The Former Lawyer Podcast

Sarah Cottrell
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Do you hate working as a lawyer? Are you an unhappy lawyer who wants to leave the law, but isn't sure what to do next? Do your family and friends think you're crazy for wanting to leave the law, or are you too afraid to tell them you don't want to be a lawyer? The Former Lawyer Podcast is for you! Each week, host Sarah Cottrell interviews a different former lawyer who has left the law behind. Hear inspiring stories about how these former lawyers are thriving and found their way to careers and lives they love.

  1. The Shame Lawyers Feel About Wanting to Leave Law

    4d ago

    The Shame Lawyers Feel About Wanting to Leave Law

    Somewhere along the way, most lawyers picked up the idea that once you commit to something, you follow through. No exceptions. So when the thought of leaving starts to surface, it doesn't feel like a career question. It feels like there's something shameful about admitting your original decision was wrong. But the decision to become a lawyer was made at a specific age, with a specific amount of information. The lived experience of actually practicing law is new information. And in almost any other context, no one would question whether you should update a decision when the information changes. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about why so many lawyers feel ashamed of wanting to change their minds, where that "don't be a quitter" conditioning comes from, why it takes maturity to look at your decisions and choose something different, and why therapy is often the best place to start untangling all of it. 0:30 - The shame lawyers feel about changing their minds and where it comes from 1:04 - How the decision to leave becomes tangled with feeling "wrong" about the original choice 2:10 - The decision to become a lawyer was made with limited information at a specific age 3:14 - Why lawyers don't apply the "new information" standard to their own experience 4:00 - The "don't be a quitter" conditioning and how good-student types absorb it 7:55 - Holding your past self to a standard no human can be held to Mentioned In The Shame Lawyers Feel About Wanting to Leave Law First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    10 min
  2. From Commercial Litigator to Personal Trainer and Business Owner with Zach Reisch

    May 25

    From Commercial Litigator to Personal Trainer and Business Owner with Zach Reisch

    Lawyers who know they want to leave often get stuck in the same place. Not because they don't want to move, but because they're waiting to feel certain about what comes next. Sarah Cottrell sees lawyers who won't make a move until they have a new 20-year plan with an absolute guarantee, and while they're waiting for that, nothing changes. Zach Reisch didn't have a master plan when he left commercial litigation. He had a spouse building a business, a growing sense that law just wasn't compatible with who he was, and a willingness to try something before he knew whether it would work. What he found was something Sarah talks about often but lawyers tend to resist. Clarity follows action. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah talks with Zach about what made him realize Biglaw wasn't a fit and how anxiety made it difficult to tell the difference between something being scary and something being wrong, what it was actually like to go from litigation to personal training and small business ownership, and why tying your identity to achievement doesn't go away just because you change jobs. 1:27 - Why law school felt like a decent fit but practicing law did not 3:51 - Getting exactly one Biglaw offer and choosing commercial litigation without knowing what it would be like 7:29 - How anxiety made it hard to separate "this is uncomfortable" from "this is wrong for me" 8:33 - Why lawyers think they should be able to think their way through a nervous system response 12:11 - Still having nightmares about his law job and the identity crisis of feeling like he was failing 13:14 - What actually helped was the podcast, therapy, and talking to anyone who wasn't a lawyer 16:58 - Why clarity follows action and how waiting for a perfect plan keeps lawyers stuck 20:29 - Why individual interaction was the missing piece in his desire to help people 22:46 - The practical realities of becoming a personal trainer as a second career 29:19 - Why tying your identity to achievement doesn't go away just because you leave law 33:51 - Being willing to try something without knowing if it's going to work Mentioned In From Commercial Litigator to Personal Trainer and Business Owner with Zach Reisch Rozzie Fitness First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    38 min
  3. Translating Legal Skills for a Non-Legal Job Doesn't Start With Your Resume

    May 18

    Translating Legal Skills for a Non-Legal Job Doesn't Start With Your Resume

    When lawyers start thinking about doing something else, the first thing they reach for is almost always the resume. It feels like real progress. It produces something tangible. And for lawyers who are used to having clear work product, that matters a lot. What actually happens is the opposite. You sit down to revise it, you stare at a bunch of legalese you wrote years ago, and within an hour you've convinced yourself you have no transferable skills and should probably just quit and stay in the law forever. That's not because the skills aren't there. It's because there's nothing to translate them toward yet. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell explains why revising your resume is actually one of the last steps in a lawyer career change, and what she has people start with instead. She talks about why trying to write 27 different resumes for 27 possible roles is a waste of time, why values are the real starting point, and why most lawyers who try to start with the resume end up more discouraged than when they began. 0:44 - Revising your resume is the worst place to start 2:29 - Knowing what you're targeting is what makes the resume easy 5:10 - What actually works when you go to revise the resume 6:32 - Values are the first part of the framework inside The Collab 8:56 - Don't start with your resume, start with values and therapy Mentioned In Translating Legal Skills for a Non-Legal Job Doesn't Start With Your Resume How To Revise Your Resumé For A Non-Legal Job Break Into Legal Tech and AI as a Lawyer with Ben Chiriboga First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    10 min
  4. Leaving Biglaw to Become a Sex and Relationship Coach with Amy Terwilleger

