Stuck In My Mind Podcast

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🎙️ Stuck In My Mind Podcast – Hosted by Wil “Wize” Otero Real conversations. Real people. Real growth. From the heart of the Poconos, Wil “Wize” Otero podcaster, life coach, and CEO of Real Wize Global Media dives deep into the minds of creators, entrepreneurs, and everyday visionaries who turned their struggles into success stories.  Raw. Unfiltered. Empowering. Stuck In My Mind isn’t just a podcast it’s a movement for those ready to break mental barriers and live with purpose. 🎧 Tune in, get inspired, and remember: you’re not stuck you’re just getting started.

  1. 2D AGO

    EP 293 From Tragedy to Triumph: Rhonda Britten on Healing Trauma and Living Fearlessly

    On this deeply moving and transformative episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, host Wize El Jefe welcomes world-renowned life coach, best-selling author, and two-time Emmy winner Rhonda Britten . Widely considered one of the leading experts on fear, Rhonda shares her extraordinary story and unpacks her unique wisdom on healing trauma, mastering fear, and reclaiming self-worth. This conversation – heartfelt and honest – is not just about understanding fear, but about finding freedom from its grip. A Brave Beginning: Trauma, Grief, and the Split Self The episode opens with Wize El Jefe setting the stage, introducing Rhonda with well-earned accolades, and preparing listeners for a deep dive into the nature of fear and personal transformation. Rhonda’s story begins with a tragic event that shaped her life forever: as a 14-year-old, she was the sole witness to her father’s murder of her mother followed by his suicide. This unimaginable trauma led Rhonda to live in a state of guilt and shame for decades, feeling as though happiness was permanently off the table because she “did nothing heroic.” She describes splitting into two selves—the “Outside Rhonda,” who appeared fine and accomplished, and the “Inside Rhonda,” burdened with pain. Despite external success as a straight-A student, internally Rhonda wrestled with addiction and suicidal ideation. She candidly shares her struggle: three suicide attempts, alcohol abuse, and countless workshops and therapy sessions in search of a way out. Ultimately, a humble approach—giving herself gold stars for any tiny positive action—provided her a sense of hope and the realization that she could change. This process marked the beginning of her journey to truly understanding and mastering fear. Fear: What It Is, What It Isn’t, and How It Operates Throughout the episode, Rhonda challenges the common misconceptions about fear. She emphasizes that thinking, while not inherently bad, becomes problematic when driven by fear, as it keeps people stuck in their minds, ruminating and replaying the same worries over and over. One of her central messages is: “There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just fear.” If this idea could pierce every listener’s heart, she believes compassion and courage would naturally emerge. Rhonda explains her groundbreaking model—the “Wheel of Fear” and the “Wheel of Freedom.” She describes fear as a four-part mechanism that is hardwired into us, intended to keep us safe. However, what is safe can also be small, familiar, and ultimately limiting. The Wheel of Fear is activated as we move into the unknown, uncertainty, or risk, leading to responses like procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, resentment, bitterness, and more. She introduces a quiz she created to help identify each person’s “core trigger” that drives their specific fear responses—often something deeper than the common, surface-level fears of rejection or failure. One of the episode’s powerful moments is Rhonda’s quiz: she lists a series of fear responses and asks listeners to honestly admit how many they relate to. The vast majority nod their heads to over 90% of them, revealing the pervasive, often unseen impact of fear on day-to-day living. She encourages reframing these behaviors as “fear responses” rather than personal flaws, creating space for change: “Just relabeling them, reframing them, naming them properly will start creating space between you and it…” This shift opens up new possibilities for healing and freedom. Vulnerability, Shame, and Healing The conversation takes an intimate turn as Wize El Jefe shares his own story of loss—his wife’s passing, followed by the loss of his mother, father, brothers, and others in close succession. He speaks about years of anger, guilt, and feeling punished by life, and how self-development books introduced by his wife laid the groundwork for his eventual healing. Rhonda responds with empathy, acknowledging how admitting guilt or shame, as Wize El Jefe does for the first time publicly, is a heroic act that heals the soul: “Every time we admit something, we heal. Every time we transcend our shame…that is what heals trauma.” Both speakers reflect on the importance of honest, vulnerable self-expression and the courage it takes to move through pain, process feelings, and eventually reclaim happiness. Rhonda recalls keeping her trauma a secret for years, constructing impenetrable walls to protect herself but also preventing her from receiving love and help. She highlights how keeping secrets and repressing shame hold people back from true self-fulfillment. The act of telling the truth, especially to someone trustworthy and without judgment, is identified as a central step toward healing. Transformation: Choosing Who You Want to Be Rhonda and Wize El Jefe discuss the power of choice in personal transformation. Rhonda explains that, for years, she felt constrained by her past, unable to imagine that she could choose who she wanted to be. Only after several years of sobriety did she fully grasp the concept: “With every choice I make, I’m deciding who I’m going to be.” This insight is revolutionary, providing a path for listeners to move from victimhood or being defined by trauma into empowered authors of their lives. This theme resonates in Wize El Jefe’s account of launching the podcast. He describes how fear and self-doubt (“Who’s going to want to listen to you? You sound horrible.”) held him back for years. Ultimately, pressing record and releasing his first episode became a symbolic act of confronting fear and stepping into his potential. The growth since then—from one episode a month to building a platform that enables vulnerability and connection—is testament to the courage embedded in action. The Dark Night of the Soul: A Gateway to Growth Rhonda explains the spiritual concept of the “dark night of the soul” through her own experience: even at the peak of her career, winning an Emmy, she found herself emotionally and physically depleted. In a “dark night,” the world seems to pull the rug out from under you, all former beliefs and identities crumble, and you must confront the truth of who you are without familiar supports. Rhonda describes how her own journey through this period—marked by the need for companionship, self-compassion, and honesty even in her vulnerability—ultimately made her a softer, more loving person. She emphasizes that the dark night is not “stuckness,” but part of transformation, a tunnel one must pass through to reach new levels of soul growth. Fearlessness in Everyday Life A recurring question is what “true fearlessness” looks like in daily life. Rhonda offers a simple but profound answer: taking action aligned with one’s authentic self, even when it feels terrifying, is the essence of fearlessness. She praises Wize El Jefe’s own act of expressing guilt and vulnerability as true bravery. Fearlessness does not mean absence of fear, but the willingness to be honest, to feel, and to move forward anyway. Whether pressing record on a podcast, admitting a painful truth, or simply facing the day, these are all acts of courageous living. The episode reinforces the importance of self-compassion and gentle honesty. Rhonda warns against beating oneself up, noting that shame and self-criticism only solidify fear’s grip. Instead, labeling behaviors as fear responses and examining the core trigger provides a route out of stagnation and into freedom. She encourages listeners to take her quiz at fearlessliving.org/quiz, which offers tangible insight into individual fears and begins the process of mastering them. Practical Wisdom and Action Steps For listeners who feel “stuck” but cannot name the cause, Rhonda advises reframing the experience: rather than repeating “I’m stuck,” try “I’m afraid.” Identifying fear responses and tracking them with honesty disrupts self-blame and invites healing. She urges listeners to see stuckness not as failure but as part of a tunnel or passage in life’s journey, a necessary stage for transformation. It’s all about perspective—are you viewing your life through the “wheel of fear” or the “wheel of freedom”? This choice shapes everything. The Power of Compassion, Connection, and Service The episode closes with recognition of the incredible growth both Rhonda and Wize El Jefe have experienced by facing fear, trauma, and loss head-on. The podcast itself becomes a vehicle for shared healing, connection, and compassion. Wize El Jefe expresses gratitude for his supportive family and for the opportunity to build real relationships and share his story, echoing Rhonda’s call for vulnerability and honesty. Rhonda’s final message is as powerful as it is liberating: “Remember what I said earlier — there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just fear.” She urges everyone to visit fearlessliving.org for more resources and to take her transformative quiz, beginning the journey toward living the life their soul intended. Final Thoughts: This episode is a must-listen for anyone burdened by fear, shame, grief, or feeling stuck. Through Rhonda’s story and wisdom, and Wize El Jefe’s honest reflections, listeners are given a roadmap for understanding and transcending fear—one gold star, one act of courage at a time. The insights here are practical, compassionate, and empowering: the journey to healing and self-realization starts with naming fear, reframing shame, and choosing authenticity. Both guest and host demonstrate that vulnerability in action is the ultimate form of fearlessness. Whether you’re coping with trauma, seeking freedom from self-doubt, or simply wanting to live more fully, the episode offers hope, tools, and inspiration. Share it with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone—and remind them that what appe

