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Because your story is the conversation. The Lori Clarke Show is a space for honest stories and the art of becoming — where we talk about what life brings and what it reveals in us. Here, we explore the beauty and ache of being human — the moments that shape us, the questions that stay, and the quiet realizations that change everything. It’s not about fixing or striving; it’s about noticing, understanding, and learning how to move through it all with compassion. Every story matters. Every voice belongs. Welcome to The Art of Living.

  1. 3D AGO

    #98 Part 4: Shame, Silence, and Survival

    Have you ever realized you’re living by a vow you don’t remember making? In Episode 98 of Shame Out Loud : Part 4 of our six-part series, Lori Clarke, co-host Tammy Valicenti, and guests Dr. Lara Barbir, and Carina Gosch explore what happens after the moment you start surviving instead of living. Together, they open the “inner forest” to talk about shame, self-betrayal, and the slow work of coming home without forcing the timeline.  You’ll also hear about the vows we make in the dark: I won’t feel this. I won’t need anyone. I’ll stay small to stay safe. And what it means to rewrite them into something truer, self-trust, agency, dignity, and a new way of belonging. If you’ve been carrying a story that was never yours to hold, consider this your reminder: the forest may be where you adapted… but it can also be where you return. (Gentle note: This episode includes discussion of trauma, sexual assault, shame, emotional neglect, and difficult family dynamics. Please listen with care and support as needed.) 00:00 – 08:08 — Series context + bringing the next guest into the circle 08:08 – 11:15 — Lara Barbir intro + mirror/dream resonance + “forest as diverse landscape” 11:15 – 14:30 — Forest as ecosystem; post-traumatic growth; meaning-making 14:30 – 18:55 — Teen depression diagnosis; emotional silence; coping patterns; being unseen 18:55 – 21:15 — “How did you find yourself?” early survival strategies; safety-seeking 21:15 – 30:45 —  Lori, Tammy, Lara, and Carina define their forests (emotional neglect, chaos, survival roles, returning to center) 30:45 – 38:10 — “Secrets we keep from ourselves”; repression lifting over time; somatic healing and remembrance 38:10 – 49:55 — Shame: how it shows up in body + behavior; unconditional love as catalyst; “we’re never done” 49:55 – 56:30 — The vows we make in the forest; rewriting vows; “in all things lead with love” 56:30 – 1:05:40 — Forgiveness reframed (self-forgiveness, dignity, not excusing harm) 1:05:40 – 1:16:30 — Returning to yourself; agency; acceptance of inner world; “I love you / you’re not alone” closing takeaways 1:16:30 – 1:25:00 — Off-mic wrap + “ancestors / possibilities are endless” closing energy

    1h 26m

  2. FEB 15

    #97 Part 3: Naming the Inner Landscape

    What if the parts of you that once kept you safe are now the very things keeping you stuck? In Shame Out Loud (Part 3), host Lori Clarke sits down with co-host Tammy Valicenti (EMDR specialist and founder of TransformSolution) and guest Carina Ghosh for a raw, soulful roundtable inspired by Lori’s creative writing piece Child and Woman (Episode 95). At the heart of this episode is a shared metaphor: the forest - the internal place where parts of us go to survive. Where fear lives. Where young selves still wait. Where old rules learned in silence continue to run the show. This conversation names what so many people feel but rarely say out loud: dissociation, survival patterns, parentification, emotional neglect, shame, the “not enough” story, and the long, embodied return to wholeness. Together, Lori, Tammy, and Carina explore how our bodies carry what our voices could not, and how healing isn’t about comparing wounds, but about telling the truth out loud with people who get it. You’ll hear about scattered parts, boundaries that finally hold, and a tender, radical truth woven throughout the conversation: It is a revolutionary act of self-love to say, "This ends with me." Question to sit with as you listen: Where are you still performing for safety, and what part of you is waiting to return home to yourself? This is Part 3 of a 6-part Shame Out Loud series. If this message resonates, you can purchase the writing companion on Lori’s website to explore the themes, reflections, and integration more deeply. 00:00–07:00 — Welcoming Karina & first reflections on Child and Woman 07:00–15:30 — Sensitivity, intuition, and navigating chaos 15:30–23:00 — The forest as a place of protection 23:00–30:00 — Scattered parts and emotional survival 30:00–38:00 — Moonlight, darkness, and feminine safety 38:00–46:00 — Creating inner refuge and the cottage metaphor 46:00–54:00 — Belonging, love, and coming home to self 54:00–1:05:00 — Reconnection, compassion, and closing reflections

    1h 24m

  3. FEB 8

    #96 Part 2: Entering The Forest

    What if the part of you that checks out, goes quiet, or keeps you on high alert… isn’t broken, just protecting you?This episode is Part Two of a six-part series exploring the reading Child and Woman. In this episode, Lori and psychotherapist Tammy Valicenti explore the forest: that inner place we retreat to when life has been too much. Together they name what protection can look like (silence, numbness, hyper-vigilance, control), how shame hijacks our inner dialogue, and why the simplest intervention can be the most powerful: “Hello, I hear you.” You’ll leave with a gentler map back to yourself, one that doesn’t require force, only curiosity.

