UnBroken: Better Male Survivors Podcast

Thomas Edward
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  • Mental Health
  • Updated Weekly

Helping men impacted by childhood sexual trauma.

  1. Jul 23

    1382: Why Love Feels So Unsafe

    Why do so many survivors long for connection yet pull away when people get close? In this episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most confusing effects of childhood sexual trauma: the fear of intimacy. Through the story of Miguel, a man engaged to his long-term partner, Daniel, we examine why healthy love can sometimes trigger anxiety, distance, and self-protection. You'll learn how childhood sexual abuse can blur the lines between love, vulnerability, trust, and danger, leaving survivors caught between wanting connection and fearing it at the same time. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! Coach Thomas Edward Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com

  2. Jul 9

    1381: Being A Lone Wolf Doesn't Mean You're Alpha

    Why is asking for help so difficult? In this episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most common yet overlooked effects of childhood sexual trauma: hyper-independence. Through the story of Mark, a successful man who built his life around self-reliance, we examine how abuse can teach survivors that depending on others is risky, vulnerability is dangerous, and the safest person to trust is themselves. You'll learn how childhood survival strategies often evolve into adult isolation, why accepting support can feel uncomfortable, and how the nervous system continues to favor self-reliance long after the original danger has passed. If you've ever struggled to ask for help, felt uncomfortable depending on others, or believed you should be able to handle everything alone, this episode may help you understand why. Because sometimes independence isn't freedom. It's protection. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! Coach Thomas Edward Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    1381: Being A Lone Wolf Doesn't Mean You're Alpha

  3. Jun 25

    1380: Nobody Knows How Hard You're Fighting

    Why are so many male survivors exhausted all the time? In this first episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most common yet misunderstood symptoms of childhood sexual trauma: chronic exhaustion. Through the story of David, a successful husband, father, and grandfather who can't understand why life feels so hard, we examine how childhood sexual abuse trains the nervous system to remain vigilant long after the danger has passed. You'll learn why exhaustion is often more than stress, age, or a busy schedule. It may be the accumulated cost of years spent monitoring, anticipating, protecting, and surviving. If you've ever wondered why vacations don't fully recharge you, why you feel drained by everyday life, or why you're constantly running on fumes despite doing everything "right," this episode may help you see your exhaustion in a completely different light. Because sometimes exhaustion isn't the problem. It's the clue. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

  4. Jun 11

    1379: Faith Under Fire

    In “Faith Under Fire,” we explore what happens when childhood sexual abuse occurs inside religious settings or “godly homes,” where authority, obedience, and shame are spiritualized. This episode breaks down how trauma merges faith cues with threat cues, why prayer can trigger panic, and how meaning-making pathways in the brain get distorted by spiritual betrayal. You’ll learn a practical strategy to gently reframe unsafe beliefs, rebuild internal safety, and reclaim spirituality without forcing theology. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

  5. May 28

    1378: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 2

    Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well? Coach T moves into part two of self-sabotaging loop: The self-fulfilling prophecy identity loop How shame becomes destiny A second collapse arc for Shamus The moment childhood trauma connects to adult sabotage With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

  6. May 15

    1377: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 1

    Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well? In this episode, Coach T introduces the self-sabotage loop as a nervous system response — not a character flaw.  Through the story of Shamus — a composite of real survivor experiences — this episode walks you step-by-step through the internal loop that leads from stability… to collapse. From calm… to chaos. From progress… back to shame. You’ll hear: Why self-sabotage doesn’t start with destruction — it starts with discomfort How childhood sexual trauma wires the body to fear safety, closeness, and success The steps self-sabotage loop most men don’t even realize they’re running How ADHD and trauma together can accelerate impulsive collapse What’s actually happening in the nervous system when someone says, “I just lost control” This episode is essential listening for: Male survivors trying to understand their own patterns Practitioners, coaches, and professionals working with men in recovery Anyone who has ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this when things start going well?” If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this is where it starts. Because once you see the loop… you can interrupt it.   With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

  7. May 1

    1376: “I’m Afraid He Might Be Acting Out… (Living with a male survivor Part 3)

    Something feels off… but you don’t know how to address it. This segment explores the fear of secrecy, acting out, or disconnection—and how trauma, shame, and coping behaviors can show up in ways that are hard to name. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

  8. Apr 17

    1375: I Feel Like I’m Walking on Eggshells (Living with a male survivor Pt 2)

    So you're living with or interacting with a loved one who is a male survivor. You start noticing: You start adjusting your tone, your timing… yourself. You're changing in the relationship. You inadvertently start to experience some of the same things.  This segment explores how unpredictability creates hyper-awareness in partners—and how slowly losing your natural way of being can happen without you even realizing it. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free!   Life By Your Design YouTube Channel:  FaceBook BlueSky Instagram Substack BetterMaleSurvivors.com Coach Thomas Edward Break My Abuse Code™

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