The Empower Create Encourage Podcast

Alessandra Charlesworth

My dream with my podcast is to create an authentically connected community where we empower and encourage each other to create the versions of ourselves we desire and to be supported in our own healing process, personal progress, and fulfillment. My intention with this podcast is to be able to empower individuals with tools and strategies to improve the quality of their daily experiences and encourage individuals to create the life, the love, the reality, and world they desire. I believe cognitive consonance is the key to internal peace and happiness. My invitation for you, as a listener, is to act in harmony with what you believe in, and experiment with the prompts that resonate with you.

  1. Give Your Kids The Freedom To Fail

    MAR 3

    Give Your Kids The Freedom To Fail

    S5E08 Kenny Castillo shares his secret to raising resilient kids: parenting with courage instead of control. We explore the joy of fatherhood, the heartbreak of watching your kids struggle, and the deep inner work required to raise resilient, confident children. We dig into the shift from rescuing to equipping, the power of letting kids make their own mistakes, and how the words we speak become the inner voice they carry for life. What listeners will take awayWhy giving kids space to fail builds resilience, confidence, and emotional strengthHow to move from rescuing to supporting without stepping in too quicklyThe role of ego and fear in parenting and how to release bothWhat it looks like to let kids make mistakes without shame or panicHow a parent’s language becomes a child’s lifelong internal dialogueThis episode offers a grounded, honest look at fatherhood and the kind of parenting that prepares kids to learn from failure, and to rise from it stronger. 🎧 Tune in and remember: You are empowered to create the love, life, and reality you desire. It's never too late. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Connect with Kenny Castillo | https://youtu.be/bBHXhbAupm0?si=OWBNXo4s1mi9YbU8 Transform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

    57 min
  2. Why Married Sex Isn't Always Mindblowingly Orgasmic

    FEB 26

    Why Married Sex Isn't Always Mindblowingly Orgasmic

    S5E07 I sit down with Christian sexpert Angela Griffith for a refreshingly honest conversation about intimacy, expectations, and the myths that quietly shape our marriages. Angela brings wisdom, humor, and a deeply grounded perspective as we unpack the pressures couples carry into the bedroom, especially the cultural lie that every sexual experience should be “mind‑blowing” or cinematic. Together, we explore what real intimacy looks like when we let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace connection over performance. We dive into: Why married sex isn’t always mind‑blowingly orgasmic and why that’s not a sign of failureThe biggest lie Hollywood tells us about sex and how it distorts our expectationsPatterns that keep couples from experiencing fulfilling intimacyStrategies for building connection that go beyond physical touchThe different types of intimacy every marriage needs to thriveWhy fun and recreational play is often the first intimacy to disappear and how to bring it backSex journaling as a powerful tool for communication, clarity, and growth If you’re ready to rethink what great sex in marriage really looks like and find freedom from the pressure to “perform” this episode will encourage you and give you tools to grow. 🎧 Tune in and remember: You are empowered to create the love, life, and reality you desire. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Connect with Angela Griffith | www.TheChristianSexpert.com Transform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

    30 min
  3. The Anxious & Dismissive Avoidant Cycle

    08/11/2025

    The Anxious & Dismissive Avoidant Cycle

    S5E06 – The Anxious & Avoidant Cycle with guest Malisa Hepner, therapist, author, and host of “Emotionally Unavailable” Why do anxious and avoidant partners seem irresistibly drawn to each other—yet often end up in cycles of push, pull, and misunderstanding? In this episode of the Empower Create Encourage Podcast, I sit down with Malisa Hepner to unpack the magnetic (and sometimes messy) connection between these two attachment styles. After we explore: The simple truth about what drives anxious and avoidant attractionThe recurring patterns in decision-making, problem-solving, and conflictHow emotional safety can be cultivated for both partnersCommon intimacy and bedroom dynamics in anxious/avoidant relationshipsThe impact of dissociation and “performative desire” on connectionHow avoidance of pain affects emotional intimacyGrounding and regulation techniques for individuals and couplesOne small but powerful step couples can take toward secure love—even if they’ve never experienced it before If you’ve ever felt stuck in this loop—or love someone who has—this conversation will help you see the cycle clearly and give you tools to change it. 🎧 Tune in and remember: You are empowered to create the love, life, and reality you desire. Connect with Malisa Hepner, on her instagram | @malisa.hepner Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Transform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact. If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you. Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation and let's identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

    39 min
  4. Rewrite Your Generational Story

    08/10/2025

    Rewrite Your Generational Story

    Are you living your own life—or the one you inherited? In this episode of Empower Create Encourage, I sit down with Simon Luthi, author of Becoming the Rocket Shaman, to explore how cultural conditioning, family patterns, and unconscious stories shape who we think we are. We talk about: The subtle signs you might be living an inherited identityHow to recognize and release the roles you never choseSimon’s “Once Upon a Time” method for uncovering unconscious storiesWhy “Is this mine?” is the question that can realign your lifeThe first steps to rewriting your story as a sacred act Connect with Simon Luthi, on his website | www.therocketshaman.com Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Transform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact. If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you. Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation and let's identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

