Stable Moments Podcast

Rebecca Britt
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The show where we discuss all things related to the foster care system and early childhood trauma. From foster parents, trauma experts, former foster kids and beyond, we’ll take a deep dive into the complexities of the foster care crisis in an effort to better understand how to fix it!

  1. Aug 26

    The Blame Reflex in Foster & Adopted Children

    Why do foster and adopted children so often assume everything is their fault? For children with developmental trauma, self-blame can become more than a thought—it can become a core belief. A parent is upset, a friend acts differently, someone reschedules, a teacher corrects them…and their brain immediately fills in the blank: It must be because of me. In this episode, I’m talking about what I call the blame reflex—our very human tendency to assign fault when something goes wrong. Blame can actually make us feel safer because if we can figure out why something happened, we can convince ourselves we can prevent it from happening again. But children who have experienced abuse, neglect, disrupted attachment, foster care, or other developmental trauma often turn that blame inward. We’ll explore: Why blame can create a false sense of safety and control • How self-blame becomes woven into a child’s identity The difference between guilt (“I did something bad”) and shame (“I am bad”) • How everyday interactions can become “evidence” that a child is unwanted, unworthy, or to blame Why simply saying “It’s not your fault” may not be enough How mentors can use curiosity to help children consider other possibilities The difference between fault, accountability, and responsibility How asking “What do we do next?” can shift children away from shame Why trauma-informed adults need to recognize their own blame reflex, too How small, consistent moments can help children develop cognitive flexibility and a healthier sense of self-worth We aren’t trying to teach children that nothing is ever their responsibility. We’re helping them learn that sometimes they make mistakes, sometimes other people make mistakes, sometimes nobody made a mistake—and sometimes we simply don’t know why something happened. That ability to sit with uncertainty without automatically deciding “It was because of me” can be incredibly powerful for a child who has spent their life believing they are the problem. Learn more about Stable Moments and our trauma-informed mentorship model: https://www.stablemoments.com Interested in doing your own deeper work around old stories, wounds, and patterns? Learn more about Heal Yourself, Heal the World: https://www.stablemoments.com/heal

  2. Jul 29

    The Belonging Wound in Foster & Adopted Children

    Why would a child reject the very connection they desperately need? In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, Rebecca Britt explores what she calls the Belonging Wound—a deep belief many children develop after experiencing abuse, neglect, foster care, adoption, or developmental trauma. When a child believes they don't belong, that wound can show up in surprising ways. One child may push everyone away. Another may become a people pleaser. Some act like they know everything, while others become perfectionists or completely change their personalities to fit in. These behaviors may look different, but they often come from the same core belief: "I don't belong." In this episode, you'll learn: • What the belonging wound is • The difference between belonging and fitting in • Why children reject connection before they can be rejected • Why some kids become know-it-alls, people pleasers, perfectionists, or chameleons • Practical trauma-informed responses for each presentation • How consistent relationships help children heal developmental trauma Whether you're a foster parent, adoptive parent, mentor, teacher, therapist, CASA volunteer, or child welfare professional, this episode will help you see behavior through the lens of trauma and belonging. ▶ Learn how to launch a Stable Moments mentorship program in your community: https://www.stablemoments.com/webinar Stable Moments is a trauma-informed mentorship model pairing one caring adult with one child for one hour each week to build life skills, healthy relationships, and long-term resilience. Subscribe for weekly conversations about developmental trauma, foster care, adoption, mentorship, and practical strategies for helping children heal. #DevelopmentalTrauma #FosterCare #Adoption #TraumaInformed #ChildDevelopment #Mentorship #StableMoments

  3. Jun 24

    Why Foster Kids Need Their Memories Honored | Trauma-Informed Mentoring

    Heal Yourself Heal the World Course: https://stablemoments.com/heal Many children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse, neglect, or developmental trauma carry complicated relationships with their memories. Some memories are painful. Others are joyful but feel confusing because they are connected to people or places that others have labeled as "bad." As caring adults, mentors, foster parents, teachers, and caregivers, we often avoid talking about a child's past because we're afraid of triggering them. But what if honoring positive memories is actually part of healing? In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, I explore why memories matter for children with developmental trauma and share one of our favorite trauma-informed mentorship activities: the Memory Rock Activity. You'll learn: • Why foster and adopted children often struggle to organize and make sense of memories • How positive memories support emotional regulation and self-worth • Why children need permission to honor the good moments from difficult chapters of life • How to use the Memory Rock Activity to create connection, grounding, and resilience • Ways mentors, foster parents, and caregivers can have meaningful conversations without acting as therapists Whether you're a mentor, foster parent, adoptive parent, educator, social worker, or simply someone who wants to make a difference in a child's life, this episode offers practical tools you can use immediately. 🎴 Meaningful Moments Cards: https://stablemoments.com/store 🌐 Learn more about Stable Moments: https://stablemoments.com  #FosterCare #TraumaInformed #DevelopmentalTrauma #TraumaInformedMentoring #FosterYouth #Adoption #ChildDevelopment #Mentorship #TraumaResponsive #FosterParenting #SocialWork #YouthMentoring #StableMoments #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalAwareness

