Ask Mom and Dad

Ask Mom & Dad
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Greg and Tonya spend time each week talking together about things that have been a part of their life journey and answering the various questions that have been posed to them along the way.

  1. Oct 30

    Is Halloween and the Ballot Box the Same Spiritual Fight?

    Halloween still leaves some kids uneasy, and Greg and Tonya aren’t convinced the culture is just having fun. A real attack in a Nashville parking garage, an election a week away, and the way politicians dress up abortion as “reproductive health care” all start sounding like the same unseen fight. They walk through why a vote still matters, why government keeps wanting what belongs to families and the church, and why some pastors stay quiet when the stakes are this clear. Pull up a chair—this one gets honest about what it actually costs to treat faith like it’s real. 00:00 – Banter, Dentists, and Getting Started 01:37 – Halloween Fears and the Unseen Realm 08:01 – A Close Call in a Nashville Garage 09:34 – Elections, Isaiah, and Spiritual Warfare 12:22 – Life, Abortion, and the Love in Hosea 30:45 – Why Your Vote Actually Counts 46:32 – Principles for the Polls and Quiet Pastors 58:04 – Nehemiah Alliance and God’s Sovereignty

  2. Oct 24

    Should Christians Watch Horror?

    Is Horror Actually the Most Christian Genre of Film? You turn on the TV and it’s wall-to-wall horror movies. Your kids want to dress up and hit the streets. Meanwhile the real world feels darker than the costumes. Greg and Tonya dig into the debate that exploded between Allie Beth Stuckey, Ben Shapiro, and Matt Walsh: is horror the most Christian genre of film, or is it something we should avoid?They talk about why some horror takes the supernatural more seriously than regular TV, what we should actually be afraid of, and how Christians can stand in the middle of Halloween without celebrating darkness. From Reformation Day and a prayer gathering on the National Mall to Ouija board ads and a missionary story that makes Hollywood look tame—this is the conversation about fear, faith, and where the line really is.If you’ve ever wondered whether to participate, hide the lights, or just turn the TV off, pull up a chair. CHAPTERS 0:00 - Aging, Accolades, and Who’s Actually Listening 5:05 - Holding Onto Hope While We Wait 10:02 - Spiritual Warfare, Elections, and Real Fear 12:11 - Reformation Day and the Nehemiah Alliance 16:19 - The Horror Movie Debate Starts 20:19 - Why People Watch Horror (Shapiro Clip) 25:37 - What Should We Actually Be Afraid Of? 28:36 - How Christians Can Handle Halloween 37:26 - Teaching Kids Real vs. Fake Horror 41:42 - A Missionary Story That Puts Hollywood to Shame 45:15 - Boundaries, Scripture, and Closing

  3. Oct 16

    How Do You Hold Onto a Vision When the Timeline Won’t Move?

    You can see where things can go. The problem is most of the people around you still can’t. Greg and Tonya are sitting in that exact tension—trying to minister in a small town where people like the atmosphere but still drive out for a bigger church experience, while the vision they came with has taken a slower path than they expected. They talk about sharing the gospel at a volleyball game, the difference between living in the future and bringing people with you, and what it actually takes to keep the picture alive when nothing feels like it’s moving. Then Tonya has to leave for a conference, Judah’s old recording fills the gap, and Greg sits alone with the question she left him: how do you hang on to a vision God put in your heart when the timeline keeps stretching? If you’ve ever felt like you’re waiting on something that still won’t show up, this one will feel familiar. Pull up a chair and listen in. CHAPTERS 00:12 Intro Banter and the Volleyball Gospel Share 02:30 Small Town Life vs. Driving Out for Church 05:36 Living in a Future Most People Can’t See Yet 07:14 Gentle Among You Like a Nursing Mother 08:29 Not Everyone Is an Evangelist—and That’s the Point 09:53 How Do You Wait Without Losing the Vision? 13:21 A Song from Judah When He Was Eight 15:25 Greg’s Solo Answer: Five Ways to Hold the Vision 26:10 It Still Comes Back to Time with Jesus

  4. Oct 10

    Why Are Adult Kids Cutting Off Their Parents?

