Soul-Shaking Love

Valerie Greene
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The more vibrant we become in Mind-Body-Spirit, the more magnetic and closer we become with our True Love. Relationship Expert Valerie Greene has coached people from all over the world on how to have the relationship of their dreams. She brings you interviews with top experts in the areas of mind, body, spirit, and relationship to unlock your ability to create Soul Shaking Love.

  1. Sep 28

    How Unhealed Trauma Shapes Your Love Life, and What Actually Helps

    Have you ever tried to support someone you love through something heavy, and felt like what you offered kept sliding past them? Or wondered whether the patterns in your own relationships trace back to something you've never quite had a name for? Trauma doesn't look one way. It varies from person to person and experience to experience, and that's exactly why so much well-meaning support misses. What overwhelms one nervous system may leave another untouched, and what you've never thought to call "trauma" may still be quietly running your closest relationships. That's why I loved this conversation with Scott Stolarick, a trauma-informed psychotherapist who has been practicing for 33 years. Scott thinks of trauma, and of people, as a mosaic: many small pieces, each with its own story, forming a picture that's unique to every one of us. When you understand how complex and personal trauma really is, you stop trying to support healing with a one-size-fits-all approach, and you start offering the kind of support that actually reaches the person in front of you. Here's what you'll get out of listening: - The journey that drew Scott to this work - How to recognize what you might be carrying, even if you've never called it "trauma" - Scott's "mosaic" way of understanding trauma and human beings - How unresolved childhood trauma tends to show up in adult romantic relationships - The nuances of dealing with sexual trauma - What's genuinely supportive when your partner is dealing with unprocessed trauma, and what can make things harder without meaning to - Why healing trauma isn't just personal work, it's relationship work too - The broad strokes of the healing path: what the first steps toward healing actually look like You can learn more about Scott at mosaicpathwaycounseling.org, and read the article he mentioned, "Trauma: The Complexity Within" (Huffington Post, 2017), here: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/trauma-the-complexity-within_b_58d55828e4b0c0980ac0e591 More about Scott Stolarick: Scott is a licensed, trauma-informed psychotherapist who has been practicing in Illinois for 33 years. He is a seasoned clinician as well as an experienced administrator and clinical supervisor, with Management and Leadership Certifications from the University of Notre Dame and Cornell University. Scott is the owner of Mosaic Pathway Counseling in Gurnee, Illinois.

  2. Aug 19

    What Open Relationships Can Teach Everyone About Honesty, Intimacy, and Repair

    What if the relationships that are considered unconventional could teach every couple the skills that matter most: honesty, boundaries, and the art of repairing after things go wrong? Every relationship, whatever its shape, runs on the same two engines: clear communication and the ability to come back together after a rupture. But most of us were never taught either one. We inherit our assumptions about love, we leave our expectations unspoken, and then we're surprised when misunderstandings pile up into distance. There's a paradox at the heart of it all: we long to be deeply connected AND fully ourselves, and nobody hands us the manual for doing both at once. That's why I was excited to talk with Candace Klein, a corporate executive, attorney, and relationship coach who focuses on emotional resilience and repair in all kinds of relationships. Candace is the author of Polyagony: The Art of Repair in Open Relating, and I'll be upfront with you: this conversation lives openly in the world of polyamory and other non-traditional relationships. Candace speaks from that world with articulate care and real-world stories from her own life.  If those relationship styles are far from your own life, I invite you to listen anyway, because the skills she describes are the ones every relationship runs on: honesty before the conflict, boundaries that actually hold (and what to do if they don't!), and communication clear enough that ruptures become doorways to deeper connection. Here's what you'll get out of listening: - The story behind Polyagony and Candace's own journey, and what it taught her about every relationship - The most common pitfalls when people open up, emotionally or structurally, and how to see them coming - Where relationships of every shape most often fall apart - The role clear communication plays in preventing misunderstandings before they start - Practical strategies for honesty and healthy boundaries you can use in any relationship - How to cultivate the emotional resilience that turns conflict into repair and repair into deeper intimacy - Grounded advice, and real hope, for anyone considering a major relational shift or renegotiation You can visit Polyagony to learn more about her book and download her free Group Dynamics ebook.  Candace’s Youtube channel is: www.youtube.com/@candaceklein9499 More about Candace Klein:  Candace Klein is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and transformational leader whose work spans finance, technology, and human development. Born in Cincinnati, Ohio, she graduated from the Salmon P. Chase College of Law and practiced law before founding and leading multiple mission-driven companies. She served as CEO of Bad Girl Ventures, a microfinance firm investing in female founders, and later founded Somolend, one of the first nationally available crowdfunding platforms. Through this work, Candace played a key role in shaping the JOBS Act, the legislation that made securities-based crowdfunding legal in the United States. Over the past fifteen years, Candace has served in senior executive and C-suite roles across venture-backed startups and global payments companies, including Chief Commercial Officer of Lynx, a healthcare payments company, and Senior Vice President of Embedded Finance at FIS, a global payments firm with more than 66,000 employees.  She is also the former co-author of Typhoon Honey: The Only Way Out Is Through, a book on emotional intelligence and transformational growth.  Today, Candace leads The Liberation Company, where she facilitates emotional intelligence, somatic healing, and identity-based workshops designed to support deep personal and collective transformation. She lives on Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with her husband Andrew, their son Ivar, and their two dogs, Pan and Cinde.