    56 min

  2. 6D AGO

    EP 292 Mastering Resilience: Turning Setbacks Into Growth for Entrepreneurs and Podcasters

    Welcome to another impactful episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, where Wize El Jefe sits down with resilience coach Genevieve Skory for a conversation that digs deep into the mental hurdles and mindsets that shape entrepreneurial journeys. If you’re building something that matters be it a thriving business, a podcast, or a passion project—this episode is packed with real talk, personal stories, and actionable insights designed to help you push past self-doubt and setbacks. Episode Overview: From the outset, Wize El Jefe sets the tone by sharing his own vulnerabilities the self-doubt and internal narratives that nearly kept his podcast from ever launching. Genevieve Skory matches his honesty, opening up about her journey from a C-suite executive to becoming her own boss, and what she learned about the power (and limitations) of control, grit, and self-made success. They both agree: entrepreneurship is more about mastering your mindset than nailing perfect strategies. Key Topics Covered: 1. The Truth About Mindset and Success Genevieve Skory breaks down why so many promising entrepreneurs and creators burn out or quit before they see results. It’s rarely a lack of skills or even opportunity instead, it’s the stories we tell ourselves during challenging moments. She explains how our brains are wired for safety, not growth, and how this “safety programming” often sabotages our risk-taking and perseverance. 2. From Self-Talk to Self-Coaching The hosts touch on the universal internal critic, that little voice that says, “Who wants to hear from you?” or “You’re not cut out for this.” Wize El Jefe reveals how “Stuck In My Mind” literally originated from his struggles with negative self-talk. Genevieve Scorie offers tangible advice for reframing these thoughts—such as her “Who cares?” theory—and discusses the importance of learning to talk back to your doubts with humor, candor, and compassion. 3. Navigating Setbacks and the 'Messy Middle' Both guests share stories of challenges and mini-failures—from technical blunders to moments of wanting to give up. Genevieve Skory insists that setbacks are not stop signs, but feedback. They highlight how those who succeed simply stay in the game long enough to learn from mistakes and adapt. 4. The Power of Community and Accountability Another standout theme is the necessity of having a “posse”—a supportive network that offers honesty, perspective, and accountability. Whether it’s fellow podcasters from live events like Podfest or trusted friends who tell you to “suck it up,” building genuine relationships is critical for resilience and growth. 5. Implementing, Not Just Learning Genevieve Skory notes the difference between attendees who leave conventions inspired but stagnant and those who implement one new idea right away. Success, she says, is about focusing on daily, manageable goals—like having three meaningful conversations per day—instead of aiming for distant, abstract outcomes. 6. Redefining Failure and Celebrating Wins The conversation digs into why it’s crucial to celebrate small wins and treat mistakes as learning opportunities, not personal flaws. Wize El Jefe shares how even bloopers and technical fumbles turn into moments of growth, both personally and for his audience. Genevieve Skory recommends keeping a “success journal” as proof that progress is happening, even when big results lag behind. 7. The Reality of Work-Life Balance and Values Rather than chasing perfect balance, Genevieve Skory encourages listeners to stay aligned with their core values, which naturally guides their priorities and helps prevent burnout. She advises regular self-assessment to ensure your work and life still match what’s meaningful to you, rather than someone else’s dreams or expectations. 8. Authenticity and Community: The Future Trends Looking ahead to 2026 and beyond, Genevieve Skory urges entrepreneurs to double down on authenticity and personal connection. In an era of automation and digital overload, trust and meaningful communities will be the differentiators for sustainable businesses. She foresees a comeback for in-person events, retreats, and collaborations that go deeper than surface-level networking. 9. Advice for Those Near Quitting If you’re feeling one setback away from giving up, Genevieve Skory offers a powerful reminder: feelings of defeat are often a sign that you’re closer to a breakthrough than you realize. She encourages listeners to push through, invest in ongoing learning and self-improvement, and reach out for help when needed. Why You Should Listen: If you’re burned out, close to quitting, or just need a motivational reset, this episode will remind you that all successful creators have navigated self-doubt, mistakes, and slow progress. If you want actionable strategies, you’ll discover the value of reframing failure, building supportive communities, and focusing on meaningful, daily actions. If you’re curious about the future of entrepreneurship, you’ll hear predictions about the rising importance of authenticity, real-life community, and human-to-human connection. And if you just appreciate honest, relatable conversations between two people who “get it,” you’ll find inspiration and solidarity in their stories. Final Thoughts: This isn’t just another fluffy, motivational pep talk. It’s a nuanced, compassionate, and practical masterclass on resilience—applicable to creators, entrepreneurs, and anyone daring to bring new ideas into the world. Wize El Jefe and Genevieve Skory invite you to laugh at your bloopers, celebrate small progress, and remember: the only way to truly fail is to quit too soon. If you find yourself stuck in your mind, struggling to implement what you know, or hungry for a community that “gets” the journey, this episode is a must-listen. Be sure to check the show notes for links to Genevieve Scorie’s resilience mapping resources and connect with her for further insights. And as always, if this episode resonates—or if you know someone who needs a mindset shift—share it forward. Because sometimes, hearing the right conversation at the right time changes everything.

