The Hopeful Humanist Cafe

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Welcome to The Hopeful Humanist Cafe where I explore ideas in flow about the ”Good Life” and helpful resources to put in one’s mindfulness toolbox

  1. 07/10/2025

    Episode 87 - Drift

    Welcome to The Hopeful Humanist Cafe. In this one-take, unedited episode, I look at this thing I call "Intrapersonal Drift" and the eight dynamic questions of self. If someone has drifted from one's self, how can one come back to one's self? I look at just one of many possible options. Maybe it will work for you! In the episode, I share ideas from Henry David Thoreau, Gabor Mate, Brene Brown, Steven Covey, Sue Johnson, Scott Barry Kaufman, and Stephen Hayes (Founder of ACT).  If you're on a journey toward better self-care and wellness, the Hopeful Humanist suggests exploring a variety of free online resources that can be tremendously supportive (Resources and summary complied with the help of Copilot): Anxiety Canada: MindShift CBT App: A free, science-based app that uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques to help manage anxiety. My Anxiety Plan (MAP): Step-by-step online courses for anxiety management tailored for children, teens, adults, and educators. Group Therapy: Online group therapy sessions providing support and tools to cope with anxiety. Action for Happiness: 10 Keys to Happier Living: Practical resources and tools based on the latest research to help improve well-being. Daily Actions: The website offers daily actions and challenges to help users incorporate positive habits into their lives. Community Support: Join groups and participate in events to connect with like-minded individuals and build a sense of belonging. CAMH (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health): Free Online Tutorials: A series of tutorials on various mental health topics, providing accessible and reliable information. Research and Innovation: Leading-edge research and innovation in mental health and addiction, contributing to better treatments and understanding. Comprehensive Resources: A wide range of resources, including brochures, booklets, and assessment tools, available to patients, families, students, and professionals. These websites are worth checking out, and everyone can decide for themselves whether they find them helpful and recommend them to friends.   Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or whatever platform you use. Simply go to the show's page, find the review section, and share your thoughts. Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and continue to grow our positive community. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    1h 6m
  2. 11/24/2024

    Episode 86 - Making a pitch for Generation Nexus

    Welcome to a windy day walk alongside the might Saugeen River near Denny's Dam in southern Ontario. In this episode, I cast an idea that I hope might catch your interest! Here, I propose a different name than the placeholder name Generation Beta for the generation after Gen Alpha. Who wants to be second to anyone else? For the next generation, that still has of yet to step onto the scene, I propose the name "Generation Nexus" (2025 to 2039), a generation that will have to figure out what is real and what is true. It is important that we ACT to support this upcoming generation navigate a world that in a decade or so will probably be unrecognizable! Thank-you: Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    18 min
  3. 08/22/2024

    Episode 85 - Effort

    Join me in episode 85 where I talk about hopes best companion effort! There are four directions we can apply effort for our wellness. A starting point is to ask the questions: 1) Why do I say what I say when I say it? and 2) Why do I do what I do when I do it? These questions allow one to "get conscious" so we can start to think about the different directions we can start to apply deliberate effort.  Defining the term:  "Effort is defined and expressed in so many different ways: exertion, perseverance, courage, self-discipline, diligence, consistency, patience - the words seem almost endless. Because we all have different spiritual paths, we are going to be called upon to exert different kinds and degrees of effort. What looks easy for one person is difficult for another," page 266 from Awaking The Buddha Within.  Resource Highlight:  1) "Awakening The Buddha Within," by Lama Surya Das. In the section on Meditation Training, the reader is introduced to the sixth step to enlightenment, 'Right Effort.'  Click here for the link to the book - Awakening the Buddha Within: Tibetan Wisdom for the Western World: Das, Lama Surya: 9780767901574: Amazon.com: Books Related Episodes: 1) Episode 84 - Hope and Openness for Healing and Recovery | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe Novel First Sentence Idea: "It could've been otherwise; it always can be otherwise." Thank-you: Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    16 min
  4. 04/01/2024

