In The Deep End

Tamar Routly & Lane Kennedy
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In the Deep End: Sober Conversations Clear-eyed. Realistic. Free from exaggeration. Sober: not intoxicated.  Tamar Routly and Lane Kennedy have combined over 4 decades of sobriety between them. They're not here to tell you how to get sober, or to celebrate the pink cloud, or to wrap hard things in a lesson before they've had time to breathe. They're here for the women who are already in the deep end. Whether that means simply choosing to feel everything without a buffer, 20 years in recovery, or three years alcohol-free. Every episode, one topic. Researched, debated, laughed about, and told straight. Because the deep end is where the real conversations happen. And we're not getting out of the pool. Even when it's hot!

  1. 5d ago

    Stop Pushing Through Midlife Fatigue

    Coffee will not fix physical burnout. Lane Kennedy and Tamar Routly break down why running on empty requires real recalibration, not extra willpower. Lane Kennedy and Tamar Routly dig into the reality of exhaustion, depletion, and what happens when pushing through stops working. After periods of physical collapse and relentless scheduling, both hosts examine why quick fixes fail to restore actual vitality. From the cellular role of mitochondria and shifting hormone levels to the hidden toll of chasing dopamine through work, Lane and Tamar look at the biological and social drivers of midlife fatigue. They explore how caregiving, boundary setting, and nervous system regulation shape daily capacity. Learn how adjusting expectations, taking charge of your calendar, and honoring physical limits can break the cycle of running on fumes. Key Takeaways Caffeine provides temporary stimulation while worsening biological oxidative stress.Cellular energy depends on hydration, whole foods, and true nervous system rest.Dopamine-driven work loops mask underlying physical exhaustion until the body breaks.Midlife hormonal changes directly impact baseline stamina and require medical support.Protecting your schedule and community boundaries protects your physical health.Resources Mentioned Trace Minerals Timestamps 00:00 Running on fumes and everyday fatigue 02:41 Why willpower and coffee do not cure burnout 05:08 Cellular biology, mitochondria, and physical fuel 06:05 Hormones, estrogen decline, and midlife vitality 09:35 Chasing dopamine to create false energy 12:34 Lane on chronic fatigue and forced physical rest 15:24 Setting workday boundaries and ending the hustle badge 20:52 Nervous system recalibration and meditation 27:30 The strain on the sandwich generation 31:45 Morning protein, hydration, and mineral balance In the Deep End is a conversation, not medical care. Tamar and Lane share their personal experience and the research they've explored, but they aren't doctors, and nothing in this episode is medical, mental health, or treatment advice. Every body is different. Please talk with a qualified healthcare provider before making changes to your health, medications, or hormones. If you're in crisis, contact your local emergency number or a crisis line. Credits Produced by: Podcast Impact Studio https://podcastimpactstudio.com

  2. Oct 12

    Rage, Brain Fog & HRT: A Real Talk on Hormones

    The conversation delves into the experience of perimenopause, its symptoms, the impact of hormones on mental health, and the empowerment and intimacy that come with discussing perimenopause openly. The conversation delves into the complexities of hormone management, genetic implications, and the challenges of estrogen and metabolic health. It emphasizes the importance of understanding genetics, empowerment in health management, and the significance of doctor-patient relationships. Additionally, it highlights the role of AI in health tracking and the importance of listening to one's body. Takeaways Perimenopause symptoms are diverse and impactfulHormones play a significant role in mental health and well-being Understanding genetic implications is crucial for effective hormone management.Empowerment and informed conversations with healthcare practitioners are essential for personalized health management. Chapters 00:00 The Word That Disappeared01:31 The Experience of Perimenopause03:02 Symptoms of Perimenopause09:48 Hormones and Mental Health16:34 Empowerment and Intimacy19:03 Understanding Hormones and Health20:13 Genetic Implications and Hormone Management21:24 Challenges with Estrogen and Metabolic Health22:43 The Importance of Understanding Genetics23:36 Hormone Replacement Therapy and Estrogen Types25:17 Empowerment in Health Management27:24 Navigating Doctor-Patient Relationships29:30 Listening to Your Body and AI Assistance32:33 Journaling and AI for Health Tracking40:18 Transition and Solutions in Health

