Empower Students Now

Amanda Werner

Amanda has been a passionate full time classroom teacher for 16 years. She’s worked in a wide range of educational settings teaching students grades 3rd-8th. Amanda worked for a Title I, charter, magnet, and National Blue Ribbon school and now she homeschools her twice exceptional daughter.No matter what type of school or grade she’s taught, engaging and empowering students has always been at the forefront of her work as an educator and teacher author.Amanda understands that helping students find their voice is core to being an effective teacher and social justice advocate.Even with a teacher willing to listen, there are many barriers that exist and hinder movement towards more equitable schools. Amanda has experienced first hand the many problems that exist in K-12 education. Listening to students is only the first step on a long road ahead. Amanda’s website, courses, lesson resources, and podcast are dedicated to supporting teachers and students in this important work for change.

  1. 6d ago

    Your Nervous System Is Your Best Classroom Management Tool: A Regulation Guide for Teachers (Part 3)

    Your nervous system is the classroom's nervous system. That's the central idea of this episode — and the reason Amanda Werner saved the classroom for last in this three-part series. You can't regulate a room full of students from a dysregulated body, and no reward chart, consequence structure, or behavior tracking system will do for your students what a calm, grounded adult in the room can. In the final episode of the nervous system regulation series on the Empower Students Now podcast, Amanda brings everything together: the self-regulation tools from Part 1, the co-regulation principles from Part 2, and now the practical classroom applications that make it all work. She also takes on the growing backlash against gentle teaching/parenting and trauma-informed practices head-on, arguing that understanding the nervous system isn't permissive — it's what makes structure actually function. In this episode, you'll learn: The central principle: regulation moves outward. You → your family → your classroom. You cannot give what you don't have, which is why this series had to start with youWhy your nervous system sets the tone before you've even taken attendance — and how students read your body language, voice, and tension at an unconscious levelAmanda's honest reflection on her own dysregulation as a teacher: masking stress with high energy, overcompensating with intensity, and crying in the bathroom between periodsThe two-minute pre-classroom reset: breathing at your door, naming things in your environment, and the Sa Ta Na Ma chant to interrupt ruminating thoughtsVoice as a regulation tool: Why slowing down and getting quieter when the room gets loud is more effective than getting louder — and why whispering works with escalated students (it's physiological, not a "trick")Body as a regulation tool: How your posture, jaw tension, and movement speed signal safety or threat to every student watchingPredictability as a regulation tool: Why consistent routines, transition warnings, and predictable rule enforcement matter more for neurodivergent students than most teachers realizeSensory environment as a regulation tool: Walking into your room as if you're a new student — is it visually overwhelming? Harsh lighting? Cluttered? Small adjustments (lamps, dimmed lights, decluttering) directly affect nervous system activationPractical classroom rituals: morning meetings, five deep breaths before transitions, calming music during cleanup, timer warnings, regulation corners (not punishment corners), and end-of-period closing ritualsWhen a student is in crisis — a five-step response: (1) Regulate yourself first, (2) Use fewer words — "I'm here, you're safe, take your time," (3) Be present without crowding, (4) Protect the student's dignity in front of the class, (5) Repair and problem-solve together after the crisis passes Amanda addresses the "we've gotten too soft" argument directly: nervous system awareness doesn't replace structure — it makes structure work. Punishing a dysregulated student suppresses behavior temporarily but doesn't build self-regulation capacityThe honest caveat: none of this is easy, and Amanda doesn't pretend it is. Overcrowded classrooms, under-resourced schools, and unreasonable demands are real. But your nervous system is the one thing in your control.This is Part 3 of a 3-part series: Part 1: Regulating yourselfPart 2: Co-regulating with your familyPart 3 (this episode): Bringing regulation into your classroomIf you found this series helpful, share it with a teacher heading back to school this fall. And check out amandawritenow.com for new resources on social-emotional learning and neurodiversity-affirming behavior support.

