Secure Marriage Podcast

Paul & Shannon Elmore
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We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.

  1. JAN 20

    348: Why Accusations Are Toxic To Your Marriage

    When you’re hurt or frustrated, it’s easy for your thoughts to turn into accusations and internal statements of blame. In this episode, Shannon and I talk about why accusations are so damaging to emotional safety, even when the pain behind them is real. We explore why accusations shut you down emotionally, what they’re often trying to protect, and how to communicate hurt without attacking your spouse. If you want more understanding and less defensiveness, this conversation will help you take a gentler step forward together.

    31 min

  2. JAN 9

    347: The Year of Adventures

    2026 feels like a fresh page, and maybe you’re sensing a desire for more—more connection, more laughter, more shared experiences with the person you love. Adventures don’t have to be big or expensive to change a marriage, but they do have to be intentional. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about some of the shared adventures we’re planning on doing over the next 12 months, why they matter so much in our marriage, and how they quietly strengthen our trust, friendship, and emotional connection. We also want to help you create meaningful moments together in your own marriage and do the little (or crazy) things that bring you closer, one experience at a time.

    19 min

  3. JAN 1

    What it Takes To Forgive An Incredibly Hurtful Husband

    Forgiving your husband after he’s caused deep emotional pain can feel overwhelming. You may want healing, but you don’t want to excuse what happened or rush past the hurt you’re still carrying. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about what forgiveness actually requires and what it doesn’t. We share how to honor your pain, protect your heart, and begin moving toward emotional healing without pressure or pretense. If you’re feeling caught between resentment and the hope for peace, we want you to know you’re not alone, and this conversation may help you take the next step forward.

    38 min

  4. 07/07/2025

    Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”

    Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal response and learn a simple but powerful reframe that can transform these vulnerable moments into opportunities for deeper intimacy. This insight completely changed how Shannon and I handle hurt feelings—and it will change your marriage too.

    20 min

  5. 06/25/2025

    This Simple Trick Will Make Your Spouse Happier

    Want to make your spouse smile more, without grand gestures or big talks? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the surprisingly simple trick that shifted the tone in our own marriage (and no, it’s not what you think). You’ll hear how this one small change can create big happiness at home—and how you can try it today. Don’t miss it!

    15 min

  6. 02/10/2025

    343: When should you start seeing progress in marriage therapy?

    If you’re feeling stuck or wondering if your marriage therapy is even working, this is the episode where we break down the hidden signs of progress most couples miss, share why slow growth is often the best kind, and reveal what to do if things feel stagnant. Don’t give up too soon—tune in and discover what breakthrough might be just around the corner!

    25 min

  7. 01/27/2025

    342: Doing THIS Creates The Deepest Connection

    Ever wonder what truly creates the deepest connection in a relationship? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack the one practice that can completely transform how you and your spouse relate to each other. Drawing from my twenty years as a marriage therapist and thirty two years from our own marriage we’ll share a simple approach that builds intimacy, trust, and understanding like nothing else. You won’t want to miss these game-changing insights!

    21 min

  8. 01/14/2025

    341: Don’t Let Comparison Become the Cancer in Your Relationship

    If you’re not careful, comparison can creep in and quietly start sabotaging your relationship. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I dive into how measuring your relationship against yourself can erode trust, intimacy, and connection. Find out why comparison is more toxic than you think, how to stop it in its tracks, and how to protect your relationship from this silent killer.

    20 min
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We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.

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  • Creator
    Paul & Shannon Elmore
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    299
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2022 Paul Elmore & Secure Marriage
  • Show Website
    Secure Marriage Podcast