  3. Sep 29

    What Gen X Women Are Buying Instead of Alcohol

    The conversation delves into the changing perspectives on alcohol consumption, health and wellness priorities, and the impact on lifestyle choices. It explores the shift in societal norms and priorities, emphasizing the evolving focus on well-being and alternative lifestyle choices. Takeaways Changing PerspectivesHealth and Wellness Priorities Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Article Discussion

  4. Sep 15

    Why Your Nervous System Won't Calm Down in Recovery

    The conversation delves into the impact of trauma and stress on the nervous system, exploring the role of generational trauma and the potential for healing through somatic work and therapy. The conversation delves into topics such as recovery, career transition, burnout, perimenopause, stress, mental health, technology addiction, and mindfulness. It emphasizes the importance of self-care, advocating for health, and the impact of technology on well-being. The speakers share personal experiences and insights related to these themes. Takeaways Understanding the role of the nervous system in stress and traumaThe impact of generational trauma and DNA on mental and physical health Recovery and self-care are essential for overall well-being.Mindfulness and digital detox can help in managing stress and burnout. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Nervous System09:58 The Impact of Trauma and Stress20:07 Generational Trauma and DNA29:04 Somatic Work and Healing30:03 Recovery and Neuroplasticity31:25 Career Transition and Self-Discovery32:22 Burnout and Work Satisfaction34:26 Stress, Burnout, and Health Signals36:22 Perimenopause and Hormonal Health36:50 Advocating for Health and Wellness44:02 Mental Health and Self-Care47:44 Impact of Technology and Addiction49:12 Recovery and Self-Reflection52:26 Mindfulness and Digital Detox

  5. Season 1 Trailer

    In The Deep End - Sober Conversations Trailer

    The conversation begins with an unscripted and off-script format, leading into the introduction of the 'Into The Deep End' podcast theme. The hosts then delve into a discussion on sobriety and recovery, followed by a detailed overview of the seasonal topics and episode themes for the podcast. Takeaways Unscripted and off-script podcast formatExploration of sobriety and recoverySeasonal topics with a focus on deep, personal conversations Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Unscripted Format00:58 Transition to 'Welcome to the Deep End' Podcast Theme03:01 Discussion on Sobriety and Recovery07:02 Seasonal Topics and Episode Themes

  6. 11/18/2024

    Building Confidence and Breaking the Stigma

    Welcome to this special series on Laughing Without Liquor! In an effort to introduce our listeners to our new show, You're Sober, Now What?, we’re sharing the entire first season right here. Going forward, new seasons and episodes will be available exclusively on the new podcast channel. We hope you’ll join us on this transformative journey that dives deeper into long-term sobriety and personal growth. If you enjoy these episodes, be sure to subscribe to You're Sober, Now What? on your favorite podcast platform for more inspiring content. In this episode, we dive into overcoming the stigma surrounding addiction and building lasting confidence in sobriety. We explore real-world experiences, the impact of societal norms, and practical strategies to break negative stereotypes and embrace a confident, sober life. Key Points: Confronting Stigma:Hosts Lane Kennedy and Tamar Medford discuss the internal and external stigmas associated with addiction and how open conversations can help dismantle these barriers.Building Confidence:The episode covers techniques for developing self-assurance in sobriety, including establishing new routines and habits that reinforce positive behaviors.Creating a GID List:Lane introduces the concept of a "Get It Done" list, a tool for setting and achieving small daily goals to build momentum and confidence. Grab your copy of ⁠Sobriety for Dummies⁠ published by Wiley and follow along with us. Take part in this transformative journey to a stigma-free, confident sober life. Get in Touch: Website: ⁠http://youresobernowwhat.com⁠ Contact Us: lanekennedylevy@gmail.com or tamar@theroadforward.ca Download The Mindful Life App: ⁠https://themindfullife.mvt.so/

