Revolutionise Your Love Life

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Revolutionise Your Love Life is a podcast is on creating healthy, loving relationships. From ending relationships that have run their course to finding new love and being the most fulfilled you can possiblly be. Revolutionise Your Love Life is hosted by Heather Garbutt.

  1. Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love, with Prem Glidden

    MAR 22

    Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love, with Prem Glidden

    In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt speaks with Prem Glidden, coach and author of Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love and Be Loved, about what it really means to become available for love. Together they explore how early-life messages like “I’m not lovable” can quietly shape adult dating and relationships, why “chemistry” can sometimes be a trauma signal rather than a soulmate sign, and how living from possibility changes what you allow, what you choose, and what you can receive. Prem also shares her own story, including meeting her beloved Bob and marrying at 67, as proof that it is never too late to create a relationship that feels safe, real, and deeply nourishing. (More resources and support can be found at Heathergarbutt.com.) Key takeaways Availability starts with you. If you want love that is steady and secure, the first relationship to strengthen is the one you have with yourself. Treat your inner parts gently. Trauma responses are protective. When you meet them with compassion (not force), you stop being run by old patterns. Do not outsource worthiness. Looking to a partner to prove your value turns dating into quicksand. Self-trust is what creates solid ground. Let truth lead, not the “high”. That rush of intensity can be familiar dysfunction. Slow down, discern, and choose from your wisest adult self. Love is co-created. Healthy relationships are built through communication, repair, respect, and shared responsibility, not perfection. About Prem:Prem Glidden is a Calling in The One coach and one of the first certified True You coaches trained by Catherine Woodward Thomas. She helps people graduate from old stories that keep love at a distance and step into a life led by aliveness, agency, and self-trust. Prem is the author of Opening to Possibility: Becoming Available to Love and Be Loved and shares her work at premglidden.com. About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007. I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth. As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship. Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you. Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love. This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.See all podcast episodes here.

    41 min
  2. Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: Catalina’s Survivor-to-Thriver Story

    MAR 8

    Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: Catalina’s Survivor-to-Thriver Story

    In this heartfelt episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt is joined by Cătălina Popoveniuc, a Romanian psychotherapist with 23 years of experience supporting survivors and thrivers of narcissistic abuse. Catalina shares her own lived journey from surviving a narcissistic family system and multiple narcissistic relationships to reclaiming her voice and building a life that feels bright, free, and fully hers. Together, they talk candidly about the realities of gaslighting, cultural stigma, and the practical steps that help someone move from confusion and fear into safety, clarity, and self-trust, so thriving becomes possible. Key takeaways Gaslighting is designed to fracture reality. Catalina shares how prolonged gaslighting can leave someone doubting their perception and sanity, even years later, and why naming it matters. Empathy without boundaries can be exploited. Both Heather and Catalina discuss how caring, empathic people are often targeted, and why early boundary-setting is not harsh, it is self-respect. Safety first, then strategy. Catalina emphasises planning: legal advice, therapeutic support, and a trusted network before leaving, especially when the risk of escalation is real. Post-separation abuse is a real risk. Leaving is not always the end of the manipulation, which is why specialised support and informed legal guidance are essential. Thriving means rebuilding identity. After abuse, many people do not know what they like, need, or want. Healing includes rediscovering preferences, strengths, work options, and a future that feels life-giving. About Cătălina:Cătălina Popoveniuc, a psychotherapist specialising in individual and group therapy, with a particular focus on supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse - both women and men. With 23 years of experience working with people, she has developed a deeply human,compassionate, and supportive approach, grounded in empathy and genuine respect for each person’s path. For Cătălina, it’s essential that every client feels heard, seen, and understood. About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007. I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth. As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you. Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love. This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

    52 min
  3. Revolutionise Your Life Life at 100

    FEB 22

    Revolutionise Your Life Life at 100

    A hundred episodes in, and their hearts are full. To celebrate this milestone Heather is joined by her dear friend Monica, who turns the tables and is host for the 100th episode of Revolutionside Your Love Life. They look back at the most transformative themes, the letters you have sent, and the shifts that happen when we treat ourselves with care and choose love from our adult self. They talk about power and control dynamics, why chemistry alone can mislead us, and how visioning and conscious uncoupling open space for healthy partnership. Heather shares what this work has changed in her, the mission that keeps the fire hose of purpose flowing, and a simple message for anyone who feels hopeless about love. It is never too late, and you are enough. Key takeaways The relationship with yourself is the foundation. How you speak to yourself, tend to younger parts, and set boundaries shapes every choice you make in love. Discernment over chemistry. A lightning bolt can be an old pattern re-igniting. Ask, do I feel safe, seen and at home. Watch whether words and actions match. Name your vision and let it guide you. Get clear on values, lifestyle, and how you want to feel five years in. Choose slowly with support from trusted friends or a coach. When it is not working, end well. Conscious uncoupling protects children, communities and your future heart. Favour resolution, clear boundaries and adult-to-adult dialogue. Hold a bigger mission for love. Visibility takes courage, but sharing real tools and stories helps more people find warm, mutual and lasting relationships. About Heather: I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007. I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth. As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you. Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love. About MonicaMonica Douglas is a spirit-led relationship coach, interfaith minister, and founder of the Wild Wisdom of Relationships framework. With over 25 years of experience, she supports heart-led individuals to heal from heartbreak, reset their relationships, and thrive in love. Her work integrates ritual, coaching, spiritual practice, and tools like her Wild Wisdom Oracle cards and relationship cycle quiz.

