The Mitten Dad Show

Matt Tilmann
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The Mitten Dad Show is a podcast about bringing you some of the best headlines in finance, tech, and more with a Midwest touch. Along with personal and other stories from others about being a Dad and a parent in our current times. mittendad.substack.com

  1. Sep 10

    Why you can't switch off after work

    You shut the laptop. The screen goes black. But the meeting is still running in the back of your head, talking to nobody. If you’ve ever sat down to dinner still inside the workday, answered your kids in the polite, distracted voice you’ve been using on adults since 8 a.m., or snapped at someone over a dish in the sink and wondered where that came from, this episode is for you. In this short episode of The Mitten Dad Show, I walk through why the day follows you home, what the commute used to quietly do for us, and a 2-minute ritual that rebuilds the boundary your evening is missing. No app. No timer. Nothing you have to defend at a committee hearing. What you’ll learn * Why shutting the laptop doesn’t actually end the workday for your brain * The “airlock” the commute used to be, and what we installed in its place (nothing) * The one word that explains the tab left open in your head after work * Why 3 breaths work better than 1 or 10, and why it’s not about relaxing * A 2-minute ritual you can run on a Thursday that’s gone completely sideways * Why it’s okay that some nights it still won’t work Resources mentioned * Read the full essay this episode was based on. * Mem — AI notes built for the brain dump you’re too tired to sort. Get 20% off your first 3 months of Pro with code MITTENDAD (https://mem.ai/?via=matthew) * Eden — a personal AI assistant to help you organize the mess without handing the final call to a machine. Free to try. Try it tonight Shut the computer for real → three breaths → stand up and head upstairs. If your kids are watching, name it: “This is me coming home.” Then tell me how it went. What did that first dinner-table moment feel like? Reply to this episode or drop a comment below. Share it with some who needs it Know someone who keeps carrying the meeting up the stairs? Send this to them before 5 p.m. Key topics * In this episode, Matt explains why the commute used to function as a buffer between work and home, giving your brain time to equalize before family life began. * He introduces the idea of attentional residue, the feeling of part of your mind still sitting at your desk after you have logged off. * Matt describes the cost of skipping a transition ritual: bringing meeting energy into dinner, snapping over small things, and staying mentally braced for email. * The core shutdown system is three steps: * Shut the computer for real * Take three slow breaths * Physically move across a boundary, such as standing up, heading upstairs, or stepping into another room * He emphasizes that the goal is not relaxation, but a clear signal to the nervous system that work is done for now. * Matt suggests dumping half finished tasks somewhere outside your head before you stand up, so you are not carrying them into the evening. * He notes that if kids are nearby, seeing the ritual can help them understand the transition and what it means. * He also acknowledges imperfect evenings, when work is not fully finished and the ritual has to work in reverse or be shortened. * The episode closes with a practical challenge: try the two minute handoff tonight and notice what the first dinner table moment feels like. Timestamps 00:00 - Why the end of the workday deserves its own ritual00:34 - The cost of skipping the transition between work and home01:03 - The commute as a forgotten airlock01:32 - How the drive used to reset your identity02:00 - Why work from home removed the natural buffer02:59 - Attentional residue keeps the day open in your head03:27 - Why small home frustrations hit harder after work03:57 - Step 1: Close the computer for real04:26 - Dump the scraps before you stand up05:22 - Step 2: Three breaths as a deliberate shutdown signal05:52 - Why breathing works better as a reset than as relaxation06:21 - Step 3: Cross a physical boundary06:50 - Let kids see the transition and hear it named07:18 - What to do when work follows you upstairs anyway07:44 - Using the ritual in reverse when the day is not done08:12 - What to do on nights when the transition is partial08:42 - Tools Matt uses to reduce mental load09:08 - Try the handoff tonight and notice the difference09:36 - Closing encouragement Notable quotes * “The commute was that a deliberate pause between two versions of you.” * “Part of your brain stays at the desk long after your body leaves it.” * “Three is enough to trigger what researchers call an orienting response.” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    Why you can't switch off after work

  2. Jun 3

    Ikigai Is Not a Venn Diagram: What the Japanese Concept Actually Means

    You've seen the four-circle ikigai diagram everywhere — on LinkedIn, in self-help books, in productivity courses. What you probably haven't heard is that it has almost nothing to do with the original Japanese concept. In this episode, Matt Tilmann breaks down what ikigai actually meant to the Okinawan elders who inspired the global bestseller, and why the version most creators are using is pointing them in the wrong direction. If you've ever hit a goal and felt nothing, this episode is for you. Three low-stakes experiments to find your real ikigai this week — no diagram required. What You'll Learn Why the ikigai Venn diagram is a Western career framework, not Japanese philosophyWhat Okinawan elders actually described as their ikigaiThe "compass vs. map" distinction that reframes how you think about purposeWhy creators without a daily practice keep chasing algorithm shiftsThree practical experiments to discover your ikigai this weekResources Full newsletter issue + free 8-question ikigai starter PDF: https://mittendad.substack.com/p/what-ikigai-really-meansIkigai AI Prompt Pack ($9): https://mittendad.gumroad.com/l/ikigai-ai-prompt-packIkigai by Héctor García & Francesc Miralles: https://amzn.to/4xmJPRoThe 5 Types of Wealth by Sahil Bloom: https://amzn.to/4e6wJPfSponsors Mem Pro — AI-powered notes that learn how you think. 20% off your first three months with code MITTENDAD: https://mem.ai/?via=matthew Eden — Personal AI assistant for busy people juggling work, side projects, and family. Free trial: https://eden.so?via=matt52 Connect Newsletter: https://mittendad.substack.com All links: https://linktr.ee/mittendad If this episode hit home, leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen — and share it with a creator friend who needs to hear this. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    Ikigai Is Not a Venn Diagram: What the Japanese Concept Actually Means

