In this Bold Journeys conversation, host Rob Spee sits down with Carlos Hidalgo for a raw, unfiltered story of infidelity, redemption, and God's relentless grace. Carlos opens up about growing up in church, learning to "perform" Christianity, and living a double life—successful on the outside but driven by anger, selfishness, and the need to control everything around him. He shares how casual pornography use while traveling escalated into a two‑year affair, the moment his wife uncovered the truth in 2015, and the devastation that followed: a broken marriage, fractured trust with his kids, and the collapse of the life he built. Carlos explains how restoration only began when he finally surrendered—letting God dismantle his manipulation, pride, and illusion of control. The grace, forgiveness, and rebuilding of the family prepared them for what came next - a hemorrhagic stroke that hit Carlos suddenly while he was alone in a church weight room. He recounts losing vision, the emergency life flight to Albany Medical, and the sobering risks of brain bleeds. Through it all, he describes a surprising peace, the strength of community, and how suffering reshaped his priorities toward urgency, gratitude, and deeper relationships. Carlos shares the spiritual anchors that carried him—prayer, Job 23:10, and the hymn "And Can It Be" (the hymn you hear in the background of the opening clip) —and offers this hope to anyone walking through darkness: God can redeem what feels impossible, and joy can coexist with hardship. Key Takeaways Rock bottom revealed the real fight: When his affair was exposed, Carlos faced a defining moment—keep fighting for control or finally surrender to God. "Getting life back" wasn't love: A counselor confronted him with the truth: his push to restore life on his terms was manipulation, not transformation. Redemption required surrender: Healing came only when Carlos stopped trying to be sovereign and yielded fully to God's authority. Small compromises lead to collapse: Pornography wasn't harmless—it was the first step in a long chain of choices that eroded his integrity. Suffering reframed everything: After a hemorrhagic stroke, Carlos embraced a "win‑win" outlook—life with family or life with Jesus—and committed to urgency, gratitude, and intentional relationships. Join the Journey Stay with us, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone who seeks the courage to transform pain into redemption. Together, let's foster a world where divine love and faith conquer the toughest trials. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@boldjourneysco Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boldjourneysco/ Through The Fire Newsletter: https://boldjourneys.co/subscribe/ Chapters 00:00 Rock Bottom: 'Are We Still Doing This?' 02:11 Bold Journeys Intro: A Story of Betrayal, Grace & Redemption 04:32 Carlos Returns: From BMC Days to This Conversation 05:02 The Hemorrhagic Stroke: Symptoms, Fear, and the Hospital Dash 08:09 Finding Meaning in Suffering: Valleys, Not Mountaintops 09:36 Growing Up in Church, But Not Knowing God 11:53 Rebellion in Disguise: 'Independent' and a Workplace Chameleon 15:19 The Slow Drift: Porn, Escalation, and the Affair That Blew Up Everything 19:13 Surrender and the Long Road Back: Pikes Peak Prayers & Family Restoration 21:18 Aftermath: Anger, Emptiness, and Becoming a Trophy of Grace 23:05 From Intensity to Surrender: Chasing Success vs. True Fulfillment 24:41 The Stroke Reality: Pain Meds, Chest Pains, and a Second Scare 27:35 Knowing About God vs. Knowing Him: Joy, Control, and Community 30:15 Reframing the Future: Mission, Speaking, and Living With Urgency 33:19 Rapid-Fire Faith: Win-Win Perspective, Verses, Prayer, and Worship 38:37 After the Stroke: Relationships, Gratitude, and the 'Why' Question 41:19 Advice for Dark Seasons: 'God Has You Right Where He Wants You' 43:36 Closing Reflections: Owning the Story and Giving God the Credit