  3. Jul 22

    Shift Your Home, Shift Your Relationship

    What if the space you live in is quietly shaping the quality of your relationships, including with yourself? In this episode of Soul-Shaking Love, I sit down with conscious architect Talor Stewart to explore the powerful connection between our homes, our bodies, and our bonds.  Talor's work reveals what most of us never think about: that the physical layout of our living spaces can either promote co-regulation and connection or keep us stuck in low-grade fight-or-flight. Whether you're a homeowner, a renter, a couple, or single, this conversation will change the way you see every room in your home - and give you practical ways to set up your space to support the relationships that matter most. Here are some of the questions Talor answers in our interview:  1. The quality of our relationships is the number one predictor of happiness and longevity. If our homes are the containers for those relationships, what makes a home’s design "conscious"? 2. How can a home actively promote co-regulation between partners rather than constant low-grade stress? 3. You talk about giving, receiving, and reciprocal zones. What do those look like in practice, and how can we create all three - even in a small space? 4. What room is the heart of the home, and why? 5. Couples rarely argue in wide-open, peaceful spaces - friction tends to peak during chaotic transitions like the entryway. How can we design around that? 6. Open layouts like a studio apartment can force constant, unchosen proximity. How can singles and couples set up space for both togetherness and individual creative expression? If you want Talor’s free PDF download of the 5 Best Plants for Indoor Air Quality, it’s available on https://conscioushomedesign.com/ as an exit pop or people can email him directly with 5 plants in the subject and he’ll send that over (yes@conscioushomedesign.com) You can also email him for his relationship exercise as a PDF.  Here’s the link to his book: https://conscioushomedesign.com/book More About Talor Stewart: Talor Stewart is a licensed architect with over 25 years experience. His book Conscious Home Design has hit the #1 best seller list in 7 countries so far. Specializing in single and multi-family homes and intentional communities, he works with clients all over the United States and select places internationally. He also offers a certification program for other designers and architects to learn the CHD method to help their clients apply the life changing principles wherever they are. Find out more by visiting https://ConsciousHomeDesign.com