    1 hr

  3. FEB 16

    EP 291 Building Scalable Sales Systems: Strategies for Sustainable Growth with Shirley Hayden

    Episode Description: In this insightful episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, host Wize El Jefe welcomes Shirley Hayden, founder and president of Aspire Sales Management Solutions, for her very first podcast appearance. Drawing from over 25 years of executive sales leadership experience and Harvard Business School strategy training, Shirley Hayden shares her expertise on what it takes to build sales systems that not only drive growth, but also endure. The conversation, both conversational and deeply practical, begins with Shirley Hayden recounting her journey from sales representative to executive leader. She discusses how natural leadership tendencies and a keen eye for systems propelled her career, and shares lessons often missed by others—including the importance of speaking up, asking for help, and maintaining open communication with those she leads. Throughout the episode, Wize El Jefe and Shirley Hayden unravel the nuanced relationship between personalities and systems in sales teams. Shirley Hayden emphasizes that while likability and interpersonal skills matter, the foundation of sustainable sales is process-driven. She notes that effective salespeople whether extroverts or introverts succeed by asking the right questions, genuinely seeking to solve customer pain points, and engaging deeply in the mental game of sales. Listeners gain valuable insights into the real-world challenges faced by sales leaders. Shirley Hayden describes turning around an underperforming New England sales team by introducing structured onboarding and operational processes, dramatically reducing the time it took for new hires to become profitable. This experience sets the stage for a broader discussion about the universal need for systems, illustrated not only in sales but also through Wize El Jefe's own experience structuring his podcast for greater efficiency and growth. The episode dives into the continuous evolution of leadership philosophies. Shirley Hayden advocates for ongoing education, firsthand customer interaction, and persistent exposure to current industry trends—especially the transformative role of AI and new technologies in sales acceleration. Both speakers highlight the power of attending summits and conferences for networking, education, and staying ahead in a fast-moving landscape. One of the most resonant themes is the challenge of strong products underperforming due to weak sales processes. Shirley Hayden systematically breaks down common pitfalls: poor onboarding, lack of infrastructure, mismatched sales personalities, and absent assessment tools. She explains the importance of identifying whether a salesperson is a hunter, farmer, or account manager, and ensuring roles align with individual strengths. The episode explores what separates teams that merely survive from those that scale. Shirley Hayden stresses the necessity of a buildable, scalable, and repeatable sales process. She introduces the concept of a customized sales playbook, recounting a case study with a law firm where lack of process led to inefficiency and redundancy. Her discovery approach focuses on streamlining systems to increase efficiency and communication, and reduce errors. Accountability and data-driven decision-making emerge as cornerstones of successful sales leadership. Shirley Hayden details how key performance indicators tracked in a CRM system empower organizations to manage, coach, and forecast effectively. Weekly one-on-one meetings, structured feedback, and clear benchmarks keep teams on track and motivated. As the episode delves into scaling sales teams from small businesses to national organizations, Shirley Hayden emphasizes the engine-like importance of sales, the limits of relying solely on marketing, and the advantages of hiring fractional leaders for specialized expertise without the high cost of full-time executives. She outlines the significance of sustainable, repeatable growth: proper forecasting, data-driven strategy, ongoing training, weekly troubleshooting, and competitor awareness. Addressing common blind spots among founders, Shirley Hayden observes that founders often promote trusted associates into sales roles without proper assessment or process, leading to mismatches and inefficiencies. She warns that 80% of small to mid-sized businesses lack a documented sales process, hampering their ability to scale. The episode offers advice for struggling businesses especially those plateaued or stalled in growth. Shirley Hayden recommends starting with a sales assessment, reaching out to a fractional VP for a complimentary evaluation, and evaluating compensation structures to ensure that sales teams remain incentivized and motivated. Culture, compensation, and legacy are tackled head-on. Shirley Hayden talks about cultivating A-players not just through money, but by providing pathways for advancement and a positive workplace environment. She underlines the essential role of organizational culture in attracting and retaining top talent, encouraging leaders to revisit and live their guiding principles, and to celebrate wins to foster morale and drive continual improvement. Personal anecdotes from Wize El Jefe bring these concepts to life. He shares stories about employee recognition and the importance of celebrating achievements, highlighting how meaningful leadership practices create lasting impact in every organization. The episode closes with Shirley Hayden's contact details and a call to action for founders, leaders, and business owners: structure and systems are the keys to unlocking clarity, confidence, and scalable success. If you're ready to rethink sales and drive sustainable growth, this conversation is essential listening. Key Topics Covered: Sales leadership evolution and common pitfalls The importance of systems over personalities in sales Building and onboarding effective sales teams Continuous education, networking, and leveraging AI Sales processes, playbooks, and infrastructure Accountability, KPIs, and data-driven leadership Scaling from small teams to national organizations (including fractional leadership) Sustainable growth principles in today's climate Blind spots around hiring, promotion, and processes for founders Compensation strategies to attract and retain top talent The role of culture, principles, and celebration in strong sales organizations Real-world anecdotes illuminating leadership and team motivation This episode of Stuck In My Mind Podcast is a masterclass in sales systems, leadership, and the psychology of growth as relevant for business owners, sales professionals, and anyone looking to build lasting organizational success.