  2. Jul 5

    Co-Regulation for Real Families: What Works, What Doesn't, and What I Learned the Hard Way

    You can't co-regulate with someone if you're dysregulated yourself. That's the single most important thing Amanda Werner has learned from years of parenting a neurodivergent child, navigating a marriage through an international move, and researching nervous system regulation as a lifelong special interest. In Part 2 of the nervous system series on the Empower Students Now podcast, Amanda breaks down what co-regulation actually means, what it looks like in a real family (not a textbook), and what you should absolutely stop doing because it makes everything worse. This isn't a clinical overview. It's Amanda sharing the strategies her family has actually used — from texting on Discord instead of talking face-to-face during conflict, to emailing her spouse when speaking would escalate things, to talking to her dog and her friend on Voxer when she needs to be the one who falls apart. If you're a teacher, parent, or partner who feels like the only regulated adult in the room, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll learn: What co-regulation actually means: one person's calm becomes a resource for another person's nervous system — it's not something you do to someone, it's something that happens when you're regulated firstWhy the airplane oxygen mask analogy is the most important concept in this entire series — you cannot help anyone from a dysregulated stateThe first and most powerful co-regulation strategy: stop talking. Talking during a meltdown almost always escalates the situation.What to say when you do speak: "Do you need space? What do you need? What can I do to help?" — questions, not solutionsWhy "calm down" never works and always makes things worse — and what to say insteadThe difference between taking space and giving the cold treatment — one is co-regulation, the other is punishment, and the line between them mattersWhy Amanda's family communicates through Discord and email during conflict — and why this works especially well for neurodivergent kids who need processing timeThe listening partner strategy from the book Listen: Five Tools for Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty Wipfler: how to set up a no-advice venting partnership with a friendThings that never work: matching someone's energy, problem-solving too soon, shaming, punishing, withdrawing completelyThings that do work: lowering your voice deliberately, offering water or tea, giving space and then coming back together to problem-solve later, humor, family signals for "I need time," and respecting each other's alone timeAmanda's real-life examples: her husband needing an hour of silence every morning, her tween who says "Why are you staring into my soul, mother?" when she makes eye contact, and how she Voxers a friend instead of talking to her husband before he's readyWhy rage rooms should be a family wellness categoryWhy families sometimes need outside support — therapy, community, listening partners — and that's not failure, it's wisdomBook discussed: Listen: Five Tools for Everyday Parenting Challenges by Patty WipflerThis is Part 2 of a 3-part series: Part 1: Regulating yourselfPart 2 (this episode): Co-regulating with your familyPart 3: Bringing regulation into your classroomIf you found this episode helpful, please share it with a fellow teacher, parent, or partner who feels like they're the only one trying to hold it all together.

  3. Jun 27

    I'm a Meditation Teacher Who Still Eats Doritos When She's Stressed: Nervous System Regulation for Real Life

    You can't regulate a classroom from a dysregulated nervous system. And you can't regulate a nervous system you don't understand. In Part 1 of a three-part series on the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Werner — a certified meditation teacher, 16-year classroom veteran, and AuDHD educator — breaks down what the nervous system actually is, what dysregulation looks and feels like, and what you can do about it right now, this summer, before the next school year begins. This isn't a polished self-care episode. Amanda opens with the admission that she still overeats Doritos when stressed, still blames others when she's dysregulated, and still forgets to meditate even though she's literally a meditation teacher. What she does have is a deep understanding of the science, years of personal research driven by her own neurodivergence, and a framework for noticing and responding to dysregulation that's practical enough to use in a school parking lot between classes. Content note: This episode discusses dysregulation, stress, chronic pain, substance use, and moments of personal crisis. If you're struggling, please reach out — in the US, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. In this episode, you'll learn: What the nervous system actually is and how it works: the autonomic nervous system, sympathetic (gas pedal) vs. parasympathetic (brake), and why your body runs in survival mode without asking your permissionThe difference between regulation and dysregulation — and why dysregulation isn't a failure, it's informationWhy neurodivergent people (ADHD, autism) are more susceptible to chronic dysregulation and what that means for neurodivergent teachers and studentsAmanda's personal signs of dysregulation: irritability, blaming others, ruminating, overworking, throat tightening, holding her breath, inability to sit stillThe longer-term warning signs that dysregulation has gone on too long: chronic pain, chronic illness, dysfunctional relationships, reliance on substances, and crisisWhy the word "self-care" is overused and meaningless without understanding the nervous system firstWhy summer break is the ideal time to investigate your own patterns — because the school year doesn't give you time to even noticeRegulation tools covered in this episode, organized by how much time you have: In the moment (seconds): Name it — say "I am dysregulated right now." Long exhales through your nose. Feel your feet on the floor. Drink cold water. Put cold water on your face. Choose not to speak.A few minutes (planning period, car ride): Cry if you need to. Step outside. Name five things you see. Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Stand up, pace, hum, shake your arms and legs.Extended time (end of day, summer): Body scan meditation. Walk in nature. Time with a pet. Transition rituals (shower, tea, pajamas). Journaling. Mantras to interrupt rumination ("I don't need to think about this right now").Amanda's real-time dysregulation story: missing a critical residency appointment in Montevideo because of a time zone error on Google Calendar, cussing in public, and choosing silence as a regulation toolThis is Part 1 of a 3-part series: Part 1 (this episode): Regulating yourselfPart 2: Co-regulating with your familyPart 3: Bringing regulation into your classroomIf you found this episode helpful, please share it with a teacher who's heading into summer and could use this reset.

