You push someone. They push back. And then you point at them and say: look how aggressive they are. That sequence is the oldest manipulation in human relationships. It is the move every abuser knows by instinct. Provoke a reaction, then use the reaction to erase everything you did to cause it. The conversation that should have been about your behavior is now about their response. And the longer the argument goes on, the further it drifts from what actually happened. In 1997, psychologist Jennifer Freyd at the University of Oregon gave this pattern a name. She called it DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. And once you see it, you can’t stop seeing it, because it is running in real time across every level of American political life. The Three Steps Freyd introduced DARVO in a paper on betrayal trauma theory published in Feminism & Psychology. She was studying how perpetrators of abuse respond when they are confronted with evidence of their own behavior. The pattern she identified was consistent and specific. It has three steps, and they almost always occur in the same order. First, the perpetrator denies the behavior. It didn’t happen. You’re making it up. That’s not what I said. You’re twisting my words. The denial serves two purposes. It puts the accuser on the defensive immediately, forcing them to prove that what happened actually happened rather than addressing the harm itself. And it establishes the perpetrator’s version of events as the baseline, so that any deviation from that baseline makes the accuser look unreliable. Second, the perpetrator attacks the person who confronted them. The attack isn’t about the substance of the accusation. It is about the credibility and character of the accuser. You’re crazy. You’re a liar. You’re just doing this for attention. You have an agenda. The goal of the attack is to make the audience, whether it’s a family, a courtroom, or a country, question whether the accuser is trustworthy enough to be believed. If the accuser’s credibility can be destroyed, the accusation doesn’t need to be refuted. It simply stops being taken seriously. Third, the perpetrator reverses the roles of victim and offender. The person who caused the harm presents themselves as the person being harmed. I’m the one who’s being attacked. I’m the one being treated unfairly. I’m the victim here. This reversal is the most psychologically destructive step because it doesn’t just deflect responsibility. It rewrites the entire narrative. The accuser becomes the aggressor. The perpetrator becomes the sympathetic figure. And anyone observing the exchange has to choose between two competing stories of victimhood, which is exactly the confusion the perpetrator wants. Why It Works The most disturbing finding in the research on DARVO isn’t that perpetrators use it. It’s that it works. In 2020, researchers Sarah Harsey and Jennifer Freyd published experimental studies in the Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma measuring how DARVO affects third-party observers. Participants were shown accounts of abuse followed by either a DARVO response from the perpetrator or a control response. The results were consistent. Participants who were exposed to the DARVO response rated the victim as less credible and the perpetrator as less responsible than participants who saw the control response. DARVO doesn’t just confuse observers. It actively shifts their sympathies toward the perpetrator. The denial, the attack, and the reversal combine to create a version of events in which the perpetrator looks like a reasonable person being unfairly accused, and the victim looks unstable, vindictive, or dishonest. In a 2017 study, Harsey, Zurbriggen, and Freyd found that DARVO has a direct effect on victims as well. People who were DARVOed were more likely to blame themselves for the abuse. The perpetrator’s denial and attack eroded the victim’s confidence in their own perception of what happened. If the person who hurt you insists it didn’t happen, and attacks you for saying it did, and convinces everyone around you that they are the one being mistreated, at some point your own certainty starts to crack. Not because you’re wrong, but because being told you’re wrong by someone who hurt you, while everyone watches and does nothing, is one of the most destabilizing experiences a person can endure. This is why victims of domestic abuse often describe the psychological manipulation as worse than the physical violence. The violence is terrible. But the DARVO that follows it is what makes the victim question their own sanity. The Political DARVO Every component of Freyd’s framework maps directly onto MAGA’s operating playbook. Deny: It didn’t happen. There were no kids in cages. The election wasn’t stolen. January 6th was a peaceful protest. We didn’t fire those scientists. We didn’t threaten those judges. Whatever you saw, you didn’t see it. Whatever was reported, the media is lying. Attack: The person who raised the issue is the problem. The journalist is the enemy of the people. The whistleblower is a traitor. The protester is a thug. The prosecutor is partisan. The judge is corrupt. The witness is a fraud. The attack is never about the substance. It is always about discrediting the person who spoke up, so the substance never needs to be addressed. Reverse Victim and Offender: We’re the ones being persecuted. Christians are the real victims. White people are the real victims. Conservatives are being silenced. The president is being treated unfairly. The witch hunt is the real crime. The people who tried to overthrow an election are political prisoners. The people who gutted the federal workforce are the ones being attacked by the deep state. The reversal is the most important step because it turns accountability into victimhood. The moment the perpetrator successfully casts themselves as the victim, accountability becomes persecution. Oversight becomes a witch hunt. Consequences become oppression. And the people who tried to hold the perpetrator accountable become the aggressors in a story that is now running backward. Reactive Abuse There is a concept in domestic violence literature that connects directly to Freyd’s DARVO framework. It is called reactive abuse, and it describes what happens when a victim, after sustained provocation, finally reacts, and the abuser uses that reaction as evidence that the victim is the real abuser. The pattern works like this. The abuser provokes, insults, threatens, or humiliates their partner for weeks, months, or years. The partner absorbs it, tries to stay calm, tries to de-escalate, tries to keep the peace. Then one day, after one too many provocations, the partner reacts. They raise their voice. They throw something. They say something ugly. And the abuser says: look at you. You’re the violent one. You’re the one with the problem. I’ve been telling everyone you’re unstable and now we all just saw it. The reaction becomes the only event in the story. Everything that preceded it, every provocation, every insult, every threat, disappears. The abuser has what they wanted: a moment they can point to that makes the victim look like the aggressor. This is exactly what MAGA does at every scale. They provoke until the other side reacts, and then they use the reaction as proof of everything they’ve been claiming. Liberals are the violent ones. The left is intolerant. The left can’t handle free speech. The entire conversation shifts from what was done to how people responded to what was done, and the people who did it walk away clean. Institutional DARVO Freyd expanded her framework beyond individual relationships to describe what she calls institutional DARVO: the pattern where an institution, not just a person, uses deny-attack-reverse to protect itself from accountability. In studies of educational institutions, Freyd and her colleagues found that 40% of people reporting sexual assault also experienced institutional betrayal, a bad response from the in… This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lucasbean.substack.com/subscribe