Creating Her Best Life

Shannan Christiansen
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Welcome to Creating Her Best Life, the go-to podcast for women ready to step into their full potential and design a life they truly love. Hosted by certified Master Life Coach Shannan Christiansen, this inspiring show is tailored for women who seek clarity, empowerment, and actionable strategies to overcome life's challenges and achieve personal and professional success. Each week, Shannan dives into various topics ranging from mindset mastery and goal setting to self-care and relationship building, providing expert insights and practical tools that empower listeners to take bold steps toward their dreams. Whether you're navigating a career shift, building confidence, or looking for ways to enhance your every day life, Creating Her Best Life delivers the guidance you need to thrive. Join our community of ambitious women and discover how to rewrite your story, find your purpose, and create a life you're proud to call your own. Because your best life isn't just a dream, it starts now! To learn more, visit bflycoaching.com.

  1. 2d ago

    Ep. 328 | Let Them Be Wrong About You

    What if you stopped trying to make everyone understand you? For the people-pleasers and over-explainers, being misunderstood can feel unbearable. We want to clarify, defend, explain our intentions, and make sure everyone knows why we made the decision we made. But there's a difference between communicating and trying to control someone's opinion of you. You can tell someone your truth. You cannot make them believe it. You can explain your decision. You cannot make them agree with it. In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when you stop handing other people the power to determine whether you feel okay about yourself. They may disagree. They may be disappointed. They may misunderstand you. And you can survive that. Because self-trust isn't everyone else believing you made the right decision. It's knowing who you are, why you made it, and being able to stand behind it even when someone else doesn't. So the next time you feel the urge to send the second text, defend yourself, or explain one more time, ask yourself: What if I just let them be wrong about me?

  2. Aug 26

    Ep. 327 | The Stories Running Your Life

    What if some of the things you believe about yourself aren't actually facts? They're just stories you've repeated so many times that they started to feel like the truth. I've never been good with money. I always quit. I'm just not a confident person. I can't stick with anything. I'm too old to start over. I always choose the wrong people. I'm not good at relationships. I just don't have enough discipline. People always leave. This is just who I am. The problem is, your brain doesn't just tell the story. It starts looking for evidence to prove it. And before you know it, the story you believe begins shaping the decisions you make, the opportunities you take (or don't), the conversations you avoid, the relationships you choose, and ultimately, the life you create. Because the evidence you create today becomes fuel for the story you tell yourself tomorrow. In this episode, I'm talking about the stories quietly running your life, how your brain turns repeated thoughts into "proof," and why changing what you believe about yourself can change everything that comes after it. This is one of the reasons I love coaching so much. I've experienced every kind of coaching myself—from private coaching to group coaching—and I'm still amazed when my own coach uncovers a story I've been carrying that I didn't even realize was there. And I see the same thing happen with the women I coach. Once you can see the story, you can question it. Once you question it, you can stop automatically living from it. And once you begin creating different evidence, you give yourself something new to believe. Because while there is so much in this world you cannot control, you can begin changing what you think, how you respond, and what you choose to do next. And that work changes everything. Becoming Her Volume 2 begins THIS Saturday, August 29th, and enrollment closes THIS Friday, August 28th. Volume 2 brings new topics, deeper conversations, an enhanced workbook, and an entirely new framework that I'm teaching for the first time inside Becoming Her. This framework is designed to help you uncover the beliefs, stories, and patterns operating underneath the surface—the ones influencing your choices before you even realize they're there—and give you a practical way to begin creating evidence for something different. Not to manufacture some shiny "new version" of yourself. But to uncover the woman you've always been capable of becoming underneath the old beliefs, limiting thoughts, and stories that have been deciding what's possible for you. If you've been waiting to join us, this is it. Save your spot before enrollment closes Friday. And one more incredible update: Unstoppable November 2026 is officially SOLD OUT! This November, a group of women will join me for three days at our luxury VIP retreat, stepping away from the noise of everyday life to dive deeply into the work, experience intentionally curated surprises, have the conversations we don't always make space for, laugh—a lot—and come back home to themselves. I cannot wait. But first… Becoming Her Volume 2 starts Saturday. Let's uncover the stories you've been living from, and start writing some better ones.