    May 11

    Leaving Biglaw to Become a Sex and Relationship Coach with Amy Terwilleger

    On paper, Amy Terwilleger’s life as a lawyer looked great. Partner at a regional firm in Florida. Deputy general counsel. Thirteen years of business litigation. Married with two kids. And the whole time, a constant restless feeling she could not shake. What Amy eventually figured out was that she was living somebody else's perfect life. The things that mattered to her, her values, the way she thought, and who she actually was as a person were not showing up in the life she was actually living. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks with Amy about what it looked like to be a Biglaw partner whose values did not match her job, why being a free thinker is not rewarded at a big firm, what finally moved her to make a change, and how she ended up working as a sex and relationship coach while still practicing law on her own terms. 1:34 - Why Amy went to law school after restaurant management and the LSAT-as-decision-maker pattern 2:33 - Wanting to help people through law and how recruiting funneled her into business litigation instead 4:51 - The conveyor belt and why the realities of practice diverge from what brings people to law school 7:48 - Why being a free thinker is not rewarded at a big firm 8:48 - On paper everything looked perfect, partner, deputy general counsel, two kids, and the constant restless feeling underneath 9:54 - Neurodivergence, the strong sense of justice, and why these traits do not get rewarded in big firms 13:16 - Where Amy's values clashed with the actual work of business litigation 18:06 - Why "just don't care" is not actually possible when someone is being rude and disrespectful 20:19 - Pleasure as the body's antidote to stress and how it resets the nervous system 22:43 - The early seed of wanting to be a sex coach and why Amy tucked it away for years 25:38 - The reactions Amy got from colleagues, friends, and family when leaving Biglaw 29:16 - You do not have to leave law entirely, you can find a way to practice that aligns with your values 33:22 - What Amy recommends if you are curious about coaching as a career 34:00 - What sex and relationship coaching actually is and who Amy works with Mentioned In Leaving Biglaw to Become a Sex and Relationship Coach with Amy Terwilleger Amy Terwilleger's Website | Linktree Amy Terwilleger on Instagram (@millennialdrruth) First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    38 min
  5. Trying to Justify Leaving Law Is What’s Keeping You There

    May 4

    Trying to Justify Leaving Law Is What’s Keeping You There

    If you're thinking about leaving the law, there's a good chance you've asked yourself some version of this question. Am I justified in doing this? You already know the environment isn't good for you. You already know something needs to change. But there's a sense that you need some kind of external sign-off before you can actually go, and until that shows up, you keep waiting. The waiting itself is part of what's keeping you there. The need to feel justified is almost always external, and it's often the same pattern that got you into law in the first place. Looking outside yourself for confirmation that you're on the right path, instead of trusting what you already know about your own experience. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about why so many lawyers ask whether they're justified in leaving, where that question actually comes from, and what it costs you to keep waiting for someone else to validate what you already feel. Sarah also covers why this is a skill worth building before you figure out what's next and where therapy fits into the work of untangling it. 0:29 - The question that comes up most often when lawyers think about leaving the law 1:02 - Why there is always someone who has it worse and why that keeps lawyers stuck 1:55 - Why the struggle to feel justified in leaving is fundamentally external 2:35 - "Am I justified in leaving" is really a question about who gets to say 3:55 - Why so many lawyers cannot trust their own experience 4:38 - What you actually need to access to find something better 5:57 - Why this needs to be your choice and not something you wait for permission to do 6:32 - The skill you are going to be developing as you move out of the law 7:56 - What it tells Sarah when she hears lawyers asking if they are justified in leaving Mentioned In Trying to Justify Leaving Law Is What’s Keeping You There First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    9 min
  6. Tolerating Your Lawyer Job While You're Preparing to Leave

    Apr 27

    Tolerating Your Lawyer Job While You're Preparing to Leave

    There are two very different situations a lawyer can be in when they start thinking about leaving. One is a job that is actively damaging their mental, physical, and emotional health. The other is a job that is just not the long-term answer. What you do to tolerate either one while you're preparing to leave is going to look pretty different. The lawyers who come to Sarah after making a move that did not work out are usually the ones who waited until they were close to leaving to start thinking about what they actually wanted to do next. By then, there is not much time left for the reflection that process requires. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about how to tell which situation you're in, why a bridge job is often the right move if your environment is genuinely toxic, and what lawyers in less extreme situations can be doing right now to make the time they're still there feel useful instead of stuck. 0:56 - What a bridge job actually does when you're in a toxic environment 2:23 - Why "tolerating" your job never means staying somewhere that's damaging you 3:24 - Being realistic about your timeline and what the work actually looks like 4:11 - How long the Collab framework typically takes when you give it a couple hours a week 5:16 - Why the day you can leave is not the day to start figuring out what's next 6:14 - What makes tolerating your job easier while you're preparing to leave 7:40 - What to do if you see yourself leaving eventually but not soon 9:15 - Why giving yourself time instead of rushing is one of the best uses of your time in a lawyer job Mentioned In Tolerating Your Lawyer Job While You're Preparing to Leave Do You Need a Bridge Job? Key Questions for Lawyers in Transition First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    11 min
  7. How to Break Into Legal Tech and AI as a Lawyer with Ben Chiriboga

