Off Duty Life

Kim Barnes Jefferson
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The Fit Girl Magic podcast is dedicated to helping women create simple healthy habits and sustainable routines that you can fit into your busy lifestyle. As well as the steps needed to build a rocksteady mindset so that you can stop feeling like working out is a punishment to feeling like the strong and confident woman who just knows what to do. Each week, with a sprinkle of humor and real talk, Kim Barnes Jefferson shares resources, tips, and interviews with experts helping women over 40 how to master weight loss, balance hormones and finally get healthy on your own terms. Do yourself a favor and hit the subscribe button. If you are ready to stop defining yourself by the scale, jumping from plan to plan and ready to finally ditch the comparison game and all or nothing mindset. You have found the podcast that will help you to tap into your strength, inner confidence and give you a new appreciation for your health with a splash of salty real talk.

  1. 3d ago

    Empty Nest Syndrome: Who Are You After the Kids Leave?

    Everybody hands you a college packing list. Nobody hands you the one that says "by the way, your whole day is about to rearrange itself without asking." This week I'm joined by Allison Goldberg, aka Life Coach Ally, life coach and host of Life After Launch, to talk about what actually happens when the kids leave, the bedroom goes quiet, and the kitchen is suspiciously crumb-free. We get into: The moment it really hits (spoiler: it's not the one you'd guess) How manage kids who ghost you How dads feel it too, just differently Why reinvention doesn't need a Cinderella moment The best (and worst) things about a house with no one yelling "what's for dinner?" Whether your nest is emptying, already empty, or you're just in a midlife "who am I now" era, pour something good and come sit with us. Links Website: www.lifecoachallisongoldberg.com Instagram: @‌lifecoachally | @‌navigatingthelaunch Facebook: Life Coach Allison Goldberg | Navigating the Launch TikTok: @‌lifecoachally The Empty Nest Reset: Rediscovering Your New Normal: An Interactive Workbook on Surviving After College Drop-Off https://link.amazon/B0gijIrKi Kim 's Links Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ What Room In Your House Needs Attention https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz

  2. Sep 24

    How to Know If You've Outgrown Your Marriage After

    What happens when the life or relationship you chose years ago no longer feels like yours? In this Off Duty Life episode, I'm joined by self-trust and relationship coach Mikahla Kate to talk about the messy middle between "something isn't right" and making a life-changing decision. This isn't a conversation about telling women to stay or go. It's about slowing down long enough to understand what you actually want, what you've been tolerating, and whether you're following a blueprint you didn't consciously choose. We talk about: · The difference between a rough season and a relationship you've outgrown · Why making the decision isn't the same as doing the deeper work · How childhood patterns can shape the partners we choose · What happens when only one person is willing to reflect and change · Why you can't schedule healing between 1:00 and 3:30 and call it handled · The danger of choosing the same relationship in a different outfit · How small acts of self-trust help you hear your own voice again · Why rediscovering yourself doesn't require blowing up your life or booking a retreat in Bali · The question we eventually have to ask: Am I tolerating my life or actually living it? Sometimes the first step isn't making a decision. It's getting quiet enough to hear what you already know. Connect with Mikahla:Instagram: @thrivewithmick TikTok: @thrivewithmick Connect with Kim: Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ Off Duty Club https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept If your life was a house, what room needs your attention? https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz_podcast free quiz

  3. Sep 17

    Are You Auto-Renewing Your Life? Breaking Old Habits in Midlife

    What happens when the woman who can get a ridiculous amount of shit done has no idea what she does for fun? After moving to Florida, leaving in-person training, and watching Philip retire, I suddenly had something I wasn't used to: space. I didn't know what to do with it. In this Off Duty Life episode: what happens when the life you've carried for years stops fitting, the questions I've been asking myself to figure out what's next, and how I reluctantly became a pickleball person. Plus why my weekend is now Tuesday and Wednesday, and the one question that might have you rethinking something you've been automatically renewing for years. Press play and let's figure out what this next chapter could look like, without turning it into another damn project.