    Greg and Tonya open with a Wall Street Journal piece on adult children deciding to cut off their parents—sometimes over politics, lifestyle differences, or advice from therapists and peers online. They push back on the idea that ordinary friction automatically equals “toxic,” and they talk through the real difference between biblical counsel that points toward repair and a therapy culture that often prioritizes feeling better right now.They share their own early-marriage story of setting clear boundaries with Greg’s mom (it wasn’t permanent, and it wasn’t easy), look at what Scripture actually says about honoring parents even when it’s hard (including 2 Timothy 3 and James on listening and anger), and name the tension between wanting to belong and being told to separate. They also talk about identity rooted in Jesus instead of self-discovery, the real enemy behind family division, and why prayer for the person you’re struggling with can change the room before anything else does.If you’ve felt the pull to step away from family—or you’re watching it happen around you—this is a grounded, practical conversation about boundaries that still leave room for relationship. Scriptures for further reference: 2 Timothy 3:1-5, James 1:19, James 1:21, James 1:22-25, James 1:26, Matthew 15:11, Matthew 7:24-27, Psalm 34, Psalm 91:4, Matthew 5:22, Matthew 5:44, 1 Peter 5:8, John 16:33, Matthew 16:18, Romans 10:17, 2 Peter 1:3 CHAPTERS 0:00 Welcome and the article that started the conversation 1:00 Family estrangement, therapy culture, and online peer advice 8:00 Biblical counseling versus modern therapy that focuses on feeling better 12:00 Their own story: boundaries with Greg’s mom early in marriage 15:00 When cutoffs happen—grandchildren, church families, and real harm 19:00 Identity in Jesus, the church as counsel, and why self-discovery falls short 21:00 2 Timothy 3, honoring parents, and last-days attitudes 24:00 Redefined “violence,” words versus real threat, and what actually shapes us 29:00 Parenting, generational trends, and who is supposed to inform a child’s identity 33:00 James on quick to listen, slow to speak, and defensiveness as anger 40:00 Therapy culture, affirmation over instruction, and owning your own reactions 45:00 Prayer, Psalm 34, and the real enemy behind family division 49:00 Closing prayer and practical next step

  5. Oct 3

    What Do You Do When God Only Says Wait?

    Tonya sat down to keep writing and found out a chunk of the book had never actually saved. Six or seven thousand words, gone, right in the middle of the part she was most proud of.Greg and Tonya start there, then end up somewhere else. The missing pages were about a desert season in Phoenix, fear around Elijah, and the older stories God used to get Tonya ready for it. A car she was asked to give away. A breakup that shoved her into a prayer journal. Five years of begging to hear something and only getting one word back: wait.It is a conversation about ownership, security, and what you lean on when the voice you are used to goes quiet. If you have ever lost work, lost a plan, or wondered whether God was still in the room, pull up a chair. CHAPTERS00:00:00 The Book Stopped Saving 00:04:32 Trials, James, and Why the Book Exists 00:07:18 The Car That Was Not Really Hers 00:17:52 Ownership Gets Harder With Kids 00:23:37 Five Years of Hearing Only Wait 00:29:12 Security, a Breakup, and a Picnic Table 00:35:30 The Anonymous Bag of Skirts 00:41:09 A Prayer by the Bed

  6. Sep 19

    EpisodeWhat If God Promised You Something You Almost Missed?