  3. Aug 19

    Ep. 326 | This is How You Become Her

    Transformation rarely happens in one big, life-changing moment. It happens on an ordinary Tuesday. It happens when you take the walk instead of choosing the couch. When you speak kindly to yourself after making a mistake. When you have the difficult conversation, go to bed on time, drink the water, set the boundary, or simply keep a promise you made to yourself. None of those moments feel extraordinary—but together, they build an extraordinary life. In this episode, I talk about what actually creates lasting transformation and why becoming the next version of yourself has far less to do with perfection and far more to do with learning how to return. Because the women who experience lasting change aren't the women who never get off track. They're the women who keep coming back. We'll unpack the old stories that quietly keep you attached to previous versions of yourself, why constantly quitting on yourself destroys self-trust, and how small, intentional choices begin rebuilding confidence from the inside out. Imagine where you could be one year from today—not because you did everything perfectly, but because you simply refused to quit on yourself. This is exactly why I created the Becoming Her Series. Beginning August 29th, we're kicking off Volume 2 of my signature program, designed to give you the space, tools, support, and coaching to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start creating lasting change from the inside out. The woman you're becoming isn't created by one extraordinary moment. She's created by thousands of ordinary ones. Don't underestimate what you choose today.

  4. Aug 12

    Ep. 325 | Thank the Woman Who Got You Here

    There's a strange part of growth we don't talk about enough. We talk a lot about becoming the next version of ourselves. About building confidence, changing habits, thinking differently, making better choices, and creating a life that feels more aligned with who we want to be. But becoming her doesn't only mean gaining something. Sometimes, it means letting something go. In this episode, I share a simple moment from Pilates that reminded her how easily an old story can become a rule we live by. I had almost convinced myself not to go because mat Pilates was "harder," my back might hurt, and getting down on the floor just wasn't for me anymore. Except none of that turned out to be true. I went. I enjoyed it. And I would have regretted allowing an old story to make the decision for me. That's how so many of our beliefs work. They may have made sense once. They may have protected us, helped us cope, or carried us through a difficult season. But eventually, we have to ask whether the woman who needed those stories is still the woman we want making our decisions today. Because the woman who got you through your hardest years may not be the woman who leads you into your happiest years. That doesn't mean rejecting who you were. It means honoring her. The younger version of you who was scared. The woman who didn't have confidence yet. The woman who stayed, left, started over, survived heartbreak, numbed herself, people-pleased, overworked, overate, shut down, or did whatever she knew how to do to make it through. She wasn't trying to ruin your life. She was trying to protect you with the tools she had. And maybe instead of looking back at her with shame, the next step is simply saying: Thank you. You got me here. But I can take it from here. Growth isn't always about adding more. Sometimes it's subtraction—releasing perfection, guilt, resentment, old expectations, the need for everyone to approve of you, and the belief that rest or love or happiness must somehow be earned. You can appreciate who you've been without asking her to lead the rest of your life. And that is so much of the work inside Becoming Her: Volume 2. Becoming Her isn't about turning yourself into someone completely different. It's about releasing the beliefs, patterns, expectations, and survival strategies that have kept you from fully living as the woman you already know you're capable of being. Enrollment for Becoming Her: Volume 2 is open now through August 28. If you're ready to stop allowing old versions of yourself to make decisions for the life you're creating now, this is your invitation. Because the woman you were deserves your compassion. The woman you are deserves your presence. And the woman you're becoming deserves your courage. One thought. One choice. One brave step at a time.

  5. Aug 5

    Ep. 324 | The Woman Behind the Yes

    Have you ever caught yourself saying yes... when every part of you wanted to say no? People-pleasing isn't always obvious. It doesn't just look like overcommitting or constantly saying yes. Sometimes it looks like staying quiet when you have something to say because you're afraid of being judged. Sometimes it looks like avoiding conflict, apologizing for things that were never your fault, or making yourself smaller just to keep everyone else comfortable. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that keeping everyone else happy kept us safe. Maybe it kept the peace in your home. Maybe it earned you love, approval, or praise. Maybe you believed it would keep people from leaving or keep you from disappointing someone. Over time, your nervous system learned that if everyone else was okay... then you were okay. But eventually, every yes to everyone else quietly becomes a no to yourself. You don't lose yourself overnight. It happens one small decision at a time. You stop making time for the hobbies that once brought you joy. You stop caring for your body because everyone else's needs come first. You stop dreaming because it feels selfish to want more. In this episode, I'm talking about the woman behind the yes—the version of you that's been trying so hard to be everything for everyone else that you've forgotten how to ask yourself what you actually want. Because real transformation doesn't happen through one giant life-changing moment. It happens through one small choice at a time. One honest conversation. One healthy boundary. One courageous no. One intentional yes. If you've been wondering how to stop repeating these patterns and finally become the woman who chooses herself without guilt, this is exactly the work we're doing inside Becoming Her. Enrollment for Becoming Her: Volume 2 is open through August 28. You can click here to save your spot. Because the life you've always dreamed of isn't built in one giant leap—it's built one intentional decision at a time. And every one of those decisions is a vote for the woman you're becoming.

