How Married Are You?

Glen & Yvette Henry
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You may know Glen from Beleaf in Fatherhood where he gives a real life perspective of life as a stay at home parent. This podcast is an extension of his youtube series, where he & Yvette sit down on a weekly basis to share their parenting and marriage experiences as a unit.

  1. 1D AGO

    He’s Rebuilding His Life After Divorce…Should He Stay Single? #HMAY Ep. 280

    What do you do when you’re rebuilding your life after divorce… and wondering if you should do it alone? 💔➡️🏗️❤️ In Episode 280, a recently divorced listener writes in asking a vulnerable question: should he focus entirely on rebuilding himself — financially, emotionally, and spiritually — or should he actively pursue a relationship with someone who can help him build his life alongside him? 🤔 After separating in 2023 and finalizing his divorce in 2024, he’s been working nonstop to recover financially 💼. But now he’s wrestling with a deeper tension. Some people tell him to focus on his purpose and trust that the right person will come 🙏. Others point to stories of men whose wives helped shape and strengthen who they became. He’s wondering if it’s wise to stay focused on himself… or if partnership is part of the rebuilding process. We talk honestly about what healing after divorce really requires 🧠, why rebuilding your foundation matters before inviting someone else into your life 🧱, and the difference between needing someone to complete you versus finding someone who can refine and strengthen what already exists. We also explore the role of partnership in purpose, what it means to be a helper and be helped 🤝, and why self-development is not isolation — but preparation. Have you ever wrestled with whether to focus on becoming whole first… or trust that healing can happen alongside someone else? 💭 Resources & Links Buy Girl Scout Cookies from Anaya 🍪https://digitalcookie.girlscouts.org/scout/anaya778725 Release Rest Remain 📚https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Father Yourself First 📖https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 The Man the Moment Demands by Jason Wilson 📘https://amzn.to/4rRKh6p Yvette’s Email List ✉️https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙌https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Premarital Advantage 💍https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Black Men’s Meeting 🖤https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4 HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

    57 min

  2. FEB 11

    My Fiancée Doesn’t Trust Me Around Other Women

    What do you do when your partner’s “boundaries” start feeling like control? In Episode 279, a listener writes in about being engaged to a woman who reacts strongly anytime other women are around. On a group trip, she told him to keep his distance from one woman she believed was staring at him. When that same woman ended up sitting next to him in an Uber, his fiancée texted him to move his legs away from her. Later, after a group dinner where he made casual conversation, she told him he violated her boundaries just by speaking to her. He admits he has been dishonest in the past about women (though he says he has never physically cheated), and he understands that history has impacted trust. But now he feels anxious in public, avoids interactions with women altogether, and is wondering where the line is between respecting your partner’s boundaries and being managed by their insecurity. We talk about what boundaries actually are versus what control looks like, how trauma and betrayal can create hypervigilance, and why trust cannot be rebuilt through constant monitoring. We also get into shared responsibility in relationships, how to communicate about triggers without making your partner responsible for your internal turmoil, and why this has to be addressed before marriage, not after. Have you ever been in a relationship where “respect” started to feel like walking on eggshells? Resources & Links Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Yvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Black Men’s Meetinghttps://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4? Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

    50 min

  3. FEB 4

    I Keep Praying God Removes Him… But He’s Still Here #HMAY Ep. 278

    What do you do when you keep praying for God to remove someone… and they’re still here? In Episode 278, a listener writes in about dating a man who came in strong — intentional, consistent, saying all the right things, and claiming his goal was marriage and family. But once she finally became his girlfriend, the effort disappeared. No thoughtfulness. No intentional dates. Barely any engagement. He doesn’t ask questions, doesn’t remember what she shares, talks over her, talks down to her, and she’s left wondering if he’s even a kind person. What makes it harder is that it feels like no one in his world knows she exists — friends, family, everyone. She’s prayed and prayed for God to remove him if he isn’t meant for her… but instead of him leaving, they keep “working through it,” while going nowhere. Now she’s trying to discern whether this is God telling her to stay, or whether God has already shown her enough — and she needs to choose clarity, boundaries, and peace. We talk about the danger of over-spiritualizing what’s actually a decision, why you can’t keep letting someone’s indecision set the pace for your life, and what it looks like to stop waiting for a person to change when the reality is already loud. Have you ever stayed too long because you were waiting for God to make the exit obvious? Resources & Links Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Yvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Black Men’s Meetinghttps://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4? HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

    49 min

  4. JAN 27

    My Husband Turned MAGA and and I’m Struggling to Stay #HMAY Ep. 277

    What do you do when the person you married starts sounding like someone you never would’ve chosen? In Episode 277, a 21-year-old listener writes in about getting married at 19… and feeling like her husband is unrecognizable now 😔. They bonded over faith, culture, and shared values — even agreeing they’d never become “patriots.” But after he joined the military and found community in a new environment, she says his beliefs shifted hard. The jokes, the politics, the worldview, even the way he talks about people… it all feels like a different man 💔. Now she’s stuck between two real fears: staying and slowly losing herself 🫥, or leaving and grieving a marriage she thought would be godly and lasting 🕊️. She’s asking if it’s possible to raise kids in a home with split values, how to navigate someone you love when your convictions don’t match, and whether divorce is a wild thought… or a necessary one. We talk honestly about what it means to navigate deep value differences inside a marriage, how to move carefully when emotions are already high 🧠, and why you can’t pretend something this deep is “just politics.” 💬 Join the Conversation Have you ever had to navigate major value differences with someone you love? What helped you communicate without shutting down — or blowing up? Drop your thoughts in the comments 👇🏽 📚 Resources & Links Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Yvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Black Men’s Meetinghttps://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4? Big A## Calendarhttps://bit.ly/4rkZIE7 HMAY Amazon Storefronthttps://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US ❤️ If this helped you, like the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating marriage, identity shifts, and hard conversations.

