The Alli Worthington Show

Alli Worthington
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Alli Worthington talks to women leading, raising families, and wondering why they're exhausted by 3pm. The show covers the things that actually matter: faith that holds up under pressure, work that doesn't require burnout, and what's really going on with your energy, hormones, and health in midlife. With over 2 million downloads, you'll get expert interviews and coaching conversations designed to help you stop pushing through and start building something that actually works. Alli is a five-time bestselling author, CEO, and mom to five sons. She's been a business coach for over fifteen years, helping women who are tired of advice that sounds good but doesn't work. The kind of advice you'd pay a coach thousands of dollars for, twice a week, for free.

  1. 8h ago

    When the Dream Costs More Than You Expected

    Read Alli's Substack - The Wise Woman Method   You said yes to something good. Something you actually wanted. And now it’s 9 p.m., you’re standing in your kitchen eating shredded cheese out of the bag, and you’re wondering why the dream you prayed for feels like a low hum behind your eyes and a sudden irritation with every sound in your house.   This is not a sign you’re broken. It’s just your body waving a little white flag called an allostatic load. Once you know what’s actually going on, it’s a lot less mysterious and a little less personal.   Here’s me being honest: right now, I’m writing a book, wrangling a Substack, juggling a few businesses, and trying not to drop anything important on my own head. Turns out, when you’re carrying work that actually matters to you, it doesn’t feel like a motivational poster. It feels like slogging through mud, second-guessing every decision, and wondering if your brain has been replaced by a fog machine. I’ll talk about the science behind it, what my amygdala (I call her Becky) is plotting, and three things that might help when you’re stuck in the messy middle. What You'll Learn in This Episode: What allostatic load is and why it explains the specific kind of exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix Why decisions that used to take five seconds now sit on your desk for two days (and what that actually means) What your nervous system is doing when a dream that felt exciting in month one feels heavy in month four Why the growth is happening in the carrying, not the after 3 practical steps for moving through the hard middle without quitting or adding more   Timestamps: (00:00) - Introduction: When the dream costs more than you expected (00:44) - Where Alli is right now: writing a book, launching a Substack, and the season she's in (02:53) - What allostatic load is and why it matters (04:18) - Becky, the amygdala, and why she gets chatty when the load gets heavier (05:43) - The adaptation tax: what it means that growth happens in the carrying (08:03) - Practical Step 1: Name the actual cost out loud (08:48) - Practical Step 2: Stop adding, even small things (09:20) - Practical Step 3: Decide which version of you is making decisions (10:02) - A word directly to the woman who stayed (14:12) - The science of mushrooms, immunity, and Dr. William Lee's research     Links to great things we discussed:  Alli’s Product Recommendation - Jake & Amos Marinated Mushrooms Function Health Wise Woman Method on Substack Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow Alli on Instagram Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli

    16 min

  2. 3d ago

    Playing Small: Identity, Self-Worth & Midlife Freedom with Therapist Niro Feliciano