    30 min
  5. People Pleasing & Self-Sabotage Grenades

    07/31/2025

    People Pleasing & Self-Sabotage Grenades

    I sit down with Heidi Blackie, former healthcare professional, trauma-informed coach, and founder of UnshakableMe, to talk about the hidden cost of people-pleasing and the self-sabotage “grenades” we carry without even realizing it. In this episode, we explore: Why people-pleasing is not kindness—and how to tell the differenceWhat “self-sabotage grenades” are and how to spot them in your lifeHow trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel burnout cyclesThe difference between setting a boundary and building a wallWhat Micro-Boldness is—and how small truth-telling moments change everything Heidi’s 3 Tools to Start Reclaiming Your Power: Label your patterns without judgment – Awareness interrupts autopilotOne daily act of self-compassion – Small shifts rewrite big storiesPractice Micro-Boldness – Speak, rest, or ask for what you need Connect with Heidi Blackie on her website | https://www.unshakableme.com Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Transform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact. If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you. Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation and let's identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

    27 min
  6. The Unlovable Ugly Inside of Us

    07/14/2025

    The Unlovable Ugly Inside of Us

    We all carry parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide—shame, insecurity, fear, or even behaviors we regret. But what if the parts we believe are “unlovable” or “ugly” are actually the gateway to healing, authenticity, and true connection? In this raw and honest conversation, psychiatrist and voice liberation advocate Dr. Fred Moss joins us to explore what it means to face the uncomfortable, unpolished parts of ourselves—without judgment, without shame. Together, we unpack: The different types of “ugly” that live inside us—those that harm us first, and those that harm others.Why we’re taught to silence the very parts of us that need the most compassion.How to reclaim your true voice and live in alignment with who you really are.Creative and simple practices to reconnect with yourself on a daily basis.Dr. Fred brings deep insight, practical tools, and a radically human lens to mental health—challenging the belief that we need to be “fixed,” and reminding us that healing starts when we stop hiding. If you’ve ever felt like parts of you were too messy, too broken, or too dark to be seen or loved—this episode is for you. 🎧 Listen now and rediscover the power of your unfiltered, unedited self. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Connect with Dr. Fred Moss on his website | https://www.skool.com/welcometohumanity/about Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/

    24 min
  7. Betrayal, Forgiveness & Sacred Sex

    06/22/2025

    Betrayal, Forgiveness & Sacred Sex

    ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of betrayal, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual abuse, sex, and rape fantasies, along with themes of trauma, intimacy, and healing. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This content is intended for audiences 20 years and older. What counts as betrayal? Is it only cheating—or can the small, everyday breaches of trust be just as damaging? And if we forgive someone… does that mean they’re automatically owed our trust again? In this deep and powerful conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Bruce Chalmer, couples psychologist and author of Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again. Together, we explore: 🔹 How betrayal shows up in both big and subtle ways 🔹 Why forgiveness is about liberating yourself, not restoring blind trust 🔹 What true intimacy requires—especially after trust has been broken 🔹 Sacred sex as a healing practice and how to reconnect through it 🔹 Similarities, differences, and patterns in what men and women often desire in sexual connection 🔹 Signs of emotional abuse and domestic violence—and how to identify when something isn’t just a “rough patch” This is a brave space for those navigating the aftermath of hurt, seeking deeper connection, or learning to trust again—yourself and others. 🎧 Tune in and be empowered to heal, grow, and create love that is sacred, conscious, and true. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer on his website | https://brucechalmer.com Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/

    50 min
  8. Motherhood: The Joy, The Dark & The Ugly

    05/07/2025

    Motherhood: The Joy, The Dark & The Ugly

    In this raw and powerful episode of Empower Create Encourage, I’m joined by the bold and brilliant Kiko Pawlenchuk as we dive headfirst into the full spectrum of motherhood—the joy, the dark, and the downright ugly. From societal misconceptions to silent shame, we unpack the unspoken realities mothers face every day. We talk about what it means to embrace honest vulnerability—sharing the hard truths of needing space, feeling low, and telling our kids, “Mama needs a minute.” We explore how this openness doesn't make us weak; it teaches our children resilience, empathy, and emotional awareness. This episode also shines a light on how our deepest triggers often stem from our own unhealed inner child wounds. Those moments of emotional activation? They’re not failures—they’re invitations to heal, grow, and evolve. Whether you're a mom, thinking of becoming one, or just want to better understand the fierce, sacred, and sometimes chaotic journey of motherhood, this episode will meet you where you are—with truth, laughter, and lots of heart. AHAHAHA Disclaimer: This episode is not actually sponsored by Anusol, the Calgary Public Library, or Depends… but if you’re a new mom, we highly recommend all three. You’re welcome. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Connect with Kiko Pawlenchuk on Instagram | @katekikokeeks Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/

    41 min
5
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5 Ratings

About

My dream with my podcast is to create an authentically connected community where we empower and encourage each other to create the versions of ourselves we desire and to be supported in our own healing process, personal progress, and fulfillment. My intention with this podcast is to be able to empower individuals with tools and strategies to improve the quality of their daily experiences and encourage individuals to create the life, the love, the reality, and world they desire. I believe cognitive consonance is the key to internal peace and happiness. My invitation for you, as a listener, is to act in harmony with what you believe in, and experiment with the prompts that resonate with you.

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