    Apr 20

    How to Break Into Legal Tech and AI as a Lawyer with Ben Chiriboga

    Legal tech comes up constantly when lawyers are thinking about leaving practice. It's legal adjacent, the field is growing, and there seem to be a lot of jobs. But when lawyers actually try to make a move, they usually don't know where to start. The roles aren't standardized, the titles don't mean the same thing across companies, and it's hard to know where a legal background even fits in. Ben Chiriboga figured this out the hard way. He spent two years after leaving practice chasing legal tech roles without any real direction, burned through his savings, and eventually found his path, going on to become a founding team member of a legal tech startup. Now he runs Reframe Lawyer, a platform built specifically to help lawyers move into legal tech and AI careers. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks with Ben about the three main career tracks available to lawyers in legal tech and AI, why a JD is a bigger competitive advantage than most lawyers think, and why figuring out who you are and what you want has to happen before anything else. 0:52 - Ben Chiriboga on founding Reframe Lawyer and his path from practice to legal tech 2:27 - Why legal tech keeps coming up for lawyers who want to leave practice 4:07 - No agreed terms, no standardized titles, and what that means for your job search 4:45 - You're not alone in being confused about where to start in legal tech 9:17 - The three main career paths in legal tech and AI for lawyers leaving practice 11:41 - Product roles and why lawyers are better positioned for them than they think 13:00 - Go-to-market roles and why a JD is a competitive advantage in sales conversations 13:48 - Why operations roles are booming inside legal tech companies right now 15:13 - JD required vs. JD preferred and what your legal background signals to employers 17:55 - Why lawyers automatically rank in the top 1% of candidates for legal tech jobs 24:52 - Why lawyers try to execute before they know their objective 30:25 - Why applying for every legal tech role is a recipe for madness 35:37 - How to speak to a role you've never held and start building proof of interest 39:38 - Why updating your resume is the last thing you should do 42:24 - Ben's closing take on legal tech as a viable career path for lawyers ready to make a move Mentioned In How to Break Into Legal Tech and AI as a Lawyer with Ben Chiriboga Reframe Lawyer | Ben Chiriboga on LinkedIn Escaping Lawyer Burnout for Legal Tech with Ben Chiriboga How To Revise Your Resumé For A Non-Legal Job From Biglaw to Legal Tech with Alex Su The Claude-Native Law Firm by Zack Shapiro First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    46 min
  8. How an Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility Keeps Lawyers Stuck

    Apr 13

    How an Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility Keeps Lawyers Stuck

    Responsibility is one of the things that makes lawyers good at their jobs. It also shows up, over and over, as one of the things that makes it hardest for them to leave. Not because they don't want to go, but because leaving means someone else has to pick up the work. And for a lawyer who is wired around responsibility, that can feel like something they're just not willing to do. What Sarah sees with her clients is that the sense of responsibility doesn't stay proportional. It ends up putting so much weight on what other people might have to deal with that a lawyer's own mental, physical, and emotional well-being barely registers in the calculation. Toxic environments are especially good at making this worse. In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about why responsibility shows up so consistently in her clients' assessment results, what happens when it becomes overdeveloped, and why it makes it hard for lawyers to even let themselves think about leaving. 1:28 - How responsibility shows up in CliftonStrengths, VIA, and the Enneagram 3:01 - What Sarah sees with lawyers whose jobs aren't good for them 4:26 - Why highly responsible lawyers struggle to give themselves permission to even think about leaving 5:07 - What an overdeveloped sense of responsibility actually means 6:03 - How toxic environments exploit lawyers who are highly responsible 7:28 - The faulty logic that keeps highly responsible lawyers from cutting themselves any slack 9:18 - Why it matters to know if responsibility is one of your top characteristics Mentioned In How an Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility Keeps Lawyers Stuck First Steps to Leaving the Law The Former Lawyer Collaborative

    11 min
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Do you hate working as a lawyer? Are you an unhappy lawyer who wants to leave the law, but isn't sure what to do next? Do your family and friends think you're crazy for wanting to leave the law, or are you too afraid to tell them you don't want to be a lawyer? The Former Lawyer Podcast is for you! Each week, host Sarah Cottrell interviews a different former lawyer who has left the law behind. Hear inspiring stories about how these former lawyers are thriving and found their way to careers and lives they love.

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  • Creator
    Sarah Cottrell
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    350
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Former Lawyer Podcast
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