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!    If you’ve ever talked yourself out of something you really wanted, told yourself it wasn’t the right time, or felt guilty for even wanting it, this episode is going to feel like a long exhale. Therapist Niro Feliciano is back for Part 2, and we go deep into what it actually costs women when they stop investing in themselves, why women over 40 are sitting on the best years of their lives, and the simple mental shift that makes it possible to finally say yes to yourself without the guilt spiral. We also talk about social media, self‑promotion, and the real reason most women won’t put themselves out there. Hint: it’s not what you think. Niro brings clinical insight. I bring the Disney World story and a strong opinion about cringe.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: What it costs a family long-term when the mother is the only one who doesn't invest in herself Why trying new things is directly connected to cognitive health, brain development, and joy How humility and confidence can coexist (the C.S. Lewis definition that will change how you think about showing up) The real fear behind social media self-promotion and how to do a cost-benefit analysis on it Why "climbing Cringe Mountain" might be the most important thing you do for your calling this year What perimenopause actually does for your ability to stop people-pleasing Why your 40s and 50s are not the beginning of the end   Timestamps: (00:52) - What it costs a family when mom is the only one not being invested in  (01:11) - The modeling problem: what your kids are learning by watching you  (02:00) - Maintaining your identity beyond being a mother and partner  (02:41) - Why trying new things matters more than we think  (04:04) - The brain science behind learning new things (and Niro's hatchet throwing story)  (06:18) - Why Alli takes clients to Disney World twice a year  (08:15) - The Mother's Day vs. Father's Day double standard nobody talks about  (08:57) - What to say to the woman who has no real reason not to invest in herself  (09:43) - The permission exercise: what would you say to a woman you love?  (18:36) - C.S. Lewis on humility, and why it changes everything about social media  (17:57) - The common roadblock for Christian women who want to build a business  (20:16) - The real fear behind not wanting to post (it's not self-promotion)  (20:47) - How to do a cost-benefit analysis on putting yourself out there  (22:33) - Climbing Cringe Mountain: the cost of admission for doing anything that matters 23:56 - What it costs a family when mom is the only one not being invested in (23:26) - Rapid-fire wrap-up: Niro's current favorites    Links to great things we discussed:  Niro’s Website NIro’s TV Recommendation - Love Story Niro’s Book Recommendation - Strangers Niro’s Product Recommendation - SkinCeuticals C E Ferulic Function Health Uplift App Wise Woman Era Alli on YouTube   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli

    30 min

  3. Jun 25

    The Exhaustion of Editing Yourself (And How to Stop)

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!    Have you ever caught yourself holding back an idea, not because you found a better way to say it, but just to make it easier for someone else to hear? This quiet habit of downplaying what you really think or want can sneak up on you. Over time, it can make you start living smaller without even realizing it.   In this episode, I share a story from a recent Catalyst retreat at Seacrest on 30A. While we sat in a circle, one woman leaned in and said something that made everyone pause. She said, "I feel like I have to pretend I don’t want as much as I actually do." Her words show why this conversation is important for you as well.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why your brain, especially your amygdala, has been jumping in to manage your self‑expression and what I call the Becky effect How years of reactions to your drive or ambition trained you to soft‑edit your sentences before you speak Why the exhaustion so many women feel comes from managing what people think, not from doing too much How a faith‑rooted, grace‑centered view of ambition reshapes the way you see your calling and your wanting Three practical steps to help you notice where you adjust, say what you mean without shrinking it, and pay attention to the people who let you stay yourself fully. Timestamps: (00:50) - The Catalyst retreat at Seacrest on 30A: what happens when women sleep on the conversations they didn't have (02:48) - The moment the room shifted: when women stop introducing themselves and start telling the truth (03:45) - Your amygdala (Becky), why she's been running your self-editing, and what she's actually protecting you from (04:48) - The habit that doesn't feel like a habit anymore: why self-shrinking feels like your personality (05:06) - The heavy purse analogy: what it feels like when you finally set it down (06:02) - Why you're not tired from doing too much; you're tired from managing what people think while you do it (06:58) - What some of us learned about being a "good Christian woman" and what God actually has to say about it (07:39) - The honest confession: trusting God on paper vs. trusting him in your nervous system (08:22) - The difference between faith and bracing, and why you don't have to make your wanting smaller (09:24) - Step 1: Notice the moment you adjust yourself (09:43) - Step 2: Say one thing without reshaping it (10:27) - Step 3: Pay attention to who lets you stay fully yourself (11:08) - What Catalyst Mastermind is and why Alli started it (12:05) - What it looks like to come home to yourself   Links to great things we discussed:  Alli’s Product Recommendation - YSL Lash Clash Function Health Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow Alli on Instagram Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!  Learn more about the Catalyst Mastermind I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli

    15 min

  4. Jun 22

    Why Women Stop Betting on Themselves (And How to Start Again) with Niro Feliciano

