Break The Chain Podcast

James Dear

What would it feel like to be free? Do you try to make changes in your life but constantly slip back into your old ways? I know that I did and found myself constantly frustrated by my lack of willpower. What I never knew is that there was a reason why I could not control myself and that there are processes that you can follow to regain your freedom. I interview some of the greatest, relatable, and compassionate minds; talking about breaking all varieties of bad habits and how to actually live a joyful and fulfilling life. Listen now to free yourself from the shackles of the mind.

  1. #48 - Harnessing the Power of Communication Workshop with James Dear live @ NZ Spirit Fest 2025

    07/13/2025

    #48 - Harnessing the Power of Communication Workshop with James Dear live @ NZ Spirit Fest 2025

    In this insightful episode, James Dear, founder of the Break the Chain movement, delves into the transformative power of communication in overcoming addiction and enhancing overall happiness. Drawing from personal experiences and professional insights as a drug and alcohol counsellor, James explores how effective communication can bridge the gap between isolation and connection, offering a lifeline to those struggling with addiction. Discover the crucial role of listening, the barriers that hinder effective communication, and practical strategies to foster meaningful interactions. Whether you're on a journey of recovery or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode offers valuable perspectives on how communication can radically improve your life. Tune in to learn how to harness the power of communication to build a happier, more connected life.Takeaways- Communication is essential for improving our lives.- Listening is the most important part of communication.- Barriers to listening include fear of judgment and distraction.- Body language plays a significant role in how we communicate.- There are four main communication styles: assertive, aggressive, passive, and passive-aggressive.- Passive communication can lead to resentment and frustration.- Aggressive communication alienates others and creates fear.- Passive-aggressive behaviour is subtle and often harmful.- Defence mechanisms can hinder effective communication.- Understanding our communication style can lead to healthier interactions. - Emotional responses can revert individuals to childlike behaviour when criticised.- Displacement and reaction formation are common emotional responses.- Assertive communication involves expressing feelings without blaming others.- Cultural differences significantly influence communication styles.- Assertiveness can be perceived as aggression by those unaccustomed to it.- Listening is crucial for effective communication and understanding.- Setting clear expectations helps prevent misunderstandings.- Apologising can be a powerful tool for repairing relationships.- Values play a critical role in how we communicate and interact with others.- Practising assertiveness can lead to improved self-esteem and healthier relationships.

    1h 30m
  2. #47 - Ketamine Education Services with Founder Finlay Worthington

    07/06/2025

    #47 - Ketamine Education Services with Founder Finlay Worthington

    In this episode, Finley Worthington shares his personal journey through ketamine addiction, detailing the struggles he faced and the eventual decision to seek help. He discusses the stigma surrounding ketamine, the unique challenges it presents in rehab, and the importance of community support. Finley emphasises the need for education about ketamine addiction, particularly among young people, and highlights the work of Ketamine Education Services in providing support and resources for those affected by addiction. The conversation also touches on the broader societal issues contributing to addiction and the importance of connection and honesty in recovery.You can find Ketamine Education Services athttps://www.facebook.com/ketamineeducationserviceshttps://www.instagram.com/ketamine_education_services/Chapters00:00: Finley's Journey into Addiction10:43: The Impact of Ketamine on Life15:58: Turning Point: Seeking Help and Recovery19:27: Creating Community and Support for Recovery24:33: Challenges of Ketamine Addiction and Recovery32:17: Future of Ketamine Addiction Treatment37:40: Understanding the Detox Pathway40:36: Recognising Warning Signs of Ketamine Use43:21: The Importance of Addressing Underlying Issues46:11: The Prevalence of Ketamine Addiction50:40: The Impact of Trauma on Addiction54:07: Self-Medication and Mental Health Challenges58:33: Establishing Ketamine Education Services01:06:19: Advice for Those Struggling with Addiction