  4. May 27

    Becoming a Trauma-Responsive Mentor

    What if mentorship isn’t about getting it right… but about staying responsive? In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, we explore what it really means to be trauma responsive in mentorship and why flexibility, curiosity, and connection matter more than perfect planning. Many mentors feel pressure to create the “perfect” session, but children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse, neglect, or developmental trauma don’t need perfect adults. They need safe, connected relationships with adults who can stay calm, open, and responsive when things don’t go according to plan. In this episode, we discuss: What trauma-responsive mentorship actually means Why responsive relationships help children heal Real mentorship scenarios and examples How to stay flexible during difficult moments Why confidence comes from responsiveness, not perfection How healthy relationships are built through curiosity and connection Whether you’re a mentor, foster parent, educator, church leader, or community organization, this episode will help you better understand how to support children impacted by trauma through relationship-centered mentorship. 👉 Learn more about the Stable Moments model, watch our FREE webinar: https://www.stablemoments.com/webinar #StableMoments #TraumaInformed #Mentorship #FosterCare #Adoption #TraumaResponsive

  5. Apr 29

    The Power of Repair in Trauma-Informed Mentorship

    Worried about saying the wrong thing to a child who has experienced trauma? You’re not alone. One of the biggest reasons people hesitate to become mentors or work with foster and adopted youth is the fear of messing up. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to be perfect to make a difference. In this episode, we talk about the power of repair in trauma-informed mentorship — what it is, why it matters, and how it can actually strengthen your relationship with a child. Children who have experienced abuse, neglect, or unstable relationships often internalize negative experiences and believe they are at fault. Repair helps shift that belief and teaches them that relationships can be safe, consistent, and forgiving. In this episode, you’ll learn: What “repair” means in trauma-informed care Why perfection isn’t the goal in mentorship How to respond when you say the wrong thing Real examples of repair with kids How repair builds trust, resilience, and connection Whether you’re a mentor, foster parent, educator, or simply someone who wants to support children from hard places, this episode will give you a practical, powerful tool you can use right away. 👉 Learn more about Stable Moments: https://stablemoments.com/webinar #StableMoments #TraumaInformed #Mentorship #FosterCare #Adoption #ChildDevelopment #HealingRelationships

  6. Feb 25

    Trauma-Informed Mentorship Activity: Build a Bridge for Foster Youth

    Our Stable Moments color-coded activities may look simple on the surface, but they are intentionally designed to build specific life skills in kids who have experienced unstable beginnings. In this episode, I break down one of our most powerful activities: Build a Bridge. This trauma-informed mentorship activity helps foster and adopted youth develop: 🟠 Independence 🔵 Responsibility 🟢 Self-Worth We’ll walk through: • The trauma lens behind why some kids shut down after failure • How to guide problem-solving without fixing it for them • How this activity strengthens resilience and confidence • How you can start small on a tabletop and expand to bigger bridge challenges across a room At Stable Moments, our color-coded activities are intentionally matched to each child’s individualized Plan of Care to target the specific life skills they need to strengthen. This isn’t just an engineering challenge. It’s developmental repair. 👉 Want to launch a Stable Moments program in your school, church, or community organization? Learn more about becoming a certified Stable Moments location here: https://www.stablemoments.com #StableMoments #TraumaInformed #FosterCare #Mentorship #SEL #ResilienceBuilding

  7. Jan 28

    Helping Foster Youth Build a Sense of Self Through Mentorship

    Many children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse, neglect, or abandonment haven’t had the opportunity to discover who they are or what they’re good at. Instead of exploring interests and strengths, they learned how to survive — often by giving the “right” answer rather than the true one. In this episode, we talk about why developing a sense of self is so important for children with developmental trauma and how mentors can support strength-building in safe, relational ways. We share practical strategies mentors can use in sessions, including Stable Moments’ All About Me activity, and why noticing and naming a child’s strengths in real time can be life-changing. Whether you’re a mentor, foster parent, or professional supporting children in care, this conversation will help you better understand how identity, confidence, and self-worth develop through consistent, trauma-informed relationships. Topics covered include: Why kids with trauma often believe they’re “not good at anything” How survival behaviors impact identity development Helping kids answer “What do you like?” authentically Using the All About Me activity to support self-discovery Why naming strengths builds confidence and trust #StableMoments #TraumaInformed #Mentorship #FosterCare #Adoption #ChildDevelopment #HealingRelationships

  8. 10/31/2025

    10 Trauma-Informed Mentorship Practices You Can Use in Every Session

    Some of the most powerful moments in a Stable Moments session happen between the activities — in the greeting, the transition, and the quiet spaces where connection grows. 💜 In this episode, Rebecca shares 10 simple trauma-informed practices — called Mini Moments — that mentors can use to build trust, support regulation, and strengthen key life skills with kids who have experienced trauma. These practical tools don’t require supplies or planning, just presence and intention. Whether you’re a mentor, educator, or trauma-informed professional, you’ll leave with fresh ways to bring calm, connection, and confidence into every session. 🌱 ✨ Watch to learn: What “Mini Moments” are and why they matter How to weave trauma-informed practices naturally into sessions Real examples that build self-worth, responsibility, and emotional awareness 💜 Read the full blog here Get Your Trauma-Informed Responses cheat sheet: https://www.stablemoments.com/responses #StableMoments #TraumaInformed #Mentorship #FosterCare #MiniMoments #YouthDevelopment #TraumaInformedCare

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The show where we discuss all things related to the foster care system and early childhood trauma. From foster parents, trauma experts, former foster kids and beyond, we’ll take a deep dive into the complexities of the foster care crisis in an effort to better understand how to fix it!

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  • Creator
    Rebecca Britt
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    99
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    © 2022 Stable Moments Podcast
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