    Episode 84 - Hope and Openness for Healing and Recovery

    Welcome to another episode of The Hopeful Humanist Cafe. In this episode I attempt to tie a number of threads together from some of the pitfalls of self-care to the importance of hope, openness, and compassion for a healing or recovery journey.  Quotes: 1) "Hope" is the thing with feathers - That perches in the soul - And sings the tune without the words - And never stops - at all -   And sweetest - in the Gale - is heard - And sore must be the storm - That could abash the little Bird That kept so many warm -   I’ve heard it in the chillest land - And on the strangest Sea - Yet - never - in Extremity, It asked a crumb - of me.                               - Emily Dickinson   2) “It's always something, to know you've done the most you could. But, don't leave off hoping, or it's of no use doing anything. Hope, hope to the last!” ― Charles Dickens, Nicholas Nickleby Wellness Resources: 1) Action of Happiness - Click this link to access the webpage Happier Kinder Together | Action for Happiness 2) Anxiety Canada - Click this link to access the webpage Anxiety Canada | Self-help Resources, Programs & Services 3) CAMH - Click this link to access the webpage The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health | CAMH Related Episodes: 1) Episode 1 - The Happier Quest | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe 2) Episode 6 - Standing up to Anxiety and Confronting the Absurd | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe 3) Episode 67 - Expanding the dashboard: Covid-19, mental health and substance use | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe Thank-you: Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. Looking ahead, I've got some exciting episodes in the pipeline, covering a variety of topics aimed at enhancing our understanding of the world, ourselves, and how we can cultivate a fulfilling and balanced life. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    36 min
  5. 12/16/2023

    Episode 83 - Pickleball Etiquette as an Allegory for Life

    In this episode, I provide articles for listeners to access who might be interested in learning the unwritten rules of etiquette for Pickleball. I then suggest that pickleball itself might be the meaning of life and offer ideas about what might constitute the good life.  Quote: 1)  "Pickleball is cheaper than therapy" - unknown  2) "Pickleball is the meaning of life -- why not?" - Hopeful Humanist 3) Here are some from Pickleball Peeps. Click here: Pickleball Quotes - Pickleball Peeps (pickleball-peeps.com) Resources: 1) Pickleball in Canada - January 2023 Survey: PICKLEBALL IN CANADA – JANUARY 2023 SURVEY – Pickleball Canada 2) Pickleball Canada: Pickleball Canada – Advancing Pickleball for All, for Life! 3) What is rally point? Pickleball Rally Scoring: How It Works & Why To Give It a Try! – Pickle Geeks 4) What is Mortimer Pickleball? Can More Than Four Play Pickleball At Once? - Monmouth Area Pickleball (monmouthpickleball.org) About the rules 1) The Unwritten Rules of Pickleball – Selkirk Sport 2) Pickleball Etiquette: 19 Unspoken Rules for Newcomers – Paddletek Pickleball 3) Sportsmanship Guide | USA Pickleball Thank-you: Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. Looking ahead, I've got some exciting episodes in the pipeline, covering a variety of topics aimed at enhancing our understanding of the world, ourselves, and how we can cultivate a fulfilling and balanced life. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    49 min
  6. 11/18/2023