  6. Jul 30

    Ep. 323 | Your Nervous System Is Not Your Identity

    What if the way you've been reacting isn't who you are... it's simply what your nervous system has learned to do? In this episode, I'm talking about the difference between your identity and your survival responses. Feeling anxious doesn't mean you're an anxious person. Feeling overwhelmed doesn't mean you're weak. So often, we mistake temporary nervous system states for permanent personality traits, and that belief quietly shapes the way we see ourselves. You'll learn why your brain's primary job is to keep you safe, how your nervous system can confuse emotional discomfort with actual danger, and why things like difficult conversations, rejection, change, setting boundaries, or pursuing your goals can trigger fight, flight, freeze, or shutdown responses. We'll also explore the three states many of us move through every day: Activated: Everything feels urgent, overwhelming, and reactive. Disconnected: You feel numb, exhausted, and like you're simply surviving. Connected: You can experience emotions without being controlled by them and respond from intention instead of survival. Rather than asking, "What's wrong with me?" you'll learn to ask a far more powerful question: "What is my nervous system trying to protect me from?" Because the goal isn't to never leave a regulated state. The goal is learning how to return to it more quickly. This week, I want you to simply notice where you are today. Are you activated, disconnected, or connected? Don't rush to fix it. Just notice. Awareness is always the first step toward lasting transformation. Remember: you are not your past, your patterns, or your nervous system. Your identity is rewritten every time you choose awareness over autopilot, compassion over criticism, and connection over survival. If you're ready to stop living in survival mode and start becoming the woman you know you're capable of being, Becoming Her Volume 2 is open for enrollment. I'd love to walk alongside you as you build a life that reflects who you're becoming—not who you've had to be.

  7. Jul 22

    Ep. 322 | Confidence Isn't Something You're Born With

    So many women believe confidence is something you're supposed to have before you take the leap. Before you start the business. Before you speak up. Before you apply. Before you set the boundary. Before you change your life. But that's not how confidence works. In this episode, I'm talking about why confidence is never the starting point—it's the result of repeated action. It's built through evidence, through keeping promises to yourself, and through choosing courage long before you feel ready. We'll unpack why waiting to "feel ready" is keeping you stuck, how self-trust becomes the foundation of lasting confidence, why comparison quietly steals your courage, and how every small action you take strengthens the identity of the woman you're becoming. Because life doesn't ask you to already be her. It asks you to become her. If you've been waiting for confidence to magically show up before you take the next step, this episode is your reminder that courage comes first... confidence comes second. The next brave step isn't waiting for permission. It's waiting for you. And if this conversation resonates with you, Becoming Her: Volume 2 is where we take it even deeper. Together, we'll uncover the beliefs that have been stealing your confidence, rebuild the self-trust you've been missing, and help you become the kind of woman who no longer waits to feel ready before she starts. Because confidence isn't reserved for a lucky few—it's built, one brave decision at a time and available to you.

  8. Jul 15

    Ep. 321 | The Stories That Keep You Small

    The life you're living isn't shaped only by what has happened to you. It's shaped by the story you've been telling yourself about what happened. Somewhere along the way, many of us turned difficult moments into lifelong identities. I'm not confident. I always quit. I'm too old. I'm terrible at relationships. I never finish what I start. The problem isn't just the thought, it's what happens when it becomes the lens through which you see yourself. Because every time you begin a sentence with "I am," your brain starts looking for evidence to prove it true. In this episode, I'm talking about how the stories you repeat become the identities you live from, and why so many of us stay stuck in patterns that feel impossible to change. Not because that's who we are, but because our actions naturally align with the story we've believed for years. The good news? Just because you've repeated a story doesn't make it true. You'll learn how to become aware of the beliefs hiding behind your daily thoughts, question whether they're actually true or simply familiar, and begin writing a new story—one that feels believable, empowering, and aligned with the woman you're becoming. Because maybe what you've been calling your identity was only one chapter... and one chapter never gets to write the ending of your story. If this episode resonates with you, Becoming Her is now open for enrollment. Inside the program, we do the deeper work of uncovering the beliefs and stories that have quietly shaped your identity for years—so you can finally stop living from old narratives and start becoming the woman you were created to be.

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Welcome to Creating Her Best Life, the go-to podcast for women ready to step into their full potential and design a life they truly love. Hosted by certified Master Life Coach Shannan Christiansen, this inspiring show is tailored for women who seek clarity, empowerment, and actionable strategies to overcome life's challenges and achieve personal and professional success. Each week, Shannan dives into various topics ranging from mindset mastery and goal setting to self-care and relationship building, providing expert insights and practical tools that empower listeners to take bold steps toward their dreams. Whether you're navigating a career shift, building confidence, or looking for ways to enhance your every day life, Creating Her Best Life delivers the guidance you need to thrive. Join our community of ambitious women and discover how to rewrite your story, find your purpose, and create a life you're proud to call your own. Because your best life isn't just a dream, it starts now! To learn more, visit bflycoaching.com.

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