The Challenger Podcast

Dave Glaser
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The Challenger Podcast helps you show up authentically and navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps have become the way people connect and communicate. Each week, I interview dating experts and real life daters is to share what authentic dating can look like for you in these modern times. New episodes and live recordings every other week to find your ideal relationship through the Enneagram, attachment theory and core energy dynamics. Subscribe and leave a rating and review today so that you never miss an episode and connect with me on Tiktok @dave.glaser for a candid look at modern dating.

  1. 5d ago

    How many drinks are too many on a first date? Dealbreaker?

    In this episode, I want to explore the nuanced role of alcohol has in dating, asking the question, "How many drinks is too many?" and how drinking behaviors reveal deeper compatibility issues. I emphasize the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and understanding what your deal breakers truly are. How many drinks is your dealbreaker? Have you ever seen someone lose control on a first date after too many drinks?  Let's explore this question together and tie it in to each Enneagram type.   Your weekly challenge: Five dealbreakers vs. Five preferences.  Write them down and email them to me at riseup@fitlifechampions.com or DM me on Instagram @datingdealbreakers Key  topics The impact of alcohol on first dates and relationship signals How different Enneagram types respond to alcohol in dating scenarios The importance of self-awareness and boundaries in dating Red flags and deal breakers related to alcohol consumption How alcohol can mask or reveal emotional regulation issues Takeaways Alcohol use on a first date can reveal more than it conceals about a person's emotional regulation and compatibility. Self-awareness about your deal breakers is crucial for healthy dating and relationships. Different Enneagram types have distinct responses to alcohol that can influence dating dynamics. Understanding whether alcohol is a cover-up or a reveal can help you assess relationship potential. Your deal breakers should protect your well-being, not prevent genuine connection. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the role of alcohol in dating 01:52 How many drinks are too many? Personal boundaries vary 03:59 Behavior changes after drinking and what they reveal 05:54 Alcohol as a mask or reveal of emotional regulation 07:52 Key relationship questions beyond alcohol 08:49 The impact of alcohol on the speed of emotional connection 10:13 Enneagram types and their responses to alcohol 15:04 Vulnerability, honesty, and alcohol in relationships 16:57 Reflecting on your deal breakers and boundaries

  2. Sep 21

    How the Enneagram 8 Self-Sabotages and What to Do About It

    In this episode, Dave Glaser explores the importance of vulnerability for Enneagram 8s, challenging the misconception that strength equals emotional suppression. He shares personal insights and practical advice on how Eights can embrace vulnerability to foster deeper connections and healing. The misconception that toughness equals strength for Enneagram 8s The importance of processing and healing emotional pain The difference between enduring and healing Practical steps for practicing vulnerability The role of boundaries and trust in emotional health The impact of unprocessed pain on relationships and well-being The concept of healthy vulnerability versus walls and armor The significance of forgiveness and letting go of past hurts Takeaways Vulnerability doesn't mean weakness, but strength in authenticity. Enduring pain without processing can hinder growth and healing. Setting boundaries is healthy; walls are isolating. Expressing hurt and needs is crucial for deep connection. Unprocessed pain can manifest as anger, control, or withdrawal. Healthy vulnerability involves trusting others with your true feelings. Forgiveness is about releasing the burden of past hurts. Asking yourself what you've never said can be a powerful step. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to vulnerability and Enneagram 8s 01:51 The misconception: toughness equals strength 03:55 The importance of processing emotional pain 05:49 Enduring vs. healing: the difference 08:11 How unprocessed pain affects relationships 10:05 Vulnerability as a strength, not weakness 11:58 Setting boundaries versus building walls 13:49 The role of trust and connection 16:10 Practical steps to practice vulnerability 18:03 The power of saying 'that hurt me' 19:53 Forgiveness and releasing past hurts 22:14 The challenge: asking yourself what you've never said 23:10 Conclusion: embracing vulnerability for true strength

  3. Sep 15

    Out of Alignment? Do these four things to bring it back for the Enneagram type 8

    In this episode, Dave Glaser explores what it means for an Enneagram type 8 to be out of alignment, how it manifests, and practical steps to regain balance. This is essential listening for anyone looking to understand the subtle signs of imbalance and how to live more authentically. Signs of out-of-alignment in Enneagram Type 8 The difference between strength and control The importance of vulnerability and self-care Practical steps to regain alignment The role of honesty and slowing down Out-of-alignment eights often feel resistance and battle everything. Control creates the illusion of safety but leads to exhaustion. Vulnerability is crucial for authentic connection and healing. Self-care often gets sacrificed for achievement. Slowing down and honest self-reflection are key to realignment. Chapters 00:00 Recognizing the signs of being out of alignment 02:13 The strength of functioning versus the risk of burnout 04:28 The danger of fighting everything and control as an illusion 06:20 The importance of vulnerability and emotional access 07:16 Self-care neglect and its consequences 08:15 Steps to become a healthy, aligned eight 09:40 The power of honest self-reflection and letting go 11:03 The true meaning of strength: vulnerability and trust 12:01 The challenge of living authentically as an eight 12:56 Encouragement to embrace honesty and connection