    Episode 82 - Getting right with being wrong

    How well do you do with managing being wrong? Are you able to recognize internally when you are wrong? Are you able to acknowledge being wrong and take ownership for your thoughts and actions? Is there a difference between being wrong and making a mistake? Join me in this tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about one thread of the so many conversations that could take place on being wrong.  At the end of the main podcast discussion, I have included some bonus material. First, a quick poem by William Blake recited by Danielson and then a thought about a way of making the conversation about being wrong relevant to Dawn (See episode 79 - Locating Dawn).   Quotes:  "People who care more about being right than ending right prove just how wrong they were all along." (Lysa Terkeurst) "When Frog got up one morning, he realised at once that something was wrong with the world. Something had changed." (Max Velthuijs, Frog in Winter) Resources: 1) Do you agree with Scott - Is there a difference between making a mistake and being wrong? Read this short article and see what you think: “I Was Wrong” vs “I Made a Mistake” – Scott Cochrane 2) Here is an additional thought from a person named Steve. Read his short article and see where you land: Wrong or a mistake? — The Steven Thompson Experience Novel First Sentences & Journal Prompts:  This part of the show notes is non-sequitur in nature. It has nothing to do with the topic addressed in this episode. It is part of project to inspire creativity for aspiring writers. I offer these sentences as possible points of inspiration for others to take and make their own for either a novel or a prompt for a journal entry.  Below, Banksy captures the spirit in a quote: "I still encourage anyone to copy, borrow, steal and amend my art for amusement, academic research or activism." Banksy 1) My papa was the unpublished author of the unwritten book, "Not a fairy tale at the branches of bliss." In its substance, it was .....................elusive! 2) It was the Black Friday before the Black Friday of the American Black Friday. Everyone was tickled dizzy with thoughts about how much green they would save. Can't wait for Cyber Monday.   3) Barry's painful pickle-ball groin injury turned going to the toilet into a very crappy experience.    4) I decided to play hooky today and go fishing with my son.  All we caught was the sunrise. That was enough.   5) Brad (cursing): That guy makes me so angry I could punch the wall!!!     Sue the therapist (in a kind voice): What if you could do something to make your button smaller?   6) I never used to like fried eggs and now I have an iPhone 12.   7) The book felt happy. How could it be otherwise? - another dog-eared page, another scribbled thought in the margin, and another sentence highlighted in yellow! 8) 2080, virtual library, 40 degrees C     Avatar-j (Jacob): Can I get Civil Disobedience by Henry David Thoreau?     AI Assistant: Sorry, it is not currently in circulation.     Avatar-j (Jacob): It's not circulation? Since when? It is an America Classic! Is it banned because of the protests?     A.I. Assistant: Absolutely not! It's just not published anymore for circulation. 9) Brook thought, 'With both sides of the aisle taking books permanently off the shelves, what will be left to read?' 10) The thought took hold of Jack and then he had something to say. Related Episodes: 1. Episode 79 - Locating Dawn, Activating Empathy | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe 2. Episode 44 - "What if ..." - The Optimist Edition | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe 3. Episode 13 - Ingredients of an Apology: Valuing Relationships | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe 4. Episode 12 - Difficult Conversations | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe Salutations: Thank you so much for joining me once again for another tip-of-the-iceberg conversation about the good life, ideas in flow, and resources for mental and physical wellness. I hope these discussions leave you feeling inspired, thoughtful, and ready to embrace the world with a positive mindset. Your company on this journey means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you who tunes in. If you have any feedback, suggestions, or know of any online resources that could benefit your community, please feel free to share them with me. You can reach out to me at athopefulhumanist@gmail.com. Your input is invaluable, and I'm always eager to hear your thoughts. Looking ahead, I've got some exciting episodes in the pipeline, covering a variety of topics aimed at enhancing our understanding of the world, ourselves, and how we can cultivate a fulfilling and balanced life. As we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to keep the conversation going. Share any newfound insights with friends, family, or anyone you think might enjoy the podcast. Let's create a ripple effect of positivity and thoughtful discussions. Peace, take care, be well, and share!