  4. Jun 20

    I Moved to Uruguay: A Teacher's Honest First Month as an American Expat

    What happens when an American teacher who spent many years teaching English Language Development (ELD) students becomes an immigrant herself? In this deeply personal episode of the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Werner records from Uruguay — her new home — and shares the raw, unfiltered reality of her first month as an American expat in a Spanish-speaking country where she doesn't speak the language. This isn't a polished relocation guide. It's Amanda sitting in her echoey Airbnb (her microphone is floating across the Atlantic in a shipping container), talking to her dog and her computer about the culture shock, the grief of leaving her community, the tiny toilets, the life-changing produce, and the overwhelming experience of suddenly being the one who can't read labels, can't communicate with the car salesman, and can't find rainbow Goldfish anywhere. For teachers: this episode will fundamentally shift how you think about your ELD and immigrant students. For anyone considering a move abroad: this is what the first month actually feels like. In this episode, you'll learn: Why Amanda and her family left the Bay Area for Uruguay: the political catalyst, the two-year planning process, and the values that made Uruguay the right fitThe scouting trip that sealed the deal: what Amanda's family saw in December 2024 that convinced them this was homeWhy Uruguay stood out: the first country to legalize abortion and recreational marijuana, progressive LGBTQ+ rights, President Pepe Mujica's legacy, and the pride flags visible everywhereThe residency process: why they hired a local bilingual facilitator, the difference between temporary and permanent residency, and why Uruguay is considered one of the easiest countries to immigrate to in 2026The emotional cost of leaving: walking away from friendships built over years, the fear, the therapy, the journaling, and the conversations with her spouse about making the decision independentlyCulture shock in daily life: buying a stick-shift Suzuki Celerio using Google Translate, micro-sized everything (toilets, refrigerators, malls, Coke cups), no dryers, clotheslines everywhereThe food revelation: why Uruguayan produce tastes like candy compared to American grocery stores — and what you can't find (Tillamook cheese, cheap peanut butter, rainbow Goldfish)Walking in her ELD students' shoes: how being unable to read food labels, communicate at a dealership, or navigate grocery stores gave Amanda a visceral understanding of what her immigrant students experience every dayReversed seasons, deserted beaches, and the strange beauty of winter in the Southern HemisphereAmanda's new Instagram account @theculturedmom — a personal, non-growth-focused account documenting life in Uruguay for people who careThis episode is for Amanda's regular listeners who've been wondering where she went, for teachers who want a deeper understanding of the immigrant experience, and for anyone who's ever Googled "best countries to move to from the US" at 2 AM. If you found this episode helpful or just enjoyed the ride, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

  5. May 16

    The Damage Done — How Parent-Blaming and Compliance-Based Interventions Shaped Autism History (NeuroTribes for Teachers, Part 2)