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!    Shifts are happening. Women in their 40s are coming to therapy not because life is unraveling, but to rediscover who they are. Therapist Niro Feliciano, a Today Show regular, calls this process excavating, pulling back layers of output, caretaking, and self-doubt to find the woman underneath. In this episode of Smart Girl Summer, Niro and I talk about the real reasons women hesitate to bet on themselves, where those self-limiting beliefs actually start (yes, middle school makes an appearance), and the two questions every woman needs to start asking herself right now. What You Will Learn in This Episode Why so many women over 40 are seeking therapy, and what is driving the shift Ask the two questions Niro uses to help clients reconnect with what they truly want. What is happening in your brain when you do not invest in yourself Notice the sting of childhood and middle school moments shaping the harsh inner critic you hear today. The difference between healthy caution and self-sabotage disguised as wisdom Why sacrificing yourself and erasing yourself are not the same thing Tune in to what you genuinely desire and what fills you with joy, and imagine the vibrant life awaiting you when you finally leave autopilot behind. Timestamps: (02:37) - How Niro's work has shifted, why she's back seeing clients full time, and what it taught her about saying no (05:42) - What Niro is seeing in women right now, the rise of women over 40 in therapy, and the concept of "excavating yourself" (07:42) - The two questions women don't ask themselves enough: What do you want? What brings you joy? (10:09) - Alli on writing her motherhood book and the moment women realized they'd been withering on the vine (11:09) - Why women won't invest in themselves, the fear of failure, and the guilt spiral that follows (13:11) - What's actually happening in the brain when a woman won't bet on herself (14:35) - Where self-limiting beliefs come from, childhood, critical parents, and yes, middle school (16:08) - Alli on what she sees as a business coach and why she sends clients to therapy (18:31) - How to tell the difference between healthy caution and self-sabotage dressed up as wisdom (20:17) - Why uncertainty creates more anxiety than the bad thing itself (the electric shock study) (21:23) - The line between sacrificing yourself for your family and erasing yourself for them (23:38) - The first step: what are you doing just for yourself this week that nobody else benefits from?   Links to great things we discussed:  Niro’s Website Function Health Uplift App Wise Woman Era Alli on YouTube   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo,   Alli

    26 min

  5. Jun 18

    The Voice in Your Head Is Not Your Strategic Brain.

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!    A voice in your head can sound wise: calm, reasonable, urging, "Don’t overcomplicate this." For most of my life, it helped me go far. But when making a decision about my future, I realized that voice echoed an earlier version of me. It didn’t know what I know now. In this episode, I share lessons from a challenging season. My husband was sick. Two of my boys faced unsolved health issues. I was running a company and holding my family together. This episode focuses on how I found clarity in making a difficult business decision and why this lesson is vital for every high-performing woman. This episode explores identity lag, overthinking, confirmation bias, and why getting out of your head helps you grow. Listen now to discover the mindset shift that transformed my journey.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What identity lag is and why it keeps giving you the same answers Why your brain hands you your past instead of your future How coaching helped me get clarity after weeks of spinning Why high performing women get stuck in their own heads Three simple things you can do this week to break the pattern and move forward Timestamps: (01:28) - Getting stuck when your thoughts aren't helping (03:16) - Identity lag: why your brain hands you your history when you ask about your future (04:34) - Why high-performing women keep trying to do this alone (05:16) - The necklace analogy: why someone outside your life can see the knot (05:59) - What Alli's weekly coaching session actually looks like (06:39) - Why the seasons with outside thinking are always the best seasons (07:58) - Three things to do this week (09:03) - Why you need to schedule the thing you've been meaning to do for six months (10:20) - One thing to do this week to interrupt the pattern   Links to great things we discussed:  Function Health Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow Alli on Instagram Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!  I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli

    13 min

  6. Jun 15

    Unlock Business Growth Secrets with Crystal Paine

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!  When I think about Crystal Paine’s story, I always come back to how it really started. She did not launch Money Saving Mom with a polished business plan. She launched it from a basement apartment while she was sick during her first pregnancy, with a laptop and a real need to figure out how to make money online because they were almost broke. Two years later, a simple three day ebook bundle sale brought in three thousand dollars, and she realized she was building something that mattered. By 2015, her business had grown into a seven figure brand. She was speaking across the country, signing book deals, and juggling media opportunities. And at a coffee date, she told me she could not think of one thing she felt excited about. That is the part of business growth we do not talk about enough. In this episode, Crystal walks me through her career in eras. The scrappy startup years. The explosive growth phase. The burnout that followed. The year of rest that saved her. And the season she is in now. Crystal and I have been friends for years, and I have been her business coach, so this conversation goes deeper than most interviews ever do. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the first two years of an online business almost always look like failure before they look like progress. What Crystal learned from a$3000 3-day sale that completely shifted her understanding of momentum. The identity reckoning that happens when your money saving brand starts making real money. How a scarcity mindset and a season of saying yes to everything pushed Crystal straight into burnout, and what climbing out of it actually required. Why she declared 2016 her year of rest and what it took to peel back the layers of dysfunction she had been carrying. The surprising strategies working in Crystal’s business right now that most people would never think to try. Timestamps: (01:58) The early days: law school, infertility, a sick pregnancy, and a laptop (03:14) How Crystal fell into blogging in 2004 before blogging was a thing (09:18) Two years in, the $3,000 bundle sale, and the moment momentum became real (11:15) The 2008 economy, coupon culture, and right‑time‑right‑place growth (13:45) Simply Sensible: the failed site that taught Crystal the difference between copying someone else's dream and walking into her own (15:58) Breaking down the eras: startup, growth, burnout, rest, and now (20:00) Seven figures, speaking everywhere, and feeling completely dead inside   Links to great things we discussed:  Money Saving Mom Crystal Paine Instagram Crystal’s Product Recommendation: Promise Dreamy Mango Serum Crystal’s TV Recommendations: The West Wing & Lost Portable Keychain Charger for Apple Watch  Function Health Uplift App Wise Woman Era Alli on YouTube   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars. It means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli

    54 min

  7. Jun 11

    The Most Dangerous Word in a Woman's Vocabulary Is "Fine"

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!    You know those seasons when everything just works. The business thrives. The marriage feels steady. The work is dialed in. And then, almost without noticing, you hear yourself say: "It is fine." Not because anything is falling apart, but because things are going so well your nervous system starts tapping the brakes. This episode is about the upper limit problem, the point when success starts to feel like too much and, quietly, you turn down the volume. If you've ever waited for the other shoe to drop during a genuinely good season, this is for you.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: What the "upper limit problem" is and why high-achieving women hit it hardest Why your nervous system responds to a great Thursday afternoon the same way it responds to a saber-tooth tiger How to recognize the moment you're softening your own wins (and stop doing it in real time) Why building a great life and learning to hold a great life are two completely different skills 3 practical tools to raise your set point and let more good in   Timestamps: (00:49) The word I want you to start noticing this week: fine (02:43) Why we make good things smaller (the upper limit problem, Gay Hendricks' The Big Leap) (03:39)  When "humility" is actually your amygdala negotiating with your sense of self (03:59)  Meet Becky: your nervous system's thermostat and why she keeps turning you down (05:35)  What Becky actually does when your life is too good (and you don't even notice) (06:11)  "Don't say it's fine when things are actually great. Just take the win." (07:34) Building a great business vs. learning to hold one: why most women only master the first skill (08:07) John 10:10 and the theology of a full life (not managed, not downsized) (09:27) Practical step 1: Catch yourself downgrading and say it honestly (10:34) Practical step 2: Sit in the good thing for 30 seconds longer than you normally would (11:03) Practical step 3: Ask, "Is this broken, or am I just uncomfortable with ease?" (12:08) The 10 Squat Rule: why one squat every hour is the cheapest health investment you can make     Links to great things we discussed:  Alli’s Book Recommendation - The Big Leap Function Health Take the Secret Superpower Quiz Join the Uplift Community Follow Alli on Instagram Don’t forget to watch Alli Worthington on YouTube!    I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo, Alli

    16 min

  8. Jun 8

    How to Build Your Personal Brand & Get Seen as a Woman Entrepreneur with KJ Blattenbauer