  4. Jun 30

    How to Unpause Your Marriage

    Have you ever noticed the moment your relationship shifted from "we're in this together" to "we're just coexisting"? Most couples don't see it happen in real time. It's not one big rupture — it's a series of small retreats. A conversation you didn't finish. A bid for connection that went unanswered. A moment where vulnerability felt too risky, so you pulled back instead. Over time, these micro-retreats create what Dr. Lee Baucom calls "hitting the Pause Button" — and once a marriage is on pause, disconnection quietly takes root and begins undermining the bond from the inside. The good news? A marriage can also be un-paused. That's why I was excited to talk with Lee, who specializes in helping individuals break through the internal barriers — fear, identity, and mindset — that keep them disconnected. His work has made him a trusted voice for anyone ready to do the hard, important work of transforming their relationship from the inside out. Here's what we cover in our interview: 1) What IS a Pause Button Marriage? 2) Why does that happen? 3) What are the 3 levels of connection, and why are they so important? 4) How can one person start the process of UN-pausing their marriage? You can learn more about Dr. Lee Baucom, and access his free guide,  at https://savethemarriage.com/ His app is: unpauseyourmarriage.com And here’s the link to his podcast: https://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/ More about Dr. Lee Baucom Dr. Lee Baucom. is a marriage coach, author of seven books, and host of the Save The Marriage Podcast and Thriveology Podcast. For over two decades, he's helped thousands of couples pull back from the brink of divorce through his coaching, online programs, and a straightforward philosophy: he can't save your marriage. But he can show you how to. Dr. Baucom specializes in helping individuals break through the internal barriers — fear, identity, and mindset — that keep them stuck, and his work has made him a trusted voice for anyone who wants to do the hard, important work of transforming their relationship.

  5. Jun 18

    From Survival Mode to Self-Love: Using RTT to Rewire Your Nervous System

    Most of us don’t actually think we have a challenge with Self-Love; we just feel depleted. That was the story of Samantha Mandell, an RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy) practitioner and founder of Sweet Soul and Wellness. After navigating her own debilitating journey with functional neurological disorder and PNES (psychogenic non-epileptic seizures), she discovered that her survival programming was running the show — in her body, her marriage, and her sense of self.  In this episode of Soul-Shaking Love, Samantha shares how disorganized attachment shaped her relationships and manifested as a neurological diagnosis, what Rapid Transformational Therapy actually does differently than traditional talk therapy, and the three-step “Sweet Soul Process” she now uses to help women uncover their survival blueprint, take off the armor, and arrive at lasting self-love. She also shares how her marriage transformed when she stopped operating from survival and started giving from fullness rather than depletion. Here are the questions Samantha answers in our interview: Tell us your story — how did disorganized attachment show up in your marriage, and how did the stress eventually manifest as a PNES diagnosis? What was the turning point that led you from that crisis to becoming a women’s empowerment practitioner? What did that path of self-discovery look like? For people who haven’t heard of RTT — how does Rapid Transformational Therapy actually work, and what makes it different from traditional therapy? Walk us through your Sweet Soul Process: uncovering the survival blueprint, taking off the armor, and arriving at soul-deep self-love. What does that look like in practice? How has your marriage and your relationship with yourself changed since doing this work? What would you say to a woman right now who is high-functioning on the outside but feels like her body or her relationships are betraying her on the inside? You can get Samantha’s free gift here: https://www.sweetsoulandwellness.com/free-gift Unlocks a personalized 5 minute Mindset Transformation recording. Listen once to twice a day for 21 days to unleash your inner cheerleader. More about Samantha Mandell:  Samantha Mandell is an Inner Foundation Coach, dedicated FND Advocate, and certified Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner who helps women stop surviving their minds and start loving their lives straight to their souls. She didn't learn her method from a clinical textbook; she bought it with receipts from her own life after a devastating health diagnosis put her world on a complete pause. By using subconscious rewiring to evict her toxic inner critic, she radically transformed her health, her marriage, and her daily peace. She’s the host of the Skirts Up podcast, the founder of Sweet Soul Wellness, and someone who firmly believes that even when life brings storms, you can still learn to play in the mud.