    1h 10m

  4. FEB 2

    #95 Part 1: Child and Woman

    Have you ever felt a moment split your life into a before and an after, even if you couldn’t explain why? This episode begins not with a conversation, but with a story. Child and Woman is a piece of creative writing told through myth and image: a mirror, a locked bathroom door, running water, and a forest that quietly receives what cannot yet be spoken. Written years before Shame Out Loud existed, this piece lived privately, waiting for the right mix of safety and language. When it finally emerged, it became the foundation for this entire series. What you’ll hear is not a retelling of events, but an inner landscape. A girl who cannot stay in the light. A witness who forms in real time. A choice to disappear into darkness as a way to survive. Though spoken in one voice, this story belongs to many. It speaks to silence, protection, disconnection, and the long, often invisible walk back to oneself. The harm itself is not described. What’s named instead is what happens after—inside the body, the breath, the sense of self. This episode opens a six-part series exploring how shame takes shape, how it’s carried, and how voice slowly returns. The episodes that follow feature roundtable conversations with guests whose lives have been shaped by different forms of harm, instability, and emotional survival . The details differ. The ache does not. If you listen, take your time. Notice what your body does. Pause if you need to. This is where Shame Out Loud begins. And when you’re ready, Part Two is waiting, where Tammy Valicenti and Lori Clarke begin walking the forest together, out loud. Chapters: 00:14 The series begins. Lori explains that this piece was written years ago and held back 00:55 Lori shares the idea of inviting Tammy to co-host roundtables around the piece 01:57 Clear framing of the series themes, why guests’ stories differ, but the pain overlaps 04:23 “Curious writing companions,” what they are and how to use them 05:10 Listener care notes, content warnings, and a reminder that it’s not professional advice 06:15 Welcome to Shame Out Loud. This episode is the starting point 07:47 The creative reading begins, the split between child and witness 09:22 Generational secrecy, violation, dissociation, and the body’s shock response 11:34 Numbness, ringing, tightening, and dissociation arriving 12:55 Mirror scene, two images, and the first clear split 14:31 “I’m okay,” the body shaking, absorbing what happened 15:40 The path appears behind the reflection, a road into the unknown 16:47 The turning point, “I’d rather go into this darkness…” 18:13 The witness waits, the forest imagery, the girl begins to emerge 20:12 The pool of water, the girl sees a woman in reflection 22:13 Mirrored gestures, the shared scar, recognition 23:22 “It was decades,” the pull to return to the forest, the older voice calls her back 24:51 Wrap-up, how this piece becomes the base for the five roundtable episodes 25:32 Part 2 preview with Tammy Valasenti, “exploring the forest.” 26:35 Where to find the writing companions and episodes, closing thanks