    38 min
  4. Slow Dating, Real Love: Integrity, Receiving and Choosing Well with Jessica Yip

    FEB 8

    Slow Dating, Real Love: Integrity, Receiving and Choosing Well with Jessica Yip

    In this heartfelt conversation, host Heather Garbutt welcomes coach Jessica Yip, a Calling in The One and True You Coach who helps high-achieving people trade old stories for living, breathing love. Jessica shares the belief that shaped her early life, 'I am alone', and how integrity, self-responsibility and learning to receive transformed her dating and her partnership with Trevor. Together they explore slow, conscious dating, repairing family bonds, practical communication, and the everyday negotiations that make real love feel safe and alive. Key Takeaways Integrity as wholeness: Alignment between values and behaviour creates the conditions for healthy love. Walk your talk in every relationship, including family. From chemistry to choice: Notice overgiving, rescuing and low standards. Believe people when they say they are not available. Date slowly and test for consistency. Heal the root to change the fruit: Naming early beliefs like I am alone and speaking honestly with family can release lifelong patterns and expand capacity for intimacy. Live your life fully: Claim the place, creativity and community that are true for you. Alignment magnetises compatible partners. Relationship is a practice: Agree workable systems for contact, chores and sleep. Ask for help, receive it, and communicate preferences without blame. About Your Host:I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007. I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth. As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you. Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love. About Jessica:Jessica Yip is the coach for hardworking people who feel like they’ve ticked all the success boxes in life but are aching for more love and joy. As a leading Calling in “The One” Coach, and now as one of the first certified True You Coaches personally trained by Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jessica helps clients graduate from old stories and painful patterns that keep love at a distance. She brings over a decade of experience blending transformative coaching, somatic attunement and relational skill-building to help you reconnect with your aliveness, agency and power to create healthy relationships, meaningful experiences, and the delicious life and love you’ve always longed for.

    43 min
  5. Understanding Your Picker with Lisa Hawkins

    JAN 25

    Understanding Your Picker with Lisa Hawkins

    In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather Garbutt welcomes relationship and self-awareness coach Lisa Hawkins to explore the idea of the “picker” - the often unconscious part that chooses romantic partners.  Through candid life stories, Lisa illustrates how chemistry can be a signal of familiarity rather than health, how covert and overt abuse can masquerade as niceness, and why building a steadier inner compass matters. Together they offer practical ways to tune into intuition, track red flags, and let the adult self lead so love becomes honest, respectful and safe. Key takeaways Chemistry is not always compatibility. Heightened euphoria often reflects familiar dysfunction rather than true fit. Calm evaluation over time gives clearer answers. Match words with actions. A healthy picker notices when promises and behaviour diverge, and treats repeated mismatches as red flags. Journal to trust your intuition. Writing down early signals and reviewing them later helps reveal patterns that the heart may prefer to overlook. Do not carry the whole relationship. If one partner holds all the emotional labour, accountability and repair, the bond will tilt toward resentment and harm. Let the adult self choose. Practices such as brief meditation on “What do I feel, what do I need?” and parts awareness help ensure younger survival strategies are not driving the car. About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching. Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art About Lisa Lisa Hawkins is a relationship and self-awareness coach, and the founder of Consciously Awake Counseling. For over 26 years, she’s been passionate about the human experience – why we love, how we connect, and what gets in the way. She works with both men and women to awaken the part of themselves that already knows how to love deeply, freely, and consciously. Through spiritual inquiry, emotional accountability, and her signature Pause Method, Lisa helps people question old beliefs, shift their patterns, and create authentic relationships – starting with the one they have with themselves. Her work is about truth, healing, and connection at a higher level.Whether you’re navigating love, healing from heartbreak, or learning to trust yourself again, Lisa brings wisdom, presence, and a deep respect for the human experience. This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

    26 min
  6. Overcoming Attachment Trauma in Relationships: A Conversation with Lou Lackman

