W. Clark, JD, antitrust attorney, Town Councilman of Sparta, New Jersey and coach to competitive runners, brings in some athletic examples of risk and reward.   This episode was recorded on August 20th, 2024 Support the show This show was created with love.  The following are seven ways you can support and encourage my efforts to create new content, from easiest to hardest:  Press “follow” on the podcastPress “follow” on YouTube @alexandramillerclarkShare a helpful podcast episode with a friend Share a helpful YouTube episode with a friendLeave the podcast a rating on iTunesLeave the YouTube a rating on iTunesBuy me a coffee:  buymeacoffee.com/dralexandra

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With warmth, heart and a respect for science, Dr. Alexandra and her guests explore questions that come up at all life stages.  Dr. Alexandra is a mother of four and an expert in family systems psychology and clinical psychopharmacology. Through interesting exchanges with her guests, Dr. Alexandra brings new learning, stories and good company to listeners.

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