    59 min

  5. JAN 21

    The One That Got Away…Is Back #HMAY Ep. 276

    Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap? In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afraid she’s been living more in fantasy than reality. They’re long-distance, both navigating ADHD, and she’s trying to rebuild her faith while also wanting a partner who can lead spiritually — without performing faith just to keep her. So the real question becomes: is love and safety enough to take the risk, or is this a distraction that could derail her growth? We talk about how to move forward with wisdom, how to check your “sober mind” when you’re already emotionally invested, and why you can’t keep someone in your life as a permanent what-if. ✨ What You’ll Hear Izzy’s letter to Glen after Sydney’s passing (bring tissues) Release Rest Remain update + the YouVersion Bible reading plan Listener email: the long-distance “what if” friendship turning serious ADHD, consistency, and what love looks like in real life Faith alignment, spiritual leadership, and moving with a sober mind Why “love is a risk” — and how to take it wisely Parenting + marriage questions: balance, devotionals, and real-life routines 💬 Join the Conversation Have you ever carried a “what if” relationship for years?What helped you decide to risk it — or finally let it go? ❤️ If This Helped You Like the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating long-distance love, boundaries, and faith alignment. 📚 Resources & Links Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1 Patreon Communityhttps://www.patreon.com/HMAY Yvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list The Biggest Story Affiliate links mentioned in this episodehttps://bit.ly/3Lx0Ipbhttps://bit.ly/4qz1IIZhttps://bit.ly/3NDgUG1 HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-US

    52 min

  6. JAN 13

    I Want Friends, He Wants Peace #HMAY Ep. 275

    In this episode, we talk honestly about something we’re still learning how to navigate in our own marriage: celebration, hosting, and friendship. We unpack a real disagreement between us — one where gathering people, creating moments, and hosting feels meaningful and necessary to one of us, while the other experiences those same moments as pressure, disruption, and emotional overload. Neither of us is wrong, but the tension between those needs has shown up more than once over the years. We share what that conflict actually looked like, how it connected to deeper questions about friendship, emotional capacity, and being known, and what it took for us to repair without one of us shrinking or the other feeling dismissed. This conversation is about learning each other again, choosing honesty over peacekeeping, and figuring out how to stay connected without losing yourself in the process. Resources & Links Release Rest Remain https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Yvette’s Email List https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-list Release Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646 Father Yourself First https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 Audiobook Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available. Premarital Advantage Questions and worksheets for dating, engaged, and newlyweds https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT) Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1 Patreon Community Bonus conversations and behind-the-scenes content https://www.patreon.com/HMAY Join the Conversation Do you and your partner experience celebration or hosting differently? Have you ever realized you were arguing about something deeper than what was on the surface? If This Helped You Like the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating recurring tension, friendship shifts, or emotional capacity in marriage.

    58 min

  7. JAN 7

    Married, Lonely, and Afraid to Talk About It #HMAY Ep. 274

    In this episode of How Married Are You, we respond to a listener email from a newly married wife who’s quietly struggling with loneliness. Between long work hours, late nights, exhaustion, and limited time together, she’s worried this season might become their new normal — and she doesn’t want to come across as ungrateful or like a nag for wanting more connection. We talk honestly about marriage seasons, why hard rhythms don’t automatically mean something is wrong, and how to tell the difference between a temporary grind and a deeper issue. Glen and Yvette share what they would do differently if they could revisit similar seasons in their own marriage, and why how you show up now impacts the seasons ahead. This conversation covers: How to survive a lonely season in marriage Communicating needs without resentment Why seasons change (even when they feel endless) Staying connected when schedules don’t align Building support and community outside your spouse If you’re married and wondering, “Is this just a season — or is this our forever?” this episode is for you. Resources & Links Order the book: Father Yourself First https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555] Order the book: Release • Rest • Remain https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO](https://a.co/d/ihBmSdO Audiobook: Listen to Glen read Father Yourself First wherever audiobooks are available. Premarital Advantage: Questions and worksheets for dating, engaged, and newlyweds https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT): Join the Father Meet-Up on Zoom https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1 Patreon Community: Access bonus conversations and behind-the-scenes content [https://www.patreon.com/HMAY](https://www.patreon.com/HMAY)

    34 min

  8. 12/31/2025

    Young Thug Thinks Therapy Makes Him “Less of a Man”

    Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations after every podcast. In this Patreon vault episode, Glen and Yvette unpack a viral and troubling clip where Young Thug admits he would feel “less of a man” if his partner went to therapy. From there, the conversation widens into a powerful discussion about ego, control, emotional safety, and why discouraging therapy is a major red flag — not masculinity. They talk honestly about why no one person can (or should) be everything for their partner, the importance of having trusted people outside your relationship, and how healthy love actually encourages growth rather than isolating it. Glen shares why leaning on close friends and therapy has been essential for him, and Yvette reflects on why that support doesn’t threaten marriage — it strengthens it. The episode also touches on friendships, safe spaces, healing masculinity, and how parenting (especially raising a daughter) sharpens awareness around emotional health and self-worth. This conversation is candid, thought-provoking, and grounding — especially for anyone navigating relationships, mental health, or redefining strength and support. 👉 Join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations and exclusive content:www.patreon.com/HMAY

    16 min
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About

You may know Glen from Beleaf in Fatherhood where he gives a real life perspective of life as a stay at home parent. This podcast is an extension of his youtube series, where he & Yvette sit down on a weekly basis to share their parenting and marriage experiences as a unit.

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  • Creator
    Glen & Yvette Henry
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    279
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Glen & Yvette Henry
  • Show Website
    How Married Are You?

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