  6. May 28

    Queen Codes: 4 Keys To Being The Most Magnetic Woman in Any Room You Walk Into

    Have you ever walked into a room and felt someone’s energy before they even said a word? That kind of magnetic presence isn’t about what you’re wearing or what you say;  it’s about who you’re BEING. And for so many high-achieving women, the very qualities that built their success: the hustle, the independence, the “I’ll do it myself” energy, are the same ones dimming their magnetism and keeping real connection at arm’s length. That’s why I decided to sit down with dating coach and women’s mentor Lauren Salaun. Lauren’s mission is helping women break free from “boss babe” hustle culture and come home to their feminine essence:  owning their worth from the inside out, regulating their nervous systems, and creating lives that feel magnetic, spacious, and deeply aligned. In this episode, Lauren and I dive into: The 4 keys to being magnetic no matter what: regardless of what you look like or what you say. Lauren’s personal journey from burnout to deep satisfaction with herself and her life What it really means to have an unshakable self-concept: and what that looks like in practice The difference between being “strong and independent” and being energetically stuck in your masculine: and how that impacts polarity and attraction How to move from hustle to harmony: practical shifts to start breaking free of boss babe burnout The role somatic practices and nervous system regulation play in feminine magnetism and self-worth How to communicate your desires in a way that draws people toward you rather than pushing them away You can access Lauren’s Queen Codes workshop for free here: https://www.laurensalaun.com/queen-codes And here is her Feminine energy texting guide:  https://www.laurensalaun.com/text-like-a-queen You can get Valerie’s Commitment Roadmap ebook here: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/commitment More about Lauren Salaun Lauren Salaun is an accomplished entrepreneur, speaker, transformational facilitator, certified somatic life and success coach, host of the AMPLIFY podcast, and public relations and visibility expert. Her mission is to help women break free from “boss babe” hustle culture and step into their feminine essence—owning their worth, regulating their nervous systems, and creating lives that feel magnetic, spacious, and deeply aligned. She empowers women to embrace their authenticity, elevate their standards, strengthen their boundaries, and attract healthy love and abundance. As a neurodivergent woman, Lauren has a unique ability to support other neurodivergent women in navigating their path with confidence and magnetism. Lauren is an entrepreneur, speaker, transformational facilitator, and somatic life coach dedicated to supporting women in embodying their feminine energy, healing their nervous systems, and reprogramming their subconscious minds so that they can become wildly magnetic. She empowers women to break free from “boss babe” hustle culture, own their worth, activate their power, and invite more ease and flow into their lives. Lauren loves supporting women with attracting their dream relationship by embracing their feminine essence, elevating their standards, upholding their boundaries, and becoming a magnet for healthy love. She specializes in working with high-achieving women, and as a neurodivergent woman, she is especially adept at supporting other neurodivergent women. Lauren is the host of the AMPLIFY podcast, where she explores personal growth, dating and relationships, mindset, and more.

  7. May 6

    Come Home to Yourself

    Many of us feel like we’re living someone else’s life instead of our own. But how do we discover what’s authentic and have the courage to actually live it? That's why I sat down with Zerina Derveni, who helps people break free from self-doubt and lack of clarity to embrace their authentic selves with confidence and purpose. In our soulful conversation, we explore what it truly means to come home to yourself. Using her five-stage framework — Awareness, Unlearning, Exploration, Integration, and Living Authentically — Zerina shares her own journey of transforming her identity from something she performed into something she joyfully embodies. We dive into cultivating nervous system safety, setting boundaries that feel loving rather than rigid, and shifting from anxious or avoidant patterns into a grounded, secure sense of self. This is the practice of returning, again and again, to who you really are. Questions: What does “coming home to yourself” mean on a practical level, and how can someone begin when they feel disconnected or lost? What is your personal journey of coming home to yourself? You often talk about awareness of the subconscious — how can we start recognizing the hidden patterns that quietly shape our identity and relationships? Your five-stage framework moves from Awareness to Living Authentically. Which stage do most people get stuck in, and what helps them move forward with compassion rather than pressure? What’s one thing we can do right now? Zerina is offering a Free gift Complimentary 30 min Life Strategy Call to my audience. You can learn more about that here: https://www.zerinalifecoach.com/contact More about Zerina Derveni Zerina Derveni is a distinguished Life Coach who specializes in empowering high-performing women and organizations to unlock their full potential. Specializing in guiding women who feel lost, stuck, or simply curious to level up, Zerina helps them embrace their inner strength, overcome obstacles, and create lasting transformation in both their personal and professional lives. With a rich Executive background in strategic consulting and client engagement with Fortune 500 brands for over a decade, Zerina brings a unique blend of expertise in personal growth, professional development and transformational coaching.  Her tailored coaching approach is designed for those who seek transformative results, and the clarity needed to thrive lives. Whether pursuing greater personal fulfillment, enhancing relationships or navigating career shifts, Zerina provides the high-level guidance and actionable strategies that lead to lasting success. Invest in yourself and achieve your highest aspirations with Zerina’s bespoke coaching services.