  4. Jul 1

    The Enneagram 8, Power Struggles, and the Leadership Lesson I Didn't See Coming

    In this episode, Dave Glaser shares insights from his experience as an Enneagram 8 leader, exploring how power dynamics influence coaching, leadership, and personal development. Discover how letting go of control can unlock potential in others and transform your leadership style. Key  topics Enneagram 8 and leadership Power struggles and control Building trust and buy-in The importance of vulnerability in leadership Shifting from authority to partnership Lessons from coaching athletes Patience and humility in leadership Creating psychologically safe environments Takeaways Leadership is about creating buy-in, not control. Letting go of ego can lead to better performance. Empowerment comes from confidence, not authority. Athletes perform better when they feel safe and seen. Healthy Enneagram 8s redirect power to uplift others. Chapters 00:27 Why I took a break and what this episode covers 00:50 The power dynamic in leadership and coaching 01:18 My experience returning to coaching after unemployment 01:46 Initial enthusiasm and resistance from athletes 02:13 Understanding the power struggle with high school athletes 02:38 How energy and intensity can create resistance 03:07 The importance of awareness and checking your ego 03:56 The shift from authority to partnership 05:46 The impact of trust and safety on performance 06:42 The misconception about healthy Enneagram 8s 07:10 The true strength of healthy Enneagram 8s 07:29 Challenger moment: leadership vs control 07:57 Applying these lessons in personal life and home projects 08:48 The remodeling project and lessons in patience 15:12 Patience and humility in leadership 16:07 Final thoughts: empowering others and leadership takeaway

  5. May 4

    How to Navigate Change as an Enneagram 8

    In this episode, Dave Glaser shares his personal journey of transitioning back into a new role after a five-month employment gap. He explores the challenges and growth opportunities for Enneagram 8s, emphasizing the importance of awareness, connection, and intentional leadership during transitions. Key  topics Enneagram 8 and sense of control Transition and adjustment in new roles The importance of awareness and connection in leadership Developing resilience and humility during change The edge of leadership: knowing when to challenge and when to listen Takeaways Unrefined Enneagram 8 energy can come off as intensity without connection. Transition requires adjustment, not domination. Leading with awareness pairs natural intensity with presence. Growth happens when you meet your edge with constraint, not just intensity. Leadership includes connection, not just direction. Chapters 00:00 The Journey After the Struggle 02:41 Transitioning Back to Purpose 05:54 Leading with Awareness and Connection 08:41 Building vs. Proving: A Leadership Mindset

  6. Apr 20

    When Tragedy Strikes an Enneagram 8

    Who are you when control is gone? Who am I without my job? Control and being "armored up" are illusions. In this episode, Dave Glaser shares a personal journey through job loss and its impact on an Enneagram 8. He explores themes of vulnerability, control, identity, and growth during challenging seasons, offering insights and practical advice for navigating uncertainty. Key Themes Impact of job loss on identity and control Pitfalls of overcompensation in Enneagram 8s The importance of vulnerability and asking for help Growth through self-awareness and emotional depth Takeaways Vulnerability is the key to growth, not weakness. Control and armor are illusions that hinder progress. Separating identity from circumstances fosters resilience. Authentic strength includes awareness, flexibility, and connection. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Identity and Job Loss 04:37 The Pitfalls of Job Loss for Enneagram Eights 09:02 Vulnerability and the Journey of Self-Discovery 14:07 Recalibration and Moving Forward

  7. Apr 6

    Unlocking the Enneagram: 9 Sabotage Patterns to Transform Your Weight Loss Journey Part 3 of 3

    In this episode, Dave Glaser explores how different Enneagram types run from their patterns through movement, control, and comfort, offering insights and practical challenges to foster self-awareness and growth. Key  topics Enneagram types 7, 8, and 9 and their patterns of avoidance The role of movement, control, and comfort in self-sabotage Practical challenges to build consistency and awareness Takeaways Type 7s stay busy to avoid discomfort but need to stay committed longer. Type 8s use control to resist vulnerability but should focus on sustainable effort. Type 9s avoid conflict by disconnecting, and small actions can create momentum. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Patterns and Enneagram Types 01:18 Type Seven: The Enthusiast's Avoidance Patterns 03:25 Type Eight: The Challenger's Resistance to Vulnerability 06:10 Type Nine: The Peacemaker's Disengagement from Self 09:00 Conclusion: Awareness and Action Across All Types

  8. Mar 30

    The Revolution will be Uncivilized with Traver Boehm

    In this compelling interview, Traver Boehm joins Dave to discuss the importance of accountability, morality, and conscious masculinity in addressing societal issues like child trafficking, sexual misconduct, and personal growth. He shares insights on power dynamics, the role of men's groups, and how men can live with integrity and responsibility. If you're struggling with life's issues and are seeking support, connect with Traver directly at manuncivlized.com or on Instagram @traverboehm Key  Topics The importance of speaking out on societal issues The role of men's groups in accountability Understanding power dynamics and morality Addressing child trafficking and sexual misconduct Living with integrity and responsibility Chapters 00:00 Reconnecting After Six Years 01:25 Taking a Stand Against Injustice 05:51 The Political Nature of Abuse 11:26 Self-Reflection and Accountability 18:47 Civilization vs. Uncivilization 32:06 Understanding Power Dynamics 32:34 The Nature of Power 35:17 Understanding Power Dynamics 40:47 The Ethics of Power 46:49 Accountability and Growth 53:05 The Importance of Sharing and Community

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The Challenger Podcast helps you show up authentically and navigate modern dating where texting, social media and dating apps have become the way people connect and communicate. Each week, I interview dating experts and real life daters is to share what authentic dating can look like for you in these modern times. New episodes and live recordings every other week to find your ideal relationship through the Enneagram, attachment theory and core energy dynamics. Subscribe and leave a rating and review today so that you never miss an episode and connect with me on Tiktok @dave.glaser for a candid look at modern dating.

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  • Creator
    Dave Glaser
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    134
  • Rating
    Explicit
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