    41 min

  4. FEB 4

    EP 290 Reclaiming Focus: How to Beat Distraction and Find Purpose in Work and Life

    Welcome to the latest episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, where host Wize El Jefe welcomes guest Steven Puri a man whose career has spanned Hollywood blockbusters, tech startups, successful exits, and daring entrepreneurial attempts. This episode is a masterclass in finding fulfillment, reclaiming focus, and redefining success amidst the noise and distraction of our modern world. A Journey from Blockbusters to Purpose Steven Puri opens up about his high-profile career, giving listeners a candid look at life behind the scenes. He’s worked as an executive in major studios, produced well-known films, and raised millions for tech ventures. But rather than resting on these laurels, Steven Puri brings refreshing honesty about the realities of so-called "success": the burnout, the unfocused hustle, and the underlying unhappiness that often comes with chasing external achievements. His decision to pivot from Hollywood, where he ran iconic franchises like Die Hard and Wolverine, to founding a platform dedicated to flow states and true fulfillment marks a turning point: “I reached a point where I wanted to do something where people came to me and said, 'Hey man, because of what you did, I was able to actually do the thing I was meant to do.'” The Battle for Your Attention and Your Life In one of the episode’s most thought-provoking segments, Steven Puri and Wize El Jefe dissect the ways major tech companies and apps have mastered the art of distraction, essentially making it their business model to "steal your life." From endless scrolling to addictive dopamine hits, we're reminded just how easy it is to lose hours—or even years—to platforms designed to capture our attention, often at the expense of our deeper goals. Unlocking Flow States and Redefining Success What’s the antidote? Steven Puri shares his deep dive into the concept of "flow state" those rare moments when we’re fully immersed, productive, and genuinely satisfied. Inspired by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s seminal work, Steven Puri explains the science and spirit of flow, revealing how artists, athletes, and inventors across disciplines describe these states in strikingly similar ways. He delivers actionable advice: forget multitasking (a myth sold by hustle culture), embrace monotasking, and begin each day by identifying the one thing that will move your life forward. These practical steps, backed by his tech platform the Suka Company, help listeners shift from depletion and regret (“Where did the day go?”) to empowerment and joy (“I crushed it today and can spend time with my family.”). Podcasting, Creativity, and the Power of Community In a touching exchange, Wize El Jefe shares his own journey from a furloughed casino pit boss to a podcaster investing in quality and community. The hosts discuss how investing in yourself and your craft pays dividends—not just in the quality of your work, but in the connections and impact you create. From networking at Podfest to collaborating with his nephew, Wize El Jefe highlights how stepping outside your comfort zone can ignite creative energy and open new doors. Their conversation explores how creativity and focus aren’t rivals they feed each other, and nurturing both is essential for success in the AI age. Steven Puri draws on neuroscience to explain the balance between free association and executive function, sharing anecdotes from film and tech about how the best ideas often come when you're not directly engaged with the task. Challenges of the Future—and Reasons for Hope Not shying away from the big issues, Steven Puri expresses concern about the rise of AI and large language models, warning that jobs centered on rote pattern-matching are vulnerable, and urging listeners to double down on distinctly human strengths: creativity, strategic thinking, and community. While his views on the economy and tech landscape are sobering, his faith in people’s innate potential remains strong. Takeaways for Anyone Who Feels Stuck Ultimately, the episode is an invitation to reflect, recharge, and recalibrate. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, overworked, or disconnected, Steven Puri offers clear guidance: each morning, identify the one thing that will genuinely advance your life, and let that guide your focus and energy for the day. Reclaim control from the apps, demands, and distractions; invest in yourself and your relationships; and don’t die with your greatness left inside you. Connect and Continue the Conversation As the episode closes, listeners are invited to reach out directly Steven Puri makes his email public and welcomes questions from anyone interested in learning more about flow states or focus. For those ready to put the tools and mindset into practice, his Suka Company website offers resources and community to help you start building the life you actually want. Why You Should Listen This episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to break free from the cult of busy, escape the digital vortex, and start living with intention and fulfillment. Whether you’re a creator, entrepreneur, executive, or everyday achiever, the candid stories, researched insights, and authentic wisdom from both Steven Puri and Wize El Jefe will motivate you to rethink what success means and how to claim it on your own terms. Share this episode with someone struggling behind the scenes but winning on the outside. It’s a heartfelt, energizing conversation packed with relatable anecdotes, actionable strategies, and a blueprint for getting unstuck—so you can stay grounded, curious, and empowered.