    44 min
  7. 10/25/2023

    Episode 81 - The Novel First Sentence & Journal Prompt Project

    Welcome to another unedited, blithering episode of the Hopeful Humanist Cafe. In this episode, I share with you a leisure project I have been experimenting with on X (formerly Twitter) and Minds.  I believe that everyone has within them one book to write. Having said that, however, it should be noted that writing is something that requires time, energy and talent. It is hard work.  Reluctantly, I have arrived at the realization that writing is not my wheelhouse.  I have a number of friends, Danielson included, that I think are very capable writers and I look forward to the possibility one day of reading a published work.  Although I am not able to bring to life a coherent book of sorts, I do have moments where I am struck by what I think could be a fairly decent first sentence for a book - perhaps your book. Quote: "I still encourage anyone to copy, borrow, steal and amend my art for amusement, academic research or activism." Banksy Novel First Sentences/Journal Prompts to share: 1. Sage desperately scrambled for some paper and a pen as she did not want to lose the thought. It was fading fast. 2. Bob thinks with the entirety of his body. Every thought pops with a gesticulation of accentuation.  3. "What was is no longer; what is has just begun." 4. Francis Luddite was the most avant-garde thinker in our group. We could not wait to see his new invention.  5. Looking up into the infinite night, Teri felt small but not alone. She realized: 'i am the cosmos. i and God are ONE.' 6. Passing by Janus, the man flicked his cigarette butt onto the sidewalk as if the world was his ashtray. Janus shook his head and thought: 'The crown of creation; the apex of evolution - sure.' 7. "Darius was feeling apoplectic with himself. He thought he should've known better."  8. Guy was an undiagnosed romantic of the provocateur type where life was exalted and mucky all at once.  9. "In his youth, Darius championed the truth - at all cost! When that became costly, he pursued peace. Now, years later, he just looks forward to a little kindness each and everyday."  10. "Life is not a fairy tale, but it is full of everything that makes one."  Resource links:  1) Link for "The Banksy Museum" in Barcelona located on Carrer Trafalgar, 34, 08010 Barcelona. Note in the Podcast, I suggested the permanent exhibit does not direct connection to the Banksy enterprise.  This is an assumption, and as it has been hard to garner any information about who is operating the venue, I am inclined to think I may be incorrect.  Below, I have included a link for more information about the Banksy exhibit in Barcelona and a link to Wikipedia as a first step (and only a first step) to learn more about the artist. Museu Banksy Museum : Banksy Exhibition in Spain (museobanksy.es)  Banksy - Wikipedia  Social Media Platforms: 1) X (Twitter) - Go to The Hopeful Humanist Cafe @HopefulCafe - For those interested, at an earlier point and time, I experimented with a personal project to write a story or short tweets called, "Off-Script Living."  It was an attempt to create a piece of Twitterature.  For now, it sits on the backburner.   2) Minds - Got to: The HopefulHumanist @hopefulhumanist - I am not convinced about this platform. Currently, I have stopped posting.    Thank-you for joining me for another tip of the iceberg conversation.    Peace, take care, be well & share!

