The Parenting 3.0 Show - Raising Emotionally Healthy Kids

Deb Blum and Jai Flicker
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Join Jai Flicker, Educator and Founder of LifeWorks Learning Center and Deb Blum, Parent and Life Coach, as we help re-awaken your natural parenting instincts. Each week we’ll bring together wisdom from the past and scientific and psychological research from the present to support you in your parenting journey. Parenting 3.0 isn’t a fad or a quick fix. It’s a set of principles that allows us to respond to our kids and life from an informed and empowered place AND raise emotionally healthy kids. Listen in!

  1. Helping Relationships - Part 3: The Ten Characteristics (6-10)

    01/16/2020

    Helping Relationships - Part 3: The Ten Characteristics (6-10)

    This week, Jai and Deb continue to explore the work of Carl Rogers, diving even deeper into the topic of helping relationships, which Rogers defines as relationships that "other people can use for their own personal growth." In this episode we discuss the second five out of ten characteristics that Rogers identifies as essential to supporting personal growth in others. These five characteristics are: 6) Understanding 7) Acceptance 8) Safety 9) Non-evaluation 10) Confirmation Join us as we discover together how to form powerful helping relationships! Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: On Becoming a Person, Carl Rogers (Book)    STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    43 min
  2. Helping Relationships - Part 2: The Ten Characteristics (1-5)

    01/09/2020

    Helping Relationships - Part 2: The Ten Characteristics (1-5)

    This week, Jai and Deb continue to explore the work of Carl Rogers, diving even deeper into the topic of helping relationships, which Rogers defines as relationships that "other people can use for their own personal growth." In this episode we discuss the first five out of ten characteristics that Rogers identifies as essential to supporting personal growth in another person. The first five characteristics are: 1) Dependability 2) Congruence 3) Positive Regard 4) Healthy Separateness for Oneself 5) Healthy Separateness for the Other Join us as we discover together how to form powerful helping relationships! Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: On Becoming a Person, Carl Rogers (Book)    STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    55 min
  3. Helping Relationships - Part 1: Supporting Self-Actualization

    01/01/2020

    Helping Relationships - Part 1: Supporting Self-Actualization

    This week, Jai and Deb discuss how to support the process of Self-Actualization in our kids. Using the groundbreaking work of psychologist Carl Rogers as a framework, we explore topics such as authenticity, unconditional love and the power of understanding. We also explore how to form what Rogers calls helping relationships, which he defines as those relationships that "another person can use for his or her own personal growth." Rogers' three key insights into helping relationships are as follows: 1) The more that we can be genuine in a relationship, the more helpful it will be. 2) The more acceptance and liking we feel toward the other person, the more we will be creating a relationship that the other person can use for their own personal growth. 3) The more that we strive to understand the other person, the more we hold a sensitive empathy toward that person's feelings and communications, the more helpful and significant it will be. When these three conditions are present, individuals naturally move in the direction of wholeness, maturity and self-actualization. Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: On Becoming a Person, Carl Rogers (Book) Authenticity vs. Attachment, Dr. Gabor Mate (YouTube Video)   STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    1h 10m

  4. 12/26/2019

    Listener Question: How to Handle Separation Anxiety

    This week, Deb and Jai try something new where they respond to a question from a listener. The topic is separation anxiety and they use attachment theory as the basis for their answer. This was recorded using Zoom video conferencing and will be posted on YouTube too!  We'd love to know what you think about this format, and if you have a question for us - please reach out. You can email us at deb@inspire4life.com or jai@lifeworks.life.  Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: Do Parents Matter Six Stages of Attachment Episode   STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI:   Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com   The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    27 min

  5. 12/18/2019

    Self-Determination Theory - Part 4: Beyond Rewards and Punishments

    This week, Jai and Deb finish mapping out the Motivation Continuum that we started discussing in Part 3 of this series, focusing on the four types of extrinsic motivation. Downloading the PDF of this continuum may be helpful. Join us as we explore the hidden costs of using rewards and punishments and what it looks like to move beyond that to more integrated forms of extrinsic motivation.  Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: The Motivation Continuum NY Times Article: Which is Better, Rewards or Punishments? Neither STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    1h 2m
  6. Self-Determination Theory - Part 3: Understanding Laziness

    12/11/2019

    Self-Determination Theory - Part 3: Understanding Laziness

    This week, Jai and Deb look at laziness through the lens of Self-determination Theory, revealing that it is often actually a form of amotivation - an inability to motivate - not a willful choice to remain inactive. Amotivation falls on the far end of the powerful Motivation Continuum offered by SDT, which we begin to explain.  Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: The Motivation Continuum  Edward Deci - On Self-Determination Theory Jessica Lahey - Teaching the Gift of Failure Article - Laziness Does Not Exist   STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    51 min
  7. Self-Determination Theory - Part 2: How To Get Ourselves and Our Kids to Do Things

    12/04/2019

    Self-Determination Theory - Part 2: How To Get Ourselves and Our Kids to Do Things

    In this episode, Jai and Deb explore motivation, starting with the search for a "silver bullet" strategy for motivating oneself to go to the gym. During this episode, we also explore the relationship between autonomy and self-actualization, and how both concepts are intimately related to motivation in general.    STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI:   Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com   The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    1h 18m

  8. 11/28/2019

    Self-Determination Theory - Part 1: The Three Human Needs

    This week, Jai and Deb explore three fundamental human psychological needs that, when met, lead to greater vitality, motivation and well-being and, when unmet, contribute to anxiety, depression and lowered of self-esteem. These needs, as articulated by Self-Determination Theory, are: relatedness, autonomy and competence. Join us as we discuss how to increase our own well-being and the well-being of our children. Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/ STAY CONNECTED WITH DEB & JAI: Like the Parenting 3.0 Podcast Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/parenting3podcast/ And find them on their websites: https://LifeWorks.life and https://DebBlum.com The Parenting 3.0 Show is a weekly long-form discussion aimed at helping to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for parents and more beneficial for kids.

    28 min
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Join Jai Flicker, Educator and Founder of LifeWorks Learning Center and Deb Blum, Parent and Life Coach, as we help re-awaken your natural parenting instincts. Each week we’ll bring together wisdom from the past and scientific and psychological research from the present to support you in your parenting journey. Parenting 3.0 isn’t a fad or a quick fix. It’s a set of principles that allows us to respond to our kids and life from an informed and empowered place AND raise emotionally healthy kids. Listen in!

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