    JAN 11

    Overcoming Attachment Trauma in Relationships: A Conversation with Lou Lackman

    In this episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks with therapist Lou Lachman about how early attachment experiences shape adult relationships and self-connection. Lou shares their history of rotating caregivers within a cult, how that fracture in attachment led to people-pleasing and self-erasure in love, and the practices that now support authentic relating. They discuss the fawn response, learning to speak needs without fear, parts work, and becoming your own “marriage arranger” so choices come from an adult, regulated place rather than from younger parts. Key takeaways: Early attachment informs both how we connect to others and how we connect to ourselves. Repairing self-attachment requires time, practice, and compassionate awareness. The fawn response looks like saying whatever keeps the peace. It prevents truth, blocks differentiation, and slowly erodes intimacy. Parts work helps identify the age and need behind a reaction. Lou’s Heart Holding practice meets that part with reassurance, which creates space for adult choice. Be your own marriage arranger. Choose partners who align with your values, help you feel larger and steadier, and can tolerate ordinary conflict. Healing is amplified in community. Small, facilitated circles provide co-regulation, shared courage, and faster integration. About Your Host:Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching. Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art About Lou Lachman Lou is accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and accredited by the EFT and Matrix Re-imprinting Academy. She first trained in Core Process Psychotherapy, a Buddhist Psychology based training. She has over 30 years of experience in counselling and psychotherapy, having worked with people in hospitals, doctor’s surgeries, agencies, prisons and private practice. She has also trained and practised as an addiction counsellor. They value their personal recovery from attachment trauma as a core credential alongside formal training. Lou calls their approach Embody Freedom, blending parts-informed practice with body-based healing. They facilitate intimate healing circles and one-to-one work. Lou has this great ebook resource for you here: https://energycounselling.co.uk/heart-holding-reassurance/ This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

    27 min
  7. Intentional Dating at Christmas: Choose Calm, Not Chaos

    12/21/2025

    Intentional Dating at Christmas: Choose Calm, Not Chaos

    Welcome to this festive episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life. Christmas can stir up pressure to couple up, say yes to the wrong person, and slip back into old family roles. In this solo, Heather shares a grounded guide to intentional dating through the holidays, how to spot values you can build a relationship on, and how to stay in your calm, capable adult self at family gatherings. She closes with a simple “family meeting” ritual so the season feels considered, kind, and genuinely joyful. Key Takeaways Do not date to soothe seasonal pressure. Date with the same standards you want to live with in January. Choose calm over chaos. Reliable warmth beats intoxicating drama. Scan for values: trust, respect, follow-through, kindness to staff and family, clean history with exes, aligned life plans. Stay in your adult self around relatives. Do not engage the old child roles. Run a short family meeting so everyone feels seen and Christmas feels intentional. If you are ready to start dating with intention, get your hands on my Delicious Dating Guides and kiss the single life goodbye: https://heathergarbutt.com/kiss-the-single-life-goodbye/ About your host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.   Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

    9 min
  8. Love and Money: Raising Your Worthiness Set Point with Shilleen Wilson

    12/14/2025

    Love and Money: Raising Your Worthiness Set Point with Shilleen Wilson

    In this rich and practical conversation, success and money blocks coach Shilleen Wilson explores how our subconscious worthiness set point quietly dictates what we allow in love and money. Heather and Shilleen look at why we repeat patterns, how tests show up just before a breakthrough, and the powerful link between safety, savings and secure attachment. You will learn how to set a clear intention, listen to your body, and choose relationships and money goals that honour your values. Expect grounded tools, compassion for where you came from, and permission to be whole and complete as you call in love and prosperity. Key Takeaways You have a subconscious worthiness set point that caps what you allow in relationships and income. Tests often appear just before a breakthrough. Hold your standard and say no to what does not align. Savings map to safety. Build inner safety and you raise your capacity to hold love and money. Think of your emotions as a bank account. Choose partners who deposit, not drain. You are already whole and complete. Start generating the feelings you seek now. Many blocks are inherited. Compassion for yourself and your parents helps to release them. Do the inner work to receive more. Awareness raises your set point. About your host: Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist.  She now specialises in love and relationship coaching. Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art About Shilleen An expert in her field and a multi business owner, Shilleen Wilson is an award- winning Success & Money Blocks coach. Shilleen’s mission is to emotionally and financially empower women, guiding you to rid yourself of your invisible money and success blocks, tap into your empowerment energy flow so that you can live a life of comfort and freedom and inspire the generations that follow She guides you to make more money in alignment with how you are made. She addresses procrastination, overwhelm, exhaustion and stagnant income, gets to the root of your hidden blocks and moves you from a place of stuckness to rich empowerment. This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.

    28 min
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