    58 min

  5. JAN 20

    EP 289 Building Culture, Resilience, and Brands: Lessons from XSET CEO Greg Selkoe

    In this powerful episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, host Wize El Jefe welcomes visionary entrepreneur Greg Selkoe, best known for founding the influential streetwear brand Karma Loop, leading the esports powerhouse Faze Clan, and now steering the cutting-edge gaming lifestyle brand XSET as CEO and co-founder. This honest, inspiring conversation is a masterclass for creators, culture builders, and anyone pursuing a dream against the odds. From the jump, Wize El Jefe sets the stage, giving listeners a glimpse into Greg Selkoe’s cultural impact—from collaborations with icons like Lil Wayne, Osuna, and Pharrell’s camp, to partnerships with brands like the Boston Red Sox and HyperX. But as the episode unfolds, it’s clear this story goes much deeper than flashy names and million-dollar deals—it’s about authentic passion, grit, resilience, and growth. The Roots of Culture Building The episode kicks off as Greg Selkoe traces his journey from Boston’s vibrant street culture to global entrepreneurship. He reveals how an early obsession with breakdancing, graffiti art, skateboarding, punk rock, and hip hop influenced his worldview. Rather than seeing these movements as separate lanes, he felt at home in all of them—setting the stage for Karma Loop, which wasn’t just about selling clothes, but celebrating the energy and diversity of urban culture. Greg Selkoe describes how this merged into his approach at XSET, aiming to build “a media company” that puts culture first, amplifies creators, and tells compelling brand stories. Resilience Through Setbacks One of the episode’s major themes is resilience. Both Greg Selkoe and Wize El Jefe reflect on their entrepreneurial journeys, emphasizing that setbacks and failures are inevitable. Greg Selkoe shares candidly about Karma Loop’s highs and lows—from its $150 million peak to private equity challenges that forced him to rebuild from scratch. He offers hard-earned lessons: “Don't think someone's going to come along and save you if you're having trouble in your business, you got to rely on yourself.” The best way not to fail? Keep going. Wize El Jefe reciprocates, sharing his own risk-taking path in podcasting, internet radio, and launching a media company. The key takeaway is treating each setback as a learning experience—a stepping stone rather than an endpoint. Business Lessons That Transcend Formal Education Unlike many entrepreneurs, Greg Selkoe didn’t start with a business degree—he studied urban planning at Harvard, inspired by his mother’s work. But he credits this background for shaping his community-first approach. “Passion for what I was doing came from another part of me than what normally would be... I think that authenticity came through everything we did.” Rather than targeting a market, he built organically around what he loved—and learned the other business skills on the job and through mentorship. This authenticity, he believes, gave his brands a unique edge and fostered community. Building XSET and Shifting Strategies When it came to launching XSET, Greg Selkoe and team faced fresh challenges: securing investment, building a fanbase, and educating skeptical investors about the true scale of gaming and streaming culture. Greg Selkoe recognized a major opportunity—gaming needed a lifestyle brand that felt as dynamic as Overtime, Complex, or Barstool. The vision from day one: XSET would be a lifestyle media company at the crossroads of gaming, music, fashion, entertainment, and traditional sports. However, this path wasn’t linear. Initially, XSET tried to replicate Karma Loop’s retail-first model, but the lack of an established fanbase made traction difficult. After two years, they made a pivotal shift—refocusing on media, content, and creator empowerment. This willingness to pivot, rather than stubbornly sticking to a plan, is a recurring lesson for entrepreneurs highlighted in the episode. Collaboration, Community, and Advice for Creators Both host and guest agree: entrepreneurship is not a solo sport. Greg Selkoe stresses the importance of asking for help, seeking mentorship, and learning from those who have traveled similar paths: “If you don't know something... that's power to say you don't know it.” He shares stories of leaning on collaborators and mentors—even in public adversity—while cautioning against burning bridges or stepping on others to succeed. Public Challenges, Private Pain, and the Power of Community The episode delves into the emotional toll of public failure. Greg Selkoe recounts the fallout from Karma Loop’s bankruptcy, facing media scrutiny and industry criticism. Yet, a pivotal moment at a high-powered Silicon Valley barbecue hosted by Steve Stout and Ben Horowitz transformed his outlook. Instead of derision, he found encouragement and solidarity from fellow entrepreneurs—reminding him that to build is to stumble, but also to rise again. This network of support propelled him towards new ventures, from consulting gigs with Pharrell and streetwear legend Jeff Staple to co-founding XSET. He credits his collaborative, generous approach for attracting support in hard times, when more ruthless operators might find themselves isolated. Mental Health, Health Scares, and Resilience No journey is without personal cost. Greg Selkoe opens up about dealing with serious health issues—a genetic autoimmune condition affecting his heart, kidneys, and lungs—during a stressful business period. While stress didn’t cause the problem, it certainly didn’t help, underscoring the importance of self-care and resilience. Ultimately, he recovered and continued building, demonstrating that recovery—like business—requires persistence. Championing Female Gamers: The Queen’s Gaming Collective A highlight of the discussion is XSET’s acquisition of Queens Gaming Collective—a female-empowerment initiative in the gaming space. Greg Selkoe breaks down the significance: with 45% of gamers being female, the mainstream still overlooks their influence. By integrating Queens into XSET, they’ve built a more inclusive brand, landed major deals (like with Samsung), and shown that gaming culture is far broader than stereotypes suggest. The conversation paints a vision of gaming culture that’s welcoming, intergenerational, and intersectional. What Does the Next Gen Media Company Look Like? As XSET grows, the company is evolving into a “next gen media studio.” Greg Selkoe explains that they now co-own YouTube deals with creators, market talent, and focus heavily on original content—streaming, recorded, and branded collaborations. Their difference? They don’t operate as an agency, but as true partners—bringing creators and brands into culture-focused campaigns that move audiences and foster community. He notes that platforms like YouTube are the new TV, dominating content consumption and discovery. The Power of Unfiltered, Authentic Creation Wize El Jefe and Greg Selkoe agree: today’s audiences crave authenticity. The democratization of media—through podcasting, YouTube, Twitch—enables creators to bypass gatekeepers and build direct relationships. Both reflect on their own pivots: adding video to podcasting, discovering new opportunities, and reaching audiences in meaningful ways. In a media landscape full of “agendas,” the episode champions authenticity, encouragement, and diversity. Actionable Advice for Creators and Entrepreneurs The episode closes with practical wisdom. For young creatives or those feeling stuck: Media and social media are essential for telling your story and promoting your product. Find a reason for your brand to exist—don’t just copy what’s out there. Expect the journey to be long and hard, not an overnight success. Seek mentorship from experienced people in your field. Write down your goals, risks, and rewards—plan, but be ready to adapt. Don’t be afraid to seek help, admit what you don’t know, or pivot. As Greg Selkoe puts it, most businesses fail—but resilience, authenticity, and collaboration are the keys to enduring and thriving. — In Summary This episode of Stuck In My Mind Podcast is far more than an entrepreneurial profile—it’s a deep exploration of culture, community, failure, growth, and the evolving media landscape. Listeners will come away with a sense of what it truly takes to build something meaningful in today’s world: honesty, resilience, a willingness to adapt, and a commitment to authentic culture. Whether you’re launching a brand, leveling up your content, or simply seeking inspiration, this conversation delivers actionable insights, relatable stories, and a call to stay connected, creative, and true to yourself. Make sure to follow XSET on all major platforms, connect with Greg Selkoe, and keep tuning in to Wize El Jefe for conversations that are shaping the next generation of culture.