    20 min

  5. FEB 1

    #95 Part 1: Child and Woman

    Have you ever felt a moment split your life into a before and an after, even if you couldn’t explain why? This episode begins not with a conversation, but with a story. Child and Woman is a piece of creative writing told through myth and image: a mirror, a locked bathroom door, running water, and a forest that quietly receives what cannot yet be spoken. Written years before Shame Out Loud existed, this piece lived privately, waiting for the right mix of safety and language. When it finally emerged, it became the foundation for this entire series. What you’ll hear is not a retelling of events, but an inner landscape. A girl who cannot stay in the light. A witness who forms in real time. A choice to disappear into darkness as a way to survive. Though spoken in one voice, this story belongs to many. It speaks to silence, protection, disconnection, and the long, often invisible walk back to oneself. The harm itself is not described. What’s named instead is what happens after—inside the body, the breath, the sense of self. This episode opens a six-part series exploring how shame takes shape, how it’s carried, and how voice slowly returns. The episodes that follow feature roundtable conversations with guests whose lives have been shaped by different forms of harm, instability, and emotional survival. The details differ. The ache does not. If you listen, take your time. Notice what your body does. Pause if you need to. This is where Shame Out Loud begins. And when you’re ready, Part Two is waiting, where Tammy Valicenti and Lori Clarke begin walking the forest together, out loud. 00:14 The series begins. Lori explains that this piece was written years ago and held back 00:55 Lori shares the idea of inviting Tammy to co-host roundtables around the piece 01:57 Clear framing of the series themes, why guests’ stories differ, but the pain overlaps 04:23 “Curious writing companions,” what they are and how to use them 05:10 Listener care notes, content warnings, and a reminder that it’s not professional advice 06:15 Welcome to Shame Out Loud. This episode is the starting point 07:47 The creative reading begins, the split between child and witness 09:22 Generational secrecy, violation, dissociation, and the body’s shock response 11:34 Numbness, ringing, tightening, and dissociation arriving 12:55 Mirror scene, two images, and the first clear split 14:31 “I’m okay,” the body shaking, absorbing what happened 15:40 The path appears behind the reflection, a road into the unknown 16:47 The turning point, “I’d rather go into this darkness…” 18:13 The witness waits, the forest imagery, the girl begins to emerge 20:12 The pool of water, the girl sees a woman in reflection 22:13 Mirrored gestures, the shared scar, recognition 23:22 “It was decades,” the pull to return to the forest, the older voice calls her back 24:51 Wrap-up, how this piece becomes the base for the five roundtable episodes 25:32 Part 2 preview with Tammy Valasenti, “exploring the forest.” 26:35 Where to find the writing companions and episodes, closing thanks

    20 min

  6. JAN 19

    #93 It’s Safe to Begin Again

    What does it really mean to begin again? In this Shame Out Loud reflection, Lori explores the courage it takes to start from a new place — not because we failed before, but because we’ve grown beyond what once kept us safe. This episode is for those who: have outgrown old patterns and beliefs learned to survive before they learned to feel safe are quietly longing for peace, wholeness, and self-trust Beginning again isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about choosing a different relationship with it. This episode gently leads into the Child and Woman series — a space for deeper conversations about healing, boundaries, curiosity, and returning to love through lived experience and reflection. It’s never too late to begin again.

    33 min

  7. JAN 13

    #92 It's Time to Disappoint Them

    In this second introduction to the Child and Woman series inside Shame Out Loud, Lori Clarke offers deeper context for the story she’s been slowly, carefully telling. This episode explores the difference between what’s visible on the outside and what’s carried on the inside — and how family systems, unspoken rules, secrecy, and inherited beliefs can shape a life long before we have language for them. Lori reflects on growing up inside a “family container” marked by victim mentality, scarcity, and silence — and how those patterns created a covering of shame that made it difficult to see herself clearly, even years later. She speaks honestly about the ache that didn’t come from what happened, but from what didn’t happen: protection, validation, advocacy, and safety. This is a conversation about truth-telling, reclaiming your inner narrative, and the courage it takes to turn inward — especially when doing so threatens the systems that taught you who you were allowed to be. If you’ve ever felt unseen, invalidated, or disconnected from yourself — especially when your external life didn’t reflect your internal experience — this episode offers language, context, and validation. Content note: This episode includes reflections on emotional abuse, secrecy, family systems, and lived experiences that may be activating for some listeners. Please listen at the pace your body allows. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Shame Out Loud 02:00 The Journey of Self-Reflection 08:15 The Impact of External Perceptions 10:49 Family Containers and Beliefs 20:18 Reclaiming the Inner Narrative 26:21 Breaking Free from Victim Mentality 38:12 The Power of Self-Love and Validation

    35 min

  8. JAN 9

    #91 Shame Out Loud: Child and Woman - An Introduction

    This series began with a question I didn’t know how to answer for a long time:What happens after something painful occurs—especially when the care, protection, or validation we needed never came? Child and Woman is a six-part series inside the Shame Out Loud space, drawn from lived experience and creative writing, followed by intimate conversations about shame, emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and returning to love from within. This work is not about reliving what happened or fixing what’s broken. It’s about understanding what we adapted to survive—and how curiosity, safety, and self-compassion can be relearned over time. The series will be released in its entirety at the end of January.You’re welcome to listen at the pace your body allows. The series lives at loriclarkemedia.com.

    43 min
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Because your story is the conversation. The Lori Clarke Show is a space for honest stories and the art of becoming — where we talk about what life brings and what it reveals in us. Here, we explore the beauty and ache of being human — the moments that shape us, the questions that stay, and the quiet realizations that change everything. It’s not about fixing or striving; it’s about noticing, understanding, and learning how to move through it all with compassion. Every story matters. Every voice belongs. Welcome to The Art of Living.

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  • Creator
    Lori Clarke
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    98
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Lori Clarke
  • Show Website
    The Lori Clarke Show