    Building Confidence and Breaking the Stigma

  7. 11/11/2024

    Cross-Addictions: Swapping One Poison for Another

    Welcome to this special series on Laughing Without Liquor! In an effort to introduce our listeners to our new show, You're Sober, Now What?, we’re sharing the entire first season right here. Going forward, new seasons and episodes will be available exclusively on the new podcast channel. We hope you’ll join us on this transformative journey that dives deeper into long-term sobriety and personal growth. If you enjoy these episodes, be sure to subscribe to You're Sober, Now What? on your favorite podcast platform for more inspiring content. In this episode, we dive into the complexities of cross-addictions, a topic that resonates deeply with anyone in recovery. Tamar and Lane explore their personal struggles and the broader implications of swapping one addictive behavior for another. Key Points: Personal Stories of Cross-Addiction:Both hosts share their experiences with substituting alcohol with other compulsive behaviors, such as overeating and excessive shopping.Sneakiness of New Addictions:Discussing how seemingly innocuous habits, like going to the gym or eating certain foods, can spiral into addictions that mimic the compulsive nature of substance abuse.Awareness and Self-Reflection:Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and honesty in recognizing and addressing new addictive behaviors that can impact recovery. Grab your free chapters of ⁠"Sobriety for Dummies"⁠ at Wiley.com and follow along with us. Dive deeper into understanding and combating cross-addiction with our actionable insights. We’d love to hear from you! Connect with us at: Website: ⁠http://youresobernowwhat.com⁠ Contact Us: lanekennedylevy@gmail.com or tamar@theroadforward.ca Download The Mindful Life App: ⁠⁠https://themindfullife.mvt.so/⁠

    Cross-Addictions: Swapping One Poison for Another

  8. 11/05/2024

    Identifying and Managing Triggers/Sparks

    Welcome to this special series on Laughing Without Liquor! In an effort to introduce our listeners to our new show, You're Sober, Now What?, we’re sharing the entire first season right here. Going forward, new seasons and episodes will be available exclusively on the new podcast channel. We hope you’ll join us on this transformative journey that dives deeper into long-term sobriety and personal growth. If you enjoy these episodes, be sure to subscribe to You're Sober, Now What? on your favorite podcast platform for more inspiring content. In this episode, we dive into the critical aspects of identifying and managing triggers—what we like to call "sparks." Lane and Tamar share personal experiences and strategies for recognizing and dealing with sparks in daily life, providing practical advice for those in all stages of recovery. Key Points: Routine Adjustments:Tamar discusses the importance of changing daily activities that were previously associated with drinking.Loneliness as a Spark:Lane emphasizes how loneliness can be a significant trigger and suggests ways to cope without resorting to harmful behaviors.Support Systems:The hosts highlight the value of a supportive community and explore various options beyond traditional recovery groups. Call to Action: Grab your copy of ⁠Sobriety for Dummies⁠ published by Wiley and follow along with us. Join our community for more support and insights into managing your sobriety journey. Get in Touch:Website: ⁠http://youresobernowwhat.com⁠ Contact Us: lanekennedylevy@gmail.com or tamar@theroadforward.ca Download The Mindful Life App: ⁠https://themindfullife.mvt.so/

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In the Deep End: Sober Conversations Clear-eyed. Realistic. Free from exaggeration. Sober: not intoxicated.  Tamar Routly and Lane Kennedy have combined over 4 decades of sobriety between them. They're not here to tell you how to get sober, or to celebrate the pink cloud, or to wrap hard things in a lesson before they've had time to breathe. They're here for the women who are already in the deep end. Whether that means simply choosing to feel everything without a buffer, 20 years in recovery, or three years alcohol-free. Every episode, one topic. Researched, debated, laughed about, and told straight. Because the deep end is where the real conversations happen. And we're not getting out of the pool. Even when it's hot!

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  • Creator
    Tamar Routly & Lane Kennedy
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    293
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Tamar Routly & Lane Kennedy
  • Show Website
    In The Deep End

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