    52 min

  6. JAN 3

    EP 288 Building Confidence and Purpose in Kids: Lessons from Dorian Stewart’s Journey

    In this inspiring episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, host Wize El Jefe welcomes his longtime friend and special guest, Dorian Stewart, for an uplifting and honest conversation about purpose, self-confidence, and making a difference for the next generation. With a bond stretching back to their high school days in Brooklyn, the two share laughs, wisdom, and real-life stories that resonate with anyone seeking purpose—whether as a parent, educator, or someone just trying to figure out their own calling. Right from the start, Wize El Jefe paints a picture of Dorian Stewart’s accomplishments: entrepreneur, motivational speaker, author of 19 books (many for children and parents), and the founder of Dorian Inspires, LLC. But what truly sets her apart is not just her professional resume, but her deep dedication to building confidence, character, and clarity in children, parents, and educators. A 20-year veteran in healthcare, leadership, and HR, Dorian Stewart has unique insights into what it takes to prepare people not just for success, but for life itself. The conversation starts in Dorian Stewart’s childhood, where she grew up surrounded by a loving, multi-generational family in Brooklyn. She reflects on how being the oldest among her cousins and participating in youth activities at church naturally fostered her love for mentoring children and sharing the timeless wisdom passed down by her elders. This early responsibility planted the seeds for her passion for empowerment and guiding others. As the episode unfolds, Dorian Stewart reveals how her career in healthcare management and HR opened her eyes to the ways people—especially young people—lack preparation and confidence for adult life. Her humorous (and occasionally exasperating) experiences as an interviewer, from outlandish resumes to ill-prepared job seekers, inspired her to start writing practical, empowering books for teens and young adults entering the work world. Instead of mocking those who simply didn’t know the right steps, she chose to become a guide, sharing the “how not to get hired” pitfalls and offering real solutions to succeed. Yet Dorian Stewart’s journey extends far beyond career advice. She candidly shares how her calling evolved through personal stress, faith, and the life-changing experience of adopting her daughter. What began as daily devotionals for friends ballooned into a movement as her messages of encouragement reached hundreds. Through the adoption journey and required trainings, Dorian Stewart discovered gaps in how children’s emotional needs—especially for adoptees—are met. This prompted her to write children’s books that emphasize being chosen, cherished, and unstoppable. She passionately describes her mission to arm both kids and their families with the confidence they need to handle life’s ups and downs. A critical part of this episode centers on affirmations and self-talk, both for children and adults. Wize El Jefe and Dorian Stewart swap personal stories of overcoming self-doubt, the importance of not “locking the door” on one’s dreams, and how negative self-talk can limit potential. Their honesty is refreshing: neither imagined themselves as authors, and both openly struggled with English in school. Yet, they chose not to let those early setbacks define them—proving that your past does not have to dictate your future. The discussion delves into the unique confidence crises facing today’s youth. Dorian Stewart points out that children confront overwhelming external pressures, from unrealistic portrayals in media to the devastation of relentless cyberbullying. She speaks vulnerably about building her daughter’s self-worth through morning affirmations, affirmation jars, and real conversations about individual gifts—methods that go far beyond empty praise and instead focus on cultivating and supporting authentic strengths. A powerful thread running through the episode is the idea that adults often protect children so much that they don’t give them space to learn resilience. Both speakers question the culture of participation trophies, emphasizing that it’s okay, even essential, for children to experience both wins and losses. These lessons build character, adaptability, and a realistic view of life. The episode also explores: The role of faith in finding and teaching purpose, with Dorian Stewart sharing her journey to a faith that’s truly her own, and how it anchors her teaching, parenting, and writing. The significance of grief in children’s lives and the importance of giving language to their big feelings—especially when facing loss. Dorian Stewart ’s book on grief illustrates the crucial role adults play in guiding kids through these complex emotions. How helping others, whether through publishing, podcasting, or daily encouragement, is a form of living out one’s purpose and leaving a meaningful legacy. Throughout the episode, Wize El Jefe reflects on his own transformation—how podcasting unveiled his true calling to uplift and serve others, launching him into media, publishing, and community impact. Both he and Dorian Stewart highlight that purpose is not something you find overnight—it’s a journey fueled by perseverance, honesty, and stepping beyond your comfort zone. Wize El Jefe and Dorian Stewart wrap up with actionable insights for families. They stress the power of routine affirmations, nurturing genuine talents, and being honest about struggles rather than striving for perfection. Their message is clear: confidence isn’t faked, it’s grown—through practice, vulnerability, and supporting others. The episode concludes with ways to connect with Dorian Stewart, access her growing library of children’s books, and practical encouragement for listeners to reflect on their own words—to themselves and the young people in their lives. The uplifting tone and candid wisdom make this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to inspire confidence, courage, and a sense of purpose in themselves and those around them. Whether you’re a parent, educator, aspiring author, or simply someone stuck wondering about your next step, this conversation will leave you motivated to embrace your gifts, support others on their journeys, and build a future generation that’s truly confident, resilient, and purpose-driven.

