How to find your purpose as a man starts at home, not at work, and Jonathan Berryhill learned that the hard way. Jonathan Berryhill filed for divorce, hid the truth from his wife for two years, and today has been married to her for over 30 years. He was a U.S. Army infantry sergeant in Bosnia, then a police officer, then a college football walk-on at 25. Today he is a real estate broker, CEO of B&B Health Services, father of six, and the author of Warrior to Wealth: Find Your Mission, Forge Your Identity, Build Your Legacy. This one is for the man who is the best at his job and knows his home is getting the leftovers. Jonathan tells Chris Anderson what he changed and what his wife noticed first. Chapters00:00 The man who filed for divorce and stayed married 30 years01:33 Broken home, the Army, Bosnia, and the badge03:50 The night the vision woke him up06:14 Getting back together after the divorce filing07:00 The confession he put off for two years09:43 Find your mission, forge your identity, build your legacy11:14 The first changes his wife noticed12:20 How to find your mission when you have no idea15:18 Don't give your family the leftovers17:18 Chris on three kids under five and being present20:14 Why they homeschooled six kids22:25 You are not going to screw your kids up28:37 Why 90 days is not a real try30:38 Are we going to make it financially?32:20 The trailer they still own and why he can't fail36:32 New levels, new devils37:20 His grandfather's rule: don't have 'em40:22 The two-minute rule for every setback42:04 Your job is a vehicle, not your identity46:24 The Upgraded Man Journal In this episode: The conversation Jonathan put off for two years, and what his wife said when he had itThe three questions he runs everything through: money, love, or GodHow to find your mission, and why it has to serve someone besides youDon't give your family the leftovers, and what changed once home was in orderWhy 90 days is not a real try at a business, a marriage, or the gymThe trailer they still own, and why he says he can't failNew levels, new devils, and the two-minute rule for the next thing that breaksWhy your job is a vehicle, not your identityQuestions this episode answers How do I find my purpose as a man?Jonathan Berryhill says start with who depends on you. Become the man your wife and kids need, then build everything else around that. How do you rebuild trust after infidelity?Jonathan Berryhill says tell the whole truth, even two years late. His wife said she would have forgiven him then and was only waiting on him. How do I build a business without sacrificing my family?Jonathan Berryhill says be intentional. Two hours where you look your kids in the eye beats a weekend on your phone. Find Jonathan Berryhill at jonberryhill.com. His book Warrior to Wealth is available through Blue Hat Publishing. He is on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn as Jonathan Berryhill. The Upgraded Man is hosted by Chris Anderson. Follow the show, and send this one to the man whose family is getting the leftovers. #theupgradedman #findyourpurpose #marriageadviceformen This episode may or may not be sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links, meaning we'll receive a small commission if you buy something. =========================== ⚡️ PODCAST: Subscribe and listen on all major platforms ⚡️ Want to be a guest on The Upgraded Man? Apply here ➡ https://upgraded-man.com/guest ⚡️ For support or business inquiries, email us ➡ chris@upgraded-man.com Our mission at The Upgraded Man is simple — help men upgrade every area of their life through real conversations, honest stories, and actionable insight from men who have done the work. Want to be a guest on The Upgraded Man? Send Chris Anderson a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/upgradedmanpodcast The content on The Upgraded Man is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not constitute professional legal, financial, medical, or therapeutic advice. Always consult a qualified professional before making decisions based on information discussed on this podcast. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.