  8. Apr 22

    How to Find Joy After Heartbreak, Burnout, and Everything You Didn’t Choose

    What happens when the life you built was based on blueprints you never actually chose? Many of us grow up absorbing invisible templates — about who we should be, how we should love, what we should tolerate — long before we're old enough to question them. And then one day, we look around and realize the life we've built doesn't feel like ours. That's why I was so excited to talk with Joni, author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever. In this episode, she shares her deeply personal journey of waking up to the toxic blueprints that shaped her — from childhood trauma and emotional control to religious pressure and painful relationship patterns — and the courageous process of dismantling them to create something real. What I love about this conversation is that it doesn't stay in the pain. Joni's story is ultimately about what becomes possible on the other side: reclaiming your voice, rebuilding your identity, and discovering that healing isn't just surviving — it's creating a life you actually love. If you've ever felt like you were living someone else's script, this one will meet you right where you are. Here's what we cover in our interview: -What inspired you to write Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever? -In your book, you talk about "Blueprints." What do you mean by that, and how do those blueprints shape our relationships? -How did your childhood experiences impact the way you saw love, safety, and self-worth? -What does emotional control or religious control look like when someone is living inside it but doesn't fully recognize it yet? -Was there a specific tipping point where you realized you had to choose healing and freedom for yourself? -What did you have to unlearn in order to start building healthier relationships? -How did divorce become not just an ending, but also a turning point in your healing journey? -How do faith, authenticity, and emotional intelligence work together in the healing process? -What does being "better than ever" actually look like in real life — not just on social media, but in the hard, everyday moments? Free Gift: Breaking the Blueprint Reflection Guide This free downloadable guide is designed to help you begin identifying the unhealthy relationship patterns, beliefs, and emotional survival habits that may be keeping you stuck. Inside, you'll receive reflection prompts and healing insights to help you better understand your story, reconnect with your voice, and start taking practical steps toward emotional freedom, healthier boundaries, and more authentic relationships. Get your free guide here: https://joniwoods.com And you can see the full version of Joni's book, "Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever" here: https://amzn.to/485eCap More about Joni Woods: Joni Woods is the author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever: A Raw Journey of Healing, a deeply personal and empowering memoir about breaking free from toxic relational patterns, emotional pain, religious pressure, and the "Blueprints" that keep so many people trapped in cycles of fear, guilt, and disconnection. Through honest storytelling and hard-earned wisdom, Joni shares what it looks like to reclaim your voice, rebuild your identity, heal relational wounds, and create a life rooted in authenticity, emotional health, faith, and freedom. Her passion is helping people foster healthier relationships — with themselves, their children, their faith, and the people they love — while reminding them that healing, joy, and real love are still possible after heartbreak, trauma, and loss.

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The more vibrant we become in Mind-Body-Spirit, the more magnetic and closer we become with our True Love. Relationship Expert Valerie Greene has coached people from all over the world on how to have the relationship of their dreams. She brings you interviews with top experts in the areas of mind, body, spirit, and relationship to unlock your ability to create Soul Shaking Love.

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  • Creator
    Valerie Greene
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
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    © 2025 Relationship Coach Valerie Greene
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