    1h 7m
  3. #46 - Breaking the Cycle of Addiction & Crime with Mark Cowan

    09/08/2024

    #46 - Breaking the Cycle of Addiction & Crime with Mark Cowan

    Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, we sit down with Mark Cowan, a former inmate who spent 20 years in and out of prison due to his struggles with addiction. Today, Mark is on the other side of the prison walls as an addictions counsellor, using his personal experiences to help incarcerated individuals break the cycle of addiction and crime. Mark shares his journey from a life of crime to becoming a present father, a role model, and a community asset. He opens up about the turning points in his life, the impact of drug court, and his mission to give hope to those who feel trapped in the same cycle he once knew all too well. Key Topics Covered: Mark’s Journey: Mark talks about his life from ages 17 to 37, when prison was a second home due to his addiction to various substances and a lifestyle of crime, primarily burglary. Life Behind Bars: Mark describes how he navigated prison life, finding some comfort in a familiar environment, but also the monotony and the endless cycle of getting locked up, released, and re-offending. Breaking the Cycle: Mark shares the moment that changed everything—his introduction to drug court, which focuses on treatment for offenders. He discusses how getting clean ended his need to steal and allowed him to rebuild his life, becoming a father and a role model. Transition to Counselling: Mark discusses his journey from inmate to counsellor, his motivation to help others, and how his personal story shapes his work with incarcerated addicts today. Giving Hope: Mark explains his approach to counselling, which centres on giving hope to those who are still struggling. He shares some of the techniques and strategies he uses to connect with clients and inspire them to change. Challenges and Reflections: Mark reflects on the challenges he faces as a counsellor, the misconceptions about addiction and crime, and how he deals with setbacks both personally and professionally. Community and Cultural Influence: Mark speaks about the importance of being a role model in his community and how his Samoan/Cook Island heritage informs his work and helps him connect with clients on a deeper level. Future Hopes: Mark talks about his hopes for the future, both for himself and the people he works with, and shares advice for those currently in the position he once was or those considering a career in addictions counselling. Connect with Us: Follow us on social media for updates and more inspiring stories. Subscribe to the podcast to never miss an episode! Check out our website to find out more about Break the Chain and to check out all of our content Breakthecain.net Call to Action: If Mark’s story resonated with you, please share this episode with someone who might need to hear it. Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your feedback helps us bring you more stories that matter.

    1h 4m
  4. #45 - Discussing Young & Addicted: Generation Ketamine with BBC Documentary Producer Rachel Stonehouse

    05/03/2024

    #45 - Discussing Young & Addicted: Generation Ketamine with BBC Documentary Producer Rachel Stonehouse

    In this episode, I speak with Rachel Stonehouse, an Investigative Reporter and documentary producer for BBC News and formerly for BBC NewsBeat. She recently produced and presented the documentary ‘Young and Addicted: Generation Ketamine” which took a graphic look at the impacts of recreational ketamine use. For anyone who doesn’t know, Ketamine is a medical drug that has been used since the 70’s. It is safe in small doses and is effective in assisting the treatment of some mental health conditions. Ketamine is also popular as an illicit drug in the UK, Europe, North America, and many countries in Asia and is growing in popularity in Australia and New Zealand. As stated in the documentary, Government figures have shown that Ketamine addiction has more than quadrupled since 2016 in England and Wales. What may not yet be common knowledge is that the drug has serious health consequences. Rachel gives of background about herself and how she ended up involved in the documentary. She tells us what inspired her to specifically make a documentary about ketamine addiction. She shares insights from her experience and how this has changed her views of the drug. She discusses insights from people she spoke to with lived experience as well as experts. She tells us the ways that she hopes the documentary will contribute to public understanding and awareness. Including specific policy or societal changes, she hopes the documentary will inspire regarding drug education, treatment accessibility, or harm reduction efforts. The links that we mentioned in this episode were: https://www.bbc.co.uk/actionline/ https://www.reddit.com/r/Ketamineaddiction/ Learn more about us at breakthechain.net

    1h 13m
  5. #42 - Forgiveness: The Cure for Anger with Stephanie Crean

    04/13/2024

    #42 - Forgiveness: The Cure for Anger with Stephanie Crean

    In this episode, I speak to a truly inspiring woman, Stephanie Crean. We do not speak much about the devastating events that shaped her life due to their heinous nature and the effects that they have left on her family and community. When Stephanie was just 2 years old, 4 men were ordered to murder her father. The first time they arrived at their house her was holding Stephanie in his arms, she was just 2 years old at the time. They were ordered to return and kill her even if he was holding his 2-year-old daughter. When he returned to the door he was not holding Stephanie and was tragically murdered. By the estimations of many these acts were unforgivable, however, after seeing the suffering that the events of the past were bringing to family and community she realised, on a deep level, that she had to make a change. In the morning, in the early hours, she wrote a letter addressed to the 4 men who had killed her father (Chris Crean). In that letter, Stephanie expresses complete and compassionate forgiveness for these men – “so that you may have peace and I too. So that our families may have peace, and so that the community may have peace also. So that the nation may have peace, because that is what is right.” There was a recent movie made about the killing of her father titled “Resolve”. Her letter is deeply moving and has affected the lives of many people. I highly recommend reading it. You can read the letter on her blog, My Life's Journey, by clicking the link below: https://www.facebook.com/mylifejourneyblog/posts/1967749856837704 You can watch the full movie about her father's story on YouTube by clicking the link below: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSnU43PYYjE&t=1349s

    53 min

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What would it feel like to be free? Do you try to make changes in your life but constantly slip back into your old ways? I know that I did and found myself constantly frustrated by my lack of willpower. What I never knew is that there was a reason why I could not control myself and that there are processes that you can follow to regain your freedom. I interview some of the greatest, relatable, and compassionate minds; talking about breaking all varieties of bad habits and how to actually live a joyful and fulfilling life. Listen now to free yourself from the shackles of the mind.