    1h 1m

  7. 12/19/2025

    EP 287 The CFO Whisperer on Authentic Leadership and Navigating Change in High Stakes Environments

    On this thought-provoking episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast titled “The CFO Whisperer on Authentic Leadership and Navigating Change in High Stakes Environments,” host Wize El Jefe sits down with renowned leadership advisor Kenneth Merritt, a figure known for guiding CFOs and financial executives through the complexities of transformation, growth, and leadership for nearly three decades. The conversation takes listeners far beyond the usual leadership buzzwords, tackling the realities of authentic connection, adaptability, and the evolving demands placed on executives in today’s business climate. From the first moments, listeners are invited to think deeply about what it truly means to lead—not just in theory, but in the kinetic, unpredictable markets that define our era. Kenneth Merritt shares candidly about the pivotal moments in his career that shattered his early notions about traditional leadership playbooks. He recounts witnessing layoffs early in his career, serving as a wake-up call about the volatility of the corporate world and the importance of agility. Further, mergers, acquisitions, and shifting economic conditions taught him that leadership is less about static rules and more about reading and meeting the moment, no matter the cost. As the conversation unfolds, Wize El Jefe draws out Kenneth Merritt’s insights on what truly shapes a leader. It’s not just technical prowess or knowing the right answer; it’s about understanding people, building trust, and fostering authentic relationships. Especially for financial leaders, this means going beyond the spreadsheets and transactions to become a trusted advisor and a catalyst for change. Kenneth Merritt emphasizes that trust and relationship-building only become more critical the higher one rises on the corporate ladder. The ability to guide others depends heavily on interpersonal skills, transparency, and the readiness to bring people along—even when decisions are tough or unpopular. Listeners will appreciate Kenneth Merritt’s vulnerability as he shares mistakes he made early on. He admits to once believing that having the “right answer” was enough, only to later realize the necessity of persuasion, empathy, and selling a vision. Leadership requires buy-in, not just intellectual correctness. In practical terms, Kenneth Merritt describes his leadership identity as embodying “gravitas”—the balance between confidence, capability, and understanding of expectations. He shares that gravitas isn’t innate or automatic; it’s developed through self-awareness, continual learning, and alignment between what a situation demands and what a leader can deliver. The episode dives deeply into the realities of the AI-driven world and the future of work. Kenneth Merritt and Wize El Jefe discuss how executives often remain behind the curve, not because of technology itself but due to a disconnect between AI providers, decision makers, and those who use the technology daily. The lesson: leaders must continually ask questions, demand real-world utility, and integrate AI as a tool—rather than as a buzzword or afterthought. Offering a blueprint for transformational leadership, Kenneth Merritt outlines three essential behaviors: acceptance of necessary change, clear definition of target outcomes, and the assembling of high-caliber teams, tools, and processes. In his view, change isn’t incremental, but quantum—requiring leaders to genuinely step outside comfort zones. Authenticity, particularly in finance, is examined in a fresh light. Kenneth Merritt breaks down relationship-building into three types of conversations: sharing the story of performance, candidly communicating risks and failures, and, most importantly, forging real, everyday connections that promote a sense of partnership well beyond financial analysis. These subtle, human actions form the bedrock of trust in environments where skepticism and caution typically reign. The episode also tackles the future of finance and executive leadership. Kenneth Merritt predicts volatility and rapid change will only escalate in coming years, requiring finance professionals to develop agile teams and systems capable of handling shifting economies, competitive pressures, and constant disruption. The wisdom here is clear—resilience and adaptation are no longer optional, but essential parts of an executive’s toolkit. Personal growth and wellness get heartfelt attention in the latter half of the conversation. Both Wize El Jefe and Kenneth Merritt share their own journeys of health, mindset, and spirituality, underlining how well-being and professional success are irrevocably intertwined. The advice is straightforward: personal alignment, whether physical, mental, or spiritual, empowers leaders to show up at their best, at work and in life. For those aspiring to executive leadership, Kenneth Merritt shares concrete guidance. Performance is paramount, but so is a commitment to ongoing learning. He cautions against stagnation and advises leaders to treat their growth like building physical strength—exercising new skills daily, honing executive presence, and cultivating gravitas over time. Finally, Kenneth Merritt reflects on the legacy he’s building through Merit Advisory Group—a commitment to value creation, partnership, and leaving clients and colleagues in a better place than before. He champions the power of relationships, continuous development, and giving back, both professionally and personally. This episode is a must-listen for leaders at any level, especially those navigating change, seeking authentic impact, or planning for the unpredictable future. It offers practical advice, real-world stories, and a call to embrace the human side of business, all while reminding us that true leadership involves leading oneself first. Tune in for expert wisdom, personal stories, and actionable insights on how to future-proof your leadership, build trust, and drive meaningful change—inside and outside the boardroom.