  3. May 6

    Your Brain Was Never Supposed to Hold All of This

    Your brain isn’t broken. It’s just doing a job it was never designed for. In this episode of The Mitten Dad Show, I walk through Calm Infrastructure: a 4-step system for getting mental clutter out of your head and into a structure that actually holds it. Capture, Reduce, Schedule, Protect. There’s also a free Weekly Reset Template in the show notes if you want to run the 20-minute version tonight. Take care of yourselves. Matt This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    Your Brain Was Never Supposed to Hold All of This

  4. May 6

    How to Clear Mental Clutter: A 4-Step System for an Overwhelmed Mind

    You muted the group text but kept mentally checking it. You accepted a calendar invite two months ago because Future You seemed capable.  Now it's Friday, and your brain still has 37 tabs open. That's mental clutter — the invisible kind. You can't donate it or shove it in a closet. And it's exhausting, even when it looks completely normal from the outside. In this episode, I walk through Calm Infrastructure — a four-step system for getting mental clutter out of your head and into a structure your life can actually use. No perfect app required. What you'll learn: Why your brain is terrible at storage — and what it's actually built forThe difference between being busy and having attention with no homeThe four moves: Capture, Reduce, Schedule, ProtectWhy "later" is where tasks go to grow teeth — and how to fix itHow to rebuild your morning so you start from ownership, not reactionA 20-minute reset you can do right after this episodeTimestamps:  00:00 — Mental clutter: the invisible kind  01:30 — Why discipline isn't the problem — load is  02:24 — Your brain is terrible at storage  03:45 — Step 1: Capture  05:10 — Step 2: Reduce  07:00 — Step 3: Schedule  09:13 — Step 4: Protect  10:45 — Rebuilding your morning  12:30 — The 20-minute reset walkthrough Resources: Weekly Reset TemplateRead the full article: Calm as Infrastructure on Mitten Dad MinuteIf this episode helped, leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts or tap the rating on Spotify. On YouTube, like and subscribe. What's the loudest piece of mental clutter in your week right now?  Drop it in the comments, or send a message to me here.  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    How to Clear Mental Clutter: A 4-Step System for an Overwhelmed Mind

  5. Apr 27

    What Your Last Trip Is Trying to Tell You

    We got back from Chicago earlier this month, and I couldn't shake a feeling I didn't expect: clarity. Not about the trip. About my regular life. In this episode, I talk about why travel feels so alive, why most of us let that feeling disappear by Monday, and three questions that can turn any trip into something more useful than a photo album. If you've ever come home and felt that quiet deflation of re-entry, this one's for you. Before you close this tab, answer one question in the comments: what's one thing from the last trip you wish you'd kept? I read every response. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

  6. Apr 27

    What Travel Reveals About the Life You Actually Want

    Travel isn’t just about seeing new places — it’s about experiencing a different version of yourself.  In this episode, Matt explores how travel temporarily clears mental clutter and reveals what we’re missing in daily life, offering practical questions to carry insights from trips into everyday routines. Key topics: The science behind the “vacation effect”: reducing cognitive load, digital intrusion, and role fatigueHow novelty activates dopamine and sharpens memory, making trips memorableThe importance of presence: how being fully in the moment reveals what truly mattersPersonal insights from Matt’s spring trip to Chicago: patience, slowing down, and missing the noiseThree honest questions to transform travel lessons into lasting habits:What felt good that I want more of at home?What disappeared that I can let go of?What small change can I implement now?Avoiding the trap of turning trips into fleeting memories; instead, using them as clues for intentional livingResources & Links: Oliver Burkeman - 4000 WeeksReadwise ReaderMitten Dad Minute NewsletterConnect with Matt: Linktree This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    What Travel Reveals About the Life You Actually Want

  7. Mar 10

    Why Your Chaos Is an Infrastructure Problem

    If your days feel chaotic, it might not be a discipline problem — it might be an infrastructure problem. In this episode, we break down why chaos is really a systems failure, and what it takes to build calm back into your workflow. Key Topics Why context switching costs more than you think (40% of productive time lost; 23 minutes to recover from a single interruption)The Calm Infrastructure Stack: 5 compounding changes that reduce frictionHow externalizing cognitive load changes your creative capacityWhy defining your "on" hours is the highest-leverage infrastructure move most people skipKey Takeaways Calm is the operational setup. The work follows from it.One consolidated system eliminates more friction than any productivity hack.Space between tasks isn't wasted time — it's what makes the next task possible.Chaos isn't a character flaw. It's a systems problem. And systems problems are fixable.Resources Full essay: Calm as Infrastructure — Mitten Dad MinuteGet 20% off Mem Pro for three months with promo code MITTENDAD! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mittendad.substack.com/subscribe

    Why Your Chaos Is an Infrastructure Problem

  8. 05/14/2025

    The 10-Minute Reset That Saves My Sanity

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    The 10-Minute Reset That Saves My Sanity
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The Mitten Dad Show is a podcast about bringing you some of the best headlines in finance, tech, and more with a Midwest touch. Along with personal and other stories from others about being a Dad and a parent in our current times. mittendad.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Matt Tilmann
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    60
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Matt Tilmann
  • Show Website
    The Mitten Dad Show