    Join the  Uplift Community App  TODAY!  If you have been trying to show up everywhere and still feel like no one really sees you, this episode will shift the way you think about visibility. KJ Blattenbauer is a powerhouse publicist who has spent her career helping women get noticed, get referred, and get paid. And she is not here to give you the fluffy version. KJ breaks down why so many women struggle to put themselves out there. It is not vanity. It is a vulnerability. She explains why chasing exposure can actually hurt your authority and why the most important thing you can have in business is not a huge following. It is one clear sentence that tells people exactly who you are and what you do. This conversation is part of the Smart Girl Summer series, and it delivers exactly what the name promises. Sharp. Practical. No fluff. Real strategy that actually works for real women building real businesses.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why women entrepreneurs struggle with self-promotion and the mindset shift that makes it easier How to craft the one-sentence message that gets you seen, referred, and hired The 4 foundational steps every woman needs to start building her PR presence (even if she has zero audience) The difference between chasing exposure and building authority, and why only one of them leads to sustainable business growth How to leverage a single podcast appearance or media hit 11+ different ways so it keeps working for you Why "be everywhere" is garbage advice, and exactly where you should show up instead What KJ says all press is NOT (and how to protect your reputation) Lessons from Blake Lively, the Kardashians, and Emma Grede's masterclass book tour   Timestamps: (01:45) KJ's one-sentence description of what she does (and why that sentence is the whole lesson) (01:57) Why women struggle with self-promotion, and what they need to hear instead (02:36) Serving from your gifts: reframing visibility as service, not ego (04:04) This isn't just for founders. It's for every woman who wants to stop playing small. (04:36) Most accomplished women aren't lacking expertise. They're lacking a clear narrative. (05:06) What do you really want? Getting quiet enough to figure it out (05:35) The power of the one-sentence message: how it works for clients, promotions, and pitches (06:35) How to figure out your message when you have multiple book ideas (or multiple passions) (07:54) PR myths KJ wants to set the record straight on (08:52) You don't need a big following. You need one repeatable message. (09:24) The "be everywhere" myth: why it's the worst advice in PR right now (09:59) What a one-breath message actually looks like (with real examples) (11:00) How your message compounds into authority over time (11:46) Live coaching moment: KJ helps Alli find her own one sentence (14:59) Why getting clear on your message is vulnerable, and what makes it so hard (15:33) The real reason people don't write their book, don't post, don't pitch (16:23) DIY PR: the biggest mistake solopreneurs make, and the first steps to take instead (17:09) Find where your audience actually is (and stop wasting time everywhere else) (17:37) Clean your house. Consistency builds trust. (18:28) The 4-step framework for getting started with PR (20:42) KJ's morning dog walk moment and the voices that told her she shouldn't be "caught" resting (21:33) What success actually looks like (hint: it's not the corner office) (22:24) Chasing exposure vs. building authority: what's the difference and why it matters (23:39) How to leverage a media appearance or podcast in 11+ ways (25:38) "Won't I annoy my audience if I post about the same thing too many times?" Hear KJ's answer (26:39) Authority is built AFTER the big attention getter, not from it (27:32) What KJ used to believe about PR that she no longer believes (28:28) PR crisis management: when to speak, when to walk away (28:41) Celebrity PR disasters: Blake Lively, the Kardashians, and the lesson (30:15) Why short-form social media has ruined our ability to think before we post (34:04) Rapid fire favorites: movies, books, and products KJ is loving right now   Links to great things we discussed:  KJ’s Website KJ on Instagram KJ's Podcast KJ’s Show Recommendations - Sopranos & Billions KJ’s Movie Recommendations  - The Devil Wears Prada & The Devil Wears Prada 2 KJ’s Book Recommendation - Start With Yourself KJ’s Product Recommendation - Saint Jo Function Health Uplift App Wise Woman Era Alli on YouTube I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes, we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too!   xo, Alli

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Alli Worthington talks to women leading, raising families, and wondering why they're exhausted by 3pm. The show covers the things that actually matter: faith that holds up under pressure, work that doesn't require burnout, and what's really going on with your energy, hormones, and health in midlife. With over 2 million downloads, you'll get expert interviews and coaching conversations designed to help you stop pushing through and start building something that actually works. Alli is a five-time bestselling author, CEO, and mom to five sons. She's been a business coach for over fifteen years, helping women who are tired of advice that sounds good but doesn't work. The kind of advice you'd pay a coach thousands of dollars for, twice a week, for free.

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    Alli Worthington
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    544
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