    37 min

  8. 12/08/2025

    EP 286 From Solo Mom to CEO: Sasha Eburne’s Journey of Business Success and Empowerment

    Welcome to a vibrant and inspiring episode of the Stuck In My Mind Podcast with your host, Wize El Jefe, as he welcomes powerhouse entrepreneur, coach, and podcast host Sasha Eburne to the show. This compelling conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating career transitions, overcoming self-doubt, or seeking the courage to step fully into their potential—especially women with ambitions of entrepreneurship and leadership. The episode kicks off with Wize El Jefe introducing Sasha Eburne as a living example of stepping into your power: after the devastation of losing her hospitality career during the COVID pandemic, Sasha Eburne pivoted to launch her own venture as a solo mom. Within just 24 hours, she secured her first client, and, driven by relentless resourcefulness, she was fully booked with clients within three weeks. Her journey didn't stop there—she skyrocketed her business to a national level, leading a team of 15 and building a company that supported her life as a devoted mother. Listeners are given an authentic look at Sasha Eburne’s life before entrepreneurship—a 25-year journey in hospitality management, working in hotels across Australia, the Middle East, and Vanuatu. Everything changed in 2020 when the pandemic hit, forcing her to reevaluate her career path. After a stint in real estate left her unfulfilled, a conversation with a friend introduced her to the virtual assistant industry—a critical turning point that sparked her entrepreneurial leap. In a candid discussion, Sasha Eburne dismantles myths around "breaking the rules" or pursuing a nontraditional career. Instead, her story is about listening to intuition and seizing opportunity with no roadmap but total commitment. She discusses overcoming fears of judgment, financial instability, and the naysayers who projected their limiting beliefs onto her. Sasha Eburne emphasizes how support systems—a network of people who “see what you see”—are crucial for entrepreneurial resilience. Both Wize El Jefe and Sasha Eburne resonate on the impact of overcoming self-doubt, sharing personal anecdotes of pushing past internal voices saying, “Who do you think you are?” A highlight of this episode is the emphasis on action over waiting for external validation. Sasha Eburne “left no stone unturned,” leveraging every network and social platform to announce her new business and connect with clients. Her boldness proved contagious, leading to rapid business growth and continuous opportunities for expansion. The conversation evolves into the power of mindset: the dangers of taking on other people’s limiting beliefs and the necessity of aligning with one’s own vision. Sasha Eburne reflects on how many women (and entrepreneurs in general) struggle with feelings of "asking for too much" or fall into the trap of “hustle equals worth.” She explains that true transformation and momentum stem from clarity, not chaos—a philosophy that underpins her approach to coaching women to scale businesses without sacrificing wellness or personal freedom. Another fascinating thread in this episode is Sasha Eburne’s embrace of personal growth tools, including breathwork, sound healing, and neuro-linguistic programming. She shares how these practices have not only improved her own well-being but have become essential resources that she teaches to clients worldwide. Sasha Eburne describes the evolution of her coaching business—now supporting both women and men globally, running retreats, and certifying others in healing practices. It's an inspiring lesson in weaving together business, spirituality, and global community. For listeners interested in practical wisdom, Sasha Eburne lays out the essential strategies that led to her success: the importance of investing in coaches/mentors, hiring and trusting teams, leveraging automation and AI, and not shying away from outsourcing what you’re not an expert in. She and Wize El Jefe discuss how AI has been a powerful tool for scaling, reducing burnout, and freeing up creators and business owners to focus on what truly matters. The episode culminates with messages of encouragement for all ambitious women: if Sasha Eburne can do it, so can you. There’s no secret ingredient—only a willingness to ask for help, invest in learning, surround yourself with allies, and remain bold in the face of fear and judgment. As Wize El Jefe puts it, “If you want to start something, don’t wait for permission. Just start. Your story is proof that your circumstances don’t get the final word—your choices do.” Listeners will leave this episode motivated by Sasha Eburne's remarkable path from adversity to abundance, equipped with insights to turn setbacks into setups for their next big leap. Whether you’re launching a business, exploring new income streams, or simply seeking fresh inspiration, this conversation will remind you that greatness is accessible to everyone with the courage to claim it. Tune in, and let Sasha Eburne and Wize El Jefe energize your journey. For more on Sasha Eburne's coaching programs, upcoming book, and the Sasha Eburne Show podcast, be sure to check her website and follow her on social media—links in the show notes.

    39 min
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🎙️ Stuck In My Mind Podcast – Hosted by Wil “Wize” Otero Real conversations. Real people. Real growth. From the heart of the Poconos, Wil “Wize” Otero podcaster, life coach, and CEO of Real Wize Global Media dives deep into the minds of creators, entrepreneurs, and everyday visionaries who turned their struggles into success stories.  Raw. Unfiltered. Empowering. Stuck In My Mind isn’t just a podcast it’s a movement for those ready to break mental barriers and live with purpose. 🎧 Tune in, get inspired, and remember: you’re not stuck you’re just getting started.

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    Wize_el_jefe
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    293
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