  4. Sep 10

    How to Let Go of Regret in Midlife — and Make Your Next Move

    Ever replayed a mistake so many times it deserves its own Netflix series? At some point, you're not learning from the past. You're just reviewing the footage. This week I'm talking with Scott Dotson, author of Par for the Soul and founder of Own Your Headspace. We get into what happens when you stop obsessing over the last shot and ask a better question: what's next? We talk about letting go of a bad round without needing a perfect ending, why your old definition of success doesn't have to follow you forever, and what golf can teach you about screwing up, adjusting, and hitting the next shot anyway. Sometimes you're in the trees, not the fairway. Take the lesson. Leave the rest. And play the damn ball from where it landed. Links Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ Off Duty Club https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept website: http://ownyourheadspace.com instagram: @‌scottdotson67 Facebook: Scott Dotson + Own Your Head Space book - Par for the Soul available on amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GY7DXRVG

  5. Sep 3

    Why Real Letters and Unfinished Laundry Can Change Everything| 371

    What happens when you're really, really good at getting shit done... but not so great at doing things for absolutely no reason? While packing for my move, I found a box of 30-year-old letters and postcards and did something wildly rebellious: I sat down in the middle of the day and read them. Boxes were everywhere. According to Philip's spreadsheet I was behind. And I didn't care. That little interruption got me thinking about how good we've become at being useful. We work, remember the appointments, make the reservations, get our steps, keep track of the toilet paper... and somewhere along the way, even fun started needing a purpose. So this Off Duty Life podcast episode is about what happens when you get more freedom in your schedule than you know what to do with. I tried mahjong. I tried pickleball. I tried golf. I was bad at all three and didn't need to be good at any of them. Turns out enjoying your life while some shit stays unfinished might be the actual goal. No app. No portal. No homework. No 12-week plan for becoming excellent at relaxing. Just a little interruption in your regularly scheduled productivity. Your experiment this week: leave one thing undone and use that time for something that accomplishes absolutely nothing. The laundry will survive. I have faith in it. And speaking of doing nothing productively, that's basically the whole premise behind the Off Duty Club, my brand-new quarterly snail-mail club. Founding season is $10, then $27/quarter. First round closes September 9th. https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/

    Why Real Letters and Unfinished Laundry Can Change Everything| 371

  6. Aug 27

    I'm Clocking Out: Welcome to Off Duty Life|370

    Why Fit Girl Magic Is Becoming Off Duty Life After 7 years and nearly 400 episodes, the podcast has a new name. And no, I didn't just get bored and decide we needed a new logo. I wanted a bigger conversation. Yes, we're still going to talk health, menopause, food, workouts, sleep, all of it. I'm not escorting protein and strength training from the building. We're just making the room bigger. Because somewhere along the way, I realized I'm less interested in helping women cram one more healthy habit into an already packed life and way more interested in this: Are we actually enjoying the life we're working so damn hard to manage? In this Off Duty Life episode, I'm talking about what sparked the shift: moving to Florida knowing approximately zero people, Philip retiring, and realizing I had a much easier time answering what do I need to do? than what do I actually like doing? We're getting into: Why being "on duty" is about more than your to-do list The giant mental Jenga game so many women are playing every day Why a 30-minute workout doesn't need an apology Why sitting on your ass is, in fact, a perfectly acceptable plan What "Off Duty" actually means (spoiler: no coconuts required) Where the podcast is headed next: friendships, marriage, sex, starting over, and figuring out what the hell we actually enjoy Your first Off Duty Experiment: Name three things you want to do in the next 30 days simply because you'd enjoy them. They don't need to improve you. They don't need to make you healthier. They don't need to make you money. Nobody else needs to benefit. If your first thought is I have no freaking idea, that's exactly why we're having this conversation. I'm also sharing a preview of what else is coming in the Off Duty world, including something involving an envelope, a stamp, and your actual mailbox. Yep. Snail mail is making a comeback. Want to know what's coming in the mail? Join the Off Duty Club: https://theoffdutylife.com/odc_sept We've spent enough years being on duty. Let's figure out what happens when we clock out. Come hang with me Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/