    Tonya has been trying to write a book for a couple of years. Not because publishing is hard now—anybody can print one. Because the story itself keeps getting bigger than the moment that started it.It began with their youngest son. Accidents. Fear. A stretch in Phoenix that felt like a desert on the outside and in her soul. And then this quiet thing she almost walked past: a promise God had already tucked into Elijah’s name, spoken back to her when things were at their worst. God would protect him. He was there.In this episode of Ask Mom and Dad, Greg and Tonya sit with that book while it’s still unfinished. Seven chapters mapped. About eighteen thousand words in. She’s aiming for something you can actually hold—deep enough to carry the promise, not so padded it loses what God put on her heart. Along the way they talk about Amazon books, instant “experts,” AI that can catch a muddy sermon but shouldn’t write your life, and why a story still needs a living soul behind it.If you’ve ever felt a promise in the dark and didn’t know how to tell it, this one is for you. CHAPTERS  00:00 Coffee, Questions, and Getting Settled  01:31 Why Everybody Suddenly Has a Book 07:21 The Book Tonya Can’t Rush 14:18 Elijah, the Desert, and a Promise She Almost Missed 18:15 Filling It Out Without Losing the Thread 20:19 Tools Can Help—They Can’t Live the Story 32:52 Why a Book Doesn’t Make You an Expert 38:37 Trusting the One Who Holds the Whole Thing Together

  7. Aug 28

    What If Church Isn’t Somewhere You Go—It’s a House He’s Building in You?

    Greg and Tonya keep meeting the same kind of faith: know the commandments, work hard, make it to Sunday, want the life God blesses.Just not always God in the center of it.This episode is about that gap. The fear of God is not a short list that makes you a good person. Jesus made it personal—love Him with everything, then treat the person in front of you like they already belong. They sit with Psalm 127 and the anxious toil we dress up as responsibility. They sit with Ephesians 2, where the wall that said “you don’t belong here” comes down, and strangers become members of the household of God.That’s the turn. You don’t visit the temple anymore. You’re being built into it. Jesus is the one holding the load. The gathering is the house coming alive in one room. And the people you pass in the grocery store are not on the other side of a wall He already tore down.If He’s building the house in you, you don’t have to protect it. You can invite people home.Come sit with Greg and Tonya. CHAPTERS 00:00:11 – Ask Mom and Dad 00:06:34 – Sacred, Secular, and Muddy Water 00:10:48 – Fear of God Isn’t a Checklist 00:15:14 – Anxious Toil and the Gift of Rest 00:17:12 – Belonging Without Being the Center 00:21:45 – The Wall Came Down 00:27:40 – When the Temple Starts Talking 00:32:00 – He Carries the Load. You Have a Role. 00:39:59 – Living It Around Your Own Table

  8. Aug 14

    How Far Will You Go to Make Room For Someone?

    We just got back from England, where churches stand on nearly every corner… and yet so many people have never actually encountered Jesus.Greg and Tonya talk about the difference between “here’s a place to sit” and “come sit with me.” They dig into why the word “religion” itself can become a wall, what people really mean when they say “I’m not religious,” and how genuine relationship—not more programs or prettier buildings—creates the kind of access that changes everything.From a widower who just wanted to die, to a woman with tattoos talking about angels in the park, to the quiet work of preparing the ground so the seed can actually take root… this conversation gets honest about the barriers we don’t always see and the comfort zones we have to leave if we want others to feel at ease enough to meet Jesus.Pull up a chair. This one’s worth listening all the way through. CHAPTERS  00:00:00 – Opening Banter and the Real Question 00:02:46 – England: Churches Everywhere, Understanding Nowhere 00:05:06 – Jesus as a Person, Not Just a Feeling 00:14:57 – Visible Access vs. Meaningful Access 00:26:47 – “Places to Sit” or “Come Sit With Me”? 00:27:21 – When the Word “Religion” Becomes the Barrier 00:38:27 – Preparing the Ground and Leaving Comfort Zones 00:49:34 – Listening for Stories and Lowering the Walls

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Greg and Tonya spend time each week talking together about things that have been a part of their life journey and answering the various questions that have been posed to them along the way.

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    Ask Mom & Dad
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    2019 - 2026
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