After years of advising CEOs and senior leaders, she's learned that the higher you climb, the more the same human stuff shows up: insecurity, miscommunication, fear of failure, and avoiding the conversations nobody wants to have. In this episode, Erin sits down with the self-proclaimed "C-Suite Whisperer" , Paru Radia, to talk about tough conversations, turning adversity into an advantage, and why standing still might be the riskiest thing you can do. Along the way, Paru shares lessons from her own journey and her no-BS coaching style. Some of the things you'll hear are: -Why Paru actually loves tough conversations (and how to stop dreading them) -How being bullied, underestimated, and treated like an outsider became her superpower -Why "magic happens in momentum" If you've ever felt stuck, overlooked, or unsure of your next move, this episode will challenge how you think about growth, leadership, and success. 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"If you are not confident about the things that you don't like about yourself, you are giving people ammunition to also dislike you. Just own it." "Magic happens in momentum." "The magic won't happen if something is standing still. You need other things to happen for the reaction to happen, which equates to magic." Editor's note: This transcript has been edited for clarity, readability, and length while preserving the core conversation and key teaching moments. In this episode, Erin talks with executive strategist Paru Radia about how to navigate tough conversations at work, communicate with more clarity, own the messy parts of your story, and use momentum to create real career growth. Their conversation covers executive coaching, leadership communication, performance reviews, workplace conflict, career transitions, and the real-life messes behind success. Transcript Why Paru Calls Herself the C-Suite Whisperer Erin: You call yourself the C-Suite Whisperer. If I saw that on a page without knowing you, I might side-eye it. But after meeting you, I thought, "Oh my gosh, she totally is." Where did that come from? Paru: I was talking to a client a few years ago, describing what I do without making it sound too prescriptive. I was explaining how I listen, question, translate, and help executives understand what is really happening. I thought of the show Ghost Whisperer, where someone translates what ghosts are saying to the people who cannot hear them. I realized, "I do what she does, but for executives." So I said, "I'm a C-Suite whisperer." She completely got it. A week later, she told someone she had hired a C-Suite whisperer, then wrote about me on LinkedIn using that phrase. So I thought, "I guess that's what I am." Erin: I love that idea of translating between what someone says and what people actually hear. What gets mistranslated the most when you are working with executives? Paru: Intention. And that applies to everyone. People are often so busy thinking about themselves, what they mean, and what they think other people are hearing that they miss how the message is actually landing. I do not mean that in an arrogant way. No matter how senior you get, it is the same stuff with more at stake. It is the same insecurity, the same miscommunication, the same desire for the business to be successful, the same desire to look good, be liked, be understood, be seen, and be heard. We are all human. The stakes just get higher. How Childhood Shaped Her Ability to Read People Erin: I saw in another interview that when you were asked what time in your life you would change, you mentioned primary school and high school. What were those years like, and how did they shape the bold person you are now? Paru: I want to be careful with that answer. I am really happy in my life now, and I know I would not be where I am today without everything I experienced. But if I could still be where I am today and remove some of the pain from those years, I would. I grew up in a very conservative, traditional Indian household in the seventies and early eighties in racist Britain. We had bricks thrown through our window. We had racial slurs shouted at us. As a child, I had people on the street threaten me because I was Indian. It was scary. Some of that racism translated to school. I was made fun of for being Indian. I was also a chubby kid, so I was made fun of for that too. What happened was that it became safer for me to observe than to participate. It was safer to figure out where the next landmine was or where the next grenade might be thrown. That has worked in my favor now. I observe closely. I have a very keen eye and a very keen ear. I think some of that came from life circumstances that forced me to develop those skills. Erin: That makes so much sense. For people listening who have gone through challenges, trauma, or difficult experiences, how do they start to turn those things into a strength? Paru: First, be kind to yourself. And I do not mean that in a fluffy way. I mean dig deep and own everything about yourself. I am a big advocate of owning all of it. When I work with clients, I am their biggest fan, but I am also very direct. I often say that when you work with me, you will be punched and hugged at the same time. I am not soft. I will tell you things other people are too scared to tell you. I will tell you things you may not want to hear. But I am also there to catch you. I am not doing it to be mean. I am doing it to be real, so we can actually address what is happening. The first step is not self-filtering or apologizing for what is true. If something happened, it happened. If you messed something up, own it. If you do not like something about yourself, name it. Many people start to malfunction when they are not being who they really are. When you try to cover something up or perform as someone else, it creates friction. It is what it is. Own it. If you are not confident about the things you dislike about yourself, you give other people ammunition to dislike those things too. Own them. There are things about me I do not think are fantastic, but I love them anyway. It has taken me a long time to get here. Why Tough Conversations Matter Erin: One thing I wanted to talk to you about is tough conversations at work. The employee who is not performing. The job elimination. The numbers that are not hitting forecast. A lot of smart, capable people want to crawl under their desk when it is time to have those conversations. What advice do you give them? Paru: I love tough conversations. Erin: Why? Paru: Because they are the beginning of something different. Once you have the tough conversation, something is going to change. It might be an action, a perception, or a mindset, but something shifts. I am all for change. I challenge the status quo all the time. I am always looking to be better, do better, and grow. I want that for my clients too. When it comes to tough conversations, language is incredibly important. If I were giving general advice, I would say: get out of your own head and be factual. Avoid making everything about "you," because that can sound aggressive. Keep it business-focused. Ask questions. Do not go straight into the conversation without understanding the other person. Be genuinely curious. I start many difficult conversations by asking for the person's understanding of the topic first. That way, we are on the same page. Then I can share my definition or perspective. That moves me from being opposite them to being next to them. It becomes, "This is how I am looking at it. How are you looking at it?" Then I stay factual. I might say, "The business needs this. The problem we have is this. What do you think we could do about that?" If their answer is not feasible, I might say, "Here is what I am thinking. What are your thoughts on that?" Behavioral issues are different and need more specific examples, but in general, curiosity, clarity, and facts matter. How to Approach a Performance Conversation Erin: Let's use an example. Joe is a project manager. He has moments of brilliance, but he is inconsistent. Sometimes he solves a big problem. Other times, he makes promises he cannot deliver, or his work is not good. How would you coach someone to have that conversation? Paru: There is a lot I would want to understand first. I would want to know what is going through Joe's mind when he performs well, and what is going through his mind when