    If Part 1 of this series was about what was lost in autism history, Part 2 is about what replaced it — and the damage it caused. In this episode of the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Warner continues her deep dive into Steve Silberman's NeuroTribes, tracing how Bruno Bettelheim's "refrigerator mother" theory blamed parents for their children's autism, how institutionalization tore families apart, and how Ivar Lovaas's Applied Behavior Analysis became the dominant — and deeply controversial — intervention for autistic children. Amanda doesn't just summarize history. As an AuDHD educator and parent of an autistic child, she connects every chapter to what's still happening in schools and families today — from teachers who assume meltdowns are the result of bad parenting, to the compliance-first mindset that still drives how we approach autistic students in classrooms, to the fact that ABA remains the only intervention most insurance providers will cover. Content warning: This episode discusses institutionalization, abusive therapeutic practices, and other emotionally difficult topics. Please listen when you feel ready. In this episode, you'll learn: Bruno Bettelheim and the Refrigerator Mother Theory: how one man's ideology — not science — blamed mothers for their children's autism and caused decades of shame, guilt, and family separationThe Orthogenic School: Bettelheim's controlling and abusive methods, and how he presented himself as a savior while doing harmWillowbrook and the era of institutionalization: how autistic people were warehoused in overcrowded, neglectful institutions — sometimes for their entire livesThe origins of ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis): how Ivar Lovaas developed compliance-based conditioning at UCLA in the 1960s, including early methods involving electric shocks, shouting, and physical forceWhy ABA's underlying philosophy — extinguish autistic behaviors to make children appear "normal" — conflicts with the strengths-based, humanizing approach Amanda advocatesAmanda's personal experience with ABA: the six months her family tried it, what she noticed immediately, and why she sees both its limitations and its potential benefitsBernard Rimland: the psychologist and father of an autistic son who debunked the refrigerator mother theory in 1964 — but also introduced controversial biomedical interventions that pulled families like the Rosas into expensive diet and supplement regimensARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake) and why sensory-based eating differences in autistic people are neurological, not behavioralWhy Amanda connects the refrigerator mother theory to what she still hears from teachers today: the assumption that a child's meltdown is the parent's faultWhat's still happening in 2026: "autistic classes" in public schools, the limitations of homeschooling laws internationally, and why ABA is still the only insurance-covered support for most autistic familiesBook discussed: NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve SilbermanAlso mentioned: Temple Grandin (film, starring Claire Danes)Infantile Autism by Bernard Rimland (1964)The Autism Society of AmericaThis is Part 2 of a multi-part series. Listen to Part 1 first for the story of Asperger vs. Kanner and how the narrow deficit model won out. Coming in Part 3: the evidence that autistic people have always been here, the evolution of the DSM, and extraordinary minds throughout history who were almost certainly on the spectrum. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a teacher, parent, or anyone who wants to understand how we got here — so we can do better for autistic students today.

  6. May 9

    The Hidden History of Autism — How a Broader Understanding of Autism Was Deliberately Buried (NeuroTribes for Teachers, Part 1)

    Why do so many misconceptions about autism still persist in our schools — even as we know more about autism than ever before? The answer is buried in history. In Part 1 of a multi-part series on the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Werner breaks down the riveting and heartbreaking history of how autism was first identified, researched, and defined — and how decisions made almost a century ago still shape how teachers see autistic students today. Drawing from Steve Silberman's landmark book NeuroTribes, Amanda traces the story of two researchers who defined autism in profoundly different ways — and explains why the broader, more humane vision was suppressed for over 50 years while the narrow, deficit-focused model became the foundation of everything we were taught. Content warning: This episode discusses eugenics, the Nazi regime's targeting of disabled children, and other emotionally difficult topics. Please listen when you feel ready. In this episode, you'll learn: The story of the Rosa family in Silicon Valley — and how their journey with their autistic son Leo reflects what so many families still experience navigating the school and mental health systems todaySteve Silberman's investigation into the "geek syndrome" in Silicon Valley: the pattern of brilliant, driven tech workers having children diagnosed with autismHans Asperger's clinic in 1930s Vienna: a remarkably progressive, strengths-based approach to autistic children that was decades ahead of its timeSister Victorine Zak: the forgotten nun who developed individualized, strengths-based educational methods for autistic children nearly a century agoHow Asperger saw autism as a broad spectrum — including both non-verbal children with high support needs and highly verbal, gifted children — and why that view was lostGeorge Frankl and Annie Weiss: the Jewish clinicians who escaped the Nazis with the help of Leo Kanner at Johns Hopkins — and brought Asperger's knowledge with themLeo Kanner's 1943 paper that defined autism as rare, severe, and devastating — a narrow framework that dominated for decades and led to generations of undiagnosed and misdiagnosed childrenThe "refrigerator mother" theory: how parent-blaming became embedded in autism research and the lasting damage it causedHow Kanner suppressed Asperger's broader framework — and why the deficit model won out over the strengths-based model in American children's psychiatryWhy this history still matters in your classroom today: when we see students as "too verbal" or "too social" to be autistic, that's Kanner's legacy at workBook discussed: NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve SilbermanStay tuned for Part 2, where Amanda will cover the history of ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) and the harmful interventions that grew out of this narrow framework. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a teacher, parent, or anyone who wants to understand how we got here — so we can do better.

