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Daily quick and useable tips to help you build your proactive self care routine. Brough to you by The Mental Health Plan!

  1. 12/07/2020

    103 - Mindset Monday Challenge - Spread Kindness

    Mindset Monday Challenge - Spread Kindness This week’s Mindset Monday is inspired by Annie Lennox and Al Green. I won’t subject you to my singing voice but “think of your fellow man, lend him a helping hand.” Altruism and acts of kindness have been proven to boost our own well-being. If you have all you need you naturally will start to check in on those close to you to make sure they’re doing okay. We can build our sense of abundance by starting with checking in and helping out others. Our brains reason that if we’re doing this, we must be safe and secure. The simplest way you can do this is by checking in on someone you care about. You mightn’t need to actually do anything to help them. Very often the thing that we’re missing is someone to fully listen to us. And we’re all capable of listening to our friends and family and giving them the gift of being heard. Or we can share a meme that will bring a smile to my face. This is another preferred method of kindness that’s easy to do, hopefully makes the people you care about chuckle, and puts a little love in your heart. www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

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  2. 11/23/2020

    102 - Mindset Monday - Are you looking for truth or validation?

    Mindset Monday - Are you looking for truth or validation? This week let’s ask ourselves if we’re looking for the truth or validation, if we’re looking for what’s right, or to prove we’re right. We can use this approach when we’re conversing with ourselves and our thoughts. And we can also use it when we’re talking with someone. Drop the desire to be correct and instead enter conversations with an attitude of curiosity, seeing what you can learn and understand rather than proving your point. It’s our ego that needs to be right. Sometimes this is very important, like we know it’s right to cross the street. Other times, it’s not so much. And it’s this need to be right that can cost us in connections, growth and opportunity. Take the time this week to question your motives. Seek less validation and spend a little more time looking for what’s right and let me know how you get on. If you’d like support with this strategy, reach out! https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512 www.thementalhealthplan.com

    1 min

  3. 11/16/2020

    101 - Mindset Monday - Drop The “Yeah, But…”

    Mindset Monday - Drop The “Yeah, But…” This week’s Mindset Monday Challenge is aimed at improving your communication, and it involves dropping “yeah, but” from your speech. Therapists like to say everything before the but is BS. When we say “yeah, but” we’ve really dismissed the other persons point of view, and are more interested in being heard and getting our point across. At the very extreme it shows that we might not have even been listening all that much. When we hear “yeah, but” do we feel listened to, respected and understood? My guess is no. We feel like we’re in an argument of opinions, and it’s an adversarial style of discourse. You might be thinking “yeah, but I really need to get my point across!” To that I’ll ask if you think your point will be more or less received without that phrase? So what’s the alternative? To repeat back to the other person what you heard them say, to make sure you understood them. You can either parrot or paraphrase. There’s more to it, so start with that and let me know how your conversations go this week. If you’d like to talk more about cooperative communication, just reach out. www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

    1 min

  4. 11/14/2020

    100 - Matt’s Mindset Course Experience

    Matt’s Mindset Course Experience Matt got in touch with me to run a 12-Week Mindset Course for his gym. In this short video he shares why he reached out, his experience, the benefits and advice to anyone considering the same. If you’d like to set this up for your team reach out to me - colm@thementalhealthplan.com www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

    6 min

  5. 11/12/2020

    99 - Tough Love Thursday - Avoidance and Distractions Are Not Mental Health

    Tough Love Thursday - Avoidance and Distractions Are Not Mental Health Lately there’s been a lot of arguments made for services to be classified as vital for mental health. One problem is mental health is synonymous with mental illness. If you are severely depressed, or anxious, you absolutely need a professional to help you. Either through talk therapy, medication, or some combination of the above. Building mental health is further along the continuum. It’s all the repeated acts of positive self care that add up to mental well-being, peace of mind, and happiness. Any activity with the right intention and execution can build mental health. But any activity that’s used as a means of avoidance for a distraction isn’t contributing to your peace of mind. If you run to enjoy the endorphins and fresh air it can be a positive. If you only feel good about yourself after you’ve had your run, or run excessively while avoiding your obligations and difficulty conversations/self reflection, then it is no longer a method of building and preserving your mental health. Mental health cannot be built only on what feels good. You need to address your self limiting beliefs, bad habits, unresolved memories, and embrace the “dark” side of development. This can be done through ‘making yourself’ study in order to improve your career, having raw and honest conversations with loved ones or professionals, and sitting with yourself to clear your jumbled up thoughts and feelings. When you commit to the difficult, uncomfortable, or downright scary tasks of true self care, that’s where the real pay off of peace of mind and true mental health resides. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512 www.thementalhealthplan.com

    1 min

  6. 11/02/2020

    98 - Mindset Monday - What Can You Remove?

    Mindset Monday - What Can You Remove? So often in life we feel the need to add something to our lives to make them better. That can be adding physical things like a bigger home, new shiny phone, more clothes, etc. Or it can be adding in practices like extra workouts, more experiences, more time reading or learning how to cook. All of these things can be great, or they add to our stress if it creates a sense of angst because we’ve too much to do and not enough time or energy to do it. That’s why this week I’d like you to investigate what you can reduce and remove? A simple practice I do is look for one item to throw away each day. Just one. This promotes calm through gradually decluttering the physical environment. But we can also look at activities we can remove, like spending 20 minutes getting your daily coffee or watching Netflix past 10pm. Finally, we can look at thoughts that are no longer serving and look to remove those as well. Try a week of subtraction and see how it adds to your mental well-being. www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

    1 min

  7. 10/22/2020

    97 - Tough Love Thursday - Nobody “Makes You” Feel Anything

    Tough Love Thursday - Nobody “Makes You” Feel Anything The words we use to describe ourselves and how we feel are incredibly powerful. This is why I invite you to be reflective of the words you habitually use. When we say someone or something “made me feel” a certain way we’re putting ourselves in the victim role. When we say something outside of us makes us feel something we’re putting the solution outside of our control as well. Let me be clear, external events and people’s actions can absolutely trigger our emotional response. The trigger is external, the cause is internal. It’s our thinking about the situation, our history, our choice - even if it seems like it’s a split second choice - that leads to the emotion we’re feeling. It’s a subtle shift in language, changing from “you made me” to “when you did this, I felt X” yet repeated enough it changes our worldview, our sense of self and our agency over time. When we take responsibility for the feelings we have, we’re empowering ourselves. When we put this on someone or something else, we’re making life unnecessarily harder on ourselves. www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

    1 min

  8. 10/08/2020

    96 - Tough Love Thursday - Stop Shoulding

    Tough Love Thursday - Stop Shoulding This week’s Tough Love Thursday is to stop “Shoulding” - saying and thinking that things and people should or shouldn’t be a certain way! When we waste energy on shoulds we’re taking away from our happiness in the moment and our ability to improve our life. “Should” is just us fighting what actually is. Our thinking is creating a narrative about what’s going on, and usually how unfair or wrong it is that it’s happening. To help us overcome this tendency to should ourselves into negative headspace, we can use replacement words. When we say we should do something - eat better, save more, invest in our mind’s health - we can replace that with “I will”. Now we’re creating a positive intention instead of either berating ourselves for not living up to a standard or wishing for magical improvement some point in the future. If we’re talking about other events or people, we can replace should with what we’d like to see. Instead of “they shouldn’t be so disrespectful” we can state our boundaries with “I’d like it if…” and be specific, kind and clear about what we want. Any time we should we’re in judgment mode about something outside of our control. When we replace should we’re brining back our acceptance of the present and our agency to improve our lives. www.thementalhealthplan.com https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512

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