    30 min
  8. 07/03/2023

    Episode 80 - Dreaming about the Hero’s Journey

    Salutations and welcome to episode 80 of the Hopeful Humanist Cafe. This episode starts with a question from Danielson about the Hero's Journey - How far must one travel from one's home before it is fair to call the experience a journey?  Can simply stepping outside one's door of one's home constitute a journey? Furthermore, can framing the challenge of "getting through" a physical or mental illness as a journey be helpful and empowering?  While pouring myself into a number of conversations with different souls, one night, in a dream, an answer (notice I did not say 'THE' answer) presented itself.  Listen to hear me share the dream and some tentative thoughts.  In the back ground, near the end of the conversation you will notice the sounds of life (birds singing, the pattering of rain, and some other outside sounds).  The episode ends with a thread-thought from Danielson about Dawn and the Hero's Journey.     T-shirt Idea: Thinking about the meaning of life (Thank-you Danielson - keep on singing)   Definitions - words need to mean something:   Journey: Definition: A journey refers to a long and often challenging passage or process, typically involving personal growth, exploration, or achievement of a specific goal. It involves embarking on a quest or undertaking a significant endeavor, which may be physical, emotional, or spiritual in nature. Example: "The Hobbit" by J.R.R. Tolkien. The main character, Bilbo Baggins, goes on a journey with a group of dwarves to reclaim their homeland from the dragon Smaug. Throughout the story, Bilbo encounters numerous obstacles, faces his fears, and undergoes personal transformation, ultimately emerging as a courageous and self-assured individual. Trip: Definition: A trip refers to a relatively short excursion or voyage taken for pleasure, leisure, or business purposes. It often involves visiting a specific destination or engaging in a specific activity, and is typically focused on enjoyment, relaxation, or gaining new experiences. Example: "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. The protagonist embarks on a trip across Italy, India, and Indonesia after a difficult divorce. The trip is centered around self-discovery, healing, and finding joy in life again. Through the various destinations and encounters along the way, the main character explores different cultures, indulges in culinary delights, and explores her spirituality. Vacation: Definition: A vacation refers to a period of time when an individual or a group takes a break from work or daily routines to relax, unwind, and engage in leisure activities. It often involves traveling to a different location or engaging in activities that bring pleasure and enjoyment. Example: "The Beach" by Alex Garland. The protagonist, Richard, takes a vacation to a secluded and supposedly idyllic beach in Thailand. However, as the story progresses, the vacation turns into a thrilling and unsettling experience as the characters confront challenges and conflicts in their pursuit of an idyllic paradise. Mission: Definition: A mission refers to a specific task, duty, or purpose assigned to an individual or a group, typically with a sense of importance, responsibility, or urgency. It often involves striving to achieve a particular objective or goal and may require dedication, commitment, and a clear sense of purpose. Example: "The Martian" by Andy Weir. The main character, astronaut Mark Watney, is left stranded on Mars after his crew mistakenly believes he died during a mission. The story follows Watney's mission to survive, overcome numerous obstacles, and find a way to communicate with Earth to ensure his rescue. His determination and resourcefulness in the face of extreme challenges exemplify the essence of a mission. Regarding the relationship between the word "journey" and Joseph Campbell's concept of the Hero's Journey, it is important to note that Campbell's work focuses on the underlying structure of myths and stories across cultures. The Hero's Journey is a narrative pattern that involves a hero undertaking an adventure or quest, facing challenges, undergoing transformation, and returning home with newfound wisdom or treasures. In Narrative Therapy, which is a psychotherapeutic modality, the term "journey" is often used metaphorically to describe the process of therapy itself. The therapeutic journey involves exploring one's life experiences, examining personal narratives, and working towards desired changes and personal growth. Narrative therapists aim to help individuals reframe their stories and create new narratives that promote healing, resilience, and well-being. The concept of journey in this context emphasizes the ongoing nature of therapy and the idea that change and growth are possible through the exploration of personal narratives. How far must one go from home before one can call it a journey?  The distance one must go from home for an experience to be considered a journey is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and cultural contexts. The concept of a journey is not solely defined by physical distance but encompasses the depth of personal growth, challenges faced, and the transformative nature of the experience. A journey can occur even within one's immediate surroundings or within the confines of their mind. It could be an inner journey of self-discovery, emotional exploration, or overcoming personal obstacles. In this sense, the distance traveled may not be measured in physical miles but in terms of the transformative impact on the individual. However, in a more traditional sense, a journey typically involves traveling a significant distance away from home. It often entails leaving one's familiar environment and venturing into new territories, whether it's exploring a different culture, undertaking an expedition, or embarking on a long-distance pilgrimage. The specific distance that qualifies as a journey can vary depending on cultural, societal, and personal factors. Ultimately, the essence of a journey lies in the process of growth, exploration, and transformation, rather than a specific distance traveled. It is the challenges faced, the lessons learned, and the personal evolution that define the essence of a journey, regardless of how far one may physically travel from home. OpenAI. (2023, June 3). "Write definitions for the words journey, trip, vacation and mission. Provide an example for each definition of a book that best captures the definition by referencing the challenge of the main character. Additionally, explore the relationship of the word journey as it relates to Joseph Campbell and Narrative Therapy, a psychotherapeutic modality." [Chat log]. Retrieved from https://www.openai.com Resources: South Korea Paying $500 to Young Shut-Ins so They'll Leave the House (insider.com) South Korea is paying 'lonely young people' $500 a month to re-enter society | CNN Related Episodes:  1) Episode 79 - Locating Dawn, Activating Empathy - Episode 79 - Locating Dawn, Activating Empathy | The Hopeful Humanist Cafe A Parting Salutations:  Thank-you for joining me for another meeting of the minds. As always, the conversation is ongoing and continuous.  If you enjoyed the episode, please write a review on Apple Podcasts so others can discover The Hopeful Humanist Cafe.    Peace, take care, be well, and share The Hopeful Humanist -

    40 min

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