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  7. Aug 20

    Stop Waiting for Someday to Enjoy Your Life

    If your life were a house, which rooms have you been spending the most time in? And which ones have you been walking past, telling yourself you'll get to them someday? For years, my health and fitness room was very impressive. Strength training, protein, two-hour workouts, discipline you could see from space. I lived in that room like it was a studio apartment, even though I had a beautiful house. I just never explored the other rooms. Meanwhile, the rest, fun, friendship, and new experiences rooms were down the hall collecting dust. This episode covers: Why your routine isn't broken, it's just expired The difference between health supporting your life and health being your whole personality The four rooms you might be avoiding: rest, play, connection, and someday What it actually looks like to change with your life instead of fighting it How to stop treating your life like a renovation project that's never done You don't need to bulldoze the house or start another 12-step morning routine. Pick one room. Open the door. Give it ten minutes. Take the free "What Room in Your Life Needs Attention?" quiz: https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/fflpersonaquiz_podcast If this one landed, send it to a friend who could use permission to live in more than one room

  8. Aug 13

    Can One Person Really Improve a Marriage

    What happens when you want your marriage to change, but your partner has zero interest in counseling, personal development, or doing a relationship workbook after dinner? Are you stuck waiting for them to get on board? Marriage coach Julie Tran says no. Julie's own marriage reached a point where she and her husband loved each other, but didn't particularly like each other. They were having the same arguments, walking on eggshells, and feeling more like roommates than partners. She wanted to work on the relationship. He wasn't exactly racing to join her. So Julie stopped waiting for him to change and started looking at what she could do differently. In this Fit Girl Magic podcast episode, we talk about how one person can begin changing the dynamic of a marriage without taking responsibility for the entire relationship. Julie also shares her three-step Beautiful Boundaries Blueprint for expressing what you need without turning every conversation into an indictment. We get into: Why long marriages can start feeling more like roommate arrangements What happens when you're keeping score and you're clearly winning How to stop having the same argument dressed in different clothes Why your partner's annoying habit is rarely the real problem How to make a request without blaming, demanding, or starting round 47 The difference between doing your part and doing all the work What sesame seeds, coffee slurping, and a spotless kitchen can teach us about love If you've ever thought, I want this marriage to feel better, but I can't be the only one trying, this episode may help you see what's still within your control. Links Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitgirlmagic Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbarnesjefferson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kimjeffersoncoach/ What room needs your attention – FREE quiz https://kimbarnesjefferson.lpages.co/room-quiz_podcast Julie's website www.gooeylove.co Her book https://atigbranding.myflodesk.com/supporttheauthors

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The Fit Girl Magic podcast is dedicated to helping women create simple healthy habits and sustainable routines that you can fit into your busy lifestyle. As well as the steps needed to build a rocksteady mindset so that you can stop feeling like working out is a punishment to feeling like the strong and confident woman who just knows what to do. Each week, with a sprinkle of humor and real talk, Kim Barnes Jefferson shares resources, tips, and interviews with experts helping women over 40 how to master weight loss, balance hormones and finally get healthy on your own terms. Do yourself a favor and hit the subscribe button. If you are ready to stop defining yourself by the scale, jumping from plan to plan and ready to finally ditch the comparison game and all or nothing mindset. You have found the podcast that will help you to tap into your strength, inner confidence and give you a new appreciation for your health with a splash of salty real talk.

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  • Creator
    Kim Barnes Jefferson
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © all rights reserved to Kim Barnes Jefferson
  • Show Website
    Off Duty Life

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