  7. May 2

    Consequences Are Just Punishments With a New Name: A Different Approach to Student Behavior

    What if the next time a student lies, sneaks, or breaks a rule, instead of reaching for a consequence, you reached for a conversation?  In this episode of the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Werner shares a powerful reframe for how teachers and parents can approach misbehavior — one that prioritizes connection over compliance and treats behavior problems as signals, not crimes. Inspired by a real group text conversation with fellow moms about a child sneaking screen time and lying about it, Amanda walks through exactly what she said — and why her approach looks so different from the way most of us were raised. As a self-described rebel kid who was grounded constantly growing up and a teacher who spent 16 years working with "difficult" students, Amanda offers a perspective rooted in both personal experience and years of classroom practice. In this episode, you'll learn: Amanda's reframe: why misbehavior is a signal to have a real conversation, not a trigger for a consequenceWhy "consequences" is often just a rebranding of "punishments" — and why both can cause disconnectionHow to talk to a child who has broken your trust: sharing the real-world impact of dishonesty without shamingWhy asking for the child's perspective — "Why did you feel you needed to lie?" — changes everythingThe power of letting kids help determine their own consequences collaborativelyWhy the word "consequence" itself can be a shutdown trigger for some kidsHow to set boundaries and enforce rules while still leading with empathy and connectionAmanda's personal story of being a kid who stole, snuck out, and was punished constantly — and what she wishes adults had done differentlyInsights from the book "Good Inside" by Dr. Becky Kennedy: the premise that kids are good inside no matter what they doHow this reframe applies in classrooms: cheating, phone sneaking, defiance, and rule-breakingThis approach isn't about being permissive or letting kids walk all over you. It's about shifting from "how do I punish this?" to "what problem are we solving together?" — and building the kind of trust that actually changes behavior long-term. If you found this episode helpful, share it with a teacher, parent, or anyone navigating tough moments with kids. Visit amandawritenow.com for free tools and resources!

  8. Apr 25

    Self-Acceptance for Teachers: A Meditation Teacher's Honest Guide to Surviving End-of-Year Chaos

    What happens when a meditation teacher stops meditating — and decides that's okay? In this deeply personal episode of the Empower Students Now podcast, host Amanda Warner gets honest about the chaos of her life right now: selling a house, moving her family to Uruguay with a one-way ticket, packing up her entire life — and barely keeping up with her own self-care practices along the way. Rather than pretending she has it all figured out, Amanda shares the one mindset practice that's actually getting her through: self-acceptance. Not the polished, Instagram version. The real kind — where you accept the stress, the guilt, the skipped meditations, the unhealthy eating, the sleepless nights, and the tears that come up mid-sentence while recording a podcast episode in your car because your empty house echoes too much. If you're a teacher navigating end-of-year overwhelm, political anxiety, or just the weight of everything changing at once, this episode is a reminder that you can always take one breath — even when you can't do anything else. In this episode, you'll learn: What self-acceptance actually looks like in practice — especially when you're not practicing what you preachWhy a meditation teacher skipping meditation isn't failure — it's part of the practiceAmanda's life update: selling the house, one-way tickets to Uruguay, moving a dog and a cat internationally, and trying to say "Uruguay" in Spanish on airA simple self-acceptance practice you can do right now: place your hands on your heart, breathe, and say "I am aware"Why beating yourself up is an ingrained habit for women and teachers — and how to notice when you're doing itThe difference between self-care as a checklist and self-acceptance as a way of beingWhy crying is healthy, rest is productive, and you don't have to hold it all together to be okayA guided breathing moment to close the episode — because no matter how chaotic your life is, you can always take one breathThis episode is for every teacher who's white-knuckling it to summer break. You're going to be okay. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who needs to hear it right now.

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Amanda has been a passionate full time classroom teacher for 16 years. She’s worked in a wide range of educational settings teaching students grades 3rd-8th. Amanda worked for a Title I, charter, magnet, and National Blue Ribbon school and now she homeschools her twice exceptional daughter.No matter what type of school or grade she’s taught, engaging and empowering students has always been at the forefront of her work as an educator and teacher author.Amanda understands that helping students find their voice is core to being an effective teacher and social justice advocate.Even with a teacher willing to listen, there are many barriers that exist and hinder movement towards more equitable schools. Amanda has experienced first hand the many problems that exist in K-12 education. Listening to students is only the first step on a long road ahead. Amanda’s website, courses, lesson resources, and podcast are dedicated to supporting teachers and students in this important work for change